Bold or just weird?

[jd58]

This one is probably more for the ladies to answer
Here's the scenario your sitting out in public by yourself wearing sandals or flip flops when an attrative guy out of the blue walks up and says"nice feet are they ticklish"?
total stranger to you.

Do you get up and walk away without saying anything or
do you humor him and give him an honest answer?

 

[BellybTickler]

I'd take out my mace and give him a face full.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Weird as fuck.

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

The problem with men in general when it comes to our efforts to pick up women is that we expect a single "line" to somehow convince the woman to have sex with us, or in our case, to tickle or be tickled by us. 99.9 percent of the time, a "pick up line" is not going to work. Even if a woman thinks it's cute or funny, she's not going to just collect her things and let us lead her back to our place so that we can engage in tickling or sex. Women are very expressive with their words and of course are much more in touch with their emotions than men are. The way to convince a woman to like you enough to let you tickle her will come from engaging in lengthy conversations with her, not just a one-liner that is halfway clever.

 

[primetime]

Funny how the question is really for women to answer, but men have answered it so far. Hate to break it to you fellas, you don't have the mind of a woman. They could very well like the thought of some super attractive man asking them that. Now, I know there will be some women (I'm thinking of a particular poster as I write this...) will say they wouldn't answer the question, but I think a lot of women wouldn't mind. The guy is asking a question, not asking for sex right there in public.

Hey fellas, pose the question to you. If a very attractive woman came up to you and said, "Hey there, do you like to tickle?" what would you say? Would you walk away or answer the question?

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

Funny how the question is really for women to answer, but men have answered it so far. Hate to break it to you fellas, you don't have the mind of a woman. They could very well like the thought of some super attractive man asking them that. Now, I know there will be some women (I'm thinking of a particular poster as I write this...) will say they wouldn't answer the question, but I think a lot of women wouldn't mind. The guy is asking a question, not asking for sex right there in public.

Hey fellas, pose the question to you. If a very attractive woman came up to you and said, "Hey there, do you like to tickle?" what would you say? Would you walk away or answer the question?

To your first paragraph, no one is stopping the ladies from answering. I wish they would answer. The men who have answered so far, including myself, are just making educated guesses.

To your second paragraph, of course I, and probably most other guys on this site, would LOVE it if an attractive woman approached us and asked us about tickling. But if your point is that this means women would react similarly, I have to disagree. Women are not gay men. There's a reason that gay men can pretty much have sex with other gay men anywhere and everywhere simply by tapping their foot the right way or using other signals. It's because men are wired to want sex as much as possible with as many partners as possible. If women were like that too, our species would die out because we'd all be having so much sex all the time that we wouldn't take time to eat and we'd all starve to death. That's why I think that it's a mistake to analogize women to men in this sort of question. Women and men are clearly wired differently when it comes to sex.

 

[primetime]

To your first paragraph, no one is stopping the ladies from answering. I wish they would answer. The men who have answered so far, including myself, are just making educated guesses.

To your second paragraph, of course I, and probably most other guys on this site, would LOVE it if an attractive woman approached us and asked us about tickling. But if your point is that this means women would react similarly, I have to disagree. Women are not gay men. There's a reason that gay men can pretty much have sex with other gay men anywhere and everywhere simply by tapping their foot the right way or using other signals. It's because men are wired to want sex as much as possible with as many partners as possible. If women were like that too, our species would die out because we'd all be having so much sex all the time that we wouldn't take time to eat and we'd all starve to death. That's why I think that it's a mistake to analogize women to men in this sort of question. Women and men are clearly wired differently when it comes to sex.

But, the question asked in the 1st post is not a sex question. Tickling and sex do go hand in hand, but tickling does NOT necessarily equal sex. The question posed is if her feet were ticklish by a very attractive man. My guess is women who find the person asking the question attractive would not be offended by the question. Now if the same attractive man asked "Your body makes me hard, can we have sex?" there's where you get a whole different spectrum of answers.

