saeria is gone

[Gothika]

At least you got in touch with someone who talked to her! It will be fine! Try to relax!

i am trying very hard i have not slept in two days and have not eaten or anything i realy need to eat and stuff but just very depressed

At least you know she's okay, she knows you're looking for her, and hopefully you'll get to talk soon. This is good news!! Try to stay positive, hon. You're doing a great job.

thank u very much

is it possible that she is acting under her own steam and has actually left you because she does not want to be with you?

this might be a possibility.

I cannot imagine anyone who loved me doing this - unless they actually did want to leave and were scared that my love for them might stop them from doing the right thing - i.e. leaving.

Secondly, I am not sure it would be a good idea to welcome back anyone who would put you though this without so much as a phone call.

This is a dissenting opinion to the majority posting here, and I don't mean to be harsh or horrible.

But could it be time to confront the possibility that she has left you, and that you must get over it and move on?

well i know for a fact she does want to be with me she is just very scared and desperate for her child and she is being thretened and she acted out of frear desperation and love and i understand that and will take her back and that is final

Why didn't saeria have her children with her in the first place?

Most good parents tend to have their children with them.

I don't know enough about this situation, but it seems very puzzling to me.

she did have her child with her in ny then her ex motherin law got a lawyer in on it and pretty much scared her in to sending her down there for a visit it was only suspose to be a month then her ex husband started talking with her cuz he had the kid and basicly threatedn her and scared her so much and confused her and manipulated her in to going down here he is a very bad guy

 

[Babyshambles]

Hi Goth,

I'm so sorry that you are going through this, and you don;t need people like me making trouble for you.

But I cannot for the life of me see why she wouldn't tell you that she needed to go.

You must admit, that by sending the kid first and then leaving herself, it does look to an outsider like someone trying to escape.

And the fact that you have not eaten, slept etc. in two days since she left seems to me to be a plausible reasons for being scared to tell you of her plans in the first place - prhaps because she knew you'd do anything and everything to stop her from going.

i am trying very hard i have not slept in two days and have not eaten or anything i realy need to eat and stuff but just very depressed

thank u very much

well i know for a fact she does want to be with me she is just very scared and desperate for her child and she is being thretened and she acted out of frear desperation and love and i understand that and will take her back and that is final


she did have her child with her in ny then her ex motherin law got a lawyer in on it and pretty much scared her in to sending her down there for a visit it was only suspose to be a month then her ex husband started talking with her cuz he had the kid and basicly threatedn her and scared her so much and confused her and manipulated her in to going down here he is a very bad guy

 

[rhiannon]

Shambles, goth opened this thread for support, not for opinions! If Saeria actually did leave him, then he will find out soon enough! All you do is scaring him here, which is the last thing he needs, so why don't you have the sensitivity to keep your opinion to yourself right now?

If my best friend calls me to tell me that her chest aches, I will not tell her it probably is a heart attack, I will tell her that it for sure won't be anything bad, but just to be certain go to the doctor!

 

[Gothika]

Hi Goth,

I'm so sorry that you are going through this, and you don;t need people like me making trouble for you.

But I cannot for the life of me see why she wouldn't tell you that she needed to go.

You must admit, that by sending the kid first and then leaving herself, it does look to an outsider like someone trying to escape.

And the fact that you have not eaten, slept etc. in two days since she left seems to me to be a plausible reasons for being scared to tell you of her plans in the first place - prhaps because she knew you'd do anything and everything to stop her from going.

she knows that i would do anything for her and am there for her and if she did tell me she knows i would have started balling and she dont want ot see that it would make her feel sad to

 

[Gothika]

Shambles, goth opened this thread for support, not for opinions! If Saeria actually did leave him, then he will find out soon enough! All you do is scaring him here, which is the last thing he needs, so why don't you have the sensitivity to keep your opinion to yourself right now?

If my best friend calls me to tell me that her chest aches, I will not tell her it probably is a heart attack, I will tell her that it for sure won't be anything bad, but just to be certain go to the doctor!

exacly thank u i just need all the support i can get right now i am trying to eat right now i am starting light and going from there hopfully i can sleep later and my father is the same way as shambles if i were to talk to him right now he would just be saying crap and make me feel worse then i already do i have talked to my mother thos and she is there for me and also my sister brother in law and my friends i just need support and prayers right now

 

[Wolf]

If he's a parolee...

Then he has a Parole Officer, who has a LOT of power over him. Call the Texas Dept of Corrections with his name, and and who his PO is...it's all public record, and his PO would definitely want to know about any sort of situation like this.

 

[baldadonis]

Shambles, goth opened this thread for support, not for opinions! If Saeria actually did leave him, then he will find out soon enough! All you do is scaring him here, which is the last thing he needs, so why don't you have the sensitivity to keep your opinion to yourself right now?

