Tickling: Finally Meeting One Another

[Sunriseticklee]

Hmm... this is a question to all of the people who have met ticklers in "real life" - offline.

What are the qualities that you find in a person that would make you most likely want to meet him/her?

At what point do you actually feel ready for the meeting and what is it that makes you feel ready?

There are of course no right or wrong answers... I am just highly curious. Often times we laugh, argue, tease, encourage, LOVE one another here in cyberspace.

But every once in awhile you will come across those special people who are such a joy to know that you feel suddenly? or finally? email and phone conversations are not nearly enough.

Whether just for the friendship, or for the play, or both... for those who choose to meet... when do you feel right/ ready about it? Why? What stipulations do you set? Do you feel more comfortable in one on one settings? Or gatherings? Lunch or dinner without tickling at first? ETC....

Even if you have never met anyone into tickling offline, I still would like to know your views....

I especially would LOVE to hear any successful first time stories.

I will post my views momentarily... Just want to get this thing started.

Live, Laugh and TICKLE
Sunriseticklee

 

[JoBelle]

Wow,
Over a hundred people have read your thread Sunrise, but none have repsonded. I wonder why that is. Surely there are people online who have met others. Given the number of couples on the TMF who met through tickling, I'd have expected a response by now. This is a most interesting topic given that most people here would love to have a tickle partner in real time and not just in the chatroom. LOL!

I'll be the first...and hopefully not the only....to respond.

I've met many online friends, but I'll share you the story of one I'll call Jay. I met Jay in a chatroom a couple of years ago. He was several years younger than me and I never once thought even a real friendship would evolve from the chat, much less an eventual meeting. It didn't take long for me to realize what a great guy he was. There wasn't a topic we could choose that didn't spark an "at length conversation." LOL One could say we were just both too talkative, or one could say that we had a lot in common. Take your pick. We had common thoughts on music, art, pop culture, tickling, and general fun. We had conflicting thoughts on politics, family life, and issues of responsibilities. Could have been the age difference...I feel it most likely was. I viewed him as a funk young guy at NYU. He viewed me as "the older woman" who was living her passion of art. It was a friendship as unconventional as any in real time. Perfect for online you might guess..lol. It was never boring.

After nearly a year, we were taking on the phone regularly and joking about meeting. Then out of the blue one day, he asked what Ithought about him coming to visit. I said, "Sure, ok." Next thing I know we're counting the days before we get to hang out. It was FUN. When we met, it was like seeing an old friend again. It took a little whle to get accustomed to not having a receiver in my ear as we talked, but other than that it was glorious. We wwere such good friends that there was no denying that we were supposed to meet. Call it Fate or what-have-you...but sometimes people are just supposed to know other people. So there we were sitting at a carousel bar having a martini and enjoying the company of an old friend in a new setting. We had a great weekend. Yes, there was tickling and it was great fun. HOWEVER...to be honest, it was the least exciting thing about this person whom I care about deeply even still. He's one of my best friends and we keep in contact. It bears signifigance to say that we've met since then as well.

So, there you have one example. I guess you could say that I view meeting online folks just as I might view meeting the "friend of a friend" only I know them alot better. Anyone can lie to you. That person you're sitting next to in the bar could be a freak. Just because you're staring him in the eye doesn't make it any less likely. You just have to be safe....be smart....and not be afraid to live.

Next??
Jo

 

[Deleted member 2452]

i get a "gut reaction"

usually this takes place very quickly. i'll know if i want to meet a certain person after only a couple e-mails. i have been wrong about someone only once, and right 3 times. now as to weather or not they felt good about the meetings hehehe, i'll just keep that our little secret.
steve

 

[TickleCrazy]

Hey, I'll be honest... I love talking to you all on this forum but I'm scared to death of physically meeting. There's a huge difference between fantasy and reality, hence my sig line. I've only just begun to mix my fantasy and real lives together. But if and when I ever get the nerve to step out from behind the keyboard and meet my cyberfriends face to face, I will be looking for the same qualities as any friend. Sincere, intelligent, reasonable, reliable, playful and somewhat witty. Now if I let myself imagine meeting a potential tickler or attending a gathering, well that would be a different set of attributes 😱 but I won't go there. I might lose all control and drive off into the tickling sunset never to be seen in vanillaland again!

 

[dvnc]

Bein' that I ran gatherings for half a decade, folks have a fairly clear notion of what qualities I sought.

I screened everyone for the West Coast Gatherings, after all.

I want to know folks before meeting them, when it's an online meeting. I want to know how they think.

I *have* been surprised before. Disappointed, too.

