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Hey, NickK. If Chickles message doesn't cause you to post a reply I really don't know what will. At least you know you've got a family with all of us.
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Serious Problem, with Much Insight Needed
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My own experiences . . .
NickK,
I've lived with my tickle & foot fetish since I was about 5 years old.
This started in 1964. WAY before the internet. I had NO ONE to talk to about it. I've felt like killing myself in the past, when I was in school, especially High School. I had no one to talk to. I couldn't talk to councelors at school, because I was so afraid of what they thought of me afterwards. It might've gotten out & I would be the laughing stock of the entire school. back in the 1970's I would have been sent to a mental institution.
BUT . . today, so many things are accepted that it would be ok to talk to a councelor. they WOULD understand. Who knows, maybe THEY are into different things too. You'd be VERY surprised.
Although I have had 4 brothers & 2 sisters, mom & dad, aunts, uncles, grandmothers (Both grandfathers passed away before I was born) & alot of cousins, I was ALL alone.
I've cried myself to sleep many many nights, wondering why I am so different. But I kept going.
It WILL get better. THIS is NOT the only way life will be for you. It WILL change for the better. It WILL.
Just hang on & be patient.
This, too, shall pass.
NickK,
I've lived with my tickle & foot fetish since I was about 5 years old.
This started in 1964. WAY before the internet. I had NO ONE to talk to about it. I've felt like killing myself in the past, when I was in school, especially High School. I had no one to talk to. I couldn't talk to councelors at school, because I was so afraid of what they thought of me afterwards. It might've gotten out & I would be the laughing stock of the entire school. back in the 1970's I would have been sent to a mental institution.
BUT . . today, so many things are accepted that it would be ok to talk to a councelor. they WOULD understand. Who knows, maybe THEY are into different things too. You'd be VERY surprised.
Although I have had 4 brothers & 2 sisters, mom & dad, aunts, uncles, grandmothers (Both grandfathers passed away before I was born) & alot of cousins, I was ALL alone.
I've cried myself to sleep many many nights, wondering why I am so different. But I kept going.
It WILL get better. THIS is NOT the only way life will be for you. It WILL change for the better. It WILL.
Just hang on & be patient.
This, too, shall pass.
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Nick,
All of us here at TMF love tickling. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Certainly not worth losing your life over. Please know that there is nothing wrong with you. And speaking from experience (I'd rather everyone know about this than to keep it a secret if it will help you) if you have suicidal thoughts or harm yourself in any way, get professional help, like Venray said. Please. Nothing is worth killing yourself over. Please post again, so we know you are ok.
All of us here at TMF love tickling. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Certainly not worth losing your life over. Please know that there is nothing wrong with you. And speaking from experience (I'd rather everyone know about this than to keep it a secret if it will help you) if you have suicidal thoughts or harm yourself in any way, get professional help, like Venray said. Please. Nothing is worth killing yourself over. Please post again, so we know you are ok.
I Nick!
It´s the first time I see your post, many have made good points already and I´d probably get boring and tell you all the same. I´ll try and tell you something personal!
For starters! You´ll have to deal with my english mistakes cause I´m portuguese! That´s right!!! Having a tickling fetish is such an unusual thing that we also have it here in Portugal and you have a 23 young portuguese guy answering you in this forum!
Now let´s get to more serious things! You are concerned with your life and feeling different from everyone. I particularly liked the post from Mabudas about Highschool life and something on that line I´ll give you my own experience wich in highschool was pretty bad.
I wasn´t a very popular persson on highscholl and this apart from my tickling fetish wich no one really knew! You know that due to fights among my class and to my personallity I got myself at times almost completely isolated at highschool. There was more then an entire month on wich I was sitting all alone in class with no one seatting on my side cause I was just a non popular guy. One of my best friends even refused to sit on my side and left to sit near the most popular guys (to your surprise that guy is still one of my bestfriends today at 23).
The point is, you think you are different, you´re bloody right!!! we´re all different! I´m not better or worst then anyone else in this forum and neither you are! We are all one unique and complex persson with many personal flaws and many personal atributes. Now Nick, just stay true to yourself, find out what you trully are and live allways acording to that. If you know who you are, if you know what you like, you´ll end up atracting people who like the same things and shares your views. On the contrary, try living like on highschool forever, trying to be like the most popular guys and people will eventually find out you´re just fooling yourself and others.
