WTF??! (Drunken Rant of a Mistress On The Edge)

[steph]

I'm not sure either honey.

You know when I was in high school, I didn't feel the usual teenage pressure to "join up." Can't explain it rationally, I just didn't care. I was a cheerleader but for the most part, didn't run with the cheerleader crowd. I had friends in all the groups~jocks, the socials, gear-heads, stoners, nerds, "drama fags"...I had a blast!

In high school, you're supposed to be part of a clique. I couldn't accept that. And how ironic, right? By refusing to commit to a label, I had, in effect, created my own clique. Those who weren't part weren't shy in their disapproval. Fast forward some 25 years... (yikes!)

When I came here, the place was much smaller and I was SO lucky (or maybe luck had nothing to do with it 😉 ) to connect from the get-go with long-time beloved members like Knox and then again location-wise thanks to the tip-off from dvnc, I was lucky enough to get to know IRL NEST legends Terro, Jan, big Dan~it was and is, all so very surreal to me. All I felt was acceptance and comfort. In an attempt to start over from a more honest place, I didn't pretend I was someone else. I told my story. I thought I'd be judged but for the most part I wasn't. The people here embraced me and I am forever grateful.

I never felt I was part of any "clique" here but judging from some of the hate mail I get, apparently, some feel otherwise. Mostly I ignore them. Like I said, my best advice? Be happy and grateful for the friends you've made here, ride it out. Things will chill in a few weeks, you'll see.
XOXO

Yeah, I've been here awhile, seen some stuff, didn't really understand it. Much like I'm confused as hell about what's being "outed" and where the hell these "cliques" are...

 

[Comfort Eagle]

In high school, you're supposed to be part of a clique. I couldn't accept that. And how ironic, right? By refusing to commit to a label, I had, in effect, created my own clique. Those who weren't part weren't shy in their disapproval. Fast forward some 25 years... (yikes!)

In High School I didn't run with a clique. I mean, thats mostly because there were only 2 cliques, and those were the yuppies and the nerds (magnet school...) but I was mostly just "that guy". Talk to people, have some fun, then went away. Kinda like a celebrity. Popular for awhile, then you just want them to piss off...

But that's neither here nor there. I just hope people can just take it easier and just enjoy the site for the reason we all came in the first place. Kinky tickle action.

 

[kis123]

Well. I think we see a lot of this every summer don't we? Temperatures are hot, tolerances are lower, there's a lot of stupid kids with too much time on their hands out on summer break, stirring up trouble, both here and IRL. Breathe deep friends, one more month and I think you'll see things return back to normal (whatever THAT means, round here!)
XOXO

And (some of) the people said:

AMEN!!!!!!!!

I was thinking the exact same thing and am glad someone brought it up. Every year around this time there's the same complaint and by about Fall, it manages to balance out.

I haven't been around very long, but long enough to know that things come in cycles and waves around here and if you just hang in there long enough your ship comes in.

I'm learning (although seemigly slowly) that this is a forum with highs, lows, peaks, valleys, and other stuff just as in real life. The good news is you really don't have to endure it if you don't want to. You can leave and come back when the rivers of change are more to your liking. Real life doesn't give you that luxury.

 

[Capnmad]

I was thinking the exact same thing and am glad someone brought it up. Every year around this time there's the same complaint and by about Fall, it manages to balance out.

I'm guessing it's at least partly cyclical, but I don't know if I'd be so sure that we could put a reliable schedule on it by any means... Here's a thread I started regarding the mood cycle of this place when things seemed to hit a bit of an ugly patch in January, though judging by the level of response, it was a much less widely-held sentiment than the mood issues we face now.

 

[Capnmad]

Concerning mood: I think we're also all suffering from severe Venray withdrawal. I miss the old coot.

 

[NavelTickler75]

I can undestand the distrust of cliques and whatnot, epsecially on the net, where they can be truly vicious and mean because they think they have anomonyousity behind them, and its a shame people do that too.

I for one accept people for who they are, new, old, I might not agree with your personal philosophy, but I can still get behind most people who want to be accepted.