It's all right. It's not even so much help her out--I mean I will if I can, but she needs to be in a home, she really does, we don't know how to help her properly ourselves and we do know of a few really good places for people with disabilities like hers--but it's just for the family thing. She KNOWS me. Even if I only visit once a week, say every Sunday or something, she knows my face and she loves me--it's like that thing with babies, when they look at their mothers sometimes and their face just lights up because they know ~oh that's Mommy and I like her!~ that's how she is. So... yanno. I may not have to personally take care of her myself but I won't let her be alone.
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