 

[proud2tickle]

i would just pull out my penis and then ask to tickle her feet

 

[Phineas]

But, the question asked in the 1st post is not a sex question.

Yeah, actually it is - to a woman.

My apologies, 'cause I'm not a woman either... but I've heard enough of them talk about this kind of topic that I have a pretty good idea of how they'd react.

Firstly, if a guy walked up to a woman and asked her this question, she will immediately assume it's a come-on. Why? Because A) he paid her a compliment ("nice feet"), and B) expressed an indirect interest in touching her - because otherwise he wouldn't have asked her that particular question.

Now, what happens? Let's toss "attractive" out of the equation, because "attractive" is relative; a guy can think he's hot stuff, but the woman has to agree. Otherwise, he's not attractive to her, no matter how lantern-jawed he may be. After all, she could be into squishy effeminate guys or something.

On second thought, no; let's not toss "attractive" out of the equation. If the guy is attractive to her she might be more inclined to humor him, or react positively to his come-on. After all, it's a pretty well-documented fact that good-looking guys get away with a lot more shit than ugly guys. But, and here's the kicker; simply by asking that question he may go from attractive to unattractive in her eyes, shooting himself in the foot before he even gets out of the gate, pardon the pun.

Anyway, in my experience, women get defensive when a complete stranger walks up to them and expresses a desire to touch them before they even know his name. Even if they "humor him" and answer the question, they're probably just making nice and hoping he'll go away, no matter how much they're smiling. Smiling is a tension defusing gesture (ref: any book on body language you care to read) that indicates "I am not a threat. Look, I'm deferring to you." that keeps the situation from escalating.

Is what I just typed indicative of all women, everywhere? No. Some may take it as a compliment, or even play along. But here's the thing; why are you asking? If it's just because you're one of the dozens of creepy ticklers who gets off on pointless "polls", great. Get your answer, go home, and jerk off to your heart's content. But, if you're asking her in the hopes of getting some action, know that the chances of that happening are almost exactly nil. She will assume it's a come-on, and the conversation will probably be over very quickly. Even if it isn't, talk is probably all you'll get. At the risk of sounding sexist, a lot of them have no problem winding up a random guy to boost their own ego, but when it comes to delivering on that promise, she'll just go home to her boyfriend instead.

Actually, after pondering it for a bit longer (always happens after you hit Submit, don'tcha know) chances are, if she's into you and all you want is a quick tickle, you may even get it - although most of the time it's because they cave to pressure pretty easily and do stuff they don't really want to do - but hey, you got what you wanted and moved on, so who cares? (That last bit may or may not be sarcasm. I'm still trying to decide, myself).

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I haven't ever personally known a woman on who it'd work... but I have seen other guys who'd be able to pull it off. They're not the norm, though (and by virtue of having to ask this question, you're not one of them); and usually I have women offering me their feet by the end of our first date. Although that's a bit different; I'm not a complete stranger by then.

Your best bet is to just be friendly, charming, not overly-focused, and let her decide the level of interaction she wants to take. Charging right in will probably get you zip.

 

[Phineas]

The less bitter types will be more open to answering, but you had better be a pretty captivating guy to avoid sliding onto the creepy scale.

I'd just like to add that the "more bitter" types may answer you also, even if they find you creepy. They'll just complain about you asking after you leave. But again, if the answer is your entire goal, then why would you care about that?

 

[primetime]

Yeah, actually it is - to a woman.

My apologies, 'cause I'm not a woman either... but I've heard enough of them talk about this kind of topic that I have a pretty good idea of how they'd react.

Firstly, if a guy walked up to a woman and asked her this question, she will immediately assume it's a come-on. Why? Because A) he paid her a compliment ("nice feet"), and B) expressed an indirect interest in touching her - because otherwise he wouldn't have asked her that particular question.

Now, what happens? Let's toss "attractive" out of the equation, because "attractive" is relative; a guy can think he's hot stuff, but the woman has to agree. Otherwise, he's not attractive to her, no matter how lantern-jawed he may be. After all, she could be into squishy effeminate guys or something.

