What is everyone's opionion on foot PDA?

[ticklishfeetnyc]

Do you think it is appropriate or acceptable in public if a man gave his wife/girlfriend a foot rub. I have seen it done sometimes at restaurants some people don't notice, but when people do there is usually a negative response that feet are gross even if the woman's foot is perfectly cared for and not dirty. Some people associate the foot as ugly and should be hidden. On a positive note a few years back my wife and I were on vacation at a resort, and we were sitting at an area where there were tables people having drinks and waiting for a show to start. I saw many tables around where the husband was giving their wife a foot rub, and I was giving my wife one too. Years ago I could never imagine being comfortable like that. But everything has it's time and place. I just don't think it is a big deal if someone wants to give their wife a foot rub and sneak some tickles in.

 

[rhiannon]

Everything has its time and place, and a restaurant is not the place to give foot rubs. I know quite a few people who better not take their shoes off when there is food around.

 

[ticklishfeetnyc]

If you are in a quiet corner and not bothering anyone, then I would say it is okay.

 

[Phineas]

How do you know that the negative response is due to the woman's feet being dirty, as opposed to, say, a more general reaction that the two people involved are simply being too intimate in public? Do the onlookers actually say "Ew, she has nasty feet?"

 

[MrTicklefeet]

Yes, you sound like you may be projecting. When I've done that, the women walking by just smile approvingly. Who wouldn't like a foot massage?

 

[ticklehound]

Yea, I think it's a general conception about feet, that they are dirty. I could see how someone would not like to see someone getting a foot rub in a restaurant or place where food is served. But of course, at a resort or pool, I think it is completely acceptable.

What I would like to know from everyone is what about if the two people are not involved, say they were platonic friends just hanging out. With strangers, it's hard to tell because you would assume any guy giving a gal a foot massage or tickle is her signif other. But is that the assumption?

When I was in grad school, during brutal study sessions just before tests, it was not uncommon to see us give each other massages during breaks - usually just the neck & shoulders. But one of my best friends (she is Ecuadorean) would ask me to massage her feet when they would ache. Now, [hand to God, we were completely platonic; she didn't think it was weird to ask, and as a foot guy, I sure as hell didn't mind (sadly, she was only a little ticklish & always scolded me for tickling her). It worked out for both of us, but I would feel weird if anyone saw us together.

I think clearly most people see PDA's like this as something intimate and think of it in public as such...

 

[Jagermeistered]

Foot dreams should remain civil, and in the bedroom. Competitive exhibitionalism is decadence...

 

[TheTickleMonster]

Are foot rubs considered PDA? Its in the same catagory as other massages, in my opinion. And for the most they are ok. However, since feet can be pretty dirty, one place you shouldn't do it is where food is surved. of course other types of foot PDA, such as kissing, sucking, and licking, shouldn't be in public.

 

[Phineas]

What I would like to know from everyone is what about if the two people are not involved, say they were platonic friends just hanging out. With strangers, it's hard to tell because you would assume any guy giving a gal a foot massage or tickle is her signif other. But is that the assumption?

I think clearly most people see PDA's like this as something intimate and think of it in public as such...

I think you have no evidence to base any of this on, and without having developed your X-Gene, you have no idea what anyone looking on may be thinking. And really, in the grand scheme of things, does it matter? At all?

 

[Laffy Daffy]

First off I feel like the whole issue of whether or not it's in a restaurant is kind of irrelevant. A person giving another person a massage in no way compromises anyone else's food quality, unless they have such an atrocious odor that it would make people ill, in which case it's that condition more so than PDA that means you should keep your shoes on in public.

I work in weddings, so I see this kind of thing a lot after drinking and dancing and a long day in uncomformtable shoes, and it's doesn't bother me. I guess some people don't want to see it, but some people don't like seeing a girl with a thong showing or a dude covered in tattoos. (Just to clarify, no problem here with either.... I have tattoos and I date girls who wear thongs, altho none yet who enjoyed showing them off when they were still wearing pants) Delicate misconceptions or not, life is going to go on around you. If someone wants to give their friend or s/o or whatever a foot rub in public, people should just be happy for them, that they have that. Not everyone is lucky enough to get good foot rubs.

 

[milagros317]

I prefer to keep my erotic interest in feet in private or at fetish gatherings, but I have no problem seeing women getting foot massages in public. 😀

 

[gigglemakr]

I actually gave a my date a foot TICKLE in a restaurant (a pub, really). She was sitting across from me and put her foot in my lap and I tickled it for a minute or so. She actually smiled and laughed out loud. There was a lady a few tables away (the pub was not crowded) who was looking at the scene. My date explained to her that "He is tickling my feet!" I don't think it was a big deal to anybody at this pub, and it sure was fun.

 

[ticklehound]

Phineas, maybe you're right. I should elaborate more, but in my limited experience, I have had a quite a few people (male & female) ask me if we really weren't so platonic b/c they saw her with her feet in my lap. Now, part of me thought they just like to gossip & were looking for something to jump on. But when it's friends of mine saying this too, I took that to think that most people felt the same way. Am I right to make that assumption? Maybe/Maybe not. -- just my perspective

 

[Phineas]

Phineas, maybe you're right. I should elaborate more, but in my limited experience, I have had a quite a few people (male & female) ask me if we really weren't so platonic b/c they saw her with her feet in my lap. Now, part of me thought they just like to gossip & were looking for something to jump on. But when it's friends of mine saying this too, I took that to think that most people felt the same way. Am I right to make that assumption? Maybe/Maybe not. -- just my perspective

Well, that situation is slightly different. By "quite a few people", do you mean friends or total strangers? Although, in either case I'd say it's more the fact that you're being touchy-feely with someone than anything specific about the foot massage. There's nothing weird, special, or overly erotic about feet that would immediately cause anyone to think you're sexing her up in public - except to a foot fetishist, that is.

