I like most of you here, don't just like, but am sexually aroused by tickling. I am still in highschool, going into OAC, and not about to start telling people about this little..."fetish"... if that's what it is.... well hell, I am sure it is. I am not planning on ever telling anybody about this. It is a HUGE problem... I hate it, I hate that I am like this, sometimes I hate myself for it. Even though this is not my fault, I feel that it is wrong I feel that I am just a freak. (With no offense to any of you, because I don't view you as this at all.) It makes me depressed, I just want to die sometimes, I sure hope it never gets to the point when I want to die enough... to ... well... And this is becoming more and more like a possibility, now more than ever. I need serious help, you here at TMF are the only ones I feel comfortable talking to, through a computer, and the internet, with the sme "fetish." It scares the fuck outta me. As of now, I have never had anything with a girl besides making out, and I am afraid as hell about that too. I don't know if I can get an erection from anything else than tickling. I want to cry. I am crying. I need you to help me, please. This is my last hope.
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whoa Nick, chill out..dont go and kill yourself over it..and no..i highly doubt its the only thing that will get you up playa, but it might work faster than anything else would. Just relax, i know some ppl on here that will help you..just dont go and kill yourself over it.~jeff
You need to see a counselor, Nick. Perhaps at your school or public health department. You need to talk with someone one on one about the feelings you are having. Just talking will make you feel better and perhaps being able to get those feelings out will help you to understand them more.
You are not a freak. Just confused a little about your sexuality like millions of people are.
Ray
You are not a freak. Just confused a little about your sexuality like millions of people are.
Ray
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Or perhaps, Nick, it's that Venray said it best, and everyone else is checking to make certain that you aren't receiving any bad advice.
Seek the assistance, and you will find it's the best thing you can do. Spoken from someone who has done so. Good luck to you.
Seek the assistance, and you will find it's the best thing you can do. Spoken from someone who has done so. Good luck to you.
Ok, now BREAAAATHE!
Okay, first off, don't feel ignored--no one's trying to 'dis' you intentionally--you only posted this sometime today, and it's just too early to get a reaction from people. Give it a couple of days and you'll see the replies pouring in. We are certainly not freaks and neither are you. Tickling is one of the safest fetishes out there--it's fun, exhilarating at times and in My opinion, anything but harmful or perverse.
You are young, so I'm guessing your extreme, frightened reaction may be due mainly to chemical/hormonal changes in your body. Self-esteem is low, your body goes through weird changes, you're facing peer as well as academic pressure at school---gawd, I remember those odd, awkward years!
I second Venray's motion--go seek professional help. Does your school employ a full-time counselor? If anything, feel free to PM Me if you want to chat or have any questions.
Best of luck, cutie!
NickK said:
Okay, first off, don't feel ignored--no one's trying to 'dis' you intentionally--you only posted this sometime today, and it's just too early to get a reaction from people. Give it a couple of days and you'll see the replies pouring in. We are certainly not freaks and neither are you. Tickling is one of the safest fetishes out there--it's fun, exhilarating at times and in My opinion, anything but harmful or perverse.
You are young, so I'm guessing your extreme, frightened reaction may be due mainly to chemical/hormonal changes in your body. Self-esteem is low, your body goes through weird changes, you're facing peer as well as academic pressure at school---gawd, I remember those odd, awkward years!
I second Venray's motion--go seek professional help. Does your school employ a full-time counselor? If anything, feel free to PM Me if you want to chat or have any questions.
Best of luck, cutie!
Hey, I'm the same age as you, in the exact same situation. Exact (minus the will to die).
I haven't told anyone I have a tickling fetish, though I have mentioned to girls that I find ticklishness to be cute or sexy, or that I find tickling fun. That type of thing, I've really played it down. Every single time, I got a positive response. Most girls I've spoken to have actually admitted to enjoy being tickled, to some degree.
Don't worry, I don't think we're as screwed as it might seem.
I haven't told anyone I have a tickling fetish, though I have mentioned to girls that I find ticklishness to be cute or sexy, or that I find tickling fun. That type of thing, I've really played it down. Every single time, I got a positive response. Most girls I've spoken to have actually admitted to enjoy being tickled, to some degree.
Don't worry, I don't think we're as screwed as it might seem.
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It's been quiet because Ven's advice was good. I agree that seeing a proffessional is a good idea if this issue is making you so upset that hurting yourself is on your mind. There is help out there for just his reason. There is no shame in using it.
You see us as a safe place to talk about this as we share your tastes. Ok lets discuss.
