Tickling "Friendships"?

[TicklingDuo]

OK, I know everyone talks a lot about meeting people in the community to share play with. That's cool. We've done that too. However, that's not the topic of this thread. 😛

What I'm interested in is how many people are there among us, who happen to be into tickling, who have met others in the community and just clicked as friends? For instance...Drew and I connected with the Venrays simply because we'd met them here and decided it would be cool to meet in person. We share conversation about our fav kink. But, there's much more to our friendship. We've found other things we have in common. We get together on a regular basis...but not necessarily for play. We have dinner, see movies, do concerts, etc. And we genuinely care about what's happening with the others lives. Yes, tickling does play a role in our friendship. But, it's just there. It isn't a central focus.

With all of the talk there's been over time about taking tickling into the mainstream, I think true friendships like this that happen to include tickling is one way to prove that we ARE mainstream in some way. If WE don't limit ourselves to play and leave out other aspects of who we are, maybe others will see that we're normal people who simply happen to love tickling...rather than tickle freaks with no other life. Just a thought that's been floating in my head. I'd love to hear what others think.

Ann

PS - I know there will be those who say "That's not what I mean by mainstream." That's cool. I accept that. Let's stick with what I've asked for this particular thread, though. 😉

 

[TickledToDeath]

Actually, every single person I have met in person in the tickling community, I have and always will, consider friends.
I could not even begin to name them all and won't even try right now because I do not want to offend anyone by leaving their name off the list but there are many!
Even alot of the folks I have YET to meet in person, I consider friends and hope they as well as the ones' met in person, consider me a friend as well.

I will even go one better! I have met ONE special person, a gorgeous gal named Patti aka Shygirl and we have started and are in a romantic and loving intimate permanant relationship and I am totally and madly in LOVE with her.
We are buying a house together in New York(Rockland County) and the closing date is On or about December 10th of this year.

There are the best of the best people I know here in the TMF and all of the ones' I know I hold close and dear to my heart forevermore.
There are NO better!

Very Sincerely,

TTD

 

[TicklingDuo]

I will even go one better! I have met ONE special person, a gorgeous gal named Patti aka Shygirl and we have started and are in a romantic and loving intimate permanant relationship and I am totally and madly in LOVE with her.
We are buying a house together in New York(Rockland County) and the closing date is On or about December 10th of this year.
TTD

Cool, Ed! I hope you've been lucky enough to catch a buyers market there. It's been a sellers market here for months.

As you know, Drew and I also met through the online community. Life in the ticklign community is great, indeed! 😀

Ann

 

[njjen3953]

I have several people in the community that I would consider to be friends. Unfortunately many of them live too far to see regularly. Those that I feel are real friends are the ones that I talk to both on AND offline.

Jen

 

[ForgottenTcklr]

I live in Oregon,

so I do not have the meeting opporunities as some of you New York area (and other prominent areas) people. However, I can see becoming good friends with many of the members here. Especially in the general discussion forum, I am able to basically carry out conversations with other members there. While I would love to actually meet some of them, I will have to accept this wondeful forum for now!

 

[JPie1]

I know I have met some truly nice and very interesting people here in TMF and from past communities as well. I believe there is alot of merit in getting to know people as friends in general then to thrive because of a singular passion.


TTD... I have known you prior tp the TMF days, I wish you and Patti all the luck and joy in the world. It would be my pleasure to one day meet you both in person.

I look forward to meeting each and everyone of you who posted here. You are all down to earth wonderful and interesting people beyond the love of tickling.

JPie

 

[MistressValerie]

Personally, I have always tried to be friends with my tickle (and trample) partners, but unfortunately, most of them were only interested in the tickle (or other specialized) relationship. I am sometimes sad, for example, that none of my old tickle friends from California have kept up with me (or even with each other, from what I have heard from other mutual friends). I think many are afraid of being "outed" and tend to avoid contact except at specialized meeting places -- at least, this has been my experience.

Love to all,

 

[Moses25]

If WE don't limit ourselves to play and leave out other aspects of who we are, maybe others will see that we're normal people who simply happen to love tickling...rather than tickle freaks with no other life. Just a thought that's been floating in my head. I'd love to hear what others think.