On second thought, no; let's not toss "attractive" out of the equation. If the guy is attractive to her she might be more inclined to humor him, or react positively to his come-on. After all, it's a pretty well-documented fact that good-looking guys get away with a lot more shit than ugly guys. But, and here's the kicker; simply by asking that question he may go from attractive to unattractive in her eyes, shooting himself in the foot before he even gets out of the gate, pardon the pun.

Anyway, in my experience, women get defensive when a complete stranger walks up to them and expresses a desire to touch them before they even know his name. Even if they "humor him" and answer the question, they're probably just making nice and hoping he'll go away, no matter how much they're smiling. Smiling is a tension defusing gesture (ref: any book on body language you care to read) that indicates "I am not a threat. Look, I'm deferring to you." that keeps the situation from escalating.

Is what I just typed indicative of all women, everywhere? No. Some may take it as a compliment, or even play along. But here's the thing; why are you asking? If it's just because you're one of the dozens of creepy ticklers who gets off on pointless "polls", great. Get your answer, go home, and jerk off to your heart's content. But, if you're asking her in the hopes of getting some action, know that the chances of that happening are almost exactly nil. She will assume it's a come-on, and the conversation will probably be over very quickly. Even if it isn't, talk is probably all you'll get. At the risk of sounding sexist, a lot of them have no problem winding up a random guy to boost their own ego, but when it comes to delivering on that promise, she'll just go home to her boyfriend instead.

Actually, after pondering it for a bit longer (always happens after you hit Submit, don'tcha know) chances are, if she's into you and all you want is a quick tickle, you may even get it - although most of the time it's because they cave to pressure pretty easily and do stuff they don't really want to do - but hey, you got what you wanted and moved on, so who cares? (That last bit may or may not be sarcasm. I'm still trying to decide, myself).

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I haven't ever personally known a woman on who it'd work... but I have seen other guys who'd be able to pull it off. They're not the norm, though (and by virtue of having to ask this question, you're not one of them); and usually I have women offering me their feet by the end of our first date. Although that's a bit different; I'm not a complete stranger by then.

Your best bet is to just be friendly, charming, not overly-focused, and let her decide the level of interaction she wants to take. Charging right in will probably get you zip.

Here's what's hilarious. You are not a woman are you? You can't answer for a woman, just like I can't. Nice try. Good analysis though. The thing we have to remember is, as much as we men like to think we're the sexual ones who have urges, women ALSO have sexual cravings. Are they as "outgoing" with sex as men are? Not necessarily. But believe me, women can crave sex just as much as we men do. Do all of them? Of course not, just as not every man craves sex. So before us males chime in with our answers for women, how about we let the women themselves answer the question.

So how about it women? If an attractive man comes up to you and asks you what the OP mentioned, what will be your reaction?

 

[Phineas]

Here's what's hilarious.

Is it possible for you to contribute to a discussion, any discussion at all, without coming across as pissy, bitter, and dismissive? I opened my post by stating that I was speculating based on my own discussions with actual, real-life women. Did I say word one about women not craving sex, or that we men were the only ones who had urges? No, I don't believe I did. You want to talk about hilarity? You go on to do the exact same thing you found "hilarious" about my post and "analyze" womens' sex drives.

As hilarious as it is to you, though, you can't refute anything I have to say in my post, can you? If a woman pops in and tells me I'm completely wrong, I'll eat my hat. Complete with pictures.

Yes, women crave sex. But I think you'll be hard-pressed to find any of them who'll jump on any random stranger, attractive or otherwise, who simply walks up to them and skeeves over their feet.

 

[primetime]

Is it possible for you to contribute to a discussion, any discussion at all, without coming across as pissy, bitter, and dismissive? I opened my post by stating that I was speculating based on my own discussions with actual, real-life women. Did I say word one about women not craving sex, or that we men were the only ones who had urges? No, I don't believe I did. You want to talk about hilarity? You go on to do the exact same thing you found "hilarious" about my post and "analyze" womens' sex drives.

