Umm.. Lers?

[Deleted member 66627]

What exactly is it about being a Ler that you enjoy?

It can't just be making someone laugh, or can it?

And, for the Lers that are ticklish...BUT prefer strict Lering instead of switching; Why is that?

 

[dalekfire]

Well, I'm a switch, so can't answer the third question, but as for the first two...

To be completely honest, I think I'd enjoy tickling people because I know it makes them happy. With their consent, of course. Unless it's like a tickle attack or something, for fun...but that still goes with the prime motivation for me, and it's to give the 'lees joy and fun. I'm a big softie like that. *grins*

 

[PiperGK1]

Crystal, Crystal, Crystal. Must you ask such a question?

Here we delve into the deep psychology of the love of tickling, and I must say that I can't answer that properly. Let me tell you of a boy who loved women's feet when they were wearing nylons. Oh, that goes back to me being 4 or 5 years old. So how do I analyze my fetish from such an early age? Don't know, I truly don't know.

However, I know that when puberty hit, and I started dating, I was the most joyous of young men who was given the chance to tickle a pretty girl's feet, in nylons, and I was most assuredly amazed by the sensation. I recall grabbing a girl I was dating, lifting her over my shoulders, pulling off her shoes and tickling her feet relentlessly. That was only one occasion, but it sticks with me because it felt so wonderful.

I love both ler and lee. When I've been tickled by girlfriends, I fall into this unbelievable state of bliss, with a smile that must look beautific though I've never seen myself when I'm tickled. I think the fact that I love, love, love the feeling of being tickled makes the tickler in me more pronounced, hoping that one day someone will respond in kind, and I will meet my soulmate at last.

 

[Adam]

In my case, probably a power/control thing for whatever reason. Why exactly that is, I still don't quite know. At the very least, it's fun for me. It takes very minimal effort to mess with someone's comfort level when it comes to tickling. I certainly enjoy the reaction. As for strictly being a 'ler, so far that is all I've been. I'm open to experiencing the other side, though it can be scary for one that enjoys control to have that taken away.

 

[-Hari-]

i still havent had a decent lee to work on but from what i have done im basically a sadistic fuck and i like to torture, 😀

ticklings a unique torture as it doesnt really hurt but can be far worse than pain for the right people, and bringing laughter out of someone is so much more fun than the painful shrieks youde get out of whipping someone visiously,,,,,altho thats also fun 😀

I like that they suffer but laugh, the irony is a beatiful thing 😀

 

[falcon]

for me, its purely for the fun of making a girl laugh as loud and as hard as she can for as long as she can. i'm all about trying to make it as fun as possible for both of us. i'm just in it for the laughter 🙂

 

[Strider]

I was a switch for several years, the last time I bottomed for anyone was about a year and a half ago, and I'm starting to think I may just be done with that now.

The funny thing is, I have all these nuanced and long-winded explanations for how I approach other types of play, and what I get out of them, and what I hope my partner gets out of them, and how I view things differently when it's with someone who's simply a play partner versus someone with whom I'm in a more strict D/s situation, and so on, and so forth.

When it comes to tickling however, I think I'm just a sadist.

 

[theshire]

I can't fully explain why I love tickling - it's just something I've loved since I was a very young child (as young as five or maybe a bit younger still), after a particular event in my childhood. As I grew up I began to rationalise it a bit more, and so I figure I like the idea of being in control and able to control a woman's body and emotions with simple touches, while they are helpless to prevent me. When I realised as a teenager that tickling was partially unsatisfying, since the 'lee can often spoil your fun by moving away, it was only a natural development in my thought that I should envisage physically restraining them so that's no longer a problem.

But I have also, again ever since childhood, liked making girls/women laugh. I suppose that's also part of it.

I am ticklish, but I am strictly a 'ler. I would say there are two reasons for this. One is that I just don't get excited by allowing myself to submit to a woman. It seems un-masculine and too opposed to what I normally like. The other reason is that I just don't think I'd be able to take being tickled for long while tied up. I did have a go at being a 'lee once, and didn't particularly enjoy it.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

The best answer to your first question I could find:

Jeez ... where do I start?

Alrighty ... tickling a woman is a feast for the senses.

One of the things that's sexy to me when a woman is being tickled is the way she moves. I get so hypnotized by seeing the way a woman's body writhes & squirms & twists & tenses ... especially if she's tied up! Usually , the bondage limits her movement & concentrates the bulk of her "writhing" to her mid-section/hips-area. We all know how tantalizing belly dancers can be when they're doing that thing they do ... watching a bound woman "dance" as she's being tickled can be a similar delight.

Also , the look on a woman's face as she's smiling & laughing , while at the same time exerting vast amounts of energy , is just priceless. I don't think I want to go as far as to say that it's a look of "defeat" , but it's close. Women look their best when they're A) wet ( coming out of the pool or the shower ... take your pick ) & B) in the throes of ( ticklish ) agony.

And since she's laughing uncontrollably , it can make it difficult for her to speak ... causing her to "say"/communicate so much more w/her eyes ... which is always lovely.

Prolonged laughter , too , tends to force the eyes to tear up ... so looking into her eyes as she's "crying" ( the good kind of crying ) just makes them sparkle beautifully.

Obviously , hearing her laughter is another big one for us ticklers. But it's not just "regular" laughing , is it. No ... it's the kind of forced laughter that only comes forth when one is being made to do so uncontrollably. To us , it's music ... the BEST kind of music. The kind where you get lost in it while you're listening to it. And when you hear the pleading & the begging that comes along w/it ... well , that's just a joy , too.

