Well folks, I tried!

[KoocheeKoo]

I recently joined the Ok Cupid site, mostly to take the numerous and varied surveys and tests available. In doing so, I answered enough questions to qualify as a "question submitter"; was able to propose questions for prospective romantic matches. My first proposed question: "Are you ticklish"? (a very simple question many non-ticklers ask their significant other; I remember several of sis's boyfriends asking her if she was ticklish as she grew up).

To me, and I theorize many here.....that would be a valid and extremely important question for any prospective soulmate, boy/girlfriend, or spouse. Unfortunately, my proposed question was roundly denied by Ok Cupid's staff and voting members. Among the less than nice comments offered in critisizm were "tickling? who cares about tickling their significant other"?; "tickling is uninteresting....not enough OK Cupid members can relate"; and "tickling is silly; boring...who cares"? 🙁

I also recieved a couple comments which were even nastier; from completely classless "gutter trash" who called me "perverted" for daring ask the question I'm so angry, I'm strongly considering deleting my Ok Cupid profile and never visiting the site again. I proposed a very simple; and I believe valid question for anyone seeking a relationship online. Once again, I leaned just how hypocritical, narrow minded, and judgemental most folks who don't enjoy tickling are.

 

[milagros317]

Nice try. Now I won't waste any time joining OKCupid. 😀

 

[Mitchell]

Sorry to hear about your experience, Koochee. They sound like very tightassed people on that site. I agree with you. I would certainly want to know if a potential significant other was ticklish. Unfortunately, unless us ticklers find potential partners on this site to discuss tickling with, before we would meet, the only way to discuss tickling in the mainstream, from a dating site, would probably be to take the girl on a date first, get to know her, and then ask her personally.
I think the people on that site were far too harsh to you, and downright rude. Calling you "perverted", as they did, is, to me, uncalled for. As Milagros so aptly said, I will keep in mind not to visit that site.

Mitch

 

[Redmage]

I tend to put my kinks right out there. They're enough a part of my life that if a potential partner has a problem with them we just aren't going to work out. This hasn't usually been a problem. I don't think I've been on even a first date with a partner who didn't share at least some of my kinks in almost 20 years.

If OK Cupid is being moralistic, then just find a more understanding forum. A somewhat sneakier alternative would be to put up a profile somewhere else that lays out everything you'd want a bed-partner to know about you, and link to it from your OKC profile. Then one of your questions for potential partners might be "have you checked my links?"

 

[gargoyleofdusk]

I have seen a lot of dating sites (or even just relationship or friend sites) seem to go with the boring, drawn out, mundane profile rules.
I know not many people like to talk of themselves, or try to make the 200-word limit on things, or even make the photo code.
Perhaps your question, to them, is too specific, but it could have been just part of your personal profile - and allow those viewing your profile to answer, or inquire.
That site aside, don't give up man - you never know.
Me - always seem to find grls to talk tickling, but never get to make it real.

The new year will be better for all of you in the TMF.

 

[Hiryu]

I recently joined the Ok Cupid site, mostly to take the numerous and varied surveys and tests available. In doing so, I answered enough questions to qualify as a "question submitter"; was able to propose questions for prospective romantic matches. My first proposed question: "Are you ticklish"? (a very simple question many non-ticklers ask their significant other; I remember several of sis's boyfriends asking her if she was ticklish as she grew up).

To me, and I theorize many here.....that would be a valid and extremely important question for any prospective soulmate, boy/girlfriend, or spouse. Unfortunately, my proposed question was roundly denied by Ok Cupid's staff and voting members. Among the less than nice comments offered in critisizm were "tickling? who cares about tickling their significant other"?; "tickling is uninteresting....not enough OK Cupid members can relate"; and "tickling is silly; boring...who cares"? 🙁

I also recieved a couple comments which were even nastier; from completely classless "gutter trash" who called me "perverted" for daring ask the question I'm so angry, I'm strongly considering deleting my Ok Cupid profile and never visiting the site again. I proposed a very simple; and I believe valid question for anyone seeking a relationship online. Once again, I leaned just how hypocritical, narrow minded, and judgemental most folks who don't enjoy tickling are.

I've been thinking of joining that site too and I think someone there even has a tickling test. I don't like what they did to you. Those vanilla hypocrits. I may just head over that way and give'em some hell.

 

[duannewalton]

Ok Cupid does have a "What kind of tickler are you?" and a "What's your favortite tickling tool?" quiz. I like their quizes (sp?), but that's about it.

 

[BigJim]

Personally I would not only delete my profile but I would write them a ten page e-mail exercising all possible methods of calling them all the cunts under the sun in fifteen thousand words or more.

Hey, why break the posting habits of a lifetime eh?

I think they've behaved like assholes myself and I don't think anyone would blame you for telling them so.

 

[Vamp]

What the hell is this site? I don't understand why other people tell you what you should and shouldn't ask? Members vote to allow you to ask your questions? Sounds shit, I can't be arsed to see for myself.

If anyone calls you a pervert for liking tickling, tell them to fuck off.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I am really sorry that happened to you Koochee. I mean they sound like very uptight, rude and judgmental people. I mean it's not an unreasonable question to ask and it doesn't mean you are perverted either. I have actually been told about that dating website from a friend and I will join it but once I begin dating someone from there, I will ask him personally if he's ticklish or not or just offer to give him a massage and see what happens, lol.

