Told my girlfriend I liked feet the other day...

[featheredfeet]

in a round-about way. We are a couple that has been taking things slow...7 months in, no sex (attributed to my religious/ethical beliefs). Last night we were on the couch, half watching a movie/half kissing, and she started to play with my beard. As she did that I playfully nipped at her hand (common, playful occurrence) and she let me bite it and then said, "You always nibble my hand! ::cutsie tone::". I looked up and said half jokingly/half testing the waters, "Would you rather it be your toe?::deep but coy tone::" It was like one of those movie moments when two people are driving and the passenger says something to which the driver immediately slams on the breaks. "I would never kiss you again...honestly babe, there isn't enough brushing you could do to make me forget about that." There was a brief back and forth about whether that was hyperbole or not...it wasn't. That's kind of a big deal for me. I mean, that is an ingrained fetish that I have. Anyone ever have anything similar happen? What was the outcome of that relationship (if its not to bold to ask)?

 

[bftk2005]

I like to massage and tickle feet so it's never been a big deal. I never had to have a conversation because it always comes up in foreplay and it's never been a problem. I had women who hated having there feet tickled but they compromised. If she cannot compromise and you cannot be honest about what you want then you probably not be happy.

 

[Leo tickles]

If she won't satisfy your fetish, find somebody who will.

 

[LD_Tickler]

Maybe she didn't realize you were serious?

 

[featheredfeet]

Well, thats a possibility but not a probability...we had a little discussion after that about whether or not she was being serious, and she was.

 

[GQguy]

Read my sig quote. I think it goes "if she won't indulge your fetish I bet you that cuter smarter girl across the bar will, let's go find out".

Seven months is a long time. Have a talk with her and see why she finds her feet disgusting. Perhaps if she upgraded her hygiene she'd feel better about it.

GQ

 

[proud2tickle]

if you really love her you might just have to sacrifice, but its hard i mean whether or not u tell ur partner about ur fetish she is still gonna have to deal with it. you will have the urge and you might end up being angry with her at times sub consciously. if your a judeo christian like i am and u seem to be with what u said earlier the bible infact says in Corinthians when paul talks about married life that once married there are no sexual limits to what to people can do and sexual interaction should be abundance so that you dont drive each other into adultery with the lack of it.... if u need to talk feel free to pm

 

[GQguy]

if you really love her you might just have to sacrifice, but its hard i mean whether or not u tell ur partner about ur fetish she is still gonna have to deal with it. you will have the urge and you might end up being angry with her at times sub consciously. if your a judeo christian like i am and u seem to be with what u said earlier the bible infact says in Corinthians when paul talks about married life that once married there are no sexual limits to what to people can do and sexual interaction should be abundance so that you dont drive each other into adultery with the lack of it.... if u need to talk feel free to pm

You are so right about that Corinthians verse. Anything but that is setting ones self for trouble. I hope the op also makes sure that he's willing to go at least as far as his girlfriend does to please him. Good call!

 

[rhiannon]

Would she kiss you again after you went down on her?? I mean....that's where she pees! 🙂

It is the spontaneous reaction that feet are nasty - but if you actually make her think about it logically, she might start to wonder WHY she thinks they're nasty - unless she never washes them!

 

[featheredfeet]

Would she kiss you again after you went down on her?? I mean....that's where she pees! 🙂

It is the spontaneous reaction that feet are nasty - but if you actually make her think about it logically, she might start to wonder WHY she thinks they're nasty - unless she never washes them!

Actually...going down on her grosses her right out. I've also been informed that I will never be receiving a BJ because, "im not putting my mouth on something piss comes out of no matter how many times its washed."

 

[rhiannon]

Actually...going down on her grosses her right out. I've also been informed that I will never be receiving a BJ because, "im not putting my mouth on something piss comes out of no matter how many times its washed."

Uhm...I usually don't say that, but....find another girlfriend! She sounds really really stuck up!

 

[boxleitnerb]

I agree. A fulfilled sex life is important in every relationship. All these "no's" would be to many for me.