Massages, in general, are A) fairly intimate when not done by a professional in a salon setting, and B) one of the "oldest tricks in the book" that a guy uses to get a girl to let him touch her. So I'd have to say that it has less to do with the fact that feet are involved, and moreso that you're massaging her, period.

Of course, out here in California, nobody gives a shit - maybe because everyone's poly so nobody cares who's involved because they're all jumpin' one another regardless...

 

[TheTickleMonster]

Well, that situation is slightly different. By "quite a few people", do you mean friends or total strangers? Although, in either case I'd say it's more the fact that you're being touchy-feely with someone than anything specific about the foot massage. There's nothing weird, special, or overly erotic about feet that would immediately cause anyone to think you're sexing her up in public - except to a foot fetishist, that is.

Massages, in general, are A) fairly intimate when not done by a professional in a salon setting, and B) one of the "oldest tricks in the book" that a guy uses to get a girl to let him touch her. So I'd have to say that it has less to do with the fact that feet are involved, and moreso that you're massaging her, period.

Of course, out here in California, nobody gives a shit - maybe because everyone's poly so nobody cares who's involved because they're all jumpin' one another regardless...

I agree. Feet have nothing to do with. Its that your massaging her, not where.

And I wanted to add, don't overgeneralize Californians.

 

[Phineas]

And I wanted to add, don't overgeneralize Californians.

I don't know where you live, but where I live... I eventually stopped assuming everyone I met was either straight or monogamous by default, because I was wrong 90% of the time. Sure, it's a generalization, but in my experience, it's a pretty accurate one. Given the size of the state, though, YMMV.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

I don't know where you live, but where I live... I eventually stopped assuming everyone I met was either straight or monogamous by default, because I was wrong 90% of the time. Sure, it's a generalization, but in my experience, it's a pretty accurate one. Given the size of the state, though, YMMV.

I live in central California. And California is one the most populated states. I doubt you've met even a tenth of the population to be using the word "Everyone."

 

[ArchNemesis]

Ohhh, foot RUBS. I thought you were talking about sucking women's toes in the middle of the mall! Foot rubs are pretty tame. Unless of course as some people said, if others are trying to eat LOL

 

[Phineas]

I live in central California. And California is one the most populated states. I doubt you've met even a tenth of the population to be using the word "Everyone."

Okay, okay. Christ. "Everyone I've met in and around the San Francisco Bay Area, which is a pretty darn large amount of people given that I've been here for almost a decade". Happy?

 

[TheTickleMonster]

Okay, okay. Christ. "Everyone I've met in and around the San Francisco Bay Area, which is a pretty darn large amount of people given that I've been here for almost a decade". Happy?

A little. I know it might seem like not a big deal but people already have several misconceptions about California. Don't need a Californian giving them another.

 

[the tickleshow]

Maybe I have a different perspective than most because I have spent the majority of my life in NYC, but unless you're in a "fine" restaurant, eating with others or you're actually serving other people food; what's wrong with a foot rub at the table?
I was in DC a few years back and I was with a woman who was a work client (I was working in the TV business back then). We were sitting at an outdoor table and we were having dinner & drinks. Before the 2nd round was gone, I was rubbing her feet at the table. No fewer than three women in the outdoor area said "I'm next". Didn't hear any negative responses. 🙂

 

[Jagermeistered]

A little. I know it might seem like not a big deal but people already have several misconceptions about California. Don't need a Californian giving them another.

Outside of the DMV(Demolition Motor Vehicles)... 😛

I am just kidding...

 

[Jagermeistered]

Maybe I have a different perspective than most because I have spent the majority of my life in NYC, but unless you're in a "fine" restaurant, eating with others or you're actually serving other people food; what's wrong with a foot rub at the table?
I was in DC a few years back and I was with a woman who was a work client (I was working in the TV business back then). We were sitting at an outdoor table and we were having dinner & drinks. Before the 2nd round was gone, I was rubbing her feet at the table. No fewer than three women in the outdoor area said "I'm next". Didn't hear any negative responses. 🙂

Depends...

West coast girls hate their feet. Unless, it is in California...

 

[TickVix]

I'm in total agreement. I have no issues with PDA in general because I've always been a highly affectionate person. So my feet being massaged in public is something I'm not uncomfortable with. Those that; I think it's rather common now though, since I've seen it done in places ranging from restaurants to bowling alleys lol. Besides, most women wear heels, why wouldn't they want a foot massage? 🙂

 

[E-Dawg]

I do that for my fiance a lot. For example, any time we are at a restaurant, she will often kick her shoes off and rest her feet in my lap, especially in the summer while she is wearing flip-flops. I love when she does this. She could even be wearing socks and sneakers. In that case, she will rest her socked feet in my lap. I love to massage her feet anytime, anywhere; I don't care who is watching.