Why aren't there more personals?

[kis123]

I cant do that. im pretty fussy. id rather do without that stray away from my standards.

Then stay by yourself while the rest of us get what we want. You're a big boy, it's your choice.

Just don't start complaining about what you're not getting-you make your own bed with your choices. You're obviously prepared to lie in it-alone!

 

[b0xr]

I am also from LI and the chances of finding a F/Lee here seem very slim..if any at all. I have been fortunate enough to have convinced my wife to let me tickle her after many years of marriage but before that I have also scoured the personals and other areas seeking a female willing to allow me to tickle them...without any luck. You might want to start looking into another forum such as submissive females. Although the S/m community usually looks down on tickling you just may find a girl willing to do "anything" for her Man.
Also..try the yahoo personals and do a search word for the word tickled. I think there is someone in there that may just be what you are looking for.
GOOD LUCK

 

[The Sean Man]

25 yr old single male wants any girl in my area to tickle. I like feet. Do you have feet? Me too. I've been looking for 300 yrs, why won't anyone answer?? This forum bites.

And don't forget this classic:

Hey everybody! I'm ______, and i'm new here. I'm an 18 year old female student who LOVES to be tickled. My most ticklish spots are my feet and sides. I'd love to hear from you, so feel free to IM me at ______________.

🙄

 

[maniactickler]

I think it just comes down to shit luck. some are, most arent.

 

[dvnc]

Nah, man. Ain't luck. At least, it ain't JUST luck. Ain't looks, neither. Just gotta peep my pic t'know that. I dunno what it is. I always figure it's somethin' women perceive that men just don't get. Dunno.

How ya treat folks, includin' your friends and fam, makes a diff.

How ya live.

Your interests.

Mind ya, if you're grotesquely outta shape for lack of effort and mightily hygenically challenged, it ain't gonna matter if ya can charm the socks off a nun. Stinky ugly is just stinky ugly, y'know?

It ain't simple. Would be easy if it was simple. Sure, pretty-boys get it easy. Lose it just as easy. It's complicated, like everything valuable in life.

What ya do and how ya do it must count for somethin', 'cause women I knew before used to say so. They used to tell me that bein' in shape mattered, even if you ain't beefcake (and I ain't). Used to say that giving a damn about their thinkings was wicked unusual, valued, and prized. I figure there's gotta be more to it, but them things are, or were, valued by many women I knew, friends and lovers.

Then again, maybe it's just the ones that date crazy white boys.

Another $0.02,

dvnc

 

[BellaRisa]

Nah, man. Ain't luck. At least, it ain't JUST luck. Ain't looks, neither. Just gotta peep my pic t'know that. I dunno what it is. I always figure it's somethin' women perceive that men just don't get. Dunno.

How ya treat folks, includin' your friends and fam, makes a diff.

How ya live.

Your interests.

Mind ya, if you're grotesquely outta shape for lack of effort and mightily hygenically challenged, it ain't gonna matter if ya can charm the socks off a nun. Stinky ugly is just stinky ugly, y'know?

It ain't simple. Would be easy if it was simple. Sure, pretty-boys get it easy. Lose it just as easy. It's complicated, like everything valuable in life.

What ya do and how ya do it must count for somethin', 'cause women I knew before used to say so. They used to tell me that bein' in shape mattered, even if you ain't beefcake (and I ain't). Used to say that giving a damn about their thinkings was wicked unusual, valued, and prized. I figure there's gotta be more to it, but them things are, or were, valued by many women I knew, friends and lovers.

Then again, maybe it's just the ones that date crazy white boys.

Another $0.02,

dvnc

It's most definitely not luck, though of course that always plays a part. I can tell you straight up the guys here who will never have their ads or PMs or IMs answered:

Those who constantly talk about their 'standards', which even the most beautiful girls here would feel that they couldn't live up to.

The guys that are mean-spirited in their posts-fellas, girls do look to see what you've written besides your ad.

The guys that seem to have zero personality and don't care if we have one, all they want is a body to tickle. Not appealing, sorry.

And the whiners who are always saying how they can't find anybody here and no one ever talks to them. We assume their must be a reason, wouldn't you?

DVNC is absolutely right, it's how you present yourself.

Though being a crazy white boy can help...