You are describing a emotional situation that is a magnified version of the personal isolation that many teenagers experience. You are not alone in these feelings, and many here have gone through the same as you. Many of your peers have the same fears, though they may center on different aspects of their sexuality and relationships (Am I pretty enough for him? Am I too fat? How does sex fit in with my faith? Will anyone ever find me attractive and so on...) With you, your fetish has become the item on which you are getting caught upon.
The first thing that needs to be seen is how serious the fetish is for you.
You say that you don't know if you can become aroused by anything other then tickling. Well take some time to find out. You don't need to turn into Mr. One foot iron britches, just show interest. A fetish, at your age, can become a focus easily, and while other turn-ons exist, the fetish is like a bright light that blinds you to other things. Take some time to look around it. You'll be surprised what you may find. Do you have preferences in what you like in a womans looks? think about that for a bit.
You state you have 'made out' with girls. What was the result of these experiences?
And a question. Why do you hate yourself for having the fetish? Would you hate yourself if you say... all your hair fell out one night? What about being turned on by tickling self-repulses so strongly with you?
We are here to listen and help.
Myriads
You see us as a safe place to talk about this as we share your tastes. Ok lets discuss.
You are describing a emotional situation that is a magnified version of the personal isolation that many teenagers experience. You are not alone in these feelings, and many here have gone through the same as you. Many of your peers have the same fears, though they may center on different aspects of their sexuality and relationships (Am I pretty enough for him? Am I too fat? How does sex fit in with my faith? Will anyone ever find me attractive and so on...) With you, your fetish has become the item on which you are getting caught upon.
The first thing that needs to be seen is how serious the fetish is for you.
You say that you don't know if you can become aroused by anything other then tickling. Well take some time to find out. You don't need to turn into Mr. One foot iron britches, just show interest. A fetish, at your age, can become a focus easily, and while other turn-ons exist, the fetish is like a bright light that blinds you to other things. Take some time to look around it. You'll be surprised what you may find. Do you have preferences in what you like in a womans looks? think about that for a bit.
You state you have 'made out' with girls. What was the result of these experiences?
And a question. Why do you hate yourself for having the fetish? Would you hate yourself if you say... all your hair fell out one night? What about being turned on by tickling self-repulses so strongly with you?
We are here to listen and help.
Myriads
Well, actually....
Actually, tickling is one of the most common fetishes - Just look, there are over 12,000 members here! And thats only the ones who know about the Tickling Forum and use a computer - there are obviously many thousands more who will discover this place, or just come here and never sign up.
And that's just ONE fetish. There are leather fetishes, foot fetishes, hand fetishes, bondage, balloons, high heels, low heels, glasses, uniforms, etc. etc. etc.
You must also realize, and this is almost certainly a fact, that there are probably many, many people in your school, in your church, and in your life who also have there own fetish. They obviously won't talk about it, but trust me, they all have them. You don't exactly have to tell everyone you have a tickling fetish, that's what the forum is for. You can come here and talk. It's not that people will hate you, they just won't understand unless they have this specific fetish. Most people will discuss sex in broad terms, or bravado filled slaps on the back, but won't delve into specifics like that. Where I work, hell, we talk about sex all the time, everyone else far more than me. And I never told anyone I had a tickle fetish. Topic never came up.
I don't have a leather fetish, for example. If someone close to me told me they had one, I wouldn't judge them because of that, I'd just wonder why they were telling me, and that would be that. I couldn't talk to them much about it, except to tell them I have a tickling fetish, and then they wouldn't be able to relate to that, because they probably don't have one! See how that works? I knew people who would get excited when a girl had on leather pants, for example, and I'd be like, "Oh, okay, whatever." I would be talking to the girl and feel absolutely nothing, and three guys would be standing and looking at me like I'm braveheart or something. But then I'd see a woman with pantyhose on and be like "Oh my God!" and others would be like "Ho hum....whatever..."
Wouldn't even notice.
Don't worry, your normal. (Like normal means anything - someone please find me all those normal people out there, I'd love to meet them!)
You are worried about this because you're still in high school. As everyone here can tell you, when you enter the real world, EVERYTHING changes. Much for the better, some for the worse, most of it will be just growing up. People in high school care about stupid crap like that. Their little cliques and shit.
When you enter the job market, your boss will be like "Can you show up on time and do your job? That's all I care about. Oh, you were popular in school? That's nice, heres a mop, clean that floor. You went to prom by yourself, awww, that's a shame - go wait on those customers." No one cares. It's the same in college - there's no Big Man on Campus - people are there because they're paying to be there. The professors don't care if you show up to class or not, they don't chase you down in the hall and tell you to study. You can fail every class and no one will care. On the bright side, if you do care, they will help you more than any high school teacher could, and point you in the direction of resources, study groups, and internships you wouldn't have dreamed of in high school.
