What is the biggest attraction about tickling to you

[rearnakedchoke]

What's up people? Just want to get your thoughts on a couple of questions that ypu have have tossed around in your head once or twice.

What is it about tickling that makes you crave it? Can you put it into words?

For me I guess it's the power you have to make someone beg, scream, kick and just basically freak out without actually hurting them. I mean it definitely is torture but a friendly fun kind right. I mean your making someone laugh. Seems logical.

Or do you think this feeling is kind of a sadistic one that has deeper meaning? Personally I don't. I have no desire to torture anyone beyond tickling or say fun sexual teasing while in bondage.

Just thought I'd throw these few things out there to make you "sole" search a little. I would really like to hear whatever you have to say. I am some what new to this forum stuff.

It's great to have a community like this where you can share ideas about tickling without feeling like a freak.

Let's all give it up for the forum creators. Great job men.

 

[Myriads]

My 2¢:

From your post: "For me I guess it's the power you have to make someone beg, scream, kick and just basically freak out without actually hurting them. I mean it definitely is torture but a friendly fun kind right."

This is a Dominate outlook.

It's about having control over another, and being able to MAKE them do something they would not normaly wish to do with that power (In this case beg, scream, and kick). While the infliction of physical pain is not your bag, you are still inflicting distress upon your victim, and that falls into the outer areas of sadism.

I define myself as a sadist when it comes to tickling. And rather like that definition of myself.

 

[tklr5150]

Personally I've always favored the consensual sort of tickling. I suppose the big draw for me is that it's physical and fun, intimate without being overt, something that you can enjoy in all types of situation with all types of people, whether playing around or getting a little more intense. And there is something undeniably sexual about stimulating the most sensitive parts of a person's anatomy, albeit in a different way than is generally thought of. Plus, I get such a rush from the sound of laughter in general. There are probably hundreds of subconcious reasons and subtle nuances and such that I can't even begin to understand, but that's as good an overview as I think I can give.

 

[ktickler]

I just like the fun part of it...

Hi there:

For me, besides giving me pleasure, I just like having fun with it.

The part that I enjoy the most is to give pleasure to my tickling partner. I want the other person to enjoy the tickling game and to reciprocate the "favor" by tickling me back.

If the person does not enjoy it, I get frustrated and cannot procede. It is not fun...

For me, tickling has to be fun and enjoyable. It may lead to sexual pleasure (with the right person), but it has to be enjoyed by both partners.

Take care,

Knight Tickler

 

[Ayla ny]

there seem to be so many different takes on "what tickling does for you" from strictly friendly fun to something very sexual and s/m'ish. for me it is the latter but with a softer sensual side... here is my take on it.

being tickled: the loss of control, the 'zone' when you are just over that 'I can't take any more' line. the excitement of knowing that the tickler is enjoying it every bit as much as you are. also when you are being tickled it is awful hard to think about *anything* else.

tickling: having complete control over another person's senses (with no pain) and the rush that comes with that. the strong and immediate reaction of the person being tickled leaves absolutely no doubt of that power/control.

great question! I hope everyone decides to share their particular take on the whole thing 🙂

Ayla

 

[rearnakedchoke]

These are awesome responses. A lot of what you say is what I feel but may not have been able to put it into words as clearly. That's what I like the most about asking other peoples opinions. Thanks for the replys.

 

[MercilessOne]

I guess I'd fit into that group that likes the control part. For me the ultimate rush is the desperate hysterical reactions.For many a time I loved to tickle but would not submit to being tickled myself. One day I decided to become a better tickler it was time I took the plunge and submitted to a fiendish tickling myself. I would say on a scale of 1-10 I'm a 8 as a ticklee. There are some spots that don't have the slightest effect on me and others that are electric. The person who tickled me was a skilled Dominatrix in Nevada who didn't hesitate when I made my request. She was brutal! I learned then what it was like to be tickle tortured. She basically took me from an 8 to an 11. From that point on I knew what a ticklish person was experiencing. Along with that knowledge I also learned to Psychologically torture along with the physical aspect. Talking to your victim "overloads" their minds and in my opinion makes them more ticklish. To this day I stand by the fact that I am willing to submit to tickling after tickling someone. Within the past say 4 years I've tickled several Women who ALL were willing to get their revenge. It made tickling them more of an exciting experience and listing to them say"Ooooo you just wait!" is such a rush.

And really it's just plain FUN!!!

MO

 

[njjen3953]

As if Y/you A/all didn't already know this, i am with Myriads and MercilessOne, Sirs. i am a submissive, masochistic ticklee. i love the thrill of being sadistically tortured. It can be a sexual experience for me as well. Actually, it always is when i'm with my Master. i have never and will never seek revenge. That is just not my thing, but beware, i promise to make You want to seek revenge on me. WEG(Wicked Evil Grin)

jen
aka tklslvejen{GPT}

 

[Antonn]

Its Sexy !!!!