Bella

 

[kis123]

It's most definitely not luck, though of course that always plays a part. I can tell you straight up the guys here who will never have their ads or PMs or IMs answered:

Those who constantly talk about their 'standards', which even the most beautiful girls here would feel that they couldn't live up to.

The guys that are mean-spirited in their posts-fellas, girls do look to see what you've written besides your ad.

The guys that seem to have zero personality and don't care if we have one, all they want is a body to tickle. Not appealing, sorry.

And the whiners who are always saying how they can't find anybody here and no one ever talks to them. We assume their must be a reason, wouldn't you?

DVNC is absolutely right, it's how you present yourself.

Though being a crazy white boy can help...

Bella

Amen sista'!!!

Your last post was simply priceless!! Even though it was funny, it was astonishingly true. Maybe if folks would stop concentrating on what they want in their world and concentrate on what another person may be looking for in them, maybe better ads would be written, more thoughtful posts made, and maybe, just maybe they'll find that partner.

 

[Ayla ny]

As someone crazy in love with a man I met on this forum, I figure I’m qualified to chime in.

Express yourself. Post to the threads that interest you and make your thoughts, feelings and opinions known that way. Makes it so that the prospective ‘lee kind of gets a feel for who you are before contact is even made.

Go to gatherings and munches. That way, when you do pique the interest of someone, with what you have had to say, they will feel comfortable contacting you. Being a known entity makes you safer. Especially if the people you meet there think well of you.

I was the one to initiate contact with everyone I have met and played with, and it was because they did both of the above. They showed qualities that made me want to know them more. Ended up with some extremely cool friends and the man I am going to spend the rest of my life with because of it. 🙂

(the capital letters are for you, Bella. 😉 )

 

[maniactickler]

It's most definitely not luck, though of course that always plays a part. I can tell you straight up the guys here who will never have their ads or PMs or IMs answered:

Those who constantly talk about their 'standards', which even the most beautiful girls here would feel that they couldn't live up to.

The guys that are mean-spirited in their posts-fellas, girls do look to see what you've written besides your ad.

The guys that seem to have zero personality and don't care if we have one, all they want is a body to tickle. Not appealing, sorry.

And the whiners who are always saying how they can't find anybody here and no one ever talks to them. We assume their must be a reason, wouldn't you?

DVNC is absolutely right, it's how you present yourself.

Though being a crazy white boy can help...

Bella

You forgot to mention some parts of the country are just dead for women ticklees. Mass being one of them.

 

[Softstroke]

And the whiners who are always saying how they can't find anybody here and no one ever talks to them. We assume their must be a reason, wouldn't you?

You really shouldn't pick on the whiners because you can't relate to what they go through. Think about what it's like for them: you spend your whole life with a tickling fetish and no one to share it with. You try everything to find somebody who shares your tickling fetish but nothing works. Then, you come on one of these sites and read about all these true tickling adventures people have had and you get so envious of them you feel like crying.

I can vouch for these people because I'm one of them. You, however, are not. So what do you know?

 

[jim66e]

You really shouldn't pick on the whiners because you can't relate to what they go through. Think about what it's like for them: you spend your whole life with a tickling fetish and no one to share it with. You try everything to find somebody who shares your tickling fetish but nothing works. Then, you come on one of these sites and read about all these true tickling adventures people have had and you get so envious of them you feel like crying.

I can vouch for these people because I'm one of them. You, however, are not. So what do you know?

She seems to know that whining will not get results from personals. Shes not saying the whiners are bad people, just that their attituede will not get them the results they want.

 

[BellaRisa]

You forgot to mention some parts of the country are just dead for women ticklees. Mass being one of them.

Not true, I've known several very nice and cute 'lees in Mass. In fact, Magic Touch was based there for years, and while Jeff was paying the young ladies for their time I promise you that there are/were Mass ladies who love being tickled by the right person.

Bella

 

[maniactickler]

Not true, I've known several very nice and cute 'lees in Mass. In fact, Magic Touch was based there for years, and while Jeff was paying the young ladies for their time I promise you that there are/were Mass ladies who love being tickled by the right person.

Bella

Hmm...paying for it? i think you may have hit the nail on the head! time to start saving!

 

[dvnc]

What's really depressing is hearing, ten years later, how there's no women in [insert named location here].