I don't know, when you see people who are blind, or deaf, or in wheel chairs going to the same classes as everyone else, seeing people 20 years old and others 70 all in the same class, things change. When you have to deal with life's challenges all by yourself, and overcome them as you undoubtably will, you grow as a person, become more tolerant, more understanding, and a better person. Comparing high school to real life is like....well, you can't compare them. Real life isn't worse than high school, as many will tell you, it's far better. Every person I've seen since high school talks more to me now than they did in high school. The other day I saw a guy who was a tough guy in high school, hell, made fun of me a few times, wouldn't give me the time of day, and the other day we talked for 40 minutes, and he told me to come by the store he runs to bullshit if I ever get the chance. I was pushes baskets at Walmart and a guy from high school who was working on his doctor's degree came over and we talked for 30 minutes. Another guy who was one of the most popular guys in school would talk to me every time he saw me there too. (I was basically the nobody in school, not even the school nerd.) I would run into girls from other grades and we'd talk forever. That shit NEVER happens in high school. Everyone wants to be popular in high school, but that mostly fades away when you enter the real world. It becomes how you handle life's problems, take responsibility for your actions, if you are a non-judgemental person, a forgiving person, a kind person.
Once people get married, have kids, lose friends and family, get divorces, go through lifes ups and downs, they mellow out. Don't worry about your fetish or high school opinions of it. Trust me, you'll find out real fast - most of that crap that you do in high school doesn't amount to anything in the real world - I won lots of awards in high school, and got the honor roll many times. I'm working alongside people who never finished high school and waiting on customers who are too busy throwing up on themselves to know what a science fair or rally even is.
Actually, tickling is one of the most common fetishes - Just look, there are over 12,000 members here! And thats only the ones who know about the Tickling Forum and use a computer - there are obviously many thousands more who will discover this place, or just come here and never sign up.
And that's just ONE fetish. There are leather fetishes, foot fetishes, hand fetishes, bondage, balloons, high heels, low heels, glasses, uniforms, etc. etc. etc.
You must also realize, and this is almost certainly a fact, that there are probably many, many people in your school, in your church, and in your life who also have there own fetish. They obviously won't talk about it, but trust me, they all have them. You don't exactly have to tell everyone you have a tickling fetish, that's what the forum is for. You can come here and talk. It's not that people will hate you, they just won't understand unless they have this specific fetish. Most people will discuss sex in broad terms, or bravado filled slaps on the back, but won't delve into specifics like that. Where I work, hell, we talk about sex all the time, everyone else far more than me. And I never told anyone I had a tickle fetish. Topic never came up.
I don't have a leather fetish, for example. If someone close to me told me they had one, I wouldn't judge them because of that, I'd just wonder why they were telling me, and that would be that. I couldn't talk to them much about it, except to tell them I have a tickling fetish, and then they wouldn't be able to relate to that, because they probably don't have one! See how that works? I knew people who would get excited when a girl had on leather pants, for example, and I'd be like, "Oh, okay, whatever." I would be talking to the girl and feel absolutely nothing, and three guys would be standing and looking at me like I'm braveheart or something. But then I'd see a woman with pantyhose on and be like "Oh my God!" and others would be like "Ho hum....whatever..."
Wouldn't even notice.
Don't worry, your normal. (Like normal means anything - someone please find me all those normal people out there, I'd love to meet them!)
You are worried about this because you're still in high school. As everyone here can tell you, when you enter the real world, EVERYTHING changes. Much for the better, some for the worse, most of it will be just growing up. People in high school care about stupid crap like that. Their little cliques and shit.
When you enter the job market, your boss will be like "Can you show up on time and do your job? That's all I care about. Oh, you were popular in school? That's nice, heres a mop, clean that floor. You went to prom by yourself, awww, that's a shame - go wait on those customers." No one cares. It's the same in college - there's no Big Man on Campus - people are there because they're paying to be there. The professors don't care if you show up to class or not, they don't chase you down in the hall and tell you to study. You can fail every class and no one will care. On the bright side, if you do care, they will help you more than any high school teacher could, and point you in the direction of resources, study groups, and internships you wouldn't have dreamed of in high school.
