The Guys ask ALL your female related Questions to nessonite/Mistress Valerie Thread

[Iluv2Btickled]

I dont care about things like that. I dont know why some women get upset over that

 

[nessonite1]

As with most "little things" that women get upset over it has very little to do with the toilet seat itself. It's having to tell a guy EVERY SIMGLE DAY to leave the seat down and he still doesn't! It's the failure to listen that peeves us and in our warped female brains we translate that into "he doesnt care about my feelings or if I plop into a toilet of cold water!" and thusly something that men see as "simple" turns out to be a very big deal.
Fortunately I dont have that problem with either of the men in my household but as a bit of advise to you guys; even if it seems like a simple thing just make an effort to put the seat down! You'll score brownie points with your woman and avoid an ugly scene! 😀

 

[Iluv2Btickled]

hmmm, either of the men, Nessie? I smell a playa!!! 🙂
BTW, I'm feeling better, and I'm walking to the store tomorrow. 🙂

 

[tummynavelboy]

Why do they call them tampons with Wings, When they cleary at all do not have Wings attached to them? o the World of women we Guys will never understand them 😛

 

[tummynavelboy]

hmmm, either of the men, Nessie? I smell a playa!!! 🙂
BTW, I'm feeling better, and I'm walking to the store tomorrow. 🙂

Nessonite is a playa? fo real? Playas gonna play Ballas gonna ball 🙄

 

[nessonite1]

LOL firstly the two men I live with are my husband and his elderly FATHER who lives with us.
While I wouldn't mind having a little harem of men this certainly isn't what I'm thinking! LOL
Secondly you need a quick lesson is feminine hygene products. Pay close attention cause when you get married it won't be long before you're running out at 3am to buy some. And coming back with the wrong product is a sin beyond sins.
Your basic "pad" is a pas filled with absorbant layers of fabrics and gels (like a disposable diaper). They have an adhesive back that sticks to the undies. They come with wings or without. Wings are little sticky tabs that wrap around the undies and help prevent accidents. 😛
Tamponts are for internal use and are made of very tightly compressed cotton. Much neater and more comfy in my opinion.
There you go. Feminine hygene 101.

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

Hi, Hollywood -- I agree with yon on both points. First, I also am amazed and disappointed that guys weren't fighting each other to go out with Ness! She is one of the most interesting, charming, and cuddly 🙂 gals I have ever met.

Secondly, I also share your view that people in general seem to be extremely shallow. I often hear from people with the same problem that you have, the inability to meet a suitable partner.

These are some things that I have written in recent e-mails to a very attractive, charming, kind, generous 30-something gentleman who hasn't been on a date in several years. I think this applies to your situation as well:

"I agree totally with you about the general shallowness of my generation. I think that one need look no farther than the TV to find out why. Selfish and immature people, like the house guests on “Big Brother,” are role models for Generation X’ers. Bad behaviour is shown being rewarded, and kindness is ridiculed."

"I still blame much or even most of this on television, for creating unrealisitic expectations and unhealthy ideas about romance.

"I know a lot of guys who are having the same exact problems as you describe -- from age 23 to over 50, rich and poor, well-educated or blue collar, every possible shape and size you can think of. I see this as a problem which pervades the entire society."

Because I grew up in a non-Western society, AND my field is sociology, I have a uniquely unbiased "outsider's view" of what is happening to today's dating and romance scene. As bad as it seems now, forums like this give me hope that perhaps we non-shallow people are more numerous than I had believed ... and hopefully we can help each other and serve as a good influence on others as well 🙂

Best of luck and love always,

thank you for sharing your thoughts valerie. it is nice to know i am not alone. now if i could only learn to read the secret signals you gals send us guys, i be set

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

tooliet seat

i always pu tthe seat dwon on the toliet, open doors and am always trying to be considerate. i agree it the little things that can make the difference

As with most "little things" that women get upset over it has very little to do with the toilet seat itself. It's having to tell a guy EVERY SIMGLE DAY to leave the seat down and he still doesn't! It's the failure to listen that peeves us and in our warped female brains we translate that into "he doesnt care about my feelings or if I plop into a toilet of cold water!" and thusly something that men see as "simple" turns out to be a very big deal.
Fortunately I dont have that problem with either of the men in my household but as a bit of advise to you guys; even if it seems like a simple thing just make an effort to put the seat down! You'll score brownie points with your woman and avoid an ugly scene! 😀

 

[nessonite1]

i always pu tthe seat dwon on the toliet, open doors and am always trying to be considerate. i agree it the little things that can make the difference

I know a lot of women are into the whole "feminazi men are scum" stuff but I really love it when a man opens the door, helps with my coat, etc.