 

[Hiryu]

I joined last night and answered up to 151 questions. When I get to 500 and it's my turn "Are you ticklish?" will be my question as well.

I've already went to their forum and politely but, firmly confronted them on the matter.

So far, no one has responded. There are atleast 46 members there with the word "tickling" in their profiles. I think someone in charge over there is just antitickling.

 

[Krokus]

I'd have just told them to go fuck themselves.

- Thanks for the heads up about the site, though.

 

[melbtickler]

What morons, I can imagine how awful that made you feel inside.
I think you should send the link to this thread to see what number of people they are actually eliminating. Won't be mentioning that site to anyone, tickle fetishist or not.

 

[Hiryu]

Krokus and melb, I agree but, let's take it slow and try a mature aproach first. If that doesn't work, we can try shaming them and if that doesn't work, we can just tell them where they can stick it.

EDIT: So far, none of them have responded to my post. I think they're all a bunch of wussies.

 

[alchemy]

Cupid Bad...Alchemy Smash!

I personally am a member of okcupid and have been for about a month or so...I have gotten exactly zero hits on my profile. I have, now and again, made attempts to be friendly with my "matches" that looked interesting. These attempts produced nothing worth mentioning here. They were not even sexual in nature. They were simply things like "Hi, your profile looks interesting" or "you seem like a really cool person". Yeah....rude responses and attitudes all around.

 

[Hiryu]

Shit. Just wait until they click my yahoo profile and see what kind of freak I really am. It doesn't really matter though. I doubt there is any woman in this world who is my match anyway but, that's okay. I'll just build my own and she will perfect in every way.

 

[duannewalton]

Shit. Just wait until they click my yahoo profile and see what kind of freak I really am. It doesn't really matter though. I doubt there is any woman in this world who is my match anyway but, that okay. I'll just build my own and she will perfect in every way.

You da man.

 

[Tic-Tac-Toes]

those sites are mainly aimed at your wallet (credit card actually) but.. love is blind =/

 

[ticklerokla]

I too recently submitted a tickling question to okcupid.com. My question was "do you, or would you enjoy having your feet tickled?" However, my resulting comments werent that harsh. It was rejected, but because it was too specific? They said if I were to re-word the question to include more than one or two possible answers it may get a second look. I have gotten overall good responses from people on the site. Heck, Ive met someone thats tickle-curious already. It's all in how you make your profile, I guess.

 

[TicklishLurker]

Don't let it get to you. OkCupid is full of idiots and run by idiots. They regected several questions that were important to me for compatibility as well. Questions that, judging from the LARGE number of quizes based on Broadway musicals, Star Trek, etc, would be of interest to others. Plus because I said I like Star Trek, I was always getting threatened by the Star Wars fans. Eventually I deleted my account.

Only place dumber then OkCupid is Match.com

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Don't let it get to you. OkCupid is full of idiots and run by idiots. They regected several questions that were important to me for compatibility as well. Questions that, judging from the LARGE number of quizes based on Broadway musicals, Star Trek, etc, would be of interest to others. Plus because I said I like Star Trek, I was always getting threatened by the Star Wars fans. Eventually I deleted my account.

Only place dumber then OkCupid is Match.com

And I thought I heard of everything?!

 

[TicklishLurker]

And I thought I heard of everything?!

What part did you not hear before? The part about the Star Wars fans?

I don't understand it - I don't hate Star Wars (well, those three sucky prequels I do) - but I prefer Star Trek. But I was always getting messages on OkCupid from Wars fans who would berate and insult and be nasty to me because I'm a Trekkie. Until I finally put into my profile "I don't hate Star Wars, I just prefer Star Trek. We can be friends." Considering Wars would never have gotten off the ground without Trek to break it first....

Or is it the Match.com part? I tell you, first off that site had my personality all wrong. But that's not surprising seeing how it's a multiple choice thing. They never had my answers. Then you're suppose to cruise the site yourself rather then them matching you. Finally I put in my profile "No smokers, no vegans/vegitarians, no athiests" cause I've had nothing but major problems with every one I met in the last two groups, and because I sing so I don't want to be around smokers. You know what I got? Smoking vegan athiests!

I tried three times to sign up for eHarmony but they rejected me every time. Looking at their test where a considerable amount of questions focus on physical fitness and athletic abilities and their commericals have nothing but thin/physically fit people, I'm starting to think eHarmony's real goal to to only breed a race of thin people. Sort of like a "No fat chicks" movement. Only they also eliminate all fat guys too.

 

[ticklerokla]

Well, THAT SUCKS!! I have put on about 50 lbs since I got out of the army.. (cant run because of leg injuries, go figure). I am disappointed in the double standard in america however... Why is it okay for a guy to be a bit heavy, but not a woman? I see and hear of lots of ladies who say they "LOVE A TEDDY BEAR" and "MORE TO LOVE" MORE TO CUDDLE WITH", "A WARM SNUGLY"... Im not against being with a woman with a few extra pounds. Anyway, thats a whole different subject, isnt it?

 

[TicklishLurker]

Anyway, thats a whole different subject, isnt it?

Yeah. Needs it's own thread. (Well, I suppose my "Dealing With Negitive Remarks" thread in GD kind of covers that, actually, but it might be different enough to warrent a thred of it's own.)

Anyway - my point is OkCupid is stupid. 😛

 

[ViperGTS]

I made an account, submitting my question as "Are you ticklish?"

You'll all know my resulting emails.