single straight guys

[Rabbit Hole]

I have been on this site for quite a while and met a lot of people. I have come to a conclusion. If you are a single straight guy on this site your fucked. The only girls that are actually willing to talk to you are already in relationships... and the ones that don't is because they are constantly bombarded by a bunch of guys. And if your lucky enough to find a girl that is willing to talk to you its Role Playing in the chat room. *tickle tickle*.... *haha that tickles*......... Am I wrong or am I missing something here?

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Unless you've been here under a different account, you've been here like 6 months. Unless you're rocking a 6 pack in a shirtless sig pic, no, 6 months isn't going to be nearly enough time for women to start just flocking to you. You even have just 16 posts, a major part of a message board is... leaving messages. You're barely even doing that.

Don't go "looking for women", talk about the parts of tickling you already like and some fun you've already have. Go in general and talk about some other stuff. Just talk. Eventually you'll find some people. And even then you still probably won't ever tickle them, no, but just enjoy the board for what it is and you'll be pleasantly surprised at what will happen.

 

[BlackJacker]

Haha well, what do you mean when you say single guys are fucked? Sure, i haven't had a conversation with a female, but I'm still relatively content on being on TMF

 

[Rabbit Hole]

Ive tried. The personals are useless... and as much as I would love to engage in tickling conversations I am at the point where I would like to actually do it and not just talk about it. I am not trying to bash the site I just don't where else to look at this point.

 

[BlackJacker]

Do it as in a tickle session? Apparently a user that goes by porcelaindol (something similar to that) is willing to get tickled at a fair price

 

[Rabbit Hole]

I mean I joined this site to hopefully find a tickle partner. It doesnt look like its happening.

 

[shiftdown]

I have been lucky to find a very, very select few. I certainly had a lot of fun, but I have been on this site for awhile and I know what I am looking for, but they *female lees* don't, if they do, they don't believe me, but the few times I had met up with someone, I have been up front and honest (man of my word) and if anything changes, I ask them for permission first, if they say Yes than cool, if not than that's cool too. Ran into a lil situation where the lee was done with the session and had to leave*she had personal responsibilities to attend to* though I didn't want her to I simply said ok and walked her to her car...*yes I left the 550 cord attached to the bed and got a thank you call from the holiday inn that said "we are glad you had a great night"* but I actually had to tell her to never fear me. Even though I consider myself a Dom/top or whatever, she is still in charge of what happens during a session. So I would have to say fear, plays a big part in it

 

[chicago]

The personals never work. I've found most women aren't comfortable engaging in a casual tickle session with someone they don't know very well or who seems like he has a one track mind. (Note that I said "Most" and not "All") The level of comfort and trust that is required to allow yourself to be vulnerable to someone else takes time to develop, and considering the nature of this site, I think people (both men and women) are cautious about who they interact with on a serious level, or let into their lives in any way.

I would encourage interacting on other areas of the boards besides tickling discussion, personals section, or vid/clips section, spark up private conversations based on a post you maybe found interesting and go from there, try the chatroom, and of course I've always found it easiest to go to gatherings or munches where you can meet a number of people at once in a safe environment.

 

[ISUmark]

Everyone here is leaving good advice. Id suggest looking elsewhere if you are looking for a partner. This place is good for having discussions, seeing media, and just basically chillin with people with similar interests. Most of the requests you see for people looking for people get buried on the forums, and the personals, from what Ive heard, are a ghost town. I know it sucks man but youre probably going to have to go out into the real world to find someone to indulge in your fantasies. Ive found that if you take the time to meet women, and start relationships, that they are very open to the concept of getting tickled simply because their affection that they have towards you. 100% of the woman Ive ever tickled have been vanilla, and its been amazing. Do I wonder what it would be like to tickle a woman who is actually into it? Sure...but its definitely not an idea or a hope that I hold onto, because chances are you aren't going to find that connection here.

Don't get me wrong, I see couples here that have met here, but you wont find too many of them.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

It's pretty much all been said, but I'll reiterate because... why not.

You need to be patient. I haven't checked your profile, but I'm going to go ahead and trust ComfortEagle's post and assume you haven't been around long or posted much. I've met literally over a hundred people from this site and have only chosen to play with 3 of them. Many people are picky and need a lot of time to get to know you, and you them, before they're ready to lie down and slap the cuffs on. Chicago has great advice when she says to try posting in other areas of the forum. Get to know people on a more personal level and you're much more likely to have some luck finding someone to play with you. Gatherings and munches aren't for everyone - I get that. But I agree that it is one of the best ways to meet people.

Good luck!

 

[MistressMia]

Patience. Participation and Persistence.

Best of luck to you.

🙂
Mia

 

[Wolf]

Everyone here is leaving good advice. Id suggest looking elsewhere if you are looking for a partner. This place is good for having discussions, seeing media, and just basically chillin with people with similar interests. Most of the requests you see for people looking for people get buried on the forums, and the personals, from what Ive heard, are a ghost town. I know it sucks man but youre probably going to have to go out into the real world to find someone to indulge in your fantasies. Ive found that if you take the time to meet women, and start relationships, that they are very open to the concept of getting tickled simply because their affection that they have towards you. 100% of the woman Ive ever tickled have been vanilla, and its been amazing. Do I wonder what it would be like to tickle a woman who is actually into it? Sure...but its definitely not an idea or a hope that I hold onto, because chances are you aren't going to find that connection here.
Don't get me wrong, I see couples here that have met here, but you wont find too many of them.

