A tickling and sex situation...please help me.

[TheFlyingV]

I'm 18 and a virgin of all trades.

I had a friend come over, and we have a history of sexual tension. She's always been one to enjoy tickling me, so we started lightly and ended up doing a lot of tickling. Eventually, she started tickling me on my penis and balls, which felt great and it made me get erect, as she was using both her hands and feet at various times to tickle me there. Finally she has me take off my pants, and the little bit of tickling turns into a blowjob. My first blowjob. And you know what? I had trouble getting hard from here. She noticed and told me not to be so nervous, so I did my best, but it was like I could barely feel it. She tried for like 30 minutes and I wouldn't get hard enough.

A couple of hours after she had left, I touched myself to see if the problem was still occurring. To my surprise, I could barely feel my penis when I touched it.

I guess what I'm asking is...is it possible that so much tickling to my penis could have caused the desensitization that followed, which led to my inability to be erect for the blowjob? I feel mortified not being able to get hard, because a blowjob is something I've yearned for for ages (as one might expect out of a virgin). She should be coming back next week to try again, and I guess I just need some peace of mind to hold me over until then.

Thanks.

 

[No_Style]

I don't think tickling can do that...there have been cases with woman too who can't feel any pleasure from down below...so I'm not quite sure.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Probably not, you might just have ED. Or a horrific case of performance anxiety.

See a doctor. Now.

 

[Flatfoot]

Given that you're young and a virgin, your equipment's not really "primed", so a whole bunch of weird stuff like that can happen. I wouldn't worry too much. That'll just give you both performance anxiety. With all the tension, I wonder if it could've been some sort of blue-balls, blood-pressure fiasco, where you ended up somehow going numb. Hopefully, no broken blood vessels, or anything (Don't wanna scare ya!). Do you think you could have possibly ejaculated from the intense foreplay beforehand and not realized it? Something else to consider is that (I'm not trying to be mean or talk trash!) she may have not used enough mouth pressure, or worse, she may not be very good at it. It could also be that since you've fantasized about head for so long that the feeling didn't quite match up to what you thought it would feel like. Anyway, like I said, it could be any number of scenarios. I would be most concerned that I didn't break any blood vessels. Have you checked to make sure you can "take care of business" on yourself since the incident? I don't know if over-tickling can cause desensitization to erotic sensations, since the feelings are different, but I could be wrong. If your stuff still seems to be working okay, just chalk it up to a fluke instance and try again.

 

[TheFlyingV]

Well I've been able to get erections since then, so I know that it wasn't an issue like that. We only went probably two hours total of tickling, so I doubt that there was anything like that. I know that I didn't ejaculate at all. I have not masturbated since, but this is because I want to save up my tension and pressure for when we meet this week.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

I want to save up my tension and pressure for when we meet this week.

Doesn't quite work like that, I suggest testing out your equipment before going to the show again.

 

[TheFlyingV]

Alright, I did so. I am able to function completely.

 

[Smuggy Bear]

Alright, I did so. I am able to function completely.

I think it may be stage fright dude, if your gear seems to be working fine on its own. I'm not gonna lie, it happened to me the first time I got a blow job... there were a shit ton of people standing around at a party when I was 15, and all my friends egged this chick into giving me a blow job. At about the time they started chanting "deep-throat," that's when things started to uh... go down... It was SO embarassing!

ANYWAYS, don't feel bad, just relax and enjoy yourself next time! Also, like flatfoot said, there's also the possibility that she's just not very good at fellatio. Either way, I don't think it was that the tickling desensitized you, bro. I mean, I could be wrong because everybody is different, but I've never experienced such a situation personally.

 

[LD_Tickler]

Yeah, weird shit happens. Don't worry about it, it was just nerves. It'll all be good next time.

 

[Deleted member 2452]

speaking as a nurse, and a guy..

Probably not, you might just have ED. Or a horrific case of performance anxiety.

See a doctor. Now.

this was excelent advice. you are only 18? and couldn't get an erection when orally stimulated? this is not normal! seek medical advise, like from a urologist.
good luck my young friend.
steve

 

[TKL_M28_LI_NY]

I think you have a FETISH; by definition, it means you can't get aroused without it.

Have tickle you at the same time.

 

[Libertine]

calm down

Your only problem is age/inexperience. 'It' works now, you've proved it. Have a glass or two of wine with her next time she comes over (no more than that) and see what a compete Fuckmonster you turn into.

Edit!! I forgot you puritanical barbarians have to wait until you're 21 to drink. OK, have a shower with her instead.

In their ordinary daily lives, girls often manage to get their breasts incredibly grubby, and the application of a fair bit of shower gel to them by you as you share a nice cleansing stream of comfortably warm water is necessary for good mammarial hygiene.

You'll both find the side-effects of this treatment to be fascinating and mutually beneficial.

 

[GQguy]

You're normal buddy. No worries. you don't have ED. You don't have burst blood vessels!

You're a virgin in all ways right? And you give yourself self love right? Well you are your own best lover. You know exactly what you need to get off. Having a woman touch you is weird at first, especially since she's young too with little experience. As you get closer to her she'll learn what gets you off.

As for blow jobs, I didn't like them at your age. It was "too soft". Well, a few dozen women later and I realize that some are good at it and some are bad.

When I was young hooking up with a girl for the first time was a stressfull experience! As i've grown and become more comfortabel in my own skin sex is now always great regardless of my partner. So as you hook up with this girl more often you'll become more comfortable and you'll be able to enjoy the sex better. As you get older and more sexually experienced you'll be more comfortable having sex with new partners.

You'll be ok buddy. Time. Many of us have been there before.

 

[TheFlyingV]

^Thank you. I don't quite understand those telling me that I have ED, since this is the only time I have to chalk it up to. I am going to hopefully have more luck in a few days time. And if not, I at least still had a wonderful sexual experience regardless.

 

[ChicagoDavid]

Just add me to the list of people who say you should NOT think you have ED. Only after a bunch more consecutive misfires with different women would I even think about that. Worrying about whether you have ED would just give you performance anxiety.

 

[Static]

I think the tickling is what gets you erect. Next time try getting gickled and getting the blowjob at the same time, or within a small window of each other

 

[c7_assassin]

Dude, don't worry. I promise, you do not have ED.

Your first time is always an embarrassing fiasco. It's sort of a right of passage. The idea that you should be able to magically get hard just because someone is interested in your dick is a myth. You have to get used to how everything feels, and there has to be trust, and you have to not be nervous (which isn't possible when it's your first time).

See her again, turn out the lights, and I'm sure it'll turn out differently next time.

 

[seanwoj]

Hey man, believe us all, you're perfectly ok. Its just your nerves goin off on you.
just breathe, relax, and be calm.

I remember my first time. I was nervous too, but eventually I got to the point of handling it all like a pro.

Just give it time, and you'll see.

 

[ticklemee]

Take it slow. She should give you a slow handjob and build up the sexual tension and then let you orgasm and let you relax. Then you do the same to her. Get to know each others body and what makes each other happy and lets both of you relax around each other. If you still have a problem with a numb penis, seek medical advice. Good luck !!!

 

[JUICEBOX]

Personally i think you just blew your load, it does take time to reset the fuse,.and from her advancements in the sexual department sounds like tensions have eased up.
So relax next time you two are together i,m sure you will be a sexual dynamo..but always remember play safe.