So here is my situation.
I became very active between the months of August 2009-July2010. I played all the time. Kink was such a part of my life and I was so involved that I literally let it take control of everything. During the middle of last summer I decided to take a little break from the kink world. I started dating a nice little vanilla boy, and needless to say other than Bella Bash, I haven't been playing "kinky".
I enjoy my sex life very much. Even though it's not kinky in the way of getting tied down to the bed and tickled, we still have subtle hints of s/m during our "play".
The way I'm feeling now, I honestly don't feel the need to have "play" as regularly as I was. I think when I started, I was just starting to explore the whole idea of "sex"(even though I wouldn't have sex until later). Now, I have a sexual partner regularly and I think that's why I haven't felt the "desire" for play. I would still like to play once in a while...but my thoughts towards having to have it are different now. I used to say I would never be with anyone who didn't share my fetish, but that wasn't working either. Basically I'm discovering that a real and loving relationship is much more important to me than the type of physical pleasure I'm getting. Yay for being a grown-up? haha 😛.
Now, I'd like to open the floor. What do you think about going from a kinky lifestyle back to a vanilla lifestyle and vice versa? Do you think you can lose an interest over time? Can you be kinky and vanilla at the same time?
I became very active between the months of August 2009-July2010. I played all the time. Kink was such a part of my life and I was so involved that I literally let it take control of everything. During the middle of last summer I decided to take a little break from the kink world. I started dating a nice little vanilla boy, and needless to say other than Bella Bash, I haven't been playing "kinky".
I enjoy my sex life very much. Even though it's not kinky in the way of getting tied down to the bed and tickled, we still have subtle hints of s/m during our "play".
The way I'm feeling now, I honestly don't feel the need to have "play" as regularly as I was. I think when I started, I was just starting to explore the whole idea of "sex"(even though I wouldn't have sex until later). Now, I have a sexual partner regularly and I think that's why I haven't felt the "desire" for play. I would still like to play once in a while...but my thoughts towards having to have it are different now. I used to say I would never be with anyone who didn't share my fetish, but that wasn't working either. Basically I'm discovering that a real and loving relationship is much more important to me than the type of physical pleasure I'm getting. Yay for being a grown-up? haha 😛.
Now, I'd like to open the floor. What do you think about going from a kinky lifestyle back to a vanilla lifestyle and vice versa? Do you think you can lose an interest over time? Can you be kinky and vanilla at the same time?