Unable to Separate Tickling & Sex

[Aeveirra]

For those who do not know me on here, i am a neuroscientist and have done extensive research on tickling fetishism. One of my findings, was that people who have knismolagnia ( Term for ‘tickling fetish’) tend to have it VERY strongly. ( compared to how people react with other fetishes) This makes tickling very unique in that it seems to have an extremely powerful affect on people. (in my earlier posts i go into detail about how tickling fetishism operates on separate brain systems than other fetishes do, therefore explaining why it has strong psychological affects on people)

So i am posting this, because if my findings are correct many other people on here likely share in this experience and will know what i’m talking about.

Basically, i am completely and utterly incapable of separating tickling from a sexual association.
When i am tickled, i become VERY aroused within seconds (no matter who is doing it). Hell, il get turned on just by thinking about it, or hearing someone use the word “tickle”in conversation.
idk if this is a “bad” thing or not, but i’m not able to talk about any forms of tickling with anyone without noticeably blushing, or feeling very uneasy as my heart rate increases from thinking about it.
(* btw, i am 100% a ticklee *)

- - - - So... yeah, this affects me very profoundly, so much so ,where i have actually had very bad experiences being tickled by others because my brain connects tickling to sexual behaviors.
I can ONLY be tickled by either my boyfriend, or someone who i like / find attractive(if im single of course). Other than that, it feels like i am being sexually molested or abused whenever anyone else does it to me.
- - - I know that seems weird... but i honestly can not help becoming instantly aroused when i’m tickled, so if a family member, or medical professional were to do it to me, i would feel *extremely* uncomfortable, akin to the feeling as if i were being groped or something

** Example: Whenever i Get my physical. (I don’t tell my doctor I’m ticklish, but she already knows)
whenever they press my abdomen to check for swelling/inflammation etc, .. i blush, tense up and have to suppress my giggles and moaning. Of course its worse when they tell me to ‘relax, and not tense-up’. Then i laugh even more, when i’m forced to just take it...

. - - - - I had one older-male doctor once, who thought it was funny that was so ticklish on my belly, that he pointed out while examining me : “oh your pretty ticklish huh? its ok, many of my patients are just try to hold still” at that point i was teary-eyed and clenching my mouth closed trying to hold in continuous laughter. He then intentionally tickled me, causing me to yelp and laugh. It was actually really embarrassing.... If he were to go ANY slower/softer on me, it would have made me gasp & moan as if i were having an orgasm....Thank God he didn't notice the slight moaning i was already making amidst giggling which i was trying so desperately to hold in. I would have had no explanation for him as to why tickling did that to me.

. - - - At the time i was 16-17 and this guy was like 55, and i didn't know him cus my regular doctor wasn't available. I swear, it felt like I was being sexually molested by that guy, and I still get shivers when i think about how humiliating and horrible it was to be tickled like that by a total stranger.

- - - - in other cases when i was a teenager, where i would be struggling and giggling so much, nurses had to hold me down so the doctor could “examine me”. It really felt like tickle torture.
But it made me feel really violated as if i were being molested or something...
so its never a fun experience for me. (even now, in my early 20s, i still have to try and “get through” my annual check-ups, and endure some form of tickling.) My lower belly happens to be my MOST ticklish place, and thats of course where doctors check via pressing and squeezing around.
BUT its not just doctors. i only went into detail on that instance because it was honestly pretty traumatic. In general, its really just anyone who tickles me/talks about it, for whatever reason i cant - not be turned on by it. And unless Im dating you, being tickled by any other person feels too much more sexual in nature for me to allow that to happen. Its not a big deal to people who don’t have a tickling fetish, but I guess thats why i feel this way...


- - I hope i’m not the only one who can’t mentally separate tickling from sexuality like this.

if you have any similar experiences, your welcome to share them in the comments.

 

[primetime]

You are definitely NOT the only person who can separate tickling from sexuality. I think there are more of those kind of people than ones that CAN separate tickling and sex. I am one that can separate the two. When my niece was little, I tickled her for fun. I had ZERO sexual thoughts during that interaction as it was just fun. Then there are times where I am tickling a woman and yeah, instant arousal.

I think the mindset you have, is pretty normal for those who love tickling. It is how you are wired. My only wish is that people with your mindset can have an open mind with those who can separate the two. In other words, acknowledge that the ability to separate the two is totally possible. All you have to do is look at a M/M thread and you can see that there are those who just CAN'T separate the two and "label" people. That is not fair, or open minded....

