What do you consider cheating?

[Coup de Grace]

What constitutes cheating to you? The mere thought? The attempt whether successful or not? A hug? A kiss? Sex? Sex at a massage parlor/with a hooker? Additionally, have you ever cheated on a partner before? Be honest. I won't rat you out. 😉

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Not the thought. But it does depend on what you're thinking about. There's a difference between "She's hot." and "I wonder what it'd be like to boink her."

The attempt, for sure.

A hug, no. A kiss, no (depending on where though - cheek, no, lips, depends on if she's French), vagina - yes. Sex - duh.

 

[sasaxrah]

It depends on the boundaries that are agreed on by both people involved in the relationship. Sex is only cheating if you've decided that you are not allowed to have sex with anyone except your partner. We're all human, and I don't think it's fair to control thought. If you don't act on it, it's not cheating. If you wouldn't do it in front of your significant other, it's cheating.

I have not cheated on anyone. A girl I dated kissed someone else at some party I wasn't at. I was annoyed but it didn't end the relationship.

 

[-Hari-]

Your mind is uncontrollable, your body however is not.

Any thought that passes thru your head are no choice of yours.

Cheating is a choice, you do it with your body when you take action on the thoughts that you should have disregarded.

I class cheating as the moment you let those thoughts become actions, whatever the action is.

Ide go as far as to say that doing something as small as intentionally making sure your somewhere that the person your thinking about is just so you can see them is cheating, just alot easier to get away with than the other extremes.

If you have thoughts about someone else, then you should deliberatly steer clear of them, not encourage it by tempting yourself.

It boils down to intentions, when your questioning wether your being faithful or not, ask yourself if you are acting in the best interests or the relationship you are in, or the one that crossed your mind via lust, curiosity or whatever else might have caused it

After that, ask yourself how much your relationship means to you and youl see theres no reason to cheat either way, you leave what you had PROPERLY and pursue the new or you turn your back on your curiosity and hold strong to the one you truely care about.

(wasnt directing that at anyone by the way, well maybe past exs but they aint gonna see it 😛 )

 

[This!]

Sex?

This!

 

[texastickler]

I do not want to sound abrupt but, I do believe that you can be on a diet and still look at the menu! So Cheating is hands on, swapping spit and other bodily fluids. My ex wife did just that with a very good friend of mine. It was cheating in my eyes. Had she just had dirty thoughts about the guy, I would never have thought of that as cheating.

 

[SteakDinnerBoom]

Using steroids

 

[milagros317]

Just my opinion:

Thoughts are not cheating. Actions involving the potential cheating partner are cheating if they have the intent to arouse them or to arouse yourself.

 

[/thread]

This!

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[xionking]

Using steroids

Hahaha, after long time use you'd also just be cheating yourself.

 

[Angel77]

I do not want to sound abrupt but, I do believe that you can be on a diet and still look at the menu! So Cheating is hands on, swapping spit and other bodily fluids. My ex wife did just that with a very good friend of mine. It was cheating in my eyes. Had she just had dirty thoughts about the guy, I would never have thought of that as cheating.

This for me as well. I believe a majority of peeps will think sexual thoughts about others as it's something you can't really control. Fantasies are fun! Actions though, you can control. Unless there were guidelines that were already set up between you and your significant other about what was ok and what was not ok and some people do that. And in some relationships it works for them. For me, kissing or touching naughty bits and definitely sex would be cheating.

 

[Bizkit]

This!

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[Marquis De Sade]

idk. Weirdness.

 

[Lord Doctor]

Anything of a practical, sexual nature going on behind one's back. An act of emotional betrayal.

 

[Coup de Grace]

If you wouldn't do it in front of your significant other, it's cheating.

I like to flirt with other women, but out of respect, I wouldn't do it in front of my lady. Is flirting cheating? There's no intent to 'score' with these women- it's harmless fun.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

What is acceptable and what's not is going to vary in every relationship. Unfortunately it's not black and white. It depends on the other person and the circumstances surrounding the actions. Did he sneak off to go on a date with this other girl and kiss her goodnight? Cheating. Were we all out at a bar hanging out and being silly and he made out with a friend in front of everyone as a joke? Not cheating.

Intercourse will always be cheating. Oral sex is cheating 99% of the time.

 

[FlockOfSeagulls]

What is acceptable and what's not is going to vary in every relationship. Unfortunately it's not black and white. It depends on the other person and the circumstances surrounding the actions. Did he sneak off to go on a date with this other girl and kiss her goodnight? Cheating. Were we all out at a bar hanging out and being silly and he made out with a friend in front of everyone as a joke? Not cheating.

Intercourse will always be cheating. Oral sex is cheating 99% of the time.

what warrants the 1% of oral sex that isn`t cheating ?

 

[MrMacphisto]

Using steroids

LOL... 😀

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

what warrants the 1% of oral sex that isn`t cheating ?

I can't think of a specific example, but I imagine that there could be previously agreed upon circumstances under which I might not mind him getting head from somebody else.

 

[This!]

I would personally define cheating as any sex or romance with someone other than your spouse or steady partner.

I would say that tickling definitely does not qualify as "cheating" unless you and your spouse/partner have specifically identified it as behavior you both agree not to indulge in.

 

[Coup de Grace]

I can't think of a specific example, but I imagine that there could be previously agreed upon circumstances under which I might not mind him getting head from somebody else.

Seriously?

 

[TKL_M28_LI_NY]

Cheating:

If it's something you'd feel guilty about being caught doing, it's cheating. If there's a QUESTION about it, then it's cheating.

 

[This!]

So then, if a guy doesn't feel guilty about screwing behind his wife's back, and feels perfectly justified in doing so, he's not cheating?

I actually used to work for a guy like this. He explained to me that he could never be satisfied with just one woman, and harbored no guilt whatsoever for secretly boning other women.

Conscience and moral compasses are poor bench marks for behavioral evaluation, because some people have neither.

 

[DeBris]

I would personally define cheating as any sex or romance with someone other than your spouse or steady partner.

What if the other give consent to it? Let's say the wife can't get pregnant and she allows the husband to get his way with a paid woman who agrees to take the job.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Seriously?

Srsly.