Telling a Significant other

[ticklish tori]

Hey guys... So, I'm sure there have been posts on the topic before, but I'm new to posting on here...
I have a boyfriend and our relationship has been on the rocks lately because, well, long story short, he has no idea that I'm into tickling, and I have no idea how to tell him. I know he isn't even close to being into it, he rarely tickles me. I love him, and I just want to tell him so we can work on things, and i don't have to feel bad wondering what it would be like being with another guy. I don't want him to be weirded out, though. How have some of you told your partners about your love for tickling? How did they react? I want the good, the bad, and the ugly, lol.

-Tori-

 

[Myriads]

For what its worth:

You say your relationship is on the rocks. That to me means that unless some strong action is taken soon the relationship will founder and end.

So you are in a position where being direct and telling him about what you like is a low risk option. Things cannot get much worse then the icy ending you are now having.

The basis of any good relationship is communication between partners on maters that are important to them. Sexual happiness is very much one of these matters.

He may not be into it, but if he knows it gets you off and makes you happy, odds are he won't be against doing it. And if he is, then you've found a deal breaker of a relationship issue.

Best of luck,
Myriads

 

[ticklish tori]

Thanks Myriads. I know what I need to do... I'm just nervous. I don't know how I'm going to bring it up, or what he'll say.

-Tori-

 

[daryl]

I am also a little concerned about the comment about the relationship being on the rocks. Is everything ok except this area?

Perhaps if you're nervous, you can introduce it slowly. Tickle him and let him tickle you back and then comment perhaps that you really liked it or that it turned you on. Trust me, most guys love to hear that something they are doing is turning their partner on.

 

[marcusb]

Is the relationship on the rocks because of how you feel about him not tickling you or because of other basic relationship problems? If the later, I certainly would not drag tickling into the mix and further confuse things. Fix basics first.

 

[ticklish tori]

I am also a little concerned about the comment about the relationship being on the rocks. Is everything ok except this area?.

For the most part, that is the root of the problem, he really has no problem, except for that I've been distant... I've been distant because I haven't really been 100% pleased. When we hang out its nice, there aren't necessarily problems, but it's more like best friends than lovers. And as far as letting him know that it turns me on, I guess you have a point!

 

[robmic]

Can you possibly elaborate on why you think your relationship is "on the rocks". Is it just the tickling thing? Or are there other things bothering you or him? If there are other things involved, I would suggest trying to sort them out first. Then, the tickling issues would be easier to attempt. If it's just tickling that's the issue, then that would be the only thing you would be needing to concentrate on. At any rate, dealing with tickling is something I'm pretty sure most everyone has had to deal with at one time or another, so there are probably as many suggestions as well. Some good ideas and some not so good. The bottom line is to use your noggen and think about what you want to come out of the situation, and act accordingly. Just don't be in a hurry. Act cool about it and try to make it seem like he thought of how it pleases you. You know, the "macho" thing.

 

[rhiannon]

You know what usually works? "Honey....it makes me really, really hot when you tickle me!"

I don't know a guy in this world who will be weirded out by that! It's not like you want to pee in his face!

 

[Deleted member 2452]

be honest. have a drink, scew up the courage, sit him down hold his hand, look him in the eye and ask him if he'd like to know what would really ring your bell? then tell him! in as few words as possible.

steve

 

[love feet]

hold on!!!!!!!

 

[ticklish tori]

hold on!!!!!!!

lol hold on what?

 

[TheTickleMonster]

as I think someone said. he might not be into tickling but that doesn't mean he'll not tickle you if you tell him you like it. He probably just doesn't think of it as something to use to turn someone on. He probably just doesn't think of it as something sexual so he doesn't do it... but if you tell him you like it, he'll probably do it more. It's not like you're asking him to let you tickle him so it shouldn't bother him.

 

[Jagermeistered]

You know what usually works? "Honey....it makes me really, really hot when you tickle me!"

I don't know a guy in this world who will be weirded out by that! It's not like you want to pee in his face!

What if he's so damn good, and is in a position where she actually does pee in his face(not intentionally)! 😛








... Just kidding

 

[Jagermeistered]

Also, what rhiannon said...

 

[Emishticklish]

My Girlfriend was a little taken aback, but now that she knows there's nothing left to say in the bedroom. 🙂 Let him know. You'll thank yourself no matter the outcome.

 

[Phineas]

Tickle him and let him tickle you back...

No. A lot of people give this kind of advice, and I feel that it would only work if the other person likes being tickled as well, or is the kind of person who would tickle back in the first place. Think about it this way; if you were into being spanked, would you try and tell your SO you were into it by spanking them first? Probably not.

 

[robmic]

Look at the bright side....I'll bet it's a lot easier to get a guy to tickle you if you tell him it turns you on than the other way around!