Would you give it up for true love?

[Bugman]

Knight started a thread in tickling discussion about the one who got away,and it got me to thinking.

If you met someone who was perfect for you in every way but was not ticklish or hated being tickled,would you stay with that person?

That happened to me years ago,and looking back on it i made a horrible mistake.In every way but tickling Kris was my soul mate,the love of my life,and i shall never she another like her.

I was to blind to see what i had at the time,and it sometimes makes me wish i had been born without this silly love of tickling.

 

[slacker2114]

She may have seemed perfect in every way, but soul mate? Don't you think your soul mate would at least be understanding, if not share, that aspect of your life as well? Just my thought on it.

Besides, to thine own self be true. The one person you will always have to live with throughout your life is YOU. You are who you are and to try and change that to make someone else happy is going to inevitably make you unhappy somewhere down the line. But again, that's just how I see it. I've been wrong before.

 

[Leo tickles]

Yes, I would.

 

[P[a]pi]

No, cus not being able to do what I want to do to her would drive me insane, or at the very least make me angry and unsatisfied.

But, I don't think I could fall in love with a girl who wasn't into tickling anyway. I have both now (love and tickling) and I'd never go back.

 

[cloudgazer2k]

nope, never, not happening. came too close once, and never again.

 

[Iris]

yes... for the moment I actually am staying with the non tickling one I love but in the mean time I myself am going to have all the tickle fun I can!!!! who knows... my sole mate might be right here on the TMF 🙄

 

[Tamia78]

Yeah, I would totally give it up for the love of my life. I mean, it's great if I found someone into tickling, but it's not my life. If that's the only problem he has.......I consider myself lucky.

--T

 

[AffectionateDan]

I instinctively wanna answer "No" to this. Fortunately for me, I don't hafta choose. I get to have my cake and tickle her, too. But seriously, if I were single again, there's no way I'd go back to vanilla after havin' lived the sweet life. Am I spoiled? Hell yeah. Plan on stayin' that way, too. Mine!

This is a part of who I am, and how much of a bond would I share with someone who couldn't accept this about me?

 

[Saeria]

I don't really know just yet, honestly. My personal experiences that i've had with this may very well have been unusual. I spent a number of years with someone i wanted to love (long story.. ). For quite a while i never made a single mention to it though in the back of my mind i wanted to believe that maybe one day i would grow some nads and say something. Of course, in my ever so popular better late than never fashion, i finally said something to him after we decided to call it quits and his reaction was one akin to horror in which i was likened to someone into beastiality. I don't want to put myself in that position again.
Maybe it sounds shallow, maybe it sounds harsh but i simply couldn't see myself being madly in love with someone who couldn't at least accept my interests and be willing to give it a shot.

 

[baldadonis]

I have to say no to this. Firstly, I've realized that tickling is too much a part of my personality. Its not like a lightswitch I can turn off or a passing fad. It'll always be with me. If I'm with someone that at the very least is not accepting about tickling, then she isn't perfect for me anyway.

 

[Oblesklk]

If you met someone who was perfect for you in every way but was not ticklish or hated being tickled,would you stay with that person?

Without a moment's hesitation.

When I was 18, I had a very simple choice to make: choose to give up everything I held dear at the time, to have a chance to be with the one I was meant to be with, forever.

To this day, more than a decade later, I've not regretted that decision at all.

That happened to me years ago,and looking back on it i made a horrible mistake.In every way but tickling Kris was my soul mate,the love of my life,and i shall never she another like her.

I was to blind to see what i had at the time,and it sometimes makes me wish i had been born without this silly love of tickling.

Regret is the heaviest weight of all. I sincerely hope you're finding what you seek today 🙂

 

[Adam]

I have to say no to this. Firstly, I've realized that tickling is too much a part of my personality. Its not like a lightswitch I can turn off or a passing fad. It'll always be with me. If I'm with someone that at the very least is not accepting about tickling, then she isn't perfect for me anyway.

Yes, this i the way I feel as well. Don't get me wrong. I want to fall in love and spend my life with someone someday, but relationships are a two way street. I'm sure I'd have to make some concessions and I'd hope the lady I'm with can do the same. If not, I wouldn't feel as though this lady is the one for me.

 

[Alphaboy85]

yes, i would stay with her. i would try to explain her that i need to live my special interests. most girls i met understood that. but i wouldnt end a relationship that works well.

 

[dskodj]

She may have seemed perfect in every way, but soul mate? Don't you think your soul mate would at least be understanding, if not share, that aspect of your life as well? Just my thought on it.