 

[jj82277]

Intimacy

one of the basic functions of sex is as a orm of tension release for a couple to ease conflict resolution. great sex is a function of emotional nudity. you are very very open and engaged when you are tickling someone who likes to be tickled, and when you are giving up control to someone to be tickled.

when you look at the interaction between ticklphile couples it lends itself to more intimate playful youthful flurtations for the durations of the relationship and when there is a disagreement or fight there is a more natural transition to the bedroom as a means of greasing over conflicts which is essential to longterm monogomy.

the power exchange that comes from intimate tickling is great for a relationship, it gives mutual assurance that both parties are enthusiastic about eachother beyond just the normal gyrations of intercourse and going to sleep.

 

[EmbraceSerenity]

Interesting responses and a great idea for a thread!

For me, its quite hard to put into words. Im not much of a tickler, although I do tickle the kids at the nursery where I work. I guess its just a social interaction that kids especially can really enjoy.

As for me as a ticklee, I love the way it feels. Tickling is just fun! I feel that when you're being tickled you feel vulnerable but its kind of a way of opening up, just being yourself. And when I've experienced it with boyfriends it has brought us closer, because its a part of being intimate.

 

[jj82277]

Interesting responses and a great idea for a thread!

For me, its quite hard to put into words. Im not much of a tickler, although I do tickle the kids at the nursery where I work. I guess its just a social interaction that kids especially can really enjoy.

As for me as a ticklee, I love the way it feels. Tickling is just fun! I feel that when you're being tickled you feel vulnerable but its kind of a way of opening up, just being yourself. And when I've experienced it with boyfriends it has brought us closer, because its a part of being intimate.

see, i love the closeness aspect. there is nothing to hide when being tickled (or tickling someone) out of your mind.

and it never ceases to amaze me the amount of ticklish executives and child care professionals on this board. next thing you know they are going to pave the keyboards with gold when you log on here. lol

great response, very informative.

and from the sig i take it that someone likes their underarms tickled

 

[Scinsor]

It makes me horny, then I have sex. Or jerk off, if I'm by myself. Thats it.

 

[so_last_summer]

Its the complete loss of control, the fact that I am at the mercy of whomever is tickling me. Its the same thing that attracts me to being tied up and sexually teased, but so much more so. The idea that someone can elicit laughing and squirming and kicking from me with just the touch of their fingertips excites me to no end.

 

[tickled7]

Tickler's Sadistic, Gleeful, Juvenile Impulse: Ticklee's Utter Abandonment Laughter

I'd say all the following and more:

Reading people's comments, you get a feel for the motivation behind this fixation -- a sort of sadistic, gleeful, juvenile impulse on the part of the tickler, a feeling of utter abandonment through laughter, tension and lack of oxygen on the part of the ticklee.

The person who tickles you and makes you mirthful with its associated laughter, not only meddles with your emotions but also plays with your bodily processes. When you joke and kid around, you make others' hearts beat faster, increase their circulation, change their breathing pattern, change the hormone and immune elements in their bloodstreams, and make certain muscles active and others relaxed, so they feel physically weakened.

Being tickled is both horrible and wonderful, like being punished and given a present at the same time.

Tickling breaks through the touch barrier.
At first tickling can be exciting and playful, but continued tickling isn’t exciting or playful at all.
Tickling involves submission, often the victim submits willingly at first and may even encourage the tickling. But after the first caresses the victim is not a willing victim at all. He or she is helpless with uncontrollable laughter. Frantic struggles ensue to escape the tickling. The humiliation of not being able to stop laughing is intense.

 

[Maestro1874]

Its the complete loss of control, the fact that I am at the mercy of whomever is tickling me. Its the same thing that attracts me to being tied up and sexually teased, but so much more so. The idea that someone can elicit laughing and squirming and kicking from me with just the touch of their fingertips excites me to no end.

If I say ditto, is that lame? This sounds like me, but a female version. Oh, and I'd list tickling someone else first but not by much. ;-)

 

[joeroberts]

It's the combination of both worlds for me. I enjoy my counter part being part of the experience. I like consesual fun tickling in the set up of a sadist maniac. As in I like to make my partner to kick, scream, beg etc. but bcos he/she wants to. I don't like the idea of tieing down some stranger and making them beg for mercy by force. I sppose we are all, in a way, softcore sadist.

Joe!

 

[subtle_feather]

The idea of control seems to weigh heavily in many of the posts on this thread, and it weighs heavily for me too.

Even at the most playful level, tickling can be viewed as a game of control. The ler plays by trying to make the lee react against his or her will, to force them to laugh and squirm. The lee plays by resisting the tickler's attentions until he or she can't anymore, then giving themselves over to the sensation, and then, perhaps, by being driven to beg for it to stop.

For me, especially as a "switch," this giving and taking of control manifests itself as a very special kind of intimacy. Of course, it can start as something playful between friends and never go any further than that. Adding things like length and depth of a tickling, bondage and sexual teasing increases the amount of control partners are exchanging--proving the depth of their intimacy, in a sense.