So about tickling! If you like it, go and do it! Don´t be ashamed! Just do it like something you like and placing no big deal on it. Once you do it as an ordinary and playfull thing no girl will even stop to think "hummmm why is nick tickling me?". And even if a girl asks that question the chance of her dreaming you have a tickling fetish is like less then 1%....they´ll never know if you´re able to do it with no big deal! I can tell you Nick! These days, I tickle almost every girl I happen to know, can´t tell you that i tickle torture everyone cause that´s not whay will happen but i do get my playfull pokes on the ribs and belly all the time!And if they notice I´m getting turned on, they´re just assuming I´m hot because of her bodys or something else! lol You know, even today, I went to the this bar near the beach with 3 girls and on the ride home I placed a few pokes on the ribs and belly of the girl who was travelling on the seat next to me (I was driving), when we were talking about piercings I told her I liked to see bellybutton piercings and demonstrated it by trying to move my fingers on her bellybutton lol Do you think she got mad???? naaaaaaaaaa She already spoke to me on messenger this night, sent me a lot of kisses and said we need to get out again. So this will also answer to your doubts about tickling with girls and relations. Take it casual, but if you like it, please do it!!! A girl will love you more if you´re happy even if she needs to get a few tickles on the way.
I hope you can see that many people out there care for you! I hope you can see that I myself, having a tickling fetish, turned from an unpopular guy at highschool to having a great social life some years latter.
Don´t ever be afraid of staying true to yourself! That´s allways the key!!!
you think we ticklers/lees are strange??? have you already trully looked around you??? just for fun, have you ever trully looked into a picture of Albert Einstein??? 😉 Now that guy WAS STRANGE!!! lol looked like a lunatic! someone I wont like to find in a dar alley lol but he was one of the greatest minds in all history of mankind.
Believe in yourself! Stay on your way, the way you choose for yourself based on what you like and care the most. Then, just go forward and you´ll find out there are lots of people makining simillar choices out there, people who will relate to you and love to be with you.
Best of luck from Portugal!
Rui
(it´s not allways I sign my true name, want this one to be personal)
It´s the first time I see your post, many have made good points already and I´d probably get boring and tell you all the same. I´ll try and tell you something personal!
For starters! You´ll have to deal with my english mistakes cause I´m portuguese! That´s right!!! Having a tickling fetish is such an unusual thing that we also have it here in Portugal and you have a 23 young portuguese guy answering you in this forum!
Now let´s get to more serious things! You are concerned with your life and feeling different from everyone. I particularly liked the post from Mabudas about Highschool life and something on that line I´ll give you my own experience wich in highschool was pretty bad.
I wasn´t a very popular persson on highscholl and this apart from my tickling fetish wich no one really knew! You know that due to fights among my class and to my personallity I got myself at times almost completely isolated at highschool. There was more then an entire month on wich I was sitting all alone in class with no one seatting on my side cause I was just a non popular guy. One of my best friends even refused to sit on my side and left to sit near the most popular guys (to your surprise that guy is still one of my bestfriends today at 23).
The point is, you think you are different, you´re bloody right!!! we´re all different! I´m not better or worst then anyone else in this forum and neither you are! We are all one unique and complex persson with many personal flaws and many personal atributes. Now Nick, just stay true to yourself, find out what you trully are and live allways acording to that. If you know who you are, if you know what you like, you´ll end up atracting people who like the same things and shares your views. On the contrary, try living like on highschool forever, trying to be like the most popular guys and people will eventually find out you´re just fooling yourself and others.
So about tickling! If you like it, go and do it! Don´t be ashamed! Just do it like something you like and placing no big deal on it. Once you do it as an ordinary and playfull thing no girl will even stop to think "hummmm why is nick tickling me?". And even if a girl asks that question the chance of her dreaming you have a tickling fetish is like less then 1%....they´ll never know if you´re able to do it with no big deal! I can tell you Nick! These days, I tickle almost every girl I happen to know, can´t tell you that i tickle torture everyone cause that´s not whay will happen but i do get my playfull pokes on the ribs and belly all the time!And if they notice I´m getting turned on, they´re just assuming I´m hot because of her bodys or something else! lol You know, even today, I went to the this bar near the beach with 3 girls and on the ride home I placed a few pokes on the ribs and belly of the girl who was travelling on the seat next to me (I was driving), when we were talking about piercings I told her I liked to see bellybutton piercings and demonstrated it by trying to move my fingers on her bellybutton lol Do you think she got mad???? naaaaaaaaaa She already spoke to me on messenger this night, sent me a lot of kisses and said we need to get out again. So this will also answer to your doubts about tickling with girls and relations. Take it casual, but if you like it, please do it!!! A girl will love you more if you´re happy even if she needs to get a few tickles on the way.