I don't know, when you see people who are blind, or deaf, or in wheel chairs going to the same classes as everyone else, seeing people 20 years old and others 70 all in the same class, things change. When you have to deal with life's challenges all by yourself, and overcome them as you undoubtably will, you grow as a person, become more tolerant, more understanding, and a better person. Comparing high school to real life is like....well, you can't compare them. Real life isn't worse than high school, as many will tell you, it's far better. Every person I've seen since high school talks more to me now than they did in high school. The other day I saw a guy who was a tough guy in high school, hell, made fun of me a few times, wouldn't give me the time of day, and the other day we talked for 40 minutes, and he told me to come by the store he runs to bullshit if I ever get the chance. I was pushes baskets at Walmart and a guy from high school who was working on his doctor's degree came over and we talked for 30 minutes. Another guy who was one of the most popular guys in school would talk to me every time he saw me there too. (I was basically the nobody in school, not even the school nerd.) I would run into girls from other grades and we'd talk forever. That shit NEVER happens in high school. Everyone wants to be popular in high school, but that mostly fades away when you enter the real world. It becomes how you handle life's problems, take responsibility for your actions, if you are a non-judgemental person, a forgiving person, a kind person.
Once people get married, have kids, lose friends and family, get divorces, go through lifes ups and downs, they mellow out. Don't worry about your fetish or high school opinions of it. Trust me, you'll find out real fast - most of that crap that you do in high school doesn't amount to anything in the real world - I won lots of awards in high school, and got the honor roll many times. I'm working alongside people who never finished high school and waiting on customers who are too busy throwing up on themselves to know what a science fair or rally even is.
padrefan67 said:
Well said. As a fellow Canadian, I feel for you Nick and hope you can take a few steps back and heed Ray's advice. Its not easy, especially when you're young, I know, but realize there are many of us out there who have confronted our feelings on this issue and have become stronger for it. I'm sure you will do the same, it just takes time. I remember growing up having a hard time making sense of it too, but over time, and especially since I've found the TMF, I've become much more comfortable with it and understand that it is part of what makes me and many of us here unique. Like MsDiva said, its anything but harmful and is all about great fun and enjoyment, even if it is in a sexual context. Just relax, get some help and try to put things in perspective.
Hey there Nick...
Hey man...
Like others have said here...take a step back(not easy for a teenager)...
I would venture that just about EVERY person on this TMF board has had a similar thought pattern run through their brain.
HOW IN THE WORLD CAN I BE TURNED ON BY TICKLING!!!
Well at least you have come around during the time of the internet and can get some advice and an outlet for your emotions.
First, I would take Rays and Myriads advice.
And you should also think about what you LOVE about tickling...is it the laughter, the response to laughter, a certian ticklish body part, a facial reaction you love...think about what you REALLY LOVE about tickling...
One other thing I will say is that esp. in highschool, tickling is viewed as flirtation and a way for a guy to get his hands on a girl..or at least that is my excuse😉 🙂
And while I am not saying tackle every girl the ground in a huge tickle fight, but a stroke of your finger down her side or poke her belly button whould just be a way of flirting for you.
Just enjoy it, enjoy TALKING to the girl, it takes enough courage just to TALK to the girl, but really they don't bite and are looking to talk to YOU too!!!
Anyway, I wish you all the best and I was right there with you man, in terms of what you are feeling, and I didn't have the TMF or other web pages to fall on till college.
Good luck man!
Tickle On.
Hey man...
Like others have said here...take a step back(not easy for a teenager)...
I would venture that just about EVERY person on this TMF board has had a similar thought pattern run through their brain.
HOW IN THE WORLD CAN I BE TURNED ON BY TICKLING!!!
Well at least you have come around during the time of the internet and can get some advice and an outlet for your emotions.
First, I would take Rays and Myriads advice.
And you should also think about what you LOVE about tickling...is it the laughter, the response to laughter, a certian ticklish body part, a facial reaction you love...think about what you REALLY LOVE about tickling...
One other thing I will say is that esp. in highschool, tickling is viewed as flirtation and a way for a guy to get his hands on a girl..or at least that is my excuse😉 🙂
And while I am not saying tackle every girl the ground in a huge tickle fight, but a stroke of your finger down her side or poke her belly button whould just be a way of flirting for you.
Just enjoy it, enjoy TALKING to the girl, it takes enough courage just to TALK to the girl, but really they don't bite and are looking to talk to YOU too!!!
Anyway, I wish you all the best and I was right there with you man, in terms of what you are feeling, and I didn't have the TMF or other web pages to fall on till college.
Good luck man!
Tickle On.
Wasn't awake when ya posted, NickK. Nothin' personal. Need consciousness to post. Most do.
Like many have said, Venray nailed it.
FWIW, you're gonna find most people are feelin' like you. Even them bland, ordinary folk. The ones who fit that "normal description.
