I can understand why tulipangel and Izzy have had problems. It's still hard for some women to communicate physical/sexual desires in a relationship. Traditionally, the men have run everything including control in the bedroom.
Now don't get it twisted folks, I'm not trying to complain-someone had to be in control back in the day. Unfortunately, some women (myself included) have not been taught to speak up about their desires as boldly as others. It hasn't been that long since sex was for the man's satisfaction and the woman's "duty" so it's still hard for women to speak up without feeling kinda' "slutty!"
I commend both tulip and Izzy for their attempts to step up and be satisfied physically and sexually. It should never be one-sided! What I really don't understand is these guys' complete refusal to entertain and satisfy their wife's/sig other's sexual/physical fantasies. Tulip's fella has entertained spanking, slapping, and choking. Izzy's fella.....well, I don't know. Tickling is such a minute thing in comparison to other fetishes/alternative fetishes-I just don't see what the problem is.
The only thing this does is send "her" out to fulfill her fantasies/desires elsewhere. Let's face it-men have been doing this for a very long time.