I hope you can see that many people out there care for you! I hope you can see that I myself, having a tickling fetish, turned from an unpopular guy at highschool to having a great social life some years latter.
Don´t ever be afraid of staying true to yourself! That´s allways the key!!!
you think we ticklers/lees are strange??? have you already trully looked around you??? just for fun, have you ever trully looked into a picture of Albert Einstein??? 😉 Now that guy WAS STRANGE!!! lol looked like a lunatic! someone I wont like to find in a dar alley lol but he was one of the greatest minds in all history of mankind.
Believe in yourself! Stay on your way, the way you choose for yourself based on what you like and care the most. Then, just go forward and you´ll find out there are lots of people makining simillar choices out there, people who will relate to you and love to be with you.
Best of luck from Portugal!
Rui
(it´s not allways I sign my true name, want this one to be personal)
dude
Like you and many other people here I have been exactly where you are. I have had this fetish since as far back as I remember and sometimes I feel like I'm just cursed, and want to be normal like everyone else. And like you I had my days where I wish it would just all end.
It took me years to have my first serious relationship. For the longest time I thought I was gay because I was not attracted or sexually aroused by many of the norms, such as breast and other normal sexual objects. But I knew I wasn't attracted to guys either. Now although you may never be sexually aroused to the norms quite as much as tickling but overtime you will find that you will be aroused by other things, I know this may sound silly but sometimes just think about tickling when you are going through this stuff, that's what helped me to get started.
But like many others have said already, the best thing to do would be to go seek professional help, they will be able to better answer your questions and hear you out. But you should not feel alone! There are millions and millions of people out there who go through a time in their life when they question their sexuality. I know I do everyday, so don't stress over it, it will work itself out and everything will be alright. If you are in a relationship right now try not to think so much about it just try to do whatever feel's "right". Anyway if you need somebody to talk to you can always email me at [email protected] or pm me.
Take Care.
-Chris
Like you and many other people here I have been exactly where you are. I have had this fetish since as far back as I remember and sometimes I feel like I'm just cursed, and want to be normal like everyone else. And like you I had my days where I wish it would just all end.
It took me years to have my first serious relationship. For the longest time I thought I was gay because I was not attracted or sexually aroused by many of the norms, such as breast and other normal sexual objects. But I knew I wasn't attracted to guys either. Now although you may never be sexually aroused to the norms quite as much as tickling but overtime you will find that you will be aroused by other things, I know this may sound silly but sometimes just think about tickling when you are going through this stuff, that's what helped me to get started.
But like many others have said already, the best thing to do would be to go seek professional help, they will be able to better answer your questions and hear you out. But you should not feel alone! There are millions and millions of people out there who go through a time in their life when they question their sexuality. I know I do everyday, so don't stress over it, it will work itself out and everything will be alright. If you are in a relationship right now try not to think so much about it just try to do whatever feel's "right". Anyway if you need somebody to talk to you can always email me at [email protected] or pm me.
Take Care.
-Chris
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NickK, you've gotten a lot of responses from a lot of caring concerned people. I haven't looked at the home page to see if you're logged on or not. If you ARE logged on, send us a reply! I needed to get off the computer last night but I was hoping that a reply from you would appear before I logged out. Sometimes I wonder if you're reading our replies and really learning from the great advice, or have you "checked out", so to speak. Leaving us hanging, wondering if you're OK, is... cruel to do to those of us who care for you. I had to say it. Log on and type, "I'm fine", at least. Imagine the replies you'll recieve telling you how relieved we are! C'mon, NickK. Answer us. I just put you on my buddy list. The moment I see that you've logged on, I'll be talking with you.
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I second featherfingers, send us a reply. Don't keep us hanging. Like I also said in my response, let us know you are ok.