As hilarious as it is to you, though, you can't refute anything I have to say in my post, can you? If a woman pops in and tells me I'm completely wrong, I'll eat my hat. Complete with pictures.

Yes, women crave sex. But I think you'll be hard-pressed to find any of them who'll jump on any random stranger, attractive or otherwise, who simply walks up to them and skeeves over their feet.

Did I hurt your feelings or something? You can man up any moment now....

My reply to you wasn't meant to get you all wound up. Chill for a second and pay attention to the message. Your first post was hilarious because you are speaking for women. In fact, the reason I posted in this thread is because the OP asked women for their opinion, then all kinds of men popped in with their responses on how a woman would react. It's no real secret that men and women think differently. You can use your speculation all you want based on your discussion with real life women. But I too can use my experiences with women. I grew up with women. I am always around women whether it is family, at work, etc. Notice I did NOT answer the question to the original post.

Now, let's look at your post again. The tone of your post is that women will react negatively to the OP's original question. You say women get defensive when a stranger comes up to them and wants to touch them. Let's be real. Women react quite differently when an attractive male approaches them, than your average joe. Depending on how this guy approaches them, that question can come off as a flirt. As much as people say "lines don't work on women", apparently they do because men keep doing it. If the guy shows up, smiles, and is displaying charm, the woman may not get defensive at all. If he shows up holding his dick in his hand and has a lustful look in his eye, attractive or not, she may get defensive.

The question basically is, if a random attractive male stranger approaches out of the blue and says she has nice feet and asks if they are ticklish, how would the woman react? Some people on this forum equate tickling with automatic touching in other's eyes. A twist to the attractive guy asking would be, "Nice feet, are they ticklish? I ask because you take great care of them, and I heard pedicures can be torture." Now, is the guy automatically saying he wants to "touch" her feet? People assume the worse when the topic of tickling comes up early in the interaction of people. Some people seem to think tickling can only be discussed once there is some kind of deep meaning relationship between the parties.

Look at your last post. You are thinking the worse about that type of introduction between people. The guy asked if her feet are ticklish, not "Can I tickle you please?". I know plenty of women who would not be freaked out over the question if an attractive man asked them that upon introduction. I have a friend who absolutely loves the actor Channing Tatum. She would not freak out over that question because 1) She doesn't see "feet" the same way as a foot fetishist does and 2) It's Channing freaking Tatum.

In other words, let's find out what women on this forum think. My opinion on how they would react could be completely wrong. Then again, I am not stating that ALL women or even MOST women would react negatively. Men posted in this thread that women would react negatively, I am putting it out there that those reactions may not necessarily be accurate.

Now, are your panties unwound enough for you not to take things so personally? You don't like me, that's fine. I laugh at your bitterness. But my previous posts were not a shot at you. Chill man...my goodness..

 

[The Last Laugh]

Asking the women here on the TMF will produce biased answers. It seems pretty obvious to me that women who find tickling perfectly normal and enjoyable, enough to be members of a ticklish fetish website, are much more likely to be comfortable with the the "bold or just weird" question than the average vanilla woman. So even if only women replied to this thread the feedback wouldn't represent the feelings of women as a whole about this issue.

In any case, I don't think telling random women they have nice feet and asking them if they're ticklish is a good idea at all. It's likely to make a lot of them quite uncomfortable, even if they don't always show it.

 

[rhiannon]

Okay...just HOW attractive are we talking here? 🙂

But anyways....to be honest I don't know how I would react. Yes, of course, I won't try to deny that the difference between flirting and sexual harrassment usually is how attractive you find the person doing it, but still I am not absolutely sure that I wouldn't feel uncomfortable if the question just came out of the blue like that. It is weird, be the person attractive or not.

 

[nice.1]

Depends on the person? Anyone ever seen California beachfeet there's thousands of pictures of candid womens feet so there's a good chance that they would answer politely but there's is also a good chance that they would tell you to mind your own business. As I said depends on the person too difficult to speculate!

 

[SpiffyTickler]

Did I hurt your feelings or something? You can man up any moment now....

