And here I was just gonna make a regular post, but.... *sigh*
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First off... wow... the anti male sentiment and grouping of all men as jackasses in this is almost... unnerving.
Secondly, come on now JJ. I have read many of your post, and undestand your position, but men and women are equals. As men, yeah, we need to do our job, but there is such a thing as overdoing it in this realm. Relationships can go very sour very quickly when one side thinks they put much more then they recieve, but, from my expierences, men tend to keep shut and bear it, while women move on. Sad bit of this is the whole keeping shut and bearing it only adds gasoline to the fire, in turn, make guys feel even worse when they leave. And yes, I have been in this position once, it was a horrible ending to a wonderful relationship, but the lesson is learned.
And here is a fun part... It is understood all women are different, with, at times, similar habits, but that's just a society thing. What bothers the HELL out of me is this annoying idea that all males are the same, with different habits. What bothers the FUCK out of me is that testosterone is suppsoedly our driving force in life. Fuck that, and fuck the idea. Yes, I have testosterone, and it fuels my animal instincts to screw, eat, fight, and be overall alpha dog, but that doesn't mean all men are completely and utterly controlled by this bit in their blood stream. What every happened to perception? Someone wants to talk to someone because they look nice, not because they wanna screw. Women have and enjoy fetishes just as much as men do. Yes, men fantisize just as much as women do. Yes women enjoy sexuallity just as much as men do, and whether people are willing to admit it or not, men will have problems getting into teh act if they aren't intersted, trust me on that one.
Are their exceptions to the rule, hell yes, but don't lump the minority to everyone, it's a pain in the ass! I can't go over how many times I've tried to talk to a gal somewhere for her to assume off the bat I'm some guy who wants to F her because that's what the last guy tried to do. I'm only 22 years old and I'm already sick and tired of trying to prove I'm not an asshole to people who assume it because of some past problem they had.
Come on, each and every male is different, but there are many that have similar traits. How many complete asshole guys have you met? Now compare that to how many real bitch women that you've met... dont' be surprised when those numbers are very close.
Now, the whole deal with having an orgasm without any physical contact. I know the mind is powerful and is possible of all sorts of things that no one can really understand or describe. Hell, scientists really haven't found out what dreams are (though there are plenty of theories), and technically speaking, mankind only uses... what, 15ish% of their brain? The untapped bit is rather large.
But I have yet to meet someone, either male or female, who can do this. If/when I do, then awsomesauce, but I would rather prefer to... well.. many other things then think really hard and send orgasm vibes.
Now, before someone reads this wrong and tells me I am thinking only with my dick and am close minded, let me explain:
One must set the mood, and depending on that mood will set the whole experience. That means, lighting, time of day, getting rid of any distractions, getting rid of tension and bad vibes before hand. Getting ready for any kind of sexual activity is like going to see a movie. Turn off your damn cell phone and focus! Leave your crap outside and grab some raisenets! Leave the kid at home and enjoy that you are sitting in a dark, well conditioned room with someone you want to be with! And for god sakes, enjoy the F'ing movie!(And that statement works even if you go see the movie by yourself)
Wow, that's a lot, and I haven't even started lol. On next is foreplay... but if I keep going, the post will be really really
really long, so let's just hope the idea is understood