--TMF was down for me last night, otherwise I would have replied--
Well, today, after feeling really down on myself last night, I feel a lot better. Partly because I now see how people actually do care, and partly begining to see what you are saying. Although this still scares the shit outta me, if I were to tell somebody. People may think I was messed up, maybe not. I suppose it would depend on the person. And just so you know, I was not actually planning on ending my own life, the thought passed my mind, but I just said that I hope it would never become such a burden that I would feel the need to do this. I know for sure that I am attracted to girls, I like to think about having sex, as I am so delicately putting it. and I can "get it up" while looking at porn, but certainly not half as fast as with tickling. but with a little more effort, it will. I just hope, REALLY hope that this is not a problem, like people may think that I am dealing with an erectile difficulty. I do not want that, as all the guys here would understand, that is what mostly scares me, that the only way I can have sexual relations, is to tickle, or be tickled. I just want to be able to control what I would like to do, according to the situation. There are also a few questions that I have: Would tickling technically be considered a sin, as something like sex before marriage, this bothers me a little. And what if I can't get it up, the person I am with I rally like, and they are willing to try it, they don't like it, they can't take it, even though they care about me, we can't do shit about it. I just don't know, kind of a broad ended question though. And in closing, an apollogy formy first reply in my own post, it was rude, but I was a little messed up the nigh before last.
Well, today, after feeling really down on myself last night, I feel a lot better. Partly because I now see how people actually do care, and partly begining to see what you are saying. Although this still scares the shit outta me, if I were to tell somebody. People may think I was messed up, maybe not. I suppose it would depend on the person. And just so you know, I was not actually planning on ending my own life, the thought passed my mind, but I just said that I hope it would never become such a burden that I would feel the need to do this. I know for sure that I am attracted to girls, I like to think about having sex, as I am so delicately putting it. and I can "get it up" while looking at porn, but certainly not half as fast as with tickling. but with a little more effort, it will. I just hope, REALLY hope that this is not a problem, like people may think that I am dealing with an erectile difficulty. I do not want that, as all the guys here would understand, that is what mostly scares me, that the only way I can have sexual relations, is to tickle, or be tickled. I just want to be able to control what I would like to do, according to the situation. There are also a few questions that I have: Would tickling technically be considered a sin, as something like sex before marriage, this bothers me a little. And what if I can't get it up, the person I am with I rally like, and they are willing to try it, they don't like it, they can't take it, even though they care about me, we can't do shit about it. I just don't know, kind of a broad ended question though. And in closing, an apollogy formy first reply in my own post, it was rude, but I was a little messed up the nigh before last.
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I think I can safely say we are all very glad you posted and are doing better.
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Nah, that's how a lot of people do it, a particular fantasy fets them in the mood for what is actually going to happen.
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NickK, THANK GOD you are O.K.!!! I've never been so concerned over the life of a stranger as I've been with you! Sorry I couldn't be here when you logged in. I don't think we're supposed to get into religion or anything like that here, but I will say that if tickling were a sin and God had a Top Forty Worst Sins list, tickling wouldn't even be among the top 100 sins. Now if you had to BEAT a woman senseless in order to be sexually fulfilled, then I would hop on a jet, personally visit you and kick your ass. The word 'sin' is sometimes used to scare people into being GOOD. What GOOD means to you means something else entirely to someone else. I once went to a church where the married Pastor had an affair with his secretary, all the while telling the congregation how to behave. YOU,my friend, don't have a problem. I've rambled on long enough, NickK. It's good to have you with us and remember, if you are concerned about sexual matters, there are counselors available who will help you and keep matters private... I've seen one. They are trained to help you. Take it easy. Frank
NickK said:
Hey NickK...good to hear back from you...
I will say that I have about the same reaction that you do to Porn.
I can look a cute girl in a porn video doing some sexual thing then I certainly get up and going but if that same cute girl were strapped to a X-Frame and tickled you could have clothes on me...
Now if the same cute girl is doing something sexual while tied to the X-Frame then
My point is this is what gets you off...you just happen to like more than vanilla sex.
Lets take a guy that loves/has a fetish for Big breasts for example...guy watches a porn video and the lady is flat chested...he will not get into the scene as much as if the girl has size F boobs and the girls are doing the same sexual act.
This guy gets off on breasts you happen to get off on tickling a lady..
You both are just different and he just happens to have a "fetish" that is more out there then say tickling...
No tickling is not a sin, is kissing a sin?!
Take it in that light...
Take care man...you sound just like I did in college and I am now 10 years removed from that because of TMF(and other early sites) I don't feel alone and I don't feel like a freak.
Tickle On,
Tommytikl
Glad to see you´re ok Nick!
Now...about porno and that stuff....don´t be ashamed if that doesn´t turns you on 😛
You know, actually, my friends find it very od that I´m not turned on by porno, not even movies! it might seem strange but it´s true! We are all different and it seems my brain blocks any rush when knowing those girls won´t come out of the screen lol
On the other hand 😉 no ex-girlfriend ever complained about anything lol I can tell you that once my body is phisically in touch with a girl everything works pretty good! 😛 (no real need for tickling)
So, as I said before, try not to make those things a big deal, go out with girls, learn at your own pace and don´t worry unless they all start to show complains on what you´re doing with them.
take care Nick! have fun!!