OTOH, I'm livin' wit' a 'lee from our forum, so clearly, I found what I sought.

When meeting folks one-on-one, I was surprised to find some women were comfortable meeting privately. I'd have meet a scruffy fellow like me in a public place, like a restaurant. I want to talk to them by phone first.

It's a good reason for meeting in groups. Yet another reason why I met you where I met you, Sunriseticklee. 😉

 

[AphxA]

meeting someone

Oh yeah i would love to meet some of you. Being that i am a guy i have nothing to worry about, but i can understand if a girl is afraid and all, all the sick people in the news. Then again if what i heard about the mimster is true, then ugh us guys have something to worry about. hehe fear=mimi

 

[ticklishbbw]

I guess you could say that I view meeting online folks just as I might view meeting the "friend of a friend" only I know them alot better. Anyone can lie to you. That person you're sitting next to in the bar could be a freak. Just because you're staring him in the eye doesn't make it any less likely. You just have to be safe....be smart....and not be afraid to live.

I couldn't agree more. This is what I say to all my friends, who do not understand how I could meet someone from the internet.

As for tickling meetings, or even vanilla internet dates, I just need to know there is some kind of connection. We have to have common interests, or personalities--we need something to talk about. I don't have a set amount of time required. I have met people after only a couple of conversations, others after months of emails. It just depends on both people.

Once we decide to meet, I usually like to meet for lunch/dinner or coffee, some place public, some place with no pressure, not only for safety reasons, but also just to get comfortable with the person I'm meeting. I've found,in tickling situations especially, if I don't do that, I'm extremely nervous, and the tickling session doesn't go as well. Once I'm relaxed, all bets are off! lol

 

[Tickling Motty]

Well only this Friday i went up with a girl i know from the Internet, not for tickling. We have chatted nearly every day on the net, and we do lots on the phone aswell. We have always joked about meeting and i was having a boring week as i had the week off. So was she and i just said jokingly, wanna meet up. She said yes. And so this was it. We were both really scared but it happened.

After chatting for over a year we had finally saw each other, and we both had a really great day. We are going to make it a regular thing now.

The reason why we met up is because we both became really close on here, like a brother and sister. We would tell each other everything, be there when the other was down and i respected her alot. And so i really wanted to meet her in the flesh and see what she is really like, and she never disappointed me, she was just how she is. Yeah i was really scared of meeting her, Would she like me etc etc kept running through my head but once i saw her that all went.

Obviously with her being a girl she was a bit afraid because of a number of news stories over here in UK about people going missing, but she trusted me and i assured her everything would be fine. I guess after chatting for loads got over a year, you do get to know the person and if you really get on, then the trust will build up and good friendships will happen.

It was my first experience in meeting someone of the net and it was a great one.

Andy

 

[TickledToDeath]

Kindness
Considerate
Good Sense of Humor
Sincerity
And of course, VERY ticklish!(or very INTO tickling and or being tickled.

Those are the atributes I look for in a person I will consider meeting.😀

TTD

 

[TickleCrazy]

It was my first experience in meeting someone of the net and it was a great one.
Andy

That's so great to hear. I hope to see more success stories posted.

 

[Ayla ny]

I was not ready to meet anyone for a very long time. I tried to be content with stories and sharing/reading thoughts on tickling... and it worked for a long time. only recently did I come to a point in my life where it was even possible for me to realistically consider meeting someone.

the man I ended up getting together with... swept me off my feet and then he tickled them 🙂 (hi, Tiger) but first he was my friend. the subject of meeting didn’t come up for quite a while.

originally we were going to attend the May NEST together. we had it all set up... room reserved, tickets bought. then things came up in each of our lives that made it impossible. that was a tough one to deal with. the disappointment was awful. but that plane ticket came in handy later 🙂 we ended up finding a time that was do-able for both of us and NESTed for two.

some of the things that made me more comfortable with meeting him were... he and a few other members of the forum are friends and they spoke very highly of him. I had his work, home and cell #’s and had spoken to him on all of them. we emailed for a year, talked on the phone for months, and he never pressured. never. always a friend. ...he also feels the same way I do about tickling.

be sure you are emotionally ready for meeting and tickling too. it’s not just your physical well-being at stake. that is something that kind of took me by surprise. sharing this thing with someone who feels the same way is incredibly freeing and confusing at the same time.

all in all, my experience was a very positive one. I finally got to live some of the things that had been (still are, really lol) occupying so many of my thoughts. for a weekend at least... 🙂 and I got to meet a wonderful man. one I would be happy to know even if he weren't a tickler. but he is... 🙂

and one of these days I WILL make it to a gathering and meet a few of the folks I have been reading for so long.

