I agree with what many of you have said, no hogties (I am surprised how many of us share this view) or other painful bondage positions, no suffocation or gagging, no prevention of using/disrespecting a safeword (that includes giving me a paragraph to recite perfectly if I want a break), and no overly rough tickling. To add to that list, I'd have to say I want no tickling whilst I am in water over waist depth (or underwater, which falls under suffocation lol), no tickling by animals, no friggen "cootchy coo" baby talk (verbal teasing is great, but I hate the babyish stuff, it makes me think of an adult-child interaction and that really creeps me out when I'm supposedly in an intimate situation *shudder*. That and it's damn annoying when your lover starts talking to you like you're a toddler lol), and no fixating just on one area *cough*feet*cough* whilst the rest of the (better) spots are neglected. No offense whatsoever to the vast amounts of people who enjoy these things, may you all do so to your hearts content. Just don't invite me to that party lol. I'm sure we all have lots more to add, there are so many ways to screw up such a trusting and intimate experience lol. Love is in the air... 
I hear ya all the way. I learned to love and accept myself and lost 113 pounds in the process. I finally found my body and respect it with my food choices and exercise so that it will allow me the freedom I desire.