I think, to a certain extent, enjoying tickling can be a purely physical thing, but for me it takes on the dimension of extreme mental stimulation as well. The more intimate I am with someone I tickle, or with someone who tickles me, the more intense the experience--the more I become involved emotionally and intellectually.

For many of us, giving up or gaining so much control could only happen with someone whom we absolutely trust. I think some people who really love tickling and being tickled are capable of a kind of super-intimacy--a more immediate, visceral demonstration than emotions are usually allowed.

I think all of us like a fun, playful tickle. Like eating a snickers bar, it gives you a tasty frame of reference for those rare occasions when you eat something truly decadent.

Please pardon my rhapsodizing. This is a great thread!

 

[doctortickler]

What is the biggest attraction about tickling to you?

I've alway's thought of tickling to be a pleasant and sometimes a sexual thing that gives pleasure to whom I'm with at the time. Even if I'm tieing someone down to tickle them, if they're not enjoying what I'm doing then I'll stop and try something ells. Seeing someone enjoy the gentle and sometimes intimate stroking get's me going every time. Let's be honest, if someones enjoying them selves they'll want it to go on and on.

 

[Lord Doctor]

Liked the sensation. Since I did, I assumed others did too, so I also tickled as well as got tickled, albeit rarely.

 

[EmbraceSerenity]

see, i love the closeness aspect. there is nothing to hide when being tickled (or tickling someone) out of your mind.

and it never ceases to amaze me the amount of ticklish executives and child care professionals on this board. next thing you know they are going to pave the keyboards with gold when you log on here. lol

great response, very informative.

and from the sig i take it that someone likes their underarms tickled

Haha...yeah I have noticed that too, that many child care workers are ticklish 🙂 I wonder why that is!

And yes is it that obvious? 🙂

And although being tied up and tickled to hysteria must be a great experience, really intense (as i have never experienced it myself) I do enjoy the unrestrained kind of tickling. The fact that you are free to move but it doesnt help anyway!

 

[Sleepy Jean]

Yes Theresa, being tied up and tickled to hysteria IS a great experience. In fact, it's the GREATEST experience.

The biggest attraction about tickling for me? It's sexual. It makes me come.

 

[Sessy Laughter]

Not to echo the crescendo of answers so far, but I'll fall right in line on this one:

1. Control/Power - both giving and receiving have an intoxication associated with them that is hard to define but powerful to receive.

2. Laughter - when you are "getting some good" there is a guttural laughter that comes to the surface unlike anything else (IMHO).

3. Nature/Nurture - I was just wired this way. My Aunt used to tell stories of me trying to tickle her feet when I was barely 2 years old.

Thanks for all the answers so far.

 

[GuldenVleugel]

I like being in total control. I cannot think of the greatest tickling fantasy. One requirement has to be met though, she must enjoy it (or she must want it rather) as sometimes they're in such discomfort she wants it to stop, while afterward she's proud at herself. You know what I'm talking about, being tickled mercilessly (even though I'm a 'ler: I have been tickle tortured and I know how it is to lose control) at a point you want it to FINALLY end while your lers just can't have enough of your suffering.

One kind of sick fantasy I would never force my 'lees to do is notable though: tickling a girl while humiliating her by making her piss her pants or just pee on the floor. Or tickling a girl who's lactating and 'accidentally' milking her while she's laughing. It makes it seem more intense.
Of course I AM able to keep reality and fantasy separated.
Thus far the perverted side of Gulden.

All must be consentual or semi-consentual. 🙂

 

[jj82277]

how much control ever really switches places

i was watching a documentary today (as most can tell i do that a lot) on secret lives of women, fetishes, and there was an offshoot of bdsm mentioned. the interesting thing is that the sub in this case (the fetish was pretty detailed) manifested an emotional and sexual desire to be dominated and punished (in this case involving spanking) because of her childhood. she wa forced to grow op too quickly, didn't experience a childhood or daughter relationship to her father and this in turn created a need to feel as though she was being completley controlled or fathered by her sub taking away her control and the heavy burden of responsibility that she has had to carry for so long.

the interesting thing in the documentry is that she is by far the dominant one in the relationship. she is coaching her dom on how to be a dom. that just strikes me funny. even in the most helpless of her activities she is still fundamentally in control.

fast forward to us and this place is littered with SAMs or SALEE's however you want to call them. these are individuals that generally crave a sense of helplessness and have crafted their personalities around controlling and initiating their particular interest. and even through the most helpless or breathless of experiences they control when it starts and ends.

conversley, most lers her are cons-dependent on consensual participation. the desire for complete control of a situation and in some cases (mine) bondage of another person can be said to be derived from the desire to gain control and guidance that we may be looking for in the world and not be dependent on someones approval of our actions (hence they are tied up gaged unable to defend themselves what have you). but yet on a subconcious or concious level we still manifest the inherent addiction to approval making sure that what they experience is enjoyable.

so the question is that in consensual BDSM tickleplay how much control is actually switched and how much is the illusion.