I heard that about EVERY state. About England. Canada. Australia.

It simply ain't true.

I or one (or more) of my peers have met women from EVERYWHERE in this country. NEST even solved the question, LONG ago, 'cause Max was wiley enough to put up a map. Bein' me, I watched where the womens were puttin' their mark. Was reassurin' t'see a few states I ain't visited were represented.

Now, let's add to this - does your town really rock so seriously that you gotta stay right there? I ask this, 'cause you hear Ayla talkin' 'bout her man, and he ain't from there. Bella's man ain't from Bella's current location. Etc., etc. One of the great advantages of bein' fully grown is the ability to relocate. I already did this.

Now if you can find someone whose HEAD fits your world, whose behaviors jibe wit' you, and is interested in ya, do ya REALLY care if they live in the same tiny part of the country as you?

I mean, really?

See, I've met many women here. I wasn't the right man for many of 'em. Didn't have to be. Met one who fit me, and married her. Meet one. Take a good long time to get to know her. Let her get to know you. Lose the "show you my best side" thing, so she KNOWS you. Encourage her to do likewise.

This is where IM is useful, 'cause you can get to KNOW someone long before you eyeball 'em. For us old guys, this is useful 'cause many of us actually got wise to appearance bein' a chump deal. I'd take a woman whose head and heart were inna right place LONG before I'd sweat whether or not her mug oughta be on magazines. Ain't met many magazine-pretty types whose heads were anywhere near me.

As for payin' for it, that's not a solution, ain't ain't what Bella was sayin'. Magic Touch found women willing to be tickled in Mass. without a great degree of difficulty. If you can learn to treat a woman well, some will play without even bein' INTO this. If you can learn to exchange (even somethin' as simple as bein' orally skilled) then you have a partner who's gonna feel they won, 'cause they play silly tickling games, you sing their praise, and give 'em mighty orgasms. It's not rocket science, y'know?

As for whiners, I'm a guy, I ain't pretty, and ain't delicate and sensitive to any serious degree, and I found folks into this. Found women who'd play OUTSIDE of this forum before I started West Coast Gatherings. Found a LOT more after running those, and flyin' around the country visitin' other gatherings. Helluva swell holiday. You're not LISTENING to the woman. She's tellin' you, from a female's perspective, that they don't dig hearin' that story. They don't post whinin' about bein' manhandled, talked about like an object, tickled poorly, bruised while tickled, not contacted afterward, ignored, criticized by some simian for not bein' movie-star lookin', etc. They ain't got it any better.

They're just holdin' their digital tongue. If you actually start talkin' to the women here, you hear much of the same refrain. Worse, actually, sometimes.

Then you hear women who click wit' some man. Who connect. They sing the praises of this forum, 'cause USENET was NEVER this easy.

I had thought we all learned, much younger than this, that complaints without solutions have little value. While you do your fellow man a favor, it's only 'cause complainin' removes you from the competition. Think on this a bit. Do you want to be removed from this competition to meet a partner, here?

Now you know Bella will pipe if I ain't hit everything dead on. I rely on it. Just dig what the woman's sayin'. It will help.

Yet another $0.02,

dvnc

 

[BigJim]

Which makes $5.68 so far. 😀


Seriously though D, good post. Apt and to the point.

 

[BellaRisa]

Hmm...paying for it? i think you may have hit the nail on the head! time to start saving!

Um, maybe. It's sad, but some of the guys who make the kinds of posts I've mentioned earlier will simply never take the time adjust their attitude ( or their ads), and frankly it's a rare young lady who wants to spend any of her time with such negative and shallow young men unless she's compensated. Right or wrong, can't say I blame them. Interestingly, all but one of the BellaRisa models so far have been friends of mine that loved being tickled *before* they met me, in fact that's how I knew they were ticklish. Folks here can tell you that the girls have attended tickling gatherings here and in other states as well as meeting 'lers for private play. And this is OHIO, where guys scream that there is no fun and there are no 'lees . Right, tell me another

I will never, *ever* say that finding someone is easy. It's a pain for vanillas, a bazillion times harder for us. All I'm saying is that it is indeed very possible, many of us here are proof, and to be blunt one's location and kink are rarely the true reasons no one wants to meet them. Think about it.

Bella