You're normal here, man. There's thousands here and you're one of us. You want to play with someone. You're not talkin' harm.
Oh, and this interest in tickling isn't technically a fetish. Fetishes require inanimate objects, and someone being tickled DEFINITELY ain't inanimate. Quite the opposite. Closest that it comes, psychologically, is a paraphilia, and only if tickling is ALWAYS sexual for you. If you can tickle a baby and be cool with it, you just have an interest, the way most men have an interest in breasts or legs, dig?
Now, if you were into handbags, or nylons, THAT would be a fetish.
Trivia, but if you're gonna label yourself, know it. There's this book called the DSM-IV, that defines psych stuff, and that's where I pull this info from. You're not crazy. You're not even weird, here. You're just interested in tickling.
Even if it WAS a fetish, like if you dug shoes, too, who cares? Do ya wanna harm someone? If not, no worries. Someone on the planet wants t'grow old wit' ya.
I found mine. Many here have. Just takes time. Annoyin', but true.
Hope ya find a counsellor to talk to. They're wicked cool. If ya don't like the first one, blow 'em off and find another. Keep lookin' 'til ya find one you're comfortable talking to. I did, ages back. Did again, while workin' my butt off after college (it grew back, thanks). Shrinks can be good for ventin', and gettin' clear wit' things. After all, this board's just a bunch of text on the screen 'til you prove for yourself that what's said is valid, y'know?
Most of us have email addresses. I do. It's [email protected]. If ya want conversation about the topic, or wanna question how I did what I'm sayin' you should do, mail me. Venray's likely the same. So are many. There's private messaging here. PM someone, even.
Point is that this is a community. Folks will jump in for ya. Just like we wanted back in the day, y'know?
Peace,
dvnc
Like many have said, Venray nailed it.
FWIW, you're gonna find most people are feelin' like you. Even them bland, ordinary folk. The ones who fit that "normal description.
You're normal here, man. There's thousands here and you're one of us. You want to play with someone. You're not talkin' harm.
Oh, and this interest in tickling isn't technically a fetish. Fetishes require inanimate objects, and someone being tickled DEFINITELY ain't inanimate. Quite the opposite. Closest that it comes, psychologically, is a paraphilia, and only if tickling is ALWAYS sexual for you. If you can tickle a baby and be cool with it, you just have an interest, the way most men have an interest in breasts or legs, dig?
Now, if you were into handbags, or nylons, THAT would be a fetish.
Trivia, but if you're gonna label yourself, know it. There's this book called the DSM-IV, that defines psych stuff, and that's where I pull this info from. You're not crazy. You're not even weird, here. You're just interested in tickling.
Even if it WAS a fetish, like if you dug shoes, too, who cares? Do ya wanna harm someone? If not, no worries. Someone on the planet wants t'grow old wit' ya.
I found mine. Many here have. Just takes time. Annoyin', but true.
Hope ya find a counsellor to talk to. They're wicked cool. If ya don't like the first one, blow 'em off and find another. Keep lookin' 'til ya find one you're comfortable talking to. I did, ages back. Did again, while workin' my butt off after college (it grew back, thanks). Shrinks can be good for ventin', and gettin' clear wit' things. After all, this board's just a bunch of text on the screen 'til you prove for yourself that what's said is valid, y'know?
Most of us have email addresses. I do. It's [email protected]. If ya want conversation about the topic, or wanna question how I did what I'm sayin' you should do, mail me. Venray's likely the same. So are many. There's private messaging here. PM someone, even.
Point is that this is a community. Folks will jump in for ya. Just like we wanted back in the day, y'know?
Peace,
dvnc
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Nick, please take it easy. This is not really a major problem, even though it seems like it now. When you get older, you'll recognize that it's not a problem at all. It's just a preference.
Actually, you're at the perfect age to indulge in some tickling just for the fun of it. That's the only thing I miss from high school. There were always lots of girls to date and they usually tickled me first. At that age, kids liked to experiment and just play around. I remember actually dating another ticklephile when I was around seventeen, even though I didn't acknowledge the fact, and never heard the word "ticklephile" before. But a day did not go by when that girl did not bring up tickling, talk about how ticklish she was, or just start tickling me.
I remember a lot of girls talked about tickling back then, and I saw a lot of all out tickle attacks in those day. So you're at the perfect age to have fun with it.
Hope that helped a little at least...