Besides, to thine own self be true. The one person you will always have to live with throughout your life is YOU. You are who you are and to try and change that to make someone else happy is going to inevitably make you unhappy somewhere down the line. But again, that's just how I see it. I've been wrong before.

your not wrong slacker..you almost took the words right outta my mouth! change for no one..the end. if the person your with doesnt love you for who you are, then they aint worth your time, energy and life..bottom line and common sence. theres so many folks on here i see time and time again questioning their tickle fetish.."is it right?" "is it wrong?" blah blah blah..

thats the influence of corporate masses plauging them...to hell with them. you have a tickle fetish, its part of who you are sexualy..if the other dont like it or cant at least accept it, they are FAR from your "soul mate". i used to be many moons ago (almost seems like another life ago) like alot of folks..trying to change themselves for others..but i wised up over the years.

if more people thought for themselves and was themselves, the world wouldnt be so wacked, and realtionships/marrages would be more succesful. will this ever happen though? doubtful. 🙄

 

[drnkntklr]

I don't know that there is necessarily a true love. It's more along the lines of "best suited", and what i mean by that is that among all of the people you find, no one is perfect so you find one that is "best suited" for you. If tickling is such a major part of your life, then the person you want to share the rest of your life with must be able to indulge you in it in some way, otherwise you gotta prioritize and go from there.

 

[goddess_nemesis]

I'm kind of torn. I want to say no, I wouldn't give it up, but I don't really know until I'm actually in that situation.

I would think when you're in love and you truly honestly believe that person is your true love, your soul mate that you and that person would be able to share every aspect of your life, including what turns you on. If they're the one, then they would be able to try it and to share it with you.

I know of at least one person who had been a member here, but left after he met his now wife because she didn't approve of his writings here. He gave this up for her and I know he's happy with his decision.

Some can do it and be happy with their decision. Others can't, but are happy with that decision. I don't know if I could give it up. I love tickling and being tickled, and I don't know if I could be happy without it.

 

[Bugman]

She may have seemed perfect in every way, but soul mate? Don't you think your soul mate would at least be understanding, if not share, that aspect of your life as well? Just my thought on it.


She did try Slacker,she really did try to understand my needs and even let me tickle her a few times.I saw however how unpleasent it was for her,and thus i could not enjoy it.Had things worked out otherwise i could have lived without it,i have most of my life anyway.😉


I won't get into the reasons things ended with us,except to say it was my fault,not hers.Thanks everyone for your input.

 

[tcklft]

No way, Jose. How can I find contentment (much less happiness) when I'm suppressing a vital part of my character? I've tried it and it sucks.

 

[cloudgazer2k]

though i have already replied to this thread, here is how i see it:

love is a fucked up thing, but it's glorious as well. in those tender beginnings, two people learn how to love and respect one another. how to handle the little things, the baggage, etc.

eventually, when two people love each other enough that they want to spend the rest of their lives together, there's compromises. she gets to keep that damned lighthouse collection, he keeps his tickling interests. it's all about understanding and working through things. interests being shared are a must in any relationship. sure, not ALL interests are shared (unless yer a dude that happens to like knitting, more power to ya), but one can understand the other better if the core interests can be linked together.

some people on this forum have given up their core interests, and some have even stated how it's caused a strain in the relationship. i'll say this now: as gorgeous, intelligent and overall awesome as my girl is, if she hadn't been willing to understand my quirks as well as she does now, it would've been over years ago. but i have taken the time to understand her core interests so that she knows i don't want her around just for a tickle toy. i have learned how to enjoy some of her hobbies, and i could not be happier.

compromise and understanding, fellow posters. everything takes time and patience. as long as you can learn to enjoy some of your significant others hobbies and quirks, he/she may take the time to understand and enjoy yours.

 

[kered]

To be honest, Buggy, yes I would. If I could again find what I had over twenty-five years ago all my time would be devoted to her.

 

[Bugman]

To be honest, Buggy, yes I would. If I could again find what I had over twenty-five years ago all my time would be devoted to her.

I hear ya brother.Strange,its been about that long ago i saw Kris for the last time.A lot of water has passed under my bridge since then..sometimes,it almost seems like the whole thing happened to someone else,and in many ways i suppose thats true.

 

[tickledorange]

Is it possible that tickling can become less important than it used to be after you fall in love with someone? Like a feeling that there are a lot of great things about this person and tickling has nothing to do with any of them?

 

[kered]

Is it possible that tickling can become less important than it used to be after you fall in love with someone? Like a feeling that there are a lot of great things about this person and tickling has nothing to do with any of them?

I think so.

 

[tulipangel]

I married a man who is not into the life style (and for me it is a life style)... My next relationship MUST be with a lee/ler.....

I would never give tickling up for anyone and I wont live a life with someone who isnt into it.

My soulmate will either be open to me being tickled or tickling others or he/she will tickle/let me tickle them.

 

[Bugman]

Is it possible that tickling can become less important than it used to be after you fall in love with someone? Like a feeling that there are a lot of great things about this person and tickling has nothing to do with any of them?

Indeed.Thanks Orange.🙂