That's a good point TD, but, ya know, I've never really had anyone sneer at me, or anything, b/c I like tickling. I find a lot of people get delighted by my preferences, although they may not be into it. At the very worst, some peeps just deem tickling as silly/juvenile, and nothing more.

The reason I mention this is, is that you are the second person to mention prejudices against our particular fetish, so I'm wondering if many of you have had really antagonistic reactions when you let peeps know that you're into tickling?

It's such a benign "perversion" in the big scheme of things.

Cheers. 😀

 

[Havsoker]

What I'm interested in is how many people are there among us, who happen to be into tickling, who have met others in the community and just clicked as friends?

Great question! I met my GF in a tickling chat room 5 years ago. Tickling brought us together, but it is not what keeps us together.🙂

Hav

 

[QBWeaver]

I've established friendships with almost everyone I've ever met in this community. Several of our local group will get out to dinner together. I even got DVNC and Affectionate Dan out to the racetrack. Dan actually crews on our racecar from time to time. Our 'regulars' stay over at the house after a gathering and it's just like a big happy family.

And I've got dear friends on the East Coast and in the South and Midwest that I've met at gatherings who are very precious to me. Although I can't see you as often as I'd like, you're still in my heart.

 

[JoBelle]

Very good topic Ann!

Over the years, I've had opportunities to meet many of my online TK pals in real time and wonderful things happen as a result.

There are 7 people that I met online because of tickling, that I later met in person and eventually played with....then something odd happened. We found that we really liked each other! *GASP* Go figure. *smile* Since then, I've been on several trips to visit them (and they have visited me) and I couldn't imagine life without them. These 7 are very close "family" type of friends to me. There are others outside of the Big Seven, as I call them, but I don't get to see them as often as schedules don't permit it. Instead we keep in touch via phone and emails.

These people are the ones that have touched my heart in some special way that only a friend can. They are the ones that I think about when a non-tk topic reminds me of someone. They are the ones who get "random emails" out of the blue from me when I feel like we've not chatted often enough. 😛 They are friends who helped me through a difficult time and I hope I can return the favor. They are the people who make coffee taste better for sake of the conversation. And just think, it all started because we liked tickling. *shrug*

I've always been of the mindset that it doesn't matter where you meet someone. It can be in line at the department store, in the same hall of a college dormitory, in a bar on karaoke night, or online in a site like the TMF. In the end, it's just two people, who for whatever reason were supposed to meet. I find that the only drawback to online meeting is friends is that often they live so very far away that you have to be more inventive with ways to get to know each other since you don't have the face to face interaction. I guess it's like meeting someone in an airport, or a bus station, or on vacation....you just adapt.

In the end, I just say that I've all sorts of friends who I've met online and they are just as real and special to me as the ones I met at work, or play in real time. It might sound wierd, but if tickle people weren't out looking for TK material...lol...I'd have missed out on a few very special people in my world. SO, that being
said...hehe...I'm glad we are all a bit obsessed! 😀

Joby

 

[TicklingDuo]

Re: Re: Tickling "Friendships"?

you are the second person to mention prejudices against our particular fetish, so I'm wondering if many of you have had really antagonistic reactions when you let peeps know that you're into tickling?

Actually, Moses, though I have had a couple of negative responses, the vast majority of people I've shared it with have had no problem with it. But, I know that many others either HAVE had negative experiences or are afraid of it. With something as personal as our chosen sexuality, that concern is understandable. I suspect that's part of why many come here...to feel "normal" and be accepted and be able to share our thoughts on what we love.

Ann

 

[njjen3953]

I made a friend at college that knows. We just met this past September, but she and I have become very close already. She and Pete met last night for the first time. She is intrigued by our interest and has asked many questions. She also has told me several times how it amazes her that everytime she puts lotion on her feet it tickles so much, especially in the arch. She curls her toes just talking about it. 😀

I told her that if she ever wants to explore further, Pete and I would be happy to help.

Jen