Now...about porno and that stuff....don´t be ashamed if that doesn´t turns you on 😛
You know, actually, my friends find it very od that I´m not turned on by porno, not even movies! it might seem strange but it´s true! We are all different and it seems my brain blocks any rush when knowing those girls won´t come out of the screen lol
On the other hand 😉 no ex-girlfriend ever complained about anything lol I can tell you that once my body is phisically in touch with a girl everything works pretty good! 😛 (no real need for tickling)
So, as I said before, try not to make those things a big deal, go out with girls, learn at your own pace and don´t worry unless they all start to show complains on what you´re doing with them.
take care Nick! have fun!!
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I just saw this thread for the 1st time, and as old as it is, maybe you don't even need any help with this anymore. From your latest posts you seem to be doing better. But just in case....
I didn't take the time to read the replies you got, so maybe someone said something like this already. When I was in high school, I could also get aroused by nothing but the thought of tickling girls. As time went on, I would find myself getting mesmerized by body parts of women that had nothing to do with tickling. When I was maybe 22 or so there was this cute voluptuous little hispanic lady that I worked with who had this big plump butt and always wore tight jeans. Now mind you, I didn't "get it up" unless I thought about tickling her, but her butt definitely had my attention 😛 Around the same time, I was french kissing with this goth chick that I was out on a date with, and to my surprise after kissing a little, I had a little trouble standing up, if you know what I mean 😀 So maybe porn doesn't do it for you. Maybe it has to be a real live woman there that you're touching. And you said you can get it up by looking at non-tickling porn? Well I'm 32 and I still can't do that! I can tell you that the thought of making love to a woman "the conventional way" excites me a lot more now than it did when I was in high school. I don't get a hard-on thinking about it usually, but if I was actually in that situation I know I would. Don't know if this helped, or if you even still needed help with it. Just relaying my experiences.
Just a little side note: about the depression and the suicidal thoughts. I don't know how seriously you "wanted to die", but I've been hospitalized 5 times in the last 6 years for suicidal depression. I've come to understand that there are people who can get very down and depressed without thinking about suicide as a possibility, and those who can't. I fall in the latter group. And if the tickling thing isn't getting you down and depressed anymore, sooner or later something else will. That's life. So if you do have a tendency to thing suicidal when you're depressed, I would highly recommend that you get help for that, because you don't have to feel that way.
Phil
I didn't take the time to read the replies you got, so maybe someone said something like this already. When I was in high school, I could also get aroused by nothing but the thought of tickling girls. As time went on, I would find myself getting mesmerized by body parts of women that had nothing to do with tickling. When I was maybe 22 or so there was this cute voluptuous little hispanic lady that I worked with who had this big plump butt and always wore tight jeans. Now mind you, I didn't "get it up" unless I thought about tickling her, but her butt definitely had my attention 😛 Around the same time, I was french kissing with this goth chick that I was out on a date with, and to my surprise after kissing a little, I had a little trouble standing up, if you know what I mean 😀 So maybe porn doesn't do it for you. Maybe it has to be a real live woman there that you're touching. And you said you can get it up by looking at non-tickling porn? Well I'm 32 and I still can't do that! I can tell you that the thought of making love to a woman "the conventional way" excites me a lot more now than it did when I was in high school. I don't get a hard-on thinking about it usually, but if I was actually in that situation I know I would. Don't know if this helped, or if you even still needed help with it. Just relaying my experiences.
Just a little side note: about the depression and the suicidal thoughts. I don't know how seriously you "wanted to die", but I've been hospitalized 5 times in the last 6 years for suicidal depression. I've come to understand that there are people who can get very down and depressed without thinking about suicide as a possibility, and those who can't. I fall in the latter group. And if the tickling thing isn't getting you down and depressed anymore, sooner or later something else will. That's life. So if you do have a tendency to thing suicidal when you're depressed, I would highly recommend that you get help for that, because you don't have to feel that way.
Phil
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Nikk...when I read your opening post I was already formulating something to write to try and help but now I see that everything everyone has posted is nothing less than I could add...(I think that makes sense,lol)
Tommytikl made a great point. There are turn ons and offs for every individual as individual as that individual...how's that for individuality! lol...good luck, you're in good hands (fingers?) here..(sorry I just had to )
peace...
