fightinggirl666
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Well it's finally here - Post 666!
So I thought I'd just take some time to also say thanks to BadReligion, Mike and MNTickleProject who I forgot in my last post (If I missed thanking you don't be offended, I can't remember everyone!)
Now onto the main topic of my post - guys why most of you just don't get it when it comes to girls and tickling (well girls in general really - but thats a whole other topic). So lets get right into it, listen up guys, you might learn a thing or two!
Before we start the disclaimer 😛 Obviously there has to be some chemistry and trust between you and the girl for tickling fun to happen (even if they have this kink like you do, there will have to be some attraction or fun feelings going on!) , if you think your going to get it any other way your going to be paying for it! Basically I'm talking about the girl you've started dating or in a relationship with (espeically the ones who dont' have this kink). Nothing is for certian but there are def things you can do to improve your chances!
Now that we have that out of the way 😛 lets get right into it!
Ok so assuming you like and trust each other.... Guys there are two key things you have to think of with girls and trying to ask them to let them tickle you.
The first thing is - guys when we hear the word tickling most of us think of three things...
1)A bunch of hard pokes that hurt, ouchies! (so yes a softer technique is important, but that alone isn't gonna get you there)
2)When we were growing up we got tickle tortured, yes the phrase tickle torture isn't just a fun term, it actually felt like torture to us! You know we associate tickling with an unpleasant or unwelcome touch and feeling (like that guy who hits on us and pokes us cause he thinks it's welcome when it's not), it's not fun for us, it's never felt nice. That is all I've ever experienced - so why would I let you do that to me?
3)Guys NEVER let us tickle them back, like you know maybe I'd view tickling in a more positive light if you didn't scream and yell at me when I have the nerv to poke you back - you react that way but expect me to let you do that to me? Guys we like caring lovers, guys who are not afraid to give back - the same applies to tickling, let us get you back sometimes - don't just use your size to hold us down and let yourself have all the fun!
So in summary - for most girls when it comes to tickling all we have experienced in painful, mean spiritied, nasty feeling, unwelcome touch by people we dont' want touching us etc. Try seeing things from our point of view... like how do you think most of us have experienced tickling? It's certainly hasn't involved us being able to tickle back, being tickled by someone we like or who actually knows how to make tickling fun...
So now that you've got an idea how a lot of girls view tickling... you have to think how you overcome that...
So think about the situation, you've grown to like this girl, your both getting on well... but there is just that one burning question you have to get out... and this is what you say "Hey there is something I want to tell you, but please don't think it's werid.... but I like tickling and I'd really like to tie you down and tickle your feet"... sound familiar? Well... again think about how you girlfriend or date might view that... for starters the phrase that "please dont' think it's weird" has put in her mind that this thing is weird... before you've even said what it is - bad!
And then even if you don't say that, given the majority of her experiencs with tickling are unlikely to be positive... this out of the blue request is going to set of alarm bells and negetive images, you don't want that! Instead fight the war smarter foot solider 😛
The first thing you have to do is... change her perception of tickling, at least so much in it relates to you... you need to let her see that yes tickling can be a fun, shared and even relaxing and stimulating thing. It's not gonna be easy, but it can be done. You know you should start real slow and not even mention that "you have this weird kink"... and make sure you do it at the right moment... i.e. a fun and flirt moment between you two.... not in the middle of a movie or something. Timing is key!
So like I dont' want to tell you how to suck eggs, but you know a teasing and light tickle fight where you let her get you back as well is a good start. Very light/brief tickling and massage (not just of the feet) is also good. Basically show her that tickling can be a fun and shared experience... that tickling can be a fun part of the relationship! Don't over do the amount of tickling at first, control you urges, it will pay off in the end!
Now at this point most guys say "well thats great, but I want to tie her up and tickle her feet for hours, how does this help!?" Patience foot solider, that bit is coming!
Obviously there is no sure fire way of doing this and yes you ARE going to have to talk about it, so yeah it requires picking a good moment, saying it in a way that isn't creepy, a bit of tact and the right words - now that is hard, but if you want something bad enough you'll know what to say 🙂
So you've managed to get this far... you both care enough about each other to indulge the other, you've shown that tickling can be fun, and that your willing to let her get you back a little! So you jump right into full bondage and tie up right... WRONG! Start slow, start gentle you know... she will be nerveous, so maybe don't start with rope... start with a little tickling, but let stop if she requests it. You know things might go super well and you might get a lot further than you thought first time, but it might turn out she can take a bit but needs a break to take in what she has just experienced... it might take a few attempts, maybe even spread out over a few times (don't use the word sessions) but you'll get there! And if she expresses the desire to get you back, let her - dont' be selfish - if you sulk about letting her get you, how do you think she is going to feel about you getting her! You give a little, you get a little 🙂
So yep thats it from me, it's been fun - but all good things must come to an end. I hope life and love treat you well. Stay cool cats 🙂
So I thought I'd just take some time to also say thanks to BadReligion, Mike and MNTickleProject who I forgot in my last post (If I missed thanking you don't be offended, I can't remember everyone!)
