What is an acceptable age gap in dating?

[kered]

Hello there! How YOU doin? 😛

Flirt.

 

[Coup de Grace]

When I was 24, I dated a girl that was 18.

There's really no such thing as acceptable as people always try to find fault with your relationship no matter what. I say as long as you both are over 18, have at it.

 

[Angel77]

@ Kered

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I do have to say, I really think it comes down to if you and your partner are happy. If someone has a problem with it then do your best to ignore it. It's usually those same people that are so unhappy with their own lives that make stupid comments and drama. And why would anyone care what someone like that thought?

 

[Libertine]

Many college kids develop an aloof, super-intellectual attitude, not yet realizing that there's more wisdom and common sense yet to develop over simply the book-smarts they gained over the last 4 or so years.

Or putting it more succinctly, 'Learning is what you get in the schoolroom, but Education is what you acquire in the Poolroom'.

Kittentoes is 27 years my junior; we met when she was 22 and I was 49. We've been together for over five years, and not too long ago celebrated our third wedding anniversary. Between the right people, age will not matter. Naturally the years will bring changes, but since the past is gone and no-one knows what the future will bring, the present day is all we have.

And at present, we're happy.

Age gap? We have an Age Crevasse, and you only have an Age Hairline Crack.

So if you like this girl, ask her out.

 

[unclebill]

I do have to say, I really think it comes down to if you and your partner are happy. If someone has a problem with it then do your best to ignore it. It's usually those same people that are so unhappy with their own lives that make stupid comments and drama. And why would anyone care what someone like that thought?

I agree with this, but its really difficult to sustain a relationship with someone 20 years your junior which has been suggested in this thread. Think about it....... You are an entire age generation apart. If you can overcome that obstacle, more power to you.

 

[Angel77]

I agree with this, but its really difficult to sustain a relationship with someone 20 years your junior which has been suggested in this thread. Think about it....... You are an entire age generation apart. If you can overcome that obstacle, more power to you.

Sure, I can defintely see where you're coming from. And it might not work for everyone but everyone is different, for sure. I'm not saying that a long term relationship with someone who was say, 55 years old would work out but if I felt a connection, I would at least give it a try if it felt right. Who knows? Stranger things have happened lol. 😛

 

[unclebill]

Sure, I can defintely see where you're coming from. And it might not work for everyone but everyone is different, for sure. I'm not saying that a long term relationship with someone who was say, 55 years old would work out but if I felt a connection, I would at least give it a try if it felt right. Who knows? Stranger things have happened lol. 😛

You are so correct, my dear. I don`t think there is a handbook that says its wrong to at least give it a try. My problem is I became a parent at age 22 and my daughter would kill me is I brought home someone even close to her age. hehe

 

[Angel77]

You are so correct, my dear. I don`t think there is a handbook that says its wrong to at least give it a try. My problem is I became a parent at age 22 and my daughter would kill me is I brought home someone even close to her age. hehe

Lol! I can see that. My father is still protective over me and I'm 32. He was 24 when I was born so he was a young dad.

My dad will sometimes make comments about say, a young waitress about how pretty she is and I'll be like, "Dad! She's half your age!"

I think it's different with him though because he's well, he's Dad!

But ew. Still.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

I think executives in their 40s/50s are hot as hell. I'm waiting on my
executive lobster. One of these days.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I think executives in their 40s/50s are hot as hell. I'm waiting on my
executive lobster. One of these days.

*watches high risk business negotiations and cumz*

 

[Mister Scruff]

Rule of Seven.

... only really works between the ages of 14 and 18, assuming you're on about the "half your age plus seven" thing.

See, at age 14, half your age plus seven is 14, so it works out okay, and at 18 half your age plus seven is 16 so it keeps you legal. Anything past 18 and both parties are consenting adults and thus age is only really a factor if one or other of the individuals involved in the relationship makes it a factor.

 

[kered]

I think executives in their 40s/50s are hot as hell.

We are. 😀

 

[naughtylucy]

It has more to do with experience, lifestyle and (maybe to a lesser extent) culture than the numbers. I had a seven year relationship with someone who was eight years my senior, and that (albeit very small) age gap was never an issue.

And, you know, it depends what sort of relationship you're talking about. For casual sex purposes, whatever. A huge age gap might cause difficulties in the long term, but for some folk, maybe not.

The real mistake would be imposing a general guideline (apart from the legal ones which are there to prevent exploitation) on adults. We all have different needs and priorities.

I'm can't be arsed looking up the exact quote, but Dan Savage always says something like 'the rules for shagging someone younger are like the rules for camping. Leave the site in a better condition than the one you found it in.'

Words to live by, I'd say.

And another thing. Some of the best sex I ever had was with someone 27 years my senior. We never would have made it as a couple (I was 20 and he was 47), mainly because of the massive social gap between us at the time. Which, come to think of it, would be negligible now. But that wasn't the point. And he completely understood the campsite rule.

 

[maniactickler]

I think executives in their 40s/50s are hot as hell. I'm waiting on my
executive lobster. One of these days.

What about painters in their 40s/50s?

 

[WorkInProgress]

Hey, painter, just happened to spot you here.

Take a look in the tickling forum, the "do you think Massa posts here" thread, before you log out for the night and go to sleep. I just posted some insights that you might enjoy.

 

[MrMacphisto]

I'll refer back to kered's post... the rule of 7 seems to work pretty well...

I'm 30, so that means the youngest I can date is 22. (30/2 + 7)

Granted, I wouldn't go any younger than 24 really....

 

[Sandisk444]

/2 +7 is the rule

 

[sasaxrah]

I find lifestyle to be more relevant than age gaps. For example, a 29 year-old professional dating a 21 year-old college student could be more problematic than that same 29 year-old dating a worker 8 years his/her junior. The former couple will have different lifestyles, different hours, and different budgets. There could also be an innate power imbalance with age, but then again, there is always some kind of power imbalance in any relationship. And some of us here like more or less power.

If you're meant to be together, age is almost irrelevant. When people talk about age gaps, they tend to talk in terms of what is more likely to be successful. There are so many examples of outliers.