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Kids who tell parents "You have no right to come in my room"

I saw the same thread, and had similar thoughts. I agree with you.
 
IMO, i believe that a parent should act in the best interest of their child. However, i also believe in respecting a persons privacy. Should a parent violate that privacy? Yes, but only in the most dire of situations. When i hear about parents who reguler search their childrens rooms, or go through their diaries, not because of any particuler reason, other then they feel they should know everything and anything about their child at all times, i seriously question the relationship that parent has with their child.

As a child, if my parents did this, i would not respect them, because they obviously have shown no respect for me as a person.
 
Cosmo I agree with that too. But to say that a parent has "no right" I think is going a bit too far. It gives an impression of entitlement that needs to be curbed, I think.
 
I lived in my mom's house until I was 23 and began paying rent right around the time I turned 18. No matter what the circumstances, I would never have dreamed of telling my mother to "get out" or that she had "no right" to be in there. I'm 25 old and I would still never dream of talking to my mother like that.

My mother never invaded my privacy and has always been very respectful of me, so perhaps that has something to do with it. Regardless, I can't imagine a scenario where I would speak to her that way.
 
Chrisums said:
Someone mentioned that if the person is over 18 years of age and their parents come into their room unannounced, they should tell them to "get out" and that they have "no right" to enter the room like that.
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Like you said: If they're paying rent, it's a totally different story... But if they're living there for free, then that's the time to start chucking their stuff out into the yard and tell them to take a hike.
 
Chrisums said:
In my own home, completely and independently cared for myself, I would depending on the circumstances. But in order for it to come to that they would really have to cross a line that I was not comfortable with and have no intention of stopping upon realizing that I was uncomfortable with it. I don't really see that happening, so it isn't really a concern.

But, as LD says, this is due to a particular sense of entitlement that I did not feeling living in my parents home. I did not feel entitled to the same privacy and rights to that household as I do now.

On the same account, it kills me when I hear freshmen in college who talk about doing what they want when they want (while free-loading at home mind you. Again- this is null and void if they pay rent and/or have their own place they independently take care of) regardless of what their parents say because they are 18. Their parents have "no right" to tell them what to do. Fair enough, but at the same time their parents have no responsibility to take care of them after age 18. They doing it purely out of the kindness of their hearts, which those kids seem to take for granted.
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Yeah - I find most kids (spare me the "you're a kid yourself" crap plzkthx) I come across need a good solid bitch-slap.
 
Skipadeedoodah said:
Yeah - I find most kids (spare me the "you're a kid yourself" crap plzkthx) I come across need a good solid bitch-slap.
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You're a kid yourself...


Kid. 😀


But I agree. A lot of younger folks these days have a sense of entitlement that is just unREAL.
 
asutickler said:
Like you said: If they're paying rent, it's a totally different story... But if they're living there for free, then that's the time to start chucking their stuff out into the yard and tell them to take a hike.
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This. My mother always said "Rights are for people who pay rent". Hell, I once asked her whether she'd read my diary if she ever found it; her answer: "YUP, cover to cover, so hide it well." :shock: We do believe in giving our children as much privacy as we can, but we'll also go into any room in this house that we damn well please especially if we sense a need to investigate (drugs, live goat slayings, etc). If our children are old enough for that to be a real issue it's probably time for them to be on their own anyway.
 
She can come into my room all she wants, but I'd prefer it if she didn't go through my stuff...
 
imo if ya living at home and an aduly paying rent or not parents should not have a right to come in ya room and go throught ya stuff even if ya younger i feel tha same way
 
Coming into the room is one thing. Looking through personal belongings, unless a parent suspects drugs, etc, is another.

My father used to do this to be all the time when I was younger. I only lived with him til I was 19, but.. in my pre teen and teen years, he would always come in my room, and start pulling apart my closets, saying "I'm going to clean out your closets". Such used to annoy me, because I had my personal writings,. about feet and tickling in there, which I didnt want him to see.

I was always a good kid. I never drank, smoked, or took drugs. I think he used to rip through my closets out of control. One thing I was thankful for is that once we left him, my mother never did that. If she wanted to see something in my clothes closet, or wanted me to show her something, such as maybe to know what piece of clothing to buy me as a gift, she would ask me to open my closet, and I would get the stuff out.

I'm the type who wouldn't just rumage through my children's things, unless I had reason to suspect weapons or drugs. It doesnt matter that I'm paying the rent or mortgage for them. I feel that they have rights, that should be respected. The fact that they are younger than me, and that I pay for them, doesn't change that.

Mitch
 
When I was 15, I was really depressed and wrote about it in my diary. I left it unlocked on my bed. My mom sensed something was wrong, read my diary, and put me in therapy. She obviously violated my privacy twice. When she told me, I felt really betrayed and as angry as I've ever been. But she did the right thing. Kids shouldn't feel like they live in a communist state, but if a parent is concerned they are justified in snooping.
 
Chrisums said:
I've always wondered about this. I saw someone mention this in a topic on the tickling board and it got me thinking about something.