~tm
Tommytikl made a great point. There are turn ons and offs for every individual as individual as that individual...how's that for individuality! lol...good luck, you're in good hands (fingers?) here..(sorry I just had to )
peace...
~tm
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You can stop giving advice. This little emo bastard is probably headbanging to Linkin Park somewhere.
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And I'd be head banging with him if that were the case
Nick, my man, I know how it feels to be alone. And I'm not just saying this cause I feel sorry for ya, but feel free to send me a PM anytime if you have a problem or need someone to talk to.
We're cut from the same decks you and me, I know how it feels to think you're different and that you're a freak. But like everyone has said, tickling is harmless compared to rape, bodily harm torture, and physical abuse.
Take care bro, there's a huge life out there way beyond the crap that goes on in high school
Nick, my man, I know how it feels to be alone. And I'm not just saying this cause I feel sorry for ya, but feel free to send me a PM anytime if you have a problem or need someone to talk to.
We're cut from the same decks you and me, I know how it feels to think you're different and that you're a freak. But like everyone has said, tickling is harmless compared to rape, bodily harm torture, and physical abuse.
Take care bro, there's a huge life out there way beyond the crap that goes on in high school
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Ahhh.. . .Memories
First off, Nickk, I am a young attractive woman, and I do not have a strong tickle enthusiasm. Adn I don't think that you are a freak. I highly agree with others' advice that you see a councilor, but not just for advice - I think that the act of telling another person that tickling does it for you will be a liberating experience. B/c I promise you, you're going to work up to it, and then finally tell somone that you are turned on by tickling, and they'll say 'uh-huh. . . ' cause they'll still be waiting for the big scary thing that you wanted to tell them. And once you see on another person's face that you don't disgust them, there will be more room in your heart for acceptance.
And as for hard ons, they are never predicable for younger men! Be generous with yourself and give yourself space and time to grow into the great lover you are meant to become.
And as for women, they want a man who is thoughtful and attentive and really enjoys them. Passionate, fun. . . you can do all of this and be really into tickling. women are turned off by selfish assholes, not specific enthusiasms.
First off, Nickk, I am a young attractive woman, and I do not have a strong tickle enthusiasm. Adn I don't think that you are a freak. I highly agree with others' advice that you see a councilor, but not just for advice - I think that the act of telling another person that tickling does it for you will be a liberating experience. B/c I promise you, you're going to work up to it, and then finally tell somone that you are turned on by tickling, and they'll say 'uh-huh. . . ' cause they'll still be waiting for the big scary thing that you wanted to tell them. And once you see on another person's face that you don't disgust them, there will be more room in your heart for acceptance.
And as for hard ons, they are never predicable for younger men! Be generous with yourself and give yourself space and time to grow into the great lover you are meant to become.
And as for women, they want a man who is thoughtful and attentive and really enjoys them. Passionate, fun. . . you can do all of this and be really into tickling. women are turned off by selfish assholes, not specific enthusiasms.
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I just want to add one note, based on my knowledge of schools. The counselor most readily available may or may not be the one who can help you. School counselors are sometimes caught up in the conventional, conformist world, and may or may not have any comprehension of, or empathy with, the world of fetishes and sexual variation. They may or may not understand what you're trying to tell them, and may brush it off as a silly little hangup. I'm not predicting anything negative, I'm just saying, try to find a counselor whom you can trust to take your feelings seriously on their own terms.
And listen, when I was a senior in high school I was in a panic about my sexuality too. High school is a real crucible of conformist pressure, and it's easy to think, when you're in high school, that the way you're feeling now is what it's going to be like for the rest of your life. When it comes to tickling and sexuality, you have some things to figure out, and it's imperative that you give yourself time and patience rather than despairing that the riddles aren't all being answered for you now.
Good luck, and feel free to E-mail me at [email protected] . I have very vivid memories of high school life and emotions, and have done some creative writing on the subject, so I'd be glad to correspond with you. As for the "sin" question, I'd be glad to correspond with you about that, too.
And listen, when I was a senior in high school I was in a panic about my sexuality too. High school is a real crucible of conformist pressure, and it's easy to think, when you're in high school, that the way you're feeling now is what it's going to be like for the rest of your life. When it comes to tickling and sexuality, you have some things to figure out, and it's imperative that you give yourself time and patience rather than despairing that the riddles aren't all being answered for you now.
Good luck, and feel free to E-mail me at [email protected] . I have very vivid memories of high school life and emotions, and have done some creative writing on the subject, so I'd be glad to correspond with you. As for the "sin" question, I'd be glad to correspond with you about that, too.