 

[SimplyRio]

Here is a link to a story My Beloved (TickleFan a.k.a. TummyDragon) wrote about our first encounter, which occurred a couple of years after "meeting" each other online. Enjoy!

http://www.tklovers.com/stories/laft.htm

Tickles!
Rio

 

[Boomtown13]

Hi, Cavebear. (I liked hearing you tell the story.)

What I'll add is that the talking on the phone, getting to know each other for months, is crucial to meeting the way we did, one-on-one. I would hope others are doing that too, before meeting someone alone. Gatherings are different, cuz they're moderated and there are plenty o' people.

But the giant PLUS to going about it the way we did was that, by doing so, we were already great friends when we met. And there was only the positive thrill of nervousness at meeting in the flesh for the first time, none of the negative what-if-this-isn't-safe nervousness.

And so we could, and did, completely and unabashedly enjoy a weekend of Tickling, eating together telling stories, Tickling, eating together telling stories, and Tickling.

(Don't mean to seem tacky here, but I just gotta say in front of everybody... I LOVED helping you discover how ticklish your feet really are. The surprise on your face, and in your hysterical laugh, was the holy grail ticklers seek. I could have kept tickling you like that for a week. Weeks.)

(Oh, and that spot on your lower ribs, a little towards the back... Sorry, I'll stop now.)

Yes, Sunrise, chalk this one up as a VERY positive experience.

Boomdaddy

 

[tklr5150]

I still would love to get to a gathering, but I wasn't able to the last time one was in Chicago.

I've discussed meeting with a couple of people, but only been able to get together with one guy. We talked briefly, made it comfortable, and after that tickled each other senseless. Even though I'm straight, it was a lot of fun finally meeting someone who loved tickling

 

[gig1965]

Sunrise, I've met a couple of great ladies in the past from
Online chats.
Ive stayed in touch over the years and count them both as good friends.
I asked one the other night what made her trust me enough to finally meet. (I asked her after reading your thread)
She said that it was because we talked so much on the phone about so many things OTHER than tickling or meeting. Come to think of it, it was her idea to finally meet.

Thought of you the other week....had a connecting flight in Atlanta.
BTW, lost your email address, Ken

 

[Havsoker]

Hmm... this is a question to all of the people who have met ticklers in "real life" - offline.

What are the qualities that you find in a person that would make you most likely want to meet him/her?

At what point do you actually feel ready for the meeting and what is it that makes you feel ready?

There are of course no right or wrong answers... I am just highly curious. Often times we laugh, argue, tease, encourage, LOVE one another here in cyberspace.

But every once in awhile you will come across those special people who are such a joy to know that you feel suddenly? or finally? email and phone conversations are not nearly enough.

Whether just for the friendship, or for the play, or both... for those who choose to meet... when do you feel right/ ready about it? Why? What stipulations do you set? Do you feel more comfortable in one on one settings? Or gatherings? Lunch or dinner without tickling at first? ETC....

Even if you have never met anyone into tickling offline, I still would like to know your views....

I especially would LOVE to hear any successful first time stories.

I will post my views momentarily... Just want to get this thing started.

Live, Laugh and TICKLE
Sunriseticklee

I met my GF in a tickling related chat room 5 years ago and we are still seeing each other.

We agreed to take it slowly and talked daily online and by phone for about a month. We evidently got to know each other well because when we finally did meet, we felt that we had known each other forever. 🙂

 

[footman25]

Sunrise,

In answer to your original question,I was lucky.I met my girlfriend on the internet (not in TMF) and we've been seeing each other a year now🙂.The trust thing just came after lots of chatting and phone calls,sometimes u just know that someone is cool🙂.

Happy tickling to all

Footman.

 

[LayDeeMe]

I have met a few people online, just for tickling sessions, nothing more really. Holy crap, the first one was six? years ago? Wow. Did not realize that.

All of them were meeting for tickling sessions. There were no "get to know you first, then we'll tickle another time" meetings. I have been lucky (knocking on wood) that no situations turned uncomfortable nor scary. In my younger years, I don't know that I was as ... hmmm... wary? No, in my younger years, I was more naive, would be the best way of putting it. The first few sessions were all with a different guy, and we never met again (call me a tease, I guess.) Ha ha, the first tickle session I ever had, the guy got an erection & I freaked out (internally I freaked out, not on the guy). Then I remember reading a post he put on a newsgroup talking about it and how great it was. There have only been two gentlemen I've met more than once for tickling, and that's been just recently. The one guy, Tom, is a great tickler and a pretty cool guy- he was not just about tickling. The first time we met, we sat & talked for a good hour(?) before we got down to ticklilng. It made me much more comfortable and more relaxed.