What else is sexy? Hmmm , let me see ...

Well , a lot of times I like to be situated right on top of my LEE. That way , I can experience all of her struggling w/my own body. I can feel her writhing , squirming , twisting , tensing ... as well as her shaking , thrashing , flinching , & contorting.

Inevitably ( hopefully ) , I'll get around to using my tongue as a tickle-tool ... allowing me to taste my LEE's sweat-soaked skin. Not to mention , tasting the pent-up passion in her kiss when we finally lock lips after a long & grueling tickle-session.

... & the only thing I want to smell from her is her fear ... her anticipation before the tickling starts.

But what else is sexy about a tickled woman ...? I gotta say that it's the "mind-fuck" of it all.

When most people laugh at something ( a joke , etc.) , it's a reaction to that something ... & it's usually relatively short-lived. In those instances , laughing is an enjoyable experience ... it's something people want MORE of.

When most people are tickled , they recoil. They try to get away. To all those "vanilla" people , tickling is NOT an enjoyable experience. Yet , most likely their reaction to this nonenjoyable experience is laughter ... something they connect w/an "enjoyable experience".

It is there where the true beauty of tickling makes itself known. How can it be that just a few simple ... SIMPLE! ... strokes to the skin , in that certain way , can make a person lose control of what comes out of their mouth & how their body reacts?! ... w/laughter & recoiling?!

That display of "conflict of interests" is accentuated infinitely more so w/women ... the most beautiful creatures on Earth.

 

[taptoematt]

For me it's not even about the reactions ( although it's nice to have one ).
It's about a sharing experience on some kind of transcendental level.I feel it as a lee and a ler, like a melding of the soul. It can be personal or playful but never filled with malice or torture.

 

[Redmage]

What exactly is it about being a Ler that you enjoy?

It can't just be making someone laugh, or can it?

It's MAKING someone laugh. Laugh uncontrollably. The rush of taking control over what someone feels and how they react is truly something.

 

[Third 3y3 Open]

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[Deleted member 66627]

So,

Is it that most Lers have a need or desire to control?

 

[marcusb]

Making the lee respond. Sometimes watching them try to resist if they are stubborn one. The laugher of course... and the icing on the cake when (and if) they give in.

 

[Snail Shell]

I like to touch. I'm a very tactile person. I always have been.

I also like to make people laugh. I used to do very bad stand up comedy at talent night in the first grade.

And last I checked, 2 + 2 = 4.

Snail Shell

 

[tkrunner]

I suppose for me, it's about the control and thrill of tickling someone. Ever since I was young when my mom tickled me when she tucked me in. I guess its because of her. She did it and I though it was a good thing to do. Eventually I explored it more online and became obsessed with it. I haven'been truely tickled in a long time, so that is one of the main reasons why I'm a ler at the moment, also because I enjoy being the dominant one. As for you Crystal, why do you prefer to be a 'lee? What is your position?

 

[Tomskee]

I like the feel of skin under my fingers especially the soles of feet. That's why I enjoy giving foot massages as well. I also enjoy the facial expressions the girls make. And after an extended tickling session, the girls I've been with have became more affectionate.

I never thought about being a lee. I don't like being at someones mercy. I can't give that control up.

 

[RChello]

I think for me...

So,

Is it that most Lers have a need or desire to control?

it's a desire to control in a very fun, playful way...like making the lee say something she'd never want to say ever...like ohhhh, "Red Sox suck!" if she's a Red Sox fan or.... making her say i'm the tickle master!!! (for that moment anyway hehe)It's all about laughter and causing it to happen to a like minded participant😀

 

[brianspencer66]

Well its the idea of control as most here have already said. But its also much deeper then that. Its the quality of the lees laughter caused by the magical caress of a womans sole. there are ten digits on ones hand and the possibilties are endless with circles and figure 8s or one finger up and down a tender archline most gingerly etc.

As to why we like it? Well I guess some of it may boil down to how much control do we really have in our everyday lives. The older one gets the more complex life can get. So to have somthing one can have fun with and a temporary sense of control is great. I guess a sort of stress reliever.

 

[Redmage]

So,

Is it that most Lers have a need or desire to control?

Um, it's not like we're out for world domination. Well, OK, I am, but most of us aren't.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Um, it's not like we're out for world domination. Well, OK, I am, but most of us aren't.

No.

I never implied that.

I am merely trying to understand the inner machinations of a Ler's mind.

 

[PiperGK1]

Crystal, what's your take on the tickling sensation, as a ler or lee?

 

[PiperGK1]

I think control can be a huge part of the tickling fetish, but not completely. There has never been anything sexier in my life than a girl who actually gives up control of herself to me, allowing me to make her feel what I want her to feel. The ones who have not enjoyed the tickling were not as interesting as the ones who did enjoy the tickling. I often wondered why a girl would allow me to titillate her in such a way, knowing that most ticklish people have an instinctual aversion to tickling. Perhaps I found my bliss and let it slip through my fingers?

 

[Adam]

So,

Is it that most Lers have a need or desire to control?

Not necessarily. I do feel a certain thrill in controlling the reactions of a ticklee, but it's not the only emotion I feel. There's also a real sense of playfulness and bonding that often seems mutual, at least in my case. I suppose it just makes me happy, for lack of a better explanation.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Thanks for all the responses, folks. Appreciate it.

However, it does, indeed sound like control does play a big aspect in Lering.

I understand the need to have it at base level for the safety of your Lee..

But it's kind of cool hearing you all describe your different mentalities.