When they say "I don't like people touching my feet."

[EC4me]

Emily, on behalf of all of the gentlemen here, I apologize for Viper's behavior. He's an angry little fellow with a healthy dose of Napoleon Syndrome. You know the type. Tough talker. Insists he's "dominant."

Just do what the rest of us do. Have a chuckle and shine him on.

 

[Mephistopheles]

Emily, on behalf of all of the gentlemen here, I apologize for Viper's behavior. He's an angry little fellow with a healthy dose of Napoleon Syndrome. You know the type. Tough talker. Insists he's "dominant."

Just do what the rest of us do. Have a chuckle and shine him on.

He really enjoyed the ride on board of my truck. More people should do that, it'd make life much easier.

 

[ViperGTS]

Emily, on behalf of all of the gentlemen here, I apologize for Viper's behavior. He's an angry little fellow with a healthy dose of Napoleon Syndrome. You know the type. Tough talker. Insists he's "dominant."

Just do what the rest of us do. Have a chuckle and shine him on.

Oh man, you totally have me pegged!! I don't know how you did it, but you managed to see right through my scheme and drew the right conclusion!!

He really enjoyed the ride on board of my truck. More people should do that, it'd make life much easier.

Thanks for clearing the room on the passenger seat, by the way. XD

 

[-Hari-]

It would seem the disagreement/heated discussion, whatever you want to call it has actually come to an end for the people who were actually involved in it.

Definitely seems like an opportune time to continue with the original topic and for other members to not chuck more wood on this fire, let it die 🙂


Hari

 

[ViperGTS]

If the answer to not wanting their feet to be touched is because they are "too ticklish", I am fairly certain that they a) are being honest and b) had a bad experience with someone tickling their feet in the past.

 

[natural tickler]

such the lightning rod for trouble Viper.....LOL

 

[TMF Jeff]

such the lightning rod for trouble Viper.....LOL

only on-topic comments please.

 

[Mitchell]

Viper, I agree with what you said. Many times I've found that a girl would hate to be tickled, because maybe she was held down and forcibly tickle tortured by an older brother or sister as she was growing up, and such conditioned her to feel that tickling was a "bad" thing which she had no control over, instead of, as for most people on this forum, an activity of pleasure where a girl would ask her bf, husband, or such, to tie her down and tickle her.

Mitch

 

[Canadian_Eh]

... I ONLY brought this up cause I wanted Emily to know you're not the only one who's paralized with no nerve endings in your feet. So am I. I DO NOT WANT a ton of Pm's asking what happened, Or a ton of creepy questions about my feet. I ONLY POSTED THIS, To let Emily know she's not alone! - And that someone else knows exactly how that feels!

What she did, by openly talking about her disability to the entire forum, took alot of guts! - It's something that up until this thread, only a handful of people on here knew about me. So the next time someone says they don't want their feet touched, maybe instead of hounding them about why, respect it and move on to somewhere else!


-Emily if you ever wanna talk about anything, feel free to PM, anytime!

 

[Phineas]

I have arachnophobia.

So much so, that I can't even go into a room that has, say, someone's pet tarantula in an aquarium residing therein. I've been startled by stuff on TV (hello, jump-cuts!) and spent the next fifteen minutes curled up on the couch and waiting for the shaking to subside. I even had to get my friend to do my biology homework in high school the time we were studying a chapter on arachnids because I couldn't read the material for all of the pictures that accompanied it.

There's no reason for it. I was never, at any point in my life, traumatized by a spider. Hell, when I was around two or three, I loved 'em and read all sorts of books on 'em. But for some reason, as I got older, something changed.

Why? I don't know. I wish I could say it was because nothing natural should have that many legs, or eyes... but that's not it. I wish I could say the whole external digestion thing squicked me, but that's not it, either. I honestly don't know why the sight of a spider sends me under the couch. It just does.

And, that's all the reasoning I can give on the subject. It'll just have to be enough.

 

[EC4me]

I think there are any number of reasons that some women don't like to have their feet touched. If a guy is a gentleman, the reason won't matter, and no explanation would be required.

Pretty simple math, there.

 

[ViperGTS]

A phobia (from the Greek: φόβος, phóbos, fear or morbid fear), is an irrational, intense, persistent fear of certain situations, activities, things, or people. The main symptom of this disorder is the excessive, unreasonable desire to avoid the feared subject. When the fear is beyond one's control, and if the fear is interfering with daily life, then a diagnosis under one of the anxiety disorders can be made. ~ Wikipedia

Phineas, what I am saying is that a phobia, as irrational as it may be, isn't your fault and doesn't need justification. That's very, very different from someone who just immediately thinks, "Ewww, yucky!" simply because they don't know any better and don't want to be bothered with making their own opinion via personal experience, and just go along with whatever they were taught.

I don't know, I don't think I am eloquent enough to phrase my opinion properly. Maybe that's the source of all the frustration in this thread, lol.

 

[AislinnRose]

That's very, very different from someone who just immediately thinks, "Ewww, yucky!" simply because they don't know any better and don't want to be bothered with making their own opinion via personal experience, and just go along with whatever they were taught.

Well, I think feet are yuck. I'm about to be a nurse (May 2010!) and work with feet quite often. However, I do not like touching feet and do not particularly care for having my feet touched. Just because I don't like it, doesn't mean I won't do it.

However, it doesn't mean that in my free time I'm going to engage in it. Touching me with feet or touching my feet when I'm in a bad mood can send me into tears...just because. I'm a girl, I'm hormonal, I'm opinionated and *shrug* I said so.