 

[Libertine]

Consider yourself lucky you've found these things out so early on (relatively speaking) in the relationship. This person is both narrowminded and puritanical, and if you don't want to join all the other Sad Bastards on this forum who are trapped in a relationship with the wrong woman (or man- many a woman on here's in the same predicament) get out while you can. Find someone who'll love you kinks and all, because they are her kinks too and she was wondering if she'd ever find someone like you. She's out there- believe me.

 

[tcklft]

Actually...going down on her grosses her right out. I've also been informed that I will never be receiving a BJ because, "im not putting my mouth on something piss comes out of no matter how many times its washed."

If your girlfriend's poor, dump her and find the woman of your dreams. If she's rich, marry her and get a piece on the side. Either way, eat that bunny!

 

[daddy]

Run like hell now! That is all I have to say

peace out,
daddy

 

[ticklemepls]

Ok, talking from experience here:

I married (young, dont ever do that...) to someone who did not share the fetish(s) that I do... Quite honestly its a BAAAD idea. A recipe for disaster you could say. It slowly eats away at you over time, you might not think it will, but it does. You become unhappy and miserable. Case and point: we fought every day, then divorced.

NOW: lesson learned, I met femfttickler21 here, and in a relationship with him where we share many the same fetishes, and enjoy trying new things together and expanding on things. I couldn't be happier than I am now with him and wouldn't change it for the world. BIG difference. I ENJOY life now instead of dreading everyday... seriously, it sounds mean, but you will not be happy unless you find someone who will at least let you satisfy your fetish.

 

[GQguy]

Consider yourself lucky you've found these things out so early on (relatively speaking) in the relationship. This person is both narrowminded and puritanical, and if you don't want to join all the other Sad Bastards on this forum who are trapped in a relationship with the wrong woman (or man- many a woman on here's in the same predicament) get out while you can. Find someone who'll love you kinks and all, because they are her kinks too and she was wondering if she'd ever find someone like you. She's out there- believe me.

Libertine's a boss. Take his advice.

 

[milagros317]

Consider yourself lucky you've found these things out so early on (relatively speaking) in the relationship. This person is both narrowminded and puritanical, and if you don't want to join all the other Sad Bastards on this forum who are trapped in a relationship with the wrong woman (or man- many a woman on here's in the same predicament) get out while you can. Find someone who'll love you kinks and all, because they are her kinks too and she was wondering if she'd ever find someone like you. She's out there- believe me.

Libertine is correct. From my personal experience, I wasted all too much time on a woman who simply believed that feet are intrinsically dirty. Your girlfriend seems to be like her. Get out now.

 

[TRU]

Break it off, if she's not willing to compromise and maintain an open mind, then you are only going to have more problems in the future.

 

[Leo tickles]

As somebody who doesn't even like BJ's, I dump her for being unable to keep an open mind to a fairly "normal" sexual activity, let alone not wanting to work with me on a fetish.

 

[GuldenVleugel]

Nothing personal, but I would find another GF. She's too much of a prude. It's for you to decide of course, and if you really love her, I hope things will improve.

 

[P_Bustleton]

You need to read Dan Savage. Google him for his column, Savage Love. A lot of people disagree with his ethics and approach to monogamy, but he's right about two things: oral sex and fetishes. Oral sex (for males and females) should be considered standard. And for fetishes, both partners should be Good, Giving, and Game (GGG). Meaning skilled, willing to indulge their partner, and up for new experiences. He's actually addressed feet and tickling. It's the same idea for just about anything else.

There are some people who find feet disgusting. Those people are not for you.

 

[drewskee]

Dump her. You deserve better.

 

[marcusb]

Whoa. Whoa. Whoa.

Sounds like you're in for a lot of roadblocks in your future. Either she's just young and inexperienced... or not very open to stuff.

I'd be moving on. Been there. Done that. It sucked.

Actually...going down on her grosses her right out. I've also been informed that I will never be receiving a BJ because, "im not putting my mouth on something piss comes out of no matter how many times its washed."

 

[Destrucity]

You can take it from someone who shares religious and ethical beliefs with you; I agree with most of the advice being given here. Love and respect are both two way streets, it sounds like you're sacrificing a lot for her yet she seems unwilling to compromise. When I met my wife, she didn't really like tickling. Now she's a willing (and sometines initiating) lee for me and is even beginning to star as a ler in my company's videos! Your gf has to at least meet you halfway...