One more demographic reporting
So we have heard an insightful opinion from a respectable (past) divorcee. We have yet to hear 2nd/3rd/4th/etc opinion from the rest of different life standing:
- one happy monogamous woman
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I don't know where we are going to get an input from a gorilla, or a priest (at least a priest who's willing to admit he is one) but I fit the happy monogamous category, so I'll weigh in.
Yes, it's harder for guys to get sex than it is for women.
Yes, I would be more likely to label a promiscuous woman a "slut" than I would a promiscuous man.
However, you do, nowadays, get guys who are referred to as "man-*****s" meaning that they aren't discriminating about who they sleep with, and will stick it in anything, to put it crudely. So opinion isn't entirely biased in one direction.
Back when I was single, a man having been promiscuous wouldn't completely put me off a relationship with him, but I would be far more cautious about entering into it than I would be with someone who had had fewer relationships. I would try to make sure that the person had had at least a few longterm, real, relationships, as opposed to a long series of brief flings and one-night stands. If the person had never actually been in a relationship, it would indicate that there was a likelihood of an inability, or a lack of desire, to commit to one person. It seems now that it's harder (for both men and women) to stay with a person than it is to get together with them in the first place- so evidence of the ability to do the former carries even more weight than the latter, IMHO.
Also, there's not much point for a woman to be promiscuous. To put it bluntly, a lot of guys aren't much fun in bed (which covers a whole spectrum of problems, from deficient technique to deficient anatomy) One man said to me once, on a first date: " I'm fit, intelligent, attractive, and we've had a nice time so far. Why NOT sleep with me on a first date?"
I said " Can you guarantee that I'll have more fun with you than I would going home alone and whacking off/clubbing the clam"?
He was quite taken aback by my directness, and stammered: "Well...well...I...uh, well how could I guarantee anything??"
I said "Exactly. You can't. So goodbye, and have a good night."
The point i'm trying to make is, if I'm going to take the leap and sleep with someone, I've got to be relatively sure of several things:
One, that it's going to be a good shag:
Two, that it's not going to be a one night stand:
and three, that I'm not one "name in a little back book", but at that time, the only option for that person. I've never slept with someone that I haven't known for at least a month prior.
So to conclude, for myself, I see no reason to be promiscuous for a woman, as there's no guarantee of fun. I do admit that there are several reasons for a man to be, with the caveat that more caution should be taken, and research done, for a person when approaching relations with a promiscuous man.