Now onto the main topic of my post - guys why most of you just don't get it when it comes to girls and tickling (well girls in general really - but thats a whole other topic). So lets get right into it, listen up guys, you might learn a thing or two!
Before we start the disclaimer 😛 Obviously there has to be some chemistry and trust between you and the girl for tickling fun to happen (even if they have this kink like you do, there will have to be some attraction or fun feelings going on!) , if you think your going to get it any other way your going to be paying for it! Basically I'm talking about the girl you've started dating or in a relationship with (espeically the ones who dont' have this kink). Nothing is for certian but there are def things you can do to improve your chances!
Now that we have that out of the way 😛 lets get right into it!
Ok so assuming you like and trust each other.... Guys there are two key things you have to think of with girls and trying to ask them to let them tickle you.
The first thing is - guys when we hear the word tickling most of us think of three things...
1)A bunch of hard pokes that hurt, ouchies! (so yes a softer technique is important, but that alone isn't gonna get you there)
2)When we were growing up we got tickle tortured, yes the phrase tickle torture isn't just a fun term, it actually felt like torture to us! You know we associate tickling with an unpleasant or unwelcome touch and feeling (like that guy who hits on us and pokes us cause he thinks it's welcome when it's not), it's not fun for us, it's never felt nice. That is all I've ever experienced - so why would I let you do that to me?
3)Guys NEVER let us tickle them back, like you know maybe I'd view tickling in a more positive light if you didn't scream and yell at me when I have the nerv to poke you back - you react that way but expect me to let you do that to me? Guys we like caring lovers, guys who are not afraid to give back - the same applies to tickling, let us get you back sometimes - don't just use your size to hold us down and let yourself have all the fun!
So in summary - for most girls when it comes to tickling all we have experienced in painful, mean spiritied, nasty feeling, unwelcome touch by people we dont' want touching us etc. Try seeing things from our point of view... like how do you think most of us have experienced tickling? It's certainly hasn't involved us being able to tickle back, being tickled by someone we like or who actually knows how to make tickling fun...
So now that you've got an idea how a lot of girls view tickling... you have to think how you overcome that...
So think about the situation, you've grown to like this girl, your both getting on well... but there is just that one burning question you have to get out... and this is what you say "Hey there is something I want to tell you, but please don't think it's werid.... but I like tickling and I'd really like to tie you down and tickle your feet"... sound familiar? Well... again think about how you girlfriend or date might view that... for starters the phrase that "please dont' think it's weird" has put in her mind that this thing is weird... before you've even said what it is - bad!
And then even if you don't say that, given the majority of her experiencs with tickling are unlikely to be positive... this out of the blue request is going to set of alarm bells and negetive images, you don't want that! Instead fight the war smarter foot solider 😛
The first thing you have to do is... change her perception of tickling, at least so much in it relates to you... you need to let her see that yes tickling can be a fun, shared and even relaxing and stimulating thing. It's not gonna be easy, but it can be done. You know you should start real slow and not even mention that "you have this weird kink"... and make sure you do it at the right moment... i.e. a fun and flirt moment between you two.... not in the middle of a movie or something. Timing is key!
So like I dont' want to tell you how to suck eggs, but you know a teasing and light tickle fight where you let her get you back as well is a good start. Very light/brief tickling and massage (not just of the feet) is also good. Basically show her that tickling can be a fun and shared experience... that tickling can be a fun part of the relationship! Don't over do the amount of tickling at first, control you urges, it will pay off in the end!
Now at this point most guys say "well thats great, but I want to tie her up and tickle her feet for hours, how does this help!?" Patience foot solider, that bit is coming!
Obviously there is no sure fire way of doing this and yes you ARE going to have to talk about it, so yeah it requires picking a good moment, saying it in a way that isn't creepy, a bit of tact and the right words - now that is hard, but if you want something bad enough you'll know what to say 🙂
So you've managed to get this far... you both care enough about each other to indulge the other, you've shown that tickling can be fun, and that your willing to let her get you back a little! So you jump right into full bondage and tie up right... WRONG! Start slow, start gentle you know... she will be nerveous, so maybe don't start with rope... start with a little tickling, but let stop if she requests it. You know things might go super well and you might get a lot further than you thought first time, but it might turn out she can take a bit but needs a break to take in what she has just experienced... it might take a few attempts, maybe even spread out over a few times (don't use the word sessions) but you'll get there! And if she expresses the desire to get you back, let her - dont' be selfish - if you sulk about letting her get you, how do you think she is going to feel about you getting her! You give a little, you get a little 🙂
So yep thats it from me, it's been fun - but all good things must come to an end. I hope life and love treat you well. Stay cool cats 🙂
here you go: 
. I appreciate you trying to help and all but well, it wasnt all that helpful and im sorry you spent all that time typing it for nothing. I think i'd prefer to find out the old fashioned way and actually ASK the ladies themselves what their own personal preferences are lol. I don't know what every1 else thinks but i think the conversations can actually be fun in itself finding out 
Im younger than you and even im not not as nieve as you were in posting this thread haha