If my best friend calls me to tell me that her chest aches, I will not tell her it probably is a heart attack, I will tell her that it for sure won't be anything bad, but just to be certain go to the doctor!

Agreed. I'll be blunt here, seriously what is wrong with you, Shambles? The man is going through a very tough time and specifically asked for help and support. Instead you contribute by telling him the situation is even worse.

I really am not sure if you are just trolling here, which to do in a thread like this is unconscionably inhuman, or you are just that oblivious to basic human interaction and decency. Your conspiracy theories about Saeria should be kept to yourself and either give Goth the support he needs or just shut the hell up.

 

[Eriksmasque]

It sucks that she did it but I can see WHY she did it the way that she did. Maybe not the most well thought out way of doing it, but she did what she felt she had to. The situation is already hard enough for her without complicating things more.

There is a HUGE difference between parental love and spousal love. Parental love involves not only love but a feeling of protection. Goth may be hurt by this, but her daughter is, by all rights, helpless. And when the person you love and are supposed to care for and protect is put in a shitty situation, you would go to the ends of the earth to protect that person with tunnel vision and nothing else.

She probably had her reasons for not telling goth, chief among them being that she DOES care. Can you imagine how much it would hurt to tell the person you are with you are about to do something like that?

You are the only person here who doesn't quite understand that this isn't a question of who loves who and all that. And I'm sorry you don't, but perhaps it would be better if you waited until after she was back to ask those questions. Right now he just needs support and maybe a push in the right direction.

Agreed. = )

 

[Gothika]

Then he has a Parole Officer, who has a LOT of power over him. Call the Texas Dept of Corrections with his name, and and who his PO is...it's all public record, and his PO would definitely want to know about any sort of situation like this.

ya i would but i dont knw where to start and i have no clue how to find his parole officers name i done some reasurch last night but could not come up with anyting all the help i can get will be appriciated

Agreed. I'll be blunt here, seriously what is wrong with you, Shambles? The man is going through a very tough time and specifically asked for help and support. Instead you contribute by telling him the situation is even worse.

I really am not sure if you are just trolling here, which to do in a thread like this is unconscionably inhuman, or you are just that oblivious to basic human interaction and decency. Your conspiracy theories about Saeria should be kept to yourself and either give Goth the support he needs or just shut the hell up.

hell ya thank u very much my friend i am not hear to argue or anything i just need support

 

[TMF Jeff]

Hi Goth,

I'm so sorry that you are going through this, and you don;t need people like me making trouble for you.

But I cannot for the life of me see why she wouldn't tell you that she needed to go.

You must admit, that by sending the kid first and then leaving herself, it does look to an outsider like someone trying to escape.

And the fact that you have not eaten, slept etc. in two days since she left seems to me to be a plausible reasons for being scared to tell you of her plans in the first place - prhaps because she knew you'd do anything and everything to stop her from going.

As an outsider you appear to be someone who has no idea what he's talking about and possibly has never had a relationship with someone from which to draw conclusions.

If I were you, I would withdraw from this thread, grateful not to have any more chances to shove my own foot down my throat.

 

[Gothika]

It sucks that she did it but I can see WHY she did it the way that she did. Maybe not the most well thought out way of doing it, but she did what she felt she had to. The situation is already hard enough for her without complicating things more.

There is a HUGE difference between parental love and spousal love. Parental love involves not only love but a feeling of protection. Goth may be hurt by this, but her daughter is, by all rights, helpless. And when the person you love and are supposed to care for and protect is put in a shitty situation, you would go to the ends of the earth to protect that person with tunnel vision and nothing else.

She probably had her reasons for not telling goth, chief among them being that she DOES care. Can you imagine how much it would hurt to tell the person you are with you are about to do something like that?

You are the only person here who doesn't quite understand that this isn't a question of who loves who and all that. And I'm sorry you don't, but perhaps it would be better if you waited until after she was back to ask those questions. Right now he just needs support and maybe a push in the right direction.

yup exacly agreed and i know she still lloves me and i understand her daughter is number 1 she is an amazing mother and cares very much and i understand why she did it

 

[Babyshambles]

As an outsider you appear to be someone who has no idea what he's talking about and possibly has never had a relationship with someone from which to draw conclusions.

If I were you, I would withdraw from this thread, grateful not to have any more chances to shove my own foot down my throat.

Ok.

Lets see than shall we.

If saeria comes back then I will leave.

 

[Gothika]

As an outsider you appear to be someone who has no idea what he's talking about and possibly has never had a relationship with someone from which to draw conclusions.

If I were you, I would withdraw from this thread, grateful not to have any more chances to shove my own foot down my throat.

thanks my friend and this is defently true love and i know what love is and everyone knows that me and sae are close and know everything about each other we always know when the other is sad and understress and not feeling well and we have always been there for each other she is the most amazing woman i have evermet and we are perfect for each other

 

[Babyshambles]

Ok.

Lets see than shall we.