Actually, you're at the perfect age to indulge in some tickling just for the fun of it. That's the only thing I miss from high school. There were always lots of girls to date and they usually tickled me first. At that age, kids liked to experiment and just play around. I remember actually dating another ticklephile when I was around seventeen, even though I didn't acknowledge the fact, and never heard the word "ticklephile" before. But a day did not go by when that girl did not bring up tickling, talk about how ticklish she was, or just start tickling me.
I remember a lot of girls talked about tickling back then, and I saw a lot of all out tickle attacks in those day. So you're at the perfect age to have fun with it.
Hope that helped a little at least...
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Nick... You are not alone. There are MANY others just like you. Is this different from what most people expect to feel...largely as a result of all the sexual content seen on television? Yes. Is that a bad thing? Not necessarily. It certainly isn't something so bad that it's worth hurting yourself over. And, as you relax enough to take the time to look around, you'll find that it's something you can not only live with but also enjoy.
That having been said, I can relate to what you're feeling. When I first discovered how deep my love of tickling was, it scared the shit out of me. I too thought there was something very wrong with me. Then, I took a step back and remembered something. We're all unique. That's how we're supposed to be. That's how we were created. While society tends to think we should all say and do the same stuff and basicly turn into cultural cloans of one another, that is neither true nor healthy. We need to be true to ourselves...whatever that means for each individual.
As Ray and others have said, talk with someone...preferably a counsellor if you feel that negative about things. But, until you can get to do that, talk to anyone you feel comfortable with. Sometimes, explaining something you're feeling to someone else helps you to realize exactly what you're feeling yourself. Hang in there. You'll be fine. You just have to give yourself a little time to digest things.
Ann
That having been said, I can relate to what you're feeling. When I first discovered how deep my love of tickling was, it scared the shit out of me. I too thought there was something very wrong with me. Then, I took a step back and remembered something. We're all unique. That's how we're supposed to be. That's how we were created. While society tends to think we should all say and do the same stuff and basicly turn into cultural cloans of one another, that is neither true nor healthy. We need to be true to ourselves...whatever that means for each individual.
As Ray and others have said, talk with someone...preferably a counsellor if you feel that negative about things. But, until you can get to do that, talk to anyone you feel comfortable with. Sometimes, explaining something you're feeling to someone else helps you to realize exactly what you're feeling yourself. Hang in there. You'll be fine. You just have to give yourself a little time to digest things.
Ann
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NickK said:
Hello, Nick. With regard to response rates, I think you will find that most discussion threads get between 1 response per 10 views and 1 response per 100 views. Many unregistered readers can not respond, even if they want to. At any given moment there are more unregistered guests than registered users reading these forums.
With regard to your situation, the most important thing to realize is that you are not alone. Many people your age are going through similar anxieties, fears, and self-doubts about different aspects of themselves and their sexuality. The most important thing to do is what Venray said, talk about it to a trained profession, such as your school psychologist.
Hi Nick
Welcome to forum and kudos for being brave enough to "come out." The oh-so-wise Ray said it first--Please do find a trained professional to help you thru this. I work with many patients with psychological issues. I don't know if it's of any comfort to you but mine would give anything to have your problem. You're not wrong and you're not a freak. You could be aroused by MUCH worse things (rape, torture, MURDER...) At least tickling is seen (at least by those of us who enjoy it) as something fun, legal, playful and enjoyable. You're not hurting anybody after all honey.
I didn't figure out what it meant to me until recently (I'm probably twice your age.) You have the advantage of recognizing it young and finding a partner who enjoys it as much as you do. There are a lot of forum memebers here close to your age and I hope they speak out. Good luck, hang in there and do try to go easier on yourself. I promise, you'll find out there's nothing wrong with you and if you find a helpful professional, you'll be fine...Hope this helps, even a little.
XOXO
Welcome to forum and kudos for being brave enough to "come out." The oh-so-wise Ray said it first--Please do find a trained professional to help you thru this. I work with many patients with psychological issues. I don't know if it's of any comfort to you but mine would give anything to have your problem. You're not wrong and you're not a freak. You could be aroused by MUCH worse things (rape, torture, MURDER...) At least tickling is seen (at least by those of us who enjoy it) as something fun, legal, playful and enjoyable. You're not hurting anybody after all honey.
I didn't figure out what it meant to me until recently (I'm probably twice your age.) You have the advantage of recognizing it young and finding a partner who enjoys it as much as you do. There are a lot of forum memebers here close to your age and I hope they speak out. Good luck, hang in there and do try to go easier on yourself. I promise, you'll find out there's nothing wrong with you and if you find a helpful professional, you'll be fine...Hope this helps, even a little.