The man speaketh the truth, Rabbit....

You're better off (and better served) looking for someone outside the forum. There are a lot more women out there who are okay with, like, or even love tickling, than are on this forum.
You're actually reducing your chances of success by limiting your search.

 

[Brock Samson]

Time.....that is the concept that you have to firmly grasp. Making the kind of connections you're looking for isn't an overnight thing. I mean, some people have been here for years and are just now making a lasting connection with people that they finally feel close to.

Also, participation. Your post count is kind fairly small, leading me to believe that other than maybe an intro thread, a couple of personal ads, and this thread, you aren't really involved in a lot of discussions. It would help to get yourself out there and get noticed. Get into some worthwhile discussions. Maybe start a few yourself. I mean, I get it, you're into tickling. The thing is, you're not surprising anyone here with that, because this is a tickling forum. We know your main reason for being here, so get more info about yourself out there. Get in on some general discussion topics, or maybe delve into the silly stuff forum and show off your sense of humor.

 

[Phallacie]

I'm glad I found this post. Some really insightful things said so far.

I'm freshly single and it seems like the personals are definitely a ghost town, or maybe a town filled with males looking for something and little to know female presence.

Thanks for the ideas, I think its time to start participating instead of being on a search for someone.

 

[Libertine]

http://findamunch.com/category/locations/united-states/new-jersey/

Fetish clubs, and BDSM Munches are both excellent ways of actually meeting women socially, IRL, face to face who are happily aberrant. But apart from places of that nature, when I was single I also met/found play partners in museums, art galleries, bookstores, lining up for the theater, bus stops, trade shows- basically anywhere a conversation can be started. These were a few of my successes, but I assure you that most of my conversations led nowhere; that's the nature of the game and the odds you're up against, like any other ordinary guy who isn't a big name in sports, music or film/tv.

As Chicago (a Real Female of Great Beauty with whom I've chatted and nothing more at various NESTs over the years) says, this site is not the be-all and end-all for meeting people.

I met my wife when we happened to sit at adjacent computers in a Cybercafe in London 9 years ago. She hadn't heard of this as a fetish but is an incredibly happy convert.

Just learn to converse. Women are seduced via their ears.

 

[FootballGuy]

Unless you're rocking a 6 pack in a shirtless sig pic, no, 6 months isn't going to be nearly enough time for women to start just flocking to you.

Would like to add that 6 years isn't even enough time for a 6 pack shirtless sig pic either! 😀 LOL

 

[Thatsecretchord]

I always think the harder you try the less luck your gonna have. Just hang out and post in some threads and eventually you'll end up meeting people. Or you won't. Either way it's probably not worth losing sleep over!

 

[Sodahead]

Everyone has offered great advice. You seem like a good dude, so if women understand that you will likely have luck eventually.

I would, however, question your straight guy theory. I'm sure women, gay men, and whoever else hangs around the board has had their share of hard times meeting people too. Given all of the "Cat Fish" horror stories that exist, I think people are rightfully cautious with who they associate with on the internet and even more so with who they choose to involve in their real life. So I wouldn't take it personally that you aren't having much luck. And you certainly shouldn't write yourself off just because you're a guy. There are women out there who want to meet a nice guy, so hopefully your starts will align

 

[TJDoom]

I would add to the solid advice that being single (male or female) need not be a cursed, intimidating thing. I know when looking at the personals or seeing how much activity the east threads have vs wherever you live, it makes one scratch your chin, but if a russian girl into other girls living in america can find a long distance relationship with a gal in Russia after a decent search, then we've all got a shot for cool things to happen in unexpected ways. Even us single straight fellas.

It's the diligence part that seems clutch. Participate in as many things as you're interested in, stay who you are, gatherings if you have the means. I only haven't gone to one of those cause of the cash needing to line up, but people seem to really enjoy it and a healthy spirit is attractive to a woman. The great part is that even the forum, online communities or a gathering aren't the only shot to capitalize on your social buzz/inspiration from a big or small gathering. People sense it. So it's good to put yourself in a lot of situations where a girl can decide for herself who you are.

And I think that's the fun part about being single: there's no telling what your story ends up being. Cliche, maybe, but there it is.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

When I first came here a few years ago. The first thing I did was post, post, post. It didn't matter whether I had something smart or dumb to say...I posted my opinion on different threads. As time went by the forum became familiar with me and my thoughts. Had several females private message me if it was something they wanted to know. This is how I got to know some of them. I very rarely do I ever pm them myself because of getting somehow swallowed up in barrage of messages they get in private. That's my choice.

I don't think being single has anything to do with it. Its simple trust. If you aren't willing to "put yourself" out there in the forums then some women may think you have something to hide. They rarely turn down getting to know a guy that is willing to join the forum discussions on a daily basis. It shows you are comfortable being surrounded in the forum first and not just interested in one-on-one.