Turning your friends to the darkside

[curious]

Now before I get into this post I would like to say that I know that there are people who get up in arms on this forum when they don't like the topic at hand. That being said at the time of this posting I have not actually done this so please remain calm I am just posting this because this is as good a place as any to talk about this and get it off my chest. If you don't like what I'm talking about and have to comment on it please keep it civil.

So here we go....

For a while now I've wanted to introduce a female aquaintance, either a girlfriend or just a friend, to tickling with physical restraints being gradually and safely introduced to the equation. Then after she is fairly comfortable with being tied and tickled one day just let her have it worse than usual and get her to spill the beans on which of her girlfriends are the most ticklish and then getting her to agree to help me ambush one of her friends. After the intial ambush we would then get that friend to help us ambush another friend and in time we would every now and again just pick on of us at random and tickle the victims brains out.

So my question is, is this a realistic situation, or I have I just read one too many stories, also does this seem to border on abusive?

 

[BlackestLily]

I don't find it to be realistic. GREAT for fantasy and story, but if someone tried to force their kink on me after tying me down, I'd be a little freaked out, harmless or not.

In my mind's fantasy world, everyone is accepting of tickling and introducing someone to it is the only thing you need to do before it's immediately accepted and adopted. But people prefer what they prefer, and not everyone will think it's as great as we do. And I truly don't know anyone who would want to be introduced to tickling by being taken past their personal boundaries and limits. Anyone I've known who was OPEN to trying it preferred the most basic of baby steps.

But that's just me. 🙂

 

[MrTicklefeet]

Maybe read too many stories, too much fantasy, yes.
One of the drawbacks of engaging in fantasies too much, is it does tend to rewire the brain accordingly. Buddhist saying is what the mind focuses on is where the brain rests, and I've been finding this to be true.
Friend of a friend, with much baggage and intimacy issues, yet she's hot beautiful, and gorgeous feet, size 7, thin feet, long straight toes, will walk around barefoot, and I'm going crazy, knowing I can never get close enough to indulge. Even at a meeting, a gal is putting on her coat, her shirt raises up baring her belly, and my attention gets riveted, and my mind goes off into tickling fantasies for the rest of the evening. It kinda sucks.
Your fantasies are okay, they're just fantasies, but playing that out like you described may border on abusive if the parties don't like it, yes.

 

[Sandrock74]

I don't find it to be realistic. GREAT for fantasy and story, but if someone tried to force their kink on me after tying me down, I'd be a little freaked out, harmless or not.

In my mind's fantasy world, everyone is accepting of tickling and introducing someone to it is the only thing you need to do before it's immediately accepted and adopted. But people prefer what they prefer, and not everyone will think it's as great as we do. And I truly don't know anyone who would want to be introduced to tickling by being taken past their personal boundaries and limits. Anyone I've known who was OPEN to trying it preferred the most basic of baby steps.

But that's just me. 🙂

Very well said and I have to fully agree. It's one of those things that sounds like a good idea......but will land you in jail.

 

[playgirl]

i don't see any mention of him trying to "force" his kink on anyone. he specifically says,

tickling with physical restraints being gradually and safely introduced to the equation. Then after she is fairly comfortable with being tied and tickled one day just let her have it worse than usual and get her to spill the beans on which of her girlfriends are the most ticklish

while you don't say precisely what that means, i suspect it means tickling first to test the waters then with her permission restraining her and tickling her more aggressively in a type of interrogation scene. to me, it sounds realistic as long as the woman is willing at each stage.

if i know someone already, i'd probably let them restrain me the first time they tickled me, but if i don't know them (or didn't know if i liked being tickled), then restraints are off-limits until i feel safe and comfortable with the person.

if you go along with her comfort level, which it sounds to me is your plan, then i think it's a very plausible and realistic plan. you may be disappointed if you find out she or her friends aren't ticklish or aren't interested in being tickled. OR you might get lucky and create your personal tickling harem it never hurts to ask or interrogate if the person is willing...

 

[BlackestLily]

i don't see any mention of him trying to "force" his kink on anyone.

The first girl he said he would approach, the others he would ambush. I'm referring to the ambushing.

...spill the beans on which of her girlfriends are the most ticklish and then getting her to agree to help me ambush one of her friends...

 

[playgirl]

given his previous statement that he would behave in a manner that involves consent, i'm giving him the benefit of the doubt that the "ambush" would be something simple like each one coming up on the side of her and test tickling her, perhaps even with her knowledge that she'd be tickled at some point.

ambush doesn't have to mean a take-down. it may just mean that the friend's friend would not know when the tickling would take place.

he specifically says that it would be him and his friend doing the "ambush" which says to me that he's not being creepy about it and just going up and tickling some random person. i'm assuming the friend, being involved in the ambush, would know whether her friend would be amenable to being "ambushed." while i realize that some people don't like to be touched without their permission, it sounds like he's talking about his friend letting him know who's ticklish AND amenable to being "ambushed" for a little fun and harmless tickling. if the friend is a friend, i'd suspect she would know if the other person is opposed to being touched without her consent.