Someone mentioned that if the person is over 18 years of age and their parents come into their room unannounced, they should tell them to "get out" and that they have "no right" to enter the room like that.

Now, I was blessed as a kid with a father who believed greatly in privacy, so this was rarely an issue. However, I also knew that I in no way contributed towards the paying of rent, water, power, etc. As a child (pre-18) he had a legal responsibility to take care of me, etc etc, so I could have in some way brought myself to say that if I really felt it, but after 18 I never once considered saying such a thing.

To me it seems like it would be the opposite- when you hit 18 you are living there simply out of their love for you/good graces. By all rights you are a GUEST in their home; aka, it is not your room but their room which they are lending to you. The items within the room may belong to you, but the room itself as well as the house is theirs, and they have the right to do whatever they like to it.

Of course this is assuming you don't pay any form of rent. Now, I'm REALLY curious what other people's takes on this might be.
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I paid rent since I was 15 and had to buy my own food, I never had the right to tell my stepfather to "get out" of my bedroom, he liked to snoop and was very open about it. He wouldn't allow me to put a lock on my door either.
 
If a child feels their parents have no right to come into their room unannounced, that is because the parents have lost a battle by allowing their child to exhibit that attitude of entitlement. It really should be a non-issue, because one should be able to trust their parents to where you wouldn't be flying off the deep end just from their wanting to come in. That speaks of other problems, such as the child HAVING something to hide, or perhaps the parents ARE way too far up their kid's ass. I don't think it's a "rights" issue, though. Your parents brought you into the world. Thus, they are the alpha dogs, and children need to respect them. If the parents are deadbeats not worthy of respect, then THAT is the issue, not an issue of rights. Even if you're 18, possibly paying rent, what have you, why would you choose to live with someone you didn't trust in your "fortress of solitude"?
 
Flatfoot said:
If a child feels their parents have no right to come into their room unannounced, that is because the parents have lost a battle by allowing their child to exhibit that attitude of entitlement. It really should be a non-issue, because one should be able to trust their parents to where you wouldn't be flying off the deep end just from their wanting to come in. That speaks of other problems, such as the child HAVING something to hide, or perhaps the parents ARE way too far up their kid's ass. I don't think it's a "rights" issue, though. Your parents brought you into the world. Thus, they are the alpha dogs, and children need to respect them. If the parents are deadbeats not worthy of respect, then THAT is the issue, not an issue of rights. Even if you're 18, possibly paying rent, what have you, why would you choose to live with someone you didn't trust in your "fortress of solitude"?
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The idea that your parents need to be respected because they are able to pro-create is nauseating. Respect may only be garnered on their ability to parent. It's not a case of having something to hide, if I have my own private space I don't want it to be violated when I least expect it or when my back is turned. I have my own place now, and I would never intrude on my parents by simply showing up whenever I like without calling first, that's respect.

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Also, the idea that it boils down to the choice of either allowing your parents to snoop or being homeless is disgusting.
 
we all have rights, under the law especially at age 21 so technically we can tell them stay out!!.
 
love feet said:
we all have rights, under the law especially at age 21 so technically we can tell them stay out!!.
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Not on the property that they own you don't. All it boils down do is simple law. They have the right, the LEGAL right, to go anywhere and everywhere in THEIR house that they choose. You have no right whatsoever to tell someone to stay out of a room that you occupy in THEIR house. Your parents are your parents. You respect that. Period. You don't like the fact that they can do what they want in their house, then it's time to move. As a grown individual, you should have your own place that you pay for, put power and water in, buy food in, and clean up. Then you can tell someone to stay out, cuz the lease/deed is in your name.

I don't get where this entitlement crap is coming from. Your age is just a number. If you are immature and idiotic enough to believe that your age supercedes their legal right in their own home, then you were dropped on the head one too many times. Your house/apartment that you pay for is treated the same way. They come over, they have total respect for YOUR home that YOU pay for. But THEIR home that THEY pay for, that THEY pay for utilities, that reflects THEIR credit, is their house. Your room is a part of their house. That's the bottom line. Get over it and grow up.
 
love feet said:
we all have rights, under the law especially at age 21 so technically we can tell them stay out!!.
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I'm not sure how it is in Canada, but if you're living in someone's house here in the USA and you don't have a rental agreement... Then you can't tell them squat.

I don't get why this is even an issue. If you're old enough to be out on your own and you don't want your parents snooping through your stuff, then you should really just move out. :shock:
 
asutickler said:
I'm not sure how it is in Canada, but if you're living in someone's house here in the USA and you don't have a rental agreement... Then you can't tell them squat.

I don't get why this is even an issue. If you're old enough to be out on your own and you don't want your parents snooping through your stuff, then you should really just move out. :shock:
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And that, my friends, is check and mate!
 
asutickler said:
I'm not sure how it is in Canada, but if you're living in someone's house here in the USA and you don't have a rental agreement... Then you can't tell them squat.

I don't get why this is even an issue. If you're old enough to be out on your own and you don't want your parents snooping through your stuff, then you should really just move out. :shock:
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I was speaking US law!
 
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