XOXO
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Nick, when I first began telling my friends that I loved feet and tickling they looked at me like I was from Mars... then they'd continue their discussion about women's breasts or butts. I could never figure out why I was viewed as a freak while they weren't ridiculed for their obsession. As you can see, you're not alone in this world. Every member of this forum has most likely been met with some ridicule. You know what? I laugh it off now. I've found that a lot of people will change their point of view, eventually. I told a friend of mine about my obsession with feet. He looked at me weird and said, "How can anyone like feet? They're gross!" A month or so later he told me his court reporter came to work one day wearing sandals. (My friend is a lawyer) He then said, "I finally see your point, Frank. Her feet are really pretty." Long story short, they both got married a few months ago. I'm not saying he joined our club or her feet made him hotter for her, but you never know. Venray suggested counseling. I back him up on that. When you meet new people, have a great time conversing with them but listen for what I call "Golden Opportunities". Example: You're with friends and someone mentions Eddie Murphy, for example. You could ask, "What do you think of his foot fetish?" (That's a well known fact!) Listen for the replies. Someone might reply, "Ooh, I'd love for someone to play with my feet!" THAT'S someone you'll wanna get to know. I hope this has helped. You're alright, Nick.
Nick, when I first began telling my friends that I loved feet and tickling they looked at me like I was from Mars... then they'd continue their discussion about women's breasts or butts. I could never figure out why I was viewed as a freak while they weren't ridiculed for their obsession. As you can see, you're not alone in this world. Every member of this forum has most likely been met with some ridicule. You know what? I laugh it off now. I've found that a lot of people will change their point of view, eventually. I told a friend of mine about my obsession with feet. He looked at me weird and said, "How can anyone like feet? They're gross!" A month or so later he told me his court reporter came to work one day wearing sandals. (My friend is a lawyer) He then said, "I finally see your point, Frank. Her feet are really pretty." Long story short, they both got married a few months ago. I'm not saying he joined our club or her feet made him hotter for her, but you never know. Venray suggested counseling. I back him up on that. When you meet new people, have a great time conversing with them but listen for what I call "Golden Opportunities". Example: You're with friends and someone mentions Eddie Murphy, for example. You could ask, "What do you think of his foot fetish?" (That's a well known fact!) Listen for the replies. Someone might reply, "Ooh, I'd love for someone to play with my feet!" THAT'S someone you'll wanna get to know. I hope this has helped. You're alright, Nick.
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Nick, at your age, I remember feeling that I liked tickling too much and that the right one would never come along. Ok, when I was 21, I fell in love and this girl even had a slight tickle fetish.
We stayed together for over a year. My point is that someone will come along when you least expect it and make you feel better about things. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. You just like tickling more than the average person.
If you want to talk to some people who really understand, just hang around here. You're surrounded by people who understand. Hey, I've had a tickle fetish since around the age of five!
But counseling is not a bad idea if you feel you'd want to do that.
We stayed together for over a year. My point is that someone will come along when you least expect it and make you feel better about things. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. You just like tickling more than the average person.
If you want to talk to some people who really understand, just hang around here. You're surrounded by people who understand. Hey, I've had a tickle fetish since around the age of five!
But counseling is not a bad idea if you feel you'd want to do that.
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Let me just put in my two cents' worth...
I've been into tickling for as long as I can remeber. When I was a teenager I was VERY embarrassed about it and scared stiff that anyone would ever find out. i definitely thought i was a freak. then by chance i discovered a tickling magazine on 48th street in NYC ( the old, pre-Giuliani days-lol )and i realized...i'm not alone! There's even magazines and videos and websites decicated to this! and then when i met my first girlfriend , even though she didn't share my fetish, she loved to indulge me and incorporate tickling into our love making. It was so sweet and exciting...I realized there is nothing wrong with my fetish. Also, there is no 'line in the sand' with fetishists on one side and 'normal' people on the other!
The concept of 'normal' is basically useless. MOST of us are 'normal'.
wanting to hurt people, now THAT's not normal!
But tickling in my opinion is basically sweet and affectionate...even when it's extreme!
tickling is fun, playful and exciting. it's basic human contact and affection. It's really quite harmless!
I hope this helps...
I second Venray's advice. If you feel that badly you may really need professional help.As scary as that may sound, you basically need to be able to sit down and talk to someone who'll be able to understand what you're going through and advise you. I also think there may be more problems in your life than just your worries about a tickle fetish.