If saeria comes back then I will leave.

Also Jeff.

I would appreciate it if you would keep your opinions impartial.

It is not your place to say what you said.

Now kindly refrain from doing so.

 

[TMF Jeff]

Ok.

Lets see than shall we.

If saeria comes back then I will leave.

Want to bet?

 

[Wolf]

ya i would but i dont knw where to start and i have no clue how to find his parole officers name i done some reasurch last night but could not come up with anyting all the help i can get will be appriciated

Texas Inmate Locator (Even if on parole, they're still considered in the system)
http://www.myinmatelocator.com/Texas/Texas.html


Texas Dept of Criminal Justice:
http://www.tdcj.state.tx.us/

Good Luck

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I know in LA there was a place called Law Dogs that offered free legal advice as long as you bought a hot dog.

Why would this NOT surprise me, Kurchie? 😀

 

[Mitchell]

Goth, I'm very sorry to hear about what you are going through.

From what you've posted, her ex husband committed a very serious crime. Basically, he is engaging in blackmail, and kidnapping, by attempting to forcibly have Saeria come back to him, by holding her daughter hostage.

It's already been said, but I'll say it again, please, contact the local authorities in the area that Saeria went to , and explain to them what's going on. Perhaps they can help you contact her, or somehow get help to her, to assist her in getting her daughter back, so she wont feel she has to succumb to her ex's blackmail.

Good Luck to you, my friend. I hope that you are able to resolve this, and that Saeria returns to you safely very soon.

Mitch

 

[Wolf]

Wow, talk about your 'sure thing'...

Want to bet?

I am SO taking bets on the winner of this little battle....

 

[Lauren Tyler]

I'm sorry to hear this, I hope things get better for you.

 

[TMF Jeff]

thanks my friend and this is defently true love and i know what love is and everyone knows that me and sae are close and know everything about each other we always know when the other is sad and understress and not feeling well and we have always been there for each other she is the most amazing woman i have evermet and we are perfect for each other

I love the two of you, and I LOVE the two of you together. I am genuinely praying for a positive resolution to this.

 

[Myriads]

Goth,

I'm sorry that this mess has come to your relationship, and I'm sure that once you find Saeria and can talk that it will get sorted out with some talking. A mothers love for her child is amazingly strong, and I have always gotten the impression that Saeria and her daughter were amazingly close, so I get the feeling that in her worry over her, she left without talking to you in her panic, and has not had time to even think about other things yet. Goth, keep a positive outlook, and take care of yourself, you need to eat and sleep so when you need to help you are able to.

Shambles. Telling the forums owner what he can and cannot do is a poor strategy. This thread is not the place for arguments about this. Take it to PM or a new thread. But do not do it here. Same holds for others commenting on it. Move that stuff elsewhere. This thread is for supporting Goth.

Myriads

 

[Gothika]

Goth, I'm very sorry to hear about what you are going through.

From what you've posted, her ex husband committed a very serious crime. Basically, he is engaging in blackmail, and kidnapping, by attempting to forcibly have Saeria come back to him, by holding her daughter hostage.

It's already been said, but I'll say it again, please, contact the local authorities in the area that Saeria went to , and explain to them what's going on. Perhaps they can help you contact her, or somehow get help to her, to assist her in getting her daughter back, so she wont feel she has to succumb to her ex's blackmail.

Good Luck to you, my friend. I hope that you are able to resolve this, and that Saeria returns to you safely very soon.

Mitch

i am praying for all to go well and trying my best to stay strong

I love the two of you, and I LOVE the two of you together. I am genuinely praying for a positive resolution to this.

thank u my friend u rock i am also praing and i aint even religious hehehe

Goth,

I'm sorry that this mess has come to your relationship, and I'm sure that once you find Saeria and can talk that it will get sorted out with some talking. A mothers love for her child is amazingly strong, and I have always gotten the impression that Saeria and her daughter were amazingly close, so I get the feeling that in her worry over her, she left without talking to you in her panic, and has not had time to even think about other things yet. Goth, keep a positive outlook, and take care of yourself, you need to eat and sleep so when you need to help you are able to.

Shambles. Telling the forums owner what he can and cannot do is a poor strategy. This thread is not the place for arguments about this. Take it to PM or a new thread. But do not do it here. Same holds for others commenting on it. Move that stuff elsewhere. This thread is for supporting Goth.

Myriads

ya that is true a mothers love is very strong and as i said i understand it and have no bad feelings against her and i am not angry with her i am just scared and want to make sure she is safe and sound and want to be with her

 

[badreligion]

There is nothing I can say that hasn't already been said in this thread , so the most I can offer are my thoughts and hope that everything turns out well .

Good luck

 

[Gothika]

There is nothing I can say that hasn't already been said in this thread , so the most I can offer are my thoughts and hope that everything turns out well .

Good luck

thanks that is all i realy want at this point besides the obvious