 

[nebudchadnezzar]

I know where you're coming from, even talking about or thinking about tickling turns me on
As a ler I find tickling a girl such a huge turn on, I couldn't just tickle a girl for fun because it's too much of a sexual thing for me and I would always want things to go further
For example there is someone I work with who I do find attractive but who I had never thought of in that way because we are friends and she's married
There was one time she was reaching up to put some things on the noticeboard right next to me and her top pulled up so I could see her tummy. I had never seen it before and her tummy is incredible, I couldn't help thinking how soft and ticklish that tummy must be. I couldn't help myself and started stroking and lightly tickling her tummy, it was like something just took over me and I didn't know what I was doing until I was actually doing it. She started giggling and flinching but didn't tell me to stop, she just said something like "ooohhhh i'm really ticklish there" between the giggling and finished what she was doing while I was tickling, In fact it seemed like she was taking longer on purpose
It only lasted for about 20-30 seconds but from her reactions i'm pretty sure she actually likes being tickled, she has a really cute giggle and lovely soft skin and I have not been able to look at her in the same way since, it's like a switch has been flipped in my head and I get help getting aroused when i'm around her for any lenght of time which is a problem, so I have been keeping my distance a bit until I can get this under control. She know's something's up but I can never tell her what's really going on. I don't really know what to do, i'm just hoping this will go away on it's own before I damage our friendship to much
Don't get me wrong I absolutley love tickling and with the right person it's the best thing, but sometimes I just wish this only a fun thing for me and not sexual

 

[Myriads]

Lots of people can and do separate their tickling paraphilia from non-sexual tickling that often occurs in normal day to day interactions. They don't have any issues doing it. Just like many people don't have issues separating the difference between kissing their lover, or kissing their sister. Or how doctors can become quite aroused at seeing their partner nude, but see nary a hint of a sexual rise viewing dozens of people that they treat each day.

Every individual ends up with their own unique level of a paraphilia. Some more, some less. You pulled more.

There are a ton of people over the history of the forum who have had separation issues like your own. If you poke about you'll find how they dealt with it, and the discussions that they had around it.

Myriads

 

[Tickleslave83]

I can separate tickling from sex. Like sometimes my mom would tickle me and that would be relaxing but it was not tickle torture or anything like that and she was kind of disinterested in it. But if a woman that I was sexually attracted to started tickling me even mildly I think I would probably become uncontrollably aroused and wouldn't be able to hide the fact that it was driving me out of my mind.

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

I can kinda seperating tickling from sex. Thing is since tickling arouses me, certain people I don't true or guys will make me very uncomfortable. Yet the few times I am tickled, I am aroused yet sometimes I forget I am cuz I'm having too much fun so I don't think about how aroused i am at the time. Plus a lot of tickling I get only last about a few seconds but still is a big turn on from certain girls. Its okay though, I never act on it when I'm turned on its like "oh that was fuck, oh look a boner"

 

[TickVix]

Omg!!!! You completely explained how it is for me as well... I never fully knew how to elaborate on the mind, body and sexual connection i always had with tickling, but i knew it was always there. I'm very ticklish as it is, but if i wasn't attracted to the person tickling me, the arousal factor wouldn't exist in relation to tickling, however if i was attracted to the person in some way the arousal factor would soar to new heights. It's a bit hard to explain.. And to be honest, there's only been one man who has succeeded in tapping into the mental and sexual linkage related to tickling for me, though I've been tickled by many. Once again i can't really explain it, but it's bizarre.. So thank you for breaking this down... It's certainly helped me gain some insight into things related to myself.

 

[Teal]

I feel exactly the same way. Tickling is 100% a sexual act in my head, although I know most people obviously don't view it that way, that's how I can't help but see it. Like if I see someone tickle a child or an animal I have to struggle to hide my urge to vomit. As far as I can tell I'm not at all ticklish, and I'm actually mostly glad for that, because even though I find the thought of someone I'm attracted to tickling me arousing, if someone I wasn't attracted to were able to tickle me I would feel like I was being molested. So yeah basically I get where you're coming from.

 

[Volsung]

There are tons of psychological things going on involving tickling. Would you say that whether or not you're ticklish has to do with the amount of authority the ler has? That might explain why you might be ticklish with say, a doctor and not just some 'ordinary' person.

 

[MasterTickle]

Yeah for me tickling is the biggest turn on indeed. I cant separate it from sex or sexual feelings. When I here the word tickling, or Kitzeln as it is called in germany, I tense and can't talk anymore for a sec. My head gets all those images and Iam growing slightly aroused. I can see were u coming from saying that the tickle fetish is a very strong one. I definitely feel it and Iam proud of my fetisch.

 

[duderino84]

I guess I can separate. I mean, it has to. ....reflect some sexual interest. Even if the Lee is going insane.