 

[BlackestLily]

given his previous statement that he would behave in a manner that involves consent, i'm giving him the benefit of the doubt that the "ambush" would be something simple like each one coming up on the side of her and test tickling her, perhaps even with her knowledge that she'd be tickled at some point.

Given that it's something he no doubt finds arousing, it could be viewed as offensive. If I had a friend who was trying to get his spanking jollies off on me and the rest of his friends, even if he thought it was all in good fun, it can still be seen as pervy.

I very much doubt it's being thought of with any maliciousness. I don't think at any point he's wanting to hurt someone or otherwise. But I think boundaries of friendships and respect for people should be upheld when it comes to something you find sexual.

So my position is simply that in terms of a good idea for a mass number of people who trust you, I don't find it to be something that should be acted upon. But that's strictly from my viewpoint and how I feel about things like that. 🙂

 

[LD_Tickler]

Definitely delusional, and bordering on abusive.

 

[playgirl]

If I had a friend who was trying to get his spanking jollies off on me and the rest of his friends, even if he thought it was all in good fun, it can still be seen as pervy.

if we were talking about spanking, i would be in complete agreement with you.

 

[TickVix]

In a sense that is how I became who I am today, because a good friend introduced me into the world of tickling and since then I've never looked back. So if she's open minded you shouldn't have a problem at all 🙂.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Or you could not be freaky and do it the old fashion way with charisma.

Either or.

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

Bless be the tie that binds is a hymn, dude!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Is this charisma stuff a brand name of chloroform or something? 😉 ***sings a jody*** IF YOU SIN AND GO TO JAIL, JODY GONNA HAVE YOUR TAIL***

 

[rhiannon]

if we were talking about spanking, i would be in complete agreement with you.

I don't see what the difference between spanking and tickling is here. Can you explain?

As to the OP, totally unrealistic, especially the second part of the fantasy! Introducing someone could work....but the "ambush" part will probably get you in jail!

 

[playgirl]

I don't see what the difference between spanking and tickling is here. Can you explain?

tickling is by far more socially acceptable than spanking someone, particularly a stranger, be it in public or private. additionally, tickling doesn't require one to cross the line into "personal private zones" the way spanking does, unless you're going to spank someone's side or tickle someone's ass. of course, i'm presuming that most people do not consider their entire body a "personal private zone," but i believe i made allowances earlier for someone who doesn't like to be touched without permission.

 

[Tidas]

Honestly, yeah there is a bit of fantasy here. But, if she's responsive and cool with it, fucking go for it! Why not? Don't EVER force her into anything, but treat her right and take it slow. If she's cool with it, kudos. If not, give up.

 

[TicklingTips]

As to the OP, totally unrealistic, especially the second part of the fantasy! Introducing someone could work....but the "ambush" part will probably get you in jail!

I don't think by ambush he meant kidnapping them and tying them down and viciously tickling them, so I actually think jail is extremely unrealistic. Maybe the OP could clarify what he means?

As for an unrealistic plan...no, I don't think it's unrealistic to try to introduce someone to tickling. I've done it, although not to the extent of tying them up. Many people here have been introduced to it and only then discovered a love for it. I'm not sure it would extend further than one person, but surely that's still fun in itself!

 

[rhiannon]

tickling is by far more socially acceptable than spanking someone, particularly a stranger, be it in public or private. additionally, tickling doesn't require one to cross the line into "personal private zones" the way spanking does, unless you're going to spank someone's side or tickle someone's ass. of course, i'm presuming that most people do not consider their entire body a "personal private zone," but i believe i made allowances earlier for someone who doesn't like to be touched without permission.

If you don't tie anybody down, it might be socially acceptable. Once bondage comes into play, I don't really see a huge difference.

 

[Tidas]

The social acceptability, or lack thereof, is irrelevant to the core issue. If the girl thinks it is interesting and want to try it, where is the harm?

 

[rhiannon]

In the first part of the fantasy where he was talking about introducing her, there was no harm! Have you read the second part of the fantasy?

 

[Tidas]

The first part, in which the young lady is introduced to bondage and tickling, gradually is perfectly fine. I think the second part is just fantasy, and honestly I think the OP was just being humorous. Honestly even getting her to tell him which of her friends is the most ticklish is a bit of harmless fun. Kidnapping people is always wrong though, and I really don't think it's the case that he actually plans to do that.