Why do you respond to party/event threads when you can't attend?

[BrightEyes1082]

I couldn't help but notice that in a lot of these event threads,
so many people respond that they can't make it, or that they
would come if they didn't live 3000 miles away. Why do you do
that? I personally find it obnoxious. I don't really care who isn't
come, I care who is coming, at least when it comes to my events.

Just sayin.

 

[SoleSearcher]

I couldn't help but notice that in a lot of these event threads,
so many people respond that they can't make it, or that they
would come if they didn't live 3000 miles away. Why do you do
that? I personally find it obnoxious. I don't really care who isn't
come, I care who is coming, at least when it comes to my events.

Just sayin.

You absolutely read my mind. Good call. 😉

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I respond that I can't come if it's something I would typically go to, or that I had previously said I'd be going to - like a local munch, for example. It also gives me a chance to say how awesome the munch is and encourage new people to go.

I wouldn't respond to like, a Texas munch and say I won't be there. That's kind durdadur in my opinion.

 

[rhiannon]

I'd say for some people it's how they deal with their regret that they can't come!

 

[Comfort Eagle]

For the lulz.

 

[FlockOfSeagulls]

No big deal ... Pretty much every thread on the forum with moderate responses has posts that are off topic or diatribe/ private jokes between two individuals. Its become the norm and expected to be truthful.

 

[sasaxrah]

I respond that I can't come if it's something I would typically go to, or that I had previously said I'd be going to - like a local munch, for example. It also gives me a chance to say how awesome the munch is and encourage new people to go.

I wouldn't respond to like, a Texas munch and say I won't be there. That's kind durdadur in my opinion.

This, exactly. I responded to Bella's saying I couldn't make it because that would be an event I would ordinarily go to. I didn't respond to a Texas munch thread because I don't live in Texas and don't need to let everyone know that.

 

[baldadonis]

This isn't anything I would normally mention, but since you raised the issue I will. I personally find it irritating when I look in an event thread and find that half of the responses are from people who obviously could not possibly attend the event, but tell everyone they aren't coming anyway. It's not a big deal, certainly nothing I'd make a big stink about, but as an event organizer, I'm interested in keeping track of who can and cannot attend among people who actually ever had the means or intentions to attend.

Now obviously it is different when someone who usually comes to an event from far away, announces they won't be coming. That is actually being posted for the benefit of the organizer and the other guests who may have an expectation that that person will be attending. However, if you don't have a history attending an event, and there is no reason you could go, no matter how awesome the party may be, making a post saying, "I wish I could go but I'm on the other side of the country" is really only being made for the benefit of the poster himself. It would just never occur to me to reply to a thread about a gathering in Southern California to say I wish I could go.

Anyway these are my usual thoughts when I see these posts. Wouldn't normally comment about it, but since you asked, there ya go.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

This thread sounds like fun. I wish I could respond to it , but unfortunately , I won't be able to this time around. Maybe next time. 😀

Have fun , everybody!

 

[maniactickler]

I just like to let everyone know. some people plan their events around me.

 

[april]

Simply put, were jelouse lol!

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Thanks for the responses, everyone 😉

 

[goddess_nemesis]

I couldn't help but notice that in a lot of these event threads,
so many people respond that they can't make it, or that they
would come if they didn't live 3000 miles away. Why do you do
that? I personally find it obnoxious. I don't really care who isn't
come, I care who is coming, at least when it comes to my events.

Just sayin.

Maybe some people truly wanted to go, but can't so they expressed it in the thread. I don't really see a problem since those threads get drowned with multiple posts of inside jokes and all anyway.

I haven't done so in the past, but I did respond in Bella's thread that I wished I was able to go but that I can't. I originally planned on making Bella's my first gathering, but circumstances changed to the point where I'm going to MTP instead.

I truly do wish I could go to Bella's because I would love to meet everyone who is going. 🙂

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Honestly, babe, I do it sometimes because I notice a lot of the ones I love are linking up in the same thread. So if I wanna say something to them that I know they'll see, I post it there. Like I almost posted in Bella's birthday thread, but didn't because I don't know yet if I'm going.

If it's someone who continuously does it, like in the same thread over and over again, that drives me a little nuts.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

It's always driven me nuts when people just reply "Oh I can't go,
but have fun!" Maybe I'm in the minority. But it's still irritating.

 

[RobAce]

Oh, I cant respond to this thread, but you all have fun posting in here okay! 😀

Rob

 

[BlackestLily]

Yeah I've noticed this to. What really gets me is when you ask someone if they are going and they respond, "Will you pay my way?" or "Is someone going to help pay?" I even see in threads like NEST, "Well I WOULD go, but I have no money. Someone should pay my way. 😉"

Yeaaahhhh. Most of the people going can barely afford themselves. Unless you have friends who PRE offer to pay for you, or REAALLLLY want you there and say, "Don't worry, I got the hotel on this one" THEN STOP SAYING IT. RAAWWWWRRRR.

 

[maniactickler]

If Crystal is there, i shall come.

 

[Lord Doctor]

I suppose its because the subconscious hope that the situation may change and there is always that million to one chance that someone will reply saying "Hell, no worries, mate, I'll give you a lift."

 

[goddess_nemesis]

Yeah I've noticed this to. What really gets me is when you ask someone if they are going and they respond, "Will you pay my way?" or "Is someone going to help pay?" I even see in threads like NEST, "Well I WOULD go, but I have no money. Someone should pay my way. 😉"

Yeaaahhhh. Most of the people going can barely afford themselves. Unless you have friends who PRE offer to pay for you, or REAALLLLY want you there and say, "Don't worry, I got the hotel on this one" THEN STOP SAYING IT. RAAWWWWRRRR.

I've said that once or twice though through other means like PMs than the thread themselves, but always in a joking manor. I know that would never happen, but sometimes people rather joke appear happy than be sad and admit they can't go because they can't afford it. We all wish we had the dough to go, but rather than be a Debbie Downer, they'll joke about it. At least that's what I think.

 

[chrisheaven]

I live a considerable distance away from the origin of this thread- otherwise I would respond to it.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

Yeah I've noticed this to. What really gets me is when you ask someone if they are going and they respond, "Will you pay my way?" or "Is someone going to help pay?" I even see in threads like NEST, "Well I WOULD go, but I have no money. Someone should pay my way. 😉"

Yeaaahhhh. Most of the people going can barely afford themselves. Unless you have friends who PRE offer to pay for you, or REAALLLLY want you there and say, "Don't worry, I got the hotel on this one" THEN STOP SAYING IT. RAAWWWWRRRR.

I've never seen this side of you before.

 

[DLazarus]

I couldn't help but notice that in a lot of these event threads,
so many people respond that they can't make it, or that they
would come if they didn't live 3000 miles away. Why do you do
that? I personally find it obnoxious. I don't really care who isn't
come, I care who is coming, at least when it comes to my events.

Just sayin.

In my case it is a way of showing that I support the effort being made to bring people together for the event.
It is frustrating to me and some others that practically all of the events are so far from us that we can never attend. I can't afford a plane ticket to another state and many others can't either.

Just my two cents.

 

[sasaxrah]

It is frustrating to me and some others that practically all of the events are so far from us that we can never attend. I can't afford a plane ticket to another state and many others can't either.

Check out the gatherings section. There might be something near you. If not, why not start a munch scene yourself? Everyone who has ever done so saw the need, did a minimal amount of organization, and made it happen. 🙂

 

[BlackestLily]

I've never seen this side of you before.

LOL Shutup, you see it all the time.