 

[MistressValerie1]

I know a lot of women are into the whole "feminazi men are scum" stuff but I really love it when a man opens the door, helps with my coat, etc.

Same here, LOL!!! The highest compliment I can give to a member of the male gender is to describbe him as a "gentleman." 🙂

 

[MistressValerie1]

thank you for sharing your thoughts valerie. it is nice to know i am not alone. now if i could only learn to read the secret signals you gals send us guys, i be set

Hollywood, I hope that I was of some help 🙂 As a girl-lovin' girl, I can't read most of the female dating signals either, so I can sympathise with your predicament.

I try not to send ambiguous signals, but I know that sometimes I can be too polite (especially on IM), and may inadvertently give the impression of more interest than I have for someone (like earlier tonight, LOL!).

Best of luck,

 

[MistressValerie1]

hmmm, either of the men, Nessie? I smell a playa!!! 🙂
BTW, I'm feeling better, and I'm walking to the store tomorrow. 🙂

LOLOLOLOLOL, that "playa" line is the best thing I've heard today! 🙂 I could somehow imagine Nessie with a male harem 😉

I also have two guys in my house: my subby hubby and my venerable grandfather (like me, a Cambodian war survivor) who needs a lot of medical help and can't live alone. I have to hide my lifestyle from him, because he is very traditional and old-fashioned.

And Iluv2btickled, of course, best wishes for your health 🙂 I'm going through some health issues of my own, not to mention the family ...

Luv to all,

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

I know a lot of women are into the whole "feminazi men are scum" stuff but I really love it when a man opens the door, helps with my coat, etc.

thank you ness. it nice to know someone appreciates a guy who has some idea of how to be a gentlemen

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

Hollywood, I hope that I was of some help 🙂 As a girl-lovin' girl, I can't read most of the female dating signals either, so I can sympathise with your predicament.

I try not to send ambiguous signals, but I know that sometimes I can be too polite (especially on IM), and may inadvertently give the impression of more interest than I have for someone (like earlier tonight, LOL!).

Best of luck,

thanks for your post. i do believe it is very helpful

 

[Iluv2Btickled]

And Iluv2btickled, of course, best wishes for your health 🙂 I'm going through some health issues of my own, not to mention the family ...


*pretends to bow* Thank you my Mistress for your concern for my health *smiles*

Actually, the day after I typed that, I got sick again. And now a week later, I feel worse. I spent all day in the hosp. yesterday, to find out I have a bladder infection AND an upper respiratory infection. So I feel like a ball of......blech. BUT, I am still going to get your socks Nessie!! Dont you worry!!

 

[nessonite1]

Ack!!! Please dont!! You silly silly girl!!!
You poor baby! I hope you feel better soon!!

 

[Iluv2Btickled]

*blushes* I know I'm silly, but I said I would get them, and I mean it! so there *smiles*

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

I know you do not know me and i do not know you, but i really hope you feel better soon. also from seeing you always post in your signature aobut that one band, i tihnk i am going to go to the sotre soon and buy the cd to try it out.

And Iluv2btickled, of course, best wishes for your health 🙂 I'm going through some health issues of my own, not to mention the family ...


*pretends to bow* Thank you my Mistress for your concern for my health *smiles*

Actually, the day after I typed that, I got sick again. And now a week later, I feel worse. I spent all day in the hosp. yesterday, to find out I have a bladder infection AND an upper respiratory infection. So I feel like a ball of......blech. BUT, I am still going to get your socks Nessie!! Dont you worry!!

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

I got a good question for all you knowledgable ladies who are breaking female ranks here to give us fellows some inside dope. My question is why is it if a girl knows a guy is interested but she is not, then she does not come right out and tell the guy or worse, why will she not tell guy if she interested back? From a guy point of view this is terrible. how do we know how to procede and court you if we can not even know if you are interested or not. to all the ladies out there: Please remeember guys are not as smart as you are so a little help once in a while is a good thing!

 

[thx100501]

I'm not a girl, nor do I claim to know how they think. But I did take this rather 'interesting' course just this past semester called PSY 239, or the Psychology of Women, which actually had nothing to do with the pscyhology of women, it was merely a 'reasons-why-men-suck' kind of class.