I've been into tickling for as long as I can remeber. When I was a teenager I was VERY embarrassed about it and scared stiff that anyone would ever find out. i definitely thought i was a freak. then by chance i discovered a tickling magazine on 48th street in NYC ( the old, pre-Giuliani days-lol )and i realized...i'm not alone! There's even magazines and videos and websites decicated to this! and then when i met my first girlfriend , even though she didn't share my fetish, she loved to indulge me and incorporate tickling into our love making. It was so sweet and exciting...I realized there is nothing wrong with my fetish. Also, there is no 'line in the sand' with fetishists on one side and 'normal' people on the other!
The concept of 'normal' is basically useless. MOST of us are 'normal'.
wanting to hurt people, now THAT's not normal!
But tickling in my opinion is basically sweet and affectionate...even when it's extreme!
tickling is fun, playful and exciting. it's basic human contact and affection. It's really quite harmless!
I hope this helps...
I second Venray's advice. If you feel that badly you may really need professional help.As scary as that may sound, you basically need to be able to sit down and talk to someone who'll be able to understand what you're going through and advise you. I also think there may be more problems in your life than just your worries about a tickle fetish.
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Also nick, please respond, so we know you're ok, ok?
featherfingers
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Now I'm worried!
Is there a way for a moderator to get in touch with Nick and make sure he's alright? Depression is no laughing matter.
Is there a way for a moderator to get in touch with Nick and make sure he's alright? Depression is no laughing matter.
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you think thats bad?
try being a personal trainer with a tickle fetish???
But seriously calm down and listen to the advise that is given we've all been there in one form or another. I am embarrassed about my fetish with feet and tickling, I've told acouple of my friends 2 or 3 girls, girlfriends, and my best guy friend. Nothing bad happened we're still friends, they respect me. And the girls often become more playful after knowing it. It's really not that big a deal. Now if you were into people wearing full body animal costumes I'd be alittle worried.
try being a personal trainer with a tickle fetish???
But seriously calm down and listen to the advise that is given we've all been there in one form or another. I am embarrassed about my fetish with feet and tickling, I've told acouple of my friends 2 or 3 girls, girlfriends, and my best guy friend. Nothing bad happened we're still friends, they respect me. And the girls often become more playful after knowing it. It's really not that big a deal. Now if you were into people wearing full body animal costumes I'd be alittle worried.
chickles_:)
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Oh NickK!! 
Hi NickK!
Oh hey, big guy it's okay! And so are YOU! You're good. You are normal. YOu have what it takes to have a great life. YOu have friends and people who care about you.
I'm guessing by now you actually are feeling much more confident about all of the above. And I probably wouldn't have written because there is little more that i could add to all the good words of wisdom shared with you.
But i do know how it feels to need support and have no one be there. So I just had to join the large crowd of caring people dropping by you to offer a smiling face and warm hug and maybe a pair of bare feet 😀 to help cheer you up.
One thing i might say briefly and i don't know if you have a particular faith tradition, so i don't want to push anything. But let me just say that if you do, there is probably a part of it, however, untalked about, that celebrates human sexuality and pleasure-giving sexual expression.
Again, if you have a faith tradition, and struggles within that have added to your stress, let me encourage you to explore that side of your faith which may be missing in your teaching so far.
Sorry, if this doesn't help.
Anyway, most important, we all care about you, NickK. And at least here, you have thousands of people around the world who "get it" with you about the whole tickling thing. And that's a whole lotta good.
Thank you for having the courage to share your struggle with us. I hope all that has been shared by so many good people has helped.
Many blessings, NickK
Chickles_🙂
Hi NickK!
Oh hey, big guy it's okay! And so are YOU! You're good. You are normal. YOu have what it takes to have a great life. YOu have friends and people who care about you.
I'm guessing by now you actually are feeling much more confident about all of the above. And I probably wouldn't have written because there is little more that i could add to all the good words of wisdom shared with you.
But i do know how it feels to need support and have no one be there. So I just had to join the large crowd of caring people dropping by you to offer a smiling face and warm hug and maybe a pair of bare feet 😀 to help cheer you up.
One thing i might say briefly and i don't know if you have a particular faith tradition, so i don't want to push anything. But let me just say that if you do, there is probably a part of it, however, untalked about, that celebrates human sexuality and pleasure-giving sexual expression.
Again, if you have a faith tradition, and struggles within that have added to your stress, let me encourage you to explore that side of your faith which may be missing in your teaching so far.
Sorry, if this doesn't help.
Anyway, most important, we all care about you, NickK. And at least here, you have thousands of people around the world who "get it" with you about the whole tickling thing. And that's a whole lotta good.
Thank you for having the courage to share your struggle with us. I hope all that has been shared by so many good people has helped.
Many blessings, NickK
Chickles_🙂
