Trying to find out more about my boyfriend's kink (sexual)

[ggg765ccc]

Hey everyone!

I am pretty new to this, but I'll try to put up as much information as I'm comfortable with. My boyfriend and I are both grad students and have been together for almost 4 years now. I've spent the last 5 months abroad and am going to see him for the first time in a while on Friday. We've been working on becoming more and more confident talking about our sex life since I've been gone (there was only so much you could do over skype, talking has been our only means of contact to each other) and he recently confessed to me about how he really enjoys being tickled as part of the act. Now I'm not one to back down from a challenge, and he's always been more then willing to indulge in my fantasies, so I would really like to return the favor and learn how to incorporate it into the bedroom to make him happy. We've played around with light bondage before and I know that he really enjoys being teased, and this just seems to be another extension of that? I wasn't really sure, so I spent some time searching google, and this was one of the first places I found. I've been wanting to make our first night back together special (especially because we haven't seen each other in a while), and have been hinting about how I've got some special things planned for him 😉. Specifically, what he told me was that he would really like to be tied down, teased, and tickled everywhere for as long as he can take it. If anyone can provide some advice about how to make his night awesome or just some general knowledge of what I can do to make him tick, it would be incredibly appreciated (or just let me know a better place to post this or if it's against any rules)!

 

[eagerlee]

Wow, sounds awesome! Your bf is a lucky fellow. 🙂 I only have experience of myself as a 'lee and am hesitant to make too general statements. That said, for me it has always been primarily about power and domination. There's something very appealing about losing control and being humiliated a little. Could be because I am a very guarded person and I like to be in control under most circumstances. Tickling is a break from all that, much the same way that sex can be a break from daily routines and the roles we take there.

That's the psychological part. But early on I also found that the sensation of light tickling can be very pleasant, even arousing, when done by the right person. Perhaps your boyfriend has a favorite spot in his body, I certainly do. You can ask him, or if you prefer to surprise him, just go and try out different spots and see what the response is. Also techniques make a difference. Try to find out if he's more into feathers, light spidering of fingers, or perhaps harder tickling with pressure. Or licking. That can be very effective. He might also enjoy a different level of ticklishness depending on how aroused he is. Having an orgasm while being tickled can be a wonderful thing, but it really depends on how his nervous system is wired up. Go explore and have fun. 😀

 

[Myriads]

Welcome ggg,

I'm always pleased to see a member like yourself join us. When the forum was founded one of our hopes was that it could become a resourse for people like yourself and your boyfriend.

From your post, I feel it is safe to assume that the pair of you have a solid relationship, have found ways to maintain it at a distance, are sexually experimental and open to pleasing each other thru mutual compromise. And more importantly, you take pleasure in giving pleasure to your partner, and want to make it as good as possible. All of this is the very definition of a healthy sexual relationship.

You seem to have experimented with bondage before, and probably aspects of orgasm play/denial as part of your sex life, so believe it or not, you actually have a bit of experience in what your boyfriend might like as a 'lee' when you are tickling him.

There are a lot of parallels between orgasm play and tickling. In that both produce uncontrollable responses in the subject, a loss of control of response, a feeling of helplessness thru their own body being used against them, and a general submissive experience.

You might find yourself enjoying some of his reactions much the same way you enjoy him when you've teased him in the past.

If I had to suggest a first time experience for you I'd point you toward putting him in a simple spread eagle bondage position, nude of course. Then taking your time to explore his entire body slowly, alternating with sexual teasing. The odds are very close to 100% that the tickling will make him good and hard in ways that he cannot hide while nude, so you might as well enjoy playing with that part also! (and it and his balls are also places to tickle) Take your time, enjoy, explore, push him as far as you like, and mix in your own likes as you go? Want to get off? Ride him until you do. If he cums, he'll be more ticklish after. Or make him use his mouth to get you off while you provide feedback on how good he's doing with how you tickle.

Mostly Make it a full experience that adds the tickling that he wants, into a greater sexual context, and also provides you with some things your enjoy also.

I wish you best of luck, and hope that all goes well.

Myriads

 

[SlaverTickler]

My advice is GO FOR IT! He is a lucky guy to have somebody willing to live out his fantasy with him. Just remember to respect safety words (I use "red light"). Keep him strapped down all night and play with him until he begs for mercy. See if he'll let you ride him while he's tied, and don't let him finish before you. I personally like performing oral allot, if he does, then repeatedly sit on his face until you are fully satisfied. You are in charge of his pleasure, so enjoy the power. When I take the sub-role half the fun is knowing the woman is turned on by being in control. Put him through his passes, but respect his limits

Wow, now I'm turned on, excuse me while I take care of something 😉
ST

 

[wrestlingclown]

Friday has passed.

Tell us how it went.

 

[boing!]

Hey everyone!

I am pretty new to this, but I'll try to put up as much information as I'm comfortable with. My boyfriend and I are both grad students and have been together for almost 4 years now. I've spent the last 5 months abroad and am going to see him for the first time in a while on Friday. We've been working on becoming more and more confident talking about our sex life since I've been gone (there was only so much you could do over skype, talking has been our only means of contact to each other) and he recently confessed to me about how he really enjoys being tickled as part of the act. Now I'm not one to back down from a challenge, and he's always been more then willing to indulge in my fantasies, so I would really like to return the favor and learn how to incorporate it into the bedroom to make him happy. We've played around with light bondage before and I know that he really enjoys being teased, and this just seems to be another extension of that? I wasn't really sure, so I spent some time searching google, and this was one of the first places I found. I've been wanting to make our first night back together special (especially because we haven't seen each other in a while), and have been hinting about how I've got some special things planned for him 😉. Specifically, what he told me was that he would really like to be tied down, teased, and tickled everywhere for as long as he can take it. If anyone can provide some advice about how to make his night awesome or just some general knowledge of what I can do to make him tick, it would be incredibly appreciated (or just let me know a better place to post this or if it's against any rules)!

Triple G,

Remember, the element of surprise! See if there is a Navy Seal team who are done waterboarding for the day. Have them repel into your apartment, shoot him with a tranquilizer dart, and construct an elaborate system of stocks, pulleys, and drones to properly administer your assault.

I wonder if your guy enjoys turning the tables? You might offer sometime down the line. It will surprise you how sensuous and exhilarating it can be to surrender control. Do try to turn up the enthusiasm however. Don't be like my wife when she "encouraged" my kinks with a hearty "knock yourself out."

Report back. We don't bite... we tickle!