Just because my kinks aren't your kinks and vice versa doesn't make me ignorant or close-minded. I have my likes and dislikes and feet just happens to fall into the "ick" category for me. Personal preferences are what they are. I don't have to have a reason, just like I don't expect you to justify why you don't like different kinds of food, or women who are built a certain way, or women over men. It just is. I don't like root beer. I don't like feet. *shrug*

Anyway, I ramble. My feet are not very ticklish at all (for the original thread) so it isn't to get out of having my feet tickled. I have many other places that are much more sensitive than my feet.

 

[Deusxlionxx]

My experience has led to believe that it is a waste of time to try to convert a women who makes a statement like that into one who enjoys foot play. Don't bother.

Interesting you say that.

A friend of mine actually had that happen.. His fiance was initially freaked when she discovered he loved foot play. Now the two of them seem to have nothing else to do but, well, THAT.

Turns out she absolutely loves foot play now. Massages, tickling, toe sucking... Everything in general.

I wasn't disagreeing with you, I just found it funny that it happened.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Yes, most of the time that is the reason why they don't like it. Others just think that feet are generally gross and therefore don't want them touched. I am not a big fan of reflexology myself, feels extremely weird!

Agree with Rhi for the most part. I've heard of reflexology but I am not quite sure what it's about. Can someone please explain?

 

[milagros317]

Agree with Rhi for the most part. I've heard of reflexology but I am not quite sure what it's about. Can someone please explain?

The theory of reflexology is that the nerves of every other part of the body are connected to the nerves of the feet, so you can relieve pain and other problems in any body part by stimulating the appropriate parts of the feet.

Personally, I have always regarded it as a great excuse to give long foot massages to women who will permit it.

Anyway, here is a reasonable explanation:

http://www.reflexology-research.com/whatis.htm

A typical reflexology chart is attached. 😀

 

[rockshock28]

she's probably ticklish, that's the general excuse.

 

[leafstk]

Personally, I have always regarded it as a great excuse to give long foot massages to women who will permit it.

Hahaha!!! Best explanation EVER!!! 😀

 

[Phineas]

Phineas, what I am saying is that a phobia, as irrational as it may be, isn't your fault and doesn't need justification.

...aaaand you don't see a parallel? An irrational fear isn't my fault and doesn't need justification, but an "irrational" dislike of something is someone else's?

That's very, very different from someone who just immediately thinks, "Ewww, yucky!" simply because they don't know any better and don't want to be bothered with making their own opinion via personal experience, and just go along with whatever they were taught.

I don't think it is. Very few people are actively "taught" that feet are icky. They just think they are. Or they're germophobes, like this one girl I know. Or they're simply of the sound opinion that they know in advance that they wouldn't enjoy it. Much like I don't have to go bungee jumping to know that I'd hate it because I feel much the same way about heights that I do about spiders.

I only think it's an issue to people around here because it indirectly condemns us for something we're into, and that it figuratively "closes us off" from sharing that with them. The only time I take issue with someone who doesn't like feet (or anything else, for that matter) is when they insist that because they don't like it, that nobody else should, either.

You really want to effect social change in this area, try lobbying for more positive representations of foot fetishes in mainstream media - and by that I don't mean the latest Tarantino flick.

 

[ViperGTS]

I'm not lobbying for social change, silly. 😛 But when the answer to "Why don't you like (X)?" is "I don't know", I hope you're ready for more questions from me.

(image and comment removed due to GR violation (sortof) - Viper)

 

[Angel77]

I'm not lobbying for social change, silly. 😛 But when the answer to "Why don't you like (X)?" is "I don't know", I hope you're ready for more questions from me.

Also, This:
**Viper's poorly-used image removed**


OMFG.................I fucking hate those things!

 

[Mephistopheles]

I have arachnophobia.

You're the first male I've seen in my life who has arachnaphobia. Interesting, I thought it only happened to women.

I like spiders. Alot. They keep the flies away and they awaken my inner 12-year old asshole when there are people with arachnophobia around. (grabbing the nearest spider and chasing people with them and stuff, no idea why I do that, it just happens)

 

[dvnc]

I'm not lobbying for social change, silly. 😛 But when the answer to "Why don't you like (X)?" is "I don't know", I hope you're ready for more questions from me.

Also, This:
**Poorly-conceived image removed**

Right now I'm REALLY not impressed with you, Viper. Irritated enough to feel socially distant, even. That was unnecessary, and I know this guy, so you're quite literally insulting a friend.

 

[ViperGTS]

Right now I'm REALLY not impressed with you, Viper. Irritated enough to feel socially distant, even. That was unnecessary, and I know this guy, so you're quite literally insulting a friend.

I'm sorry to hear that. But now this thread has 3 different posts with pictures of that very same spider in it, one of which is in yours. So I hope you're not too upset about re-posting the very same picture that your friend may or may not be offended by.

Because my post was, in fact, in poor taste, I will remove the picture from my previous post, and hope that both you and Angel77 will do the same, for the sake of your friend.

 

[dvnc]

If you're playing pseudo-nice, it's easy to reciprocate. Images are so easily removed.

Thank you for considering Phineas. When folks say they don't think something, to the level of phobic response, it's REALLY poor taste to taunt that. You'd be amazed how many people are folks who have befriended one or more of us.

BTW, I've no problem DECLARING a GR violation. I declared serious distaste.