At any rate, there was an interesting bit on communication. Women tend to speak indirectly, as that's usually the way they've been socialized since childhood, and vice-versa for boys. Since they're usually more empathetic, more in touch with relationships, emotions, etc, they expect men to pick up on little details, such as lowering the toilet seat. An example of this would be nagging. A woman will ask a guy to do something. Fair enough, the guy will do it, but he doesn't want to feel like he's doing it because the woman asked or told him to, he wants to do it because he chose to. So he waits a little while. Naturally the woman thinks he didn't quite hear her or register the point, so she asks again. This makes the guy now wait even longer to do that thing, because again, he doesn't want to 'stoop down', so to speak, to be told what to do, to give up that part of his ego. So then she asks again and gets annoyed with the guy, and the guy is now annoyed with the woman because he thinks she's 'nagging.'

Well, I'm kinda off track here, but there's a small glimpse into gender communication. It's all one big game, really, and if you treat it as such, you're less likely to get annoyed, lose your temper, etc. Sorry for not directly answering the previous poster's question; I just wanted to chime in with my two cents. 🙂

 

[Iluv2Btickled]

I know you do not know me and i do not know you, but i really hope you feel better soon. also from seeing you always post in your signature aobut that one band, i tihnk i am going to go to the sotre soon and buy the cd to try it out.

yay!!! I've converted another!!!!!!!!

And thank you HWB for your thoughts

 

[MistressValerie1]

I'm not a girl, nor do I claim to know how they think. But I did take this rather 'interesting' course just this past semester called PSY 239, or the Psychology of Women, which actually had nothing to do with the pscyhology of women, it was merely a 'reasons-why-men-suck' kind of class.

At any rate, there was an interesting bit on communication. Women tend to speak indirectly, as that's usually the way they've been socialized since childhood, and vice-versa for boys. Since they're usually more empathetic, more in touch with relationships, emotions, etc, they expect men to pick up on little details, such as lowering the toilet seat. An example of this would be nagging. A woman will ask a guy to do something. Fair enough, the guy will do it, but he doesn't want to feel like he's doing it because the woman asked or told him to, he wants to do it because he chose to. So he waits a little while. Naturally the woman thinks he didn't quite hear her or register the point, so she asks again. This makes the guy now wait even longer to do that thing, because again, he doesn't want to 'stoop down', so to speak, to be told what to do, to give up that part of his ego. So then she asks again and gets annoyed with the guy, and the guy is now annoyed with the woman because he thinks she's 'nagging.'

Well, I'm kinda off track here, but there's a small glimpse into gender communication. It's all one big game, really, and if you treat it as such, you're less likely to get annoyed, lose your temper, etc. Sorry for not directly answering the previous poster's question; I just wanted to chime in with my two cents. 🙂

Fascinating, and thank you for the post!

I have had a few problems because I am TOO direct, and some guys think that makes me some kind of b-tch.

In my case, growing up overseas and speaking English as a second language make it difficult for me to be suitably subtle. I tend to interpret things literally and to speak very bluntly, which is made worse by the lack of context when communicating with text-only (as on message boards).

(PS-- I never took a "women's studies" class because I also dislike the "men suck" attitude of most of the professors. I like guys well enough, as long as they can respect my sexual limits. 🙂 )

Luv,

 

[thx100501]

See, I had to take a Gender course, so I chose that one, thinking that it'd be great to finally get inside the head of women and see how they think. But nope, it had nothing to do with that.

And I understand where you're coming from Valerie. It all depends on social factors really, as well as context/situational factors. For instance, military officers tend to speak indirectly to their subordinates. An example would be a story my friend told me about when he was in the Air Force Academy. The classroom was chilly, but instead of saying close the window and/or turn up the heat, the officer leading the class merely said, "It's rather cold in here." Naturally the cadets didn't know what to think or how to react. After repeating this once again, a bit more firmly this time, the officer eventually had to explain what he expected. After saying, "It's rather cold in here" once more, a dozen cadets jumped up and ran to the windows to close them.

Having attended a Marine summer camp program for highschool teens and done a year and a half of Army ROTC in college, I can attest to this seeming indirectness, though it doesn't apply to everyone naturally. Anyways, I'll stop intruding on this thread. 🙂

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

yay!!! I've converted another!!!!!!!!

And thank you HWB for your thoughts

i had read a good review of the bond band a month ago and with your posting of how good they are, i will be giving them a hot. i usually like hard rock like poison, judas priest, scorpions but this sounds cool as hell as well.

 

[nessonite1]

Thats what I get for trusting you with the toast.
Now put your trousers back on and get to work on the popcorn.