I don't really think there are any qualities I look for- I used to be just into being tickled, but I always said I would give to get. Now, I kinda enjoy giving as well. I do feel like I have to get to know them a little bit before I plunge right in. A girl can't be too careful nowadays. I have not met anyone that I would consider a relationship with- not that they weren't nice guys or great guys, but not really anything I was interested in (one guy was way too into tickling- it's nice to meet men with other interests & other conversation topics.) (this fella actually got angry with me when I told him that tickling wasn't a high priority on my list for a potential mate- it would be nice if the guy I eventually end up with is into tickling, but if he's everything else I want minus that one thing, I'm not passing him up.)
Again, this is a long-winded reply, and probably doesn't even answer the question. I'm a bit rusty, I guess.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

I apologize for taking so long to reply to my own thread. You all are so wonderful. Thank you for showing interest and for sharing your stories. I was very curious. Sometimes my thought processing is so scattered... LOL that it is hard to figure my own self out. *giggle* And I was just thinking... what is it about some of you that makes me want to meet you. And what brings us all together? It can't be JUST tickling.

The qualities I look for are the same qualities I seek when making friends offline. I don't think a computer would make those qualities change. I only feel ready to meet someone if they have made me feel so comfortable with them, that I know that I will be safe in their presence. Safe and free to be myself because I have already been accepted by them.

Course, I'm no fool! For most circumstances, public first time meetings are a must. DEFINITELY! And I always have a way of being tracked by a family member (Its a fool proof way, otherwise my mother would have NEVER found out I was into tickling. HAHAHAHA) After all, not even our "gut instincts" are 100 percent. And I also usually stick to gatherings. But what is awesome is... At gatherings, if you don't like the person, you don't have an awkward situation you truly would have had, had you met the person one on one.

The very first person I met from online, the one responsible for me meeting a lot of you, we hadn't known each other very long (like years), but it just felt like longer than it had been. I know that if our meeting had been awful, I would have never tried to meet another online person again.

And they probably don't feel the same way, but they became a close friend to me, one I could tell anything to. Kind of goes beyond the tickling thing. We don't see each other a lot, but even if we did, I think I would want this person as a friend beyond the fact that we have tickling in common... We both like to sing (although I am better at it LOL 😛)... We both sort of grew up with similar backgrounds. There are other things too... Its nice that we are just friends.

Sometimes it takes a long time before I feel comfortable and other times it just clicks instantly... like magic. You meet someone and you just KNOW that they are pretty honest, sweet, dear people you can trust with your life. (like Double T, Lite&Kwil and a couple of others) Often times you sort of test the water and feel like the person is just not quite ready. You'd rather wait for awhile. (I gave BIGJIM the hardest time when I met him... LOL But he's awesome!)

And let me add.... Just because I want to meet someone doesn't mean that they are perfect and that they will never hurt my feelings or piss me off... It doesn't mean that I am not SUPER nervous when I first meet them... I can just tell things will go well. And they usually do. It just means something special has happened. A special connection that goes beyond a couple of instant messages and phone calls. And when it clicks... You know. You just know.

Live, Laugh and TICKLE
Sunriseticklee

 

[AphxA]

meeting

I would like to capatilize on saying. Yes i would love to meet someone from the tmf. Also, may i also make an apology to a certian someone. I had to say that cause if i was to meet this certain someone, i dont want to get f-5 through a table.

 

[amk714]

f-5? 😕

 

[AphxA]

f5

Thats a private joke, its a very painful wrestling move....gulp

 

[dantickle]

For this male tickler's opinion-- I've met a few women in rl for tickling than I have met on-line. I found that none misrepresented themselves, a good time was usually had, a great time rarely had, only "clicked" with one of them in a way that I wanted to date her for a while, but she was 5 states away and is no happily engaged to her tickler (thrilled for her). Caution and common sense are appropriate (esp for people meeting men, but also for people meeting women), and listen to your gut. I always insist on several phone calls, to give my instincts a chance to operate. In the end, if we have things in common, tickling and non-tickling, I'm usually willing to meet. My 2 cents.

 

[njjen3953]

and one of these days I WILL make it to a gathering and meet a few of the folks I have been reading for so long.

And you finally did. 😀

Jen

 

[njjen3953]

And so we could, and did, completely and unabashedly enjoy a weekend of Tickling, eating together telling stories, Tickling, eating together telling stories, and Tickling.

Mmmmmmmm. Sounds like a great way to spend a weekend. Actually, that is exactly how SBG was. LOL

Now, to have that with one special tickler. Just the 2 of us.

Jen