He's right. You do come off as an insufferable douche. Do everyone a favor and tone it down.

 

[primetime]

He's right. You do come off as an insufferable douche. Do everyone a favor and tone it down.

Oh, I'm sorry... Now that you mentioned that to me, I feel so bad... Can I be forgiven, strangers on the internet? I am such a bad person....

How about you comment on the topic at hand considering my posts deal with what the OP started? No one ever stops to think about I am reacting the way I am because of how YOU are coming off when I read these threads.... And if I come off as an insufferable douche, as you put it, that's your opinion.

I like Rhiannon's answer. Thanks for participating in the thread...Also nice.1 made a good point as well..

 

[rhiannon]

Thanks for participating in the thread

You're welcome.

By the way, if the person just said "You have nice feet", leaving the tickling question out of it, I probably wouldn't be uncomfortable at all, because it's just a compliment.

The tickling question though, like someone already mentioned here, implies that the person is looking for touching, and that is - at least in my opinion - what makes it weird in the end.

 

[Bohemianne]

Some of the gentlemen in this thread made valid points...

"nice feet are they ticklish"?

Not meant to offend, but for a total stranger, I find this short inquiry bland and intrusive. Something graceful and creative is missing in the line...

 

[LadyNerd]

I can actually answer this question from experience, for the most part, though my instance was of a sarcastic nature the first time, and a surprise the second from two co-workers I basically know. Ignoring what happened, as it doesn't pertain to this so much as my reaction did, if some guy who I happened to find attractive came up to me, and by some miracle I was wearing sandals or flip-flops, which wouldn't happen anyway and thus makes this issue null and void, I would immediately be surprised and confused. My answer would probably be, "Who knows?" with a shrug and maybe a hand grabbing my phone to place in my lap while everything else I was holding was placed in my bag.

However, I am a fairly suspicious person, and random compliments are not something I'm used to. Saying that, I'm told I'm feisty by nature, so I'd still give at least a sarcastic comment to such a person. Besides, if someone I found attractive came up to me and paid me a compliment, I would also be looking around wondering where his friends were hiding so they could laugh.

All in all, I highly dislike the thought of my feet being touched, so I would probably never wear sandals or flip-flops again if this type of thing happened on the one day I decided to wear them. I would probably also be walking away once he had no more to say to me, which I doubt he would with an opening line like the one he fed me.

 

[desdemona]

Body language speaks volumes....

SOooo.... would I have noticed he's attractive? I would normally be sitting there, reading something, not looking up at the person in question. My reaction would be based on tone of voice first, body stance/attractiveness second.

I'd say my first reaction would be embarassment and I'd be self conscious, hiding my feet as I tried to find a polite way to escape. So... answering the OPs question I wouldn't be inclined to answer honestly, no matter what the guy looked like because my instincts are telling me to scream or run away 🙂 Survival first (thank God for biology).

 

[primetime]

I would like to defend myself from you saying that I among the other guys was speaking for the girls. I'm fully aware that girls who are into tickling probably wouldn't mind an attractive guy asking if their feet were ticklish, but did you read the original post? Ready? Here it is again:

So we DID stay on topic, you're the one who drove it off topic trying to accuse us of trying to somehow distort the way women view that sort of question.



So yes, to clarify, if Brad Pitt or some very attractive guy came out of nowhere and said "hey there nice feet are they ticklish, a girl probably wouldn't care. She'd probably get rather hot and bothered that such a guy was showing her attention of that nature in such a public place. If the average joe bloggs on the street did it? I'm guessing that most of them would get a smack, because when dealing with average people on the street, one tends to act with caution.

Yeah, I did read the first post. The fact that he said it was probably more for the ladies to answer and when he said "Do YOU get up and....." that was a lady to respond to. Unless you (a male) are sitting there wearing flip flops or sandals and an attractive GUY approaches YOU (a male). Not that it can't happen, but he was asking for ladies to respond.

I decided to post in it because throughout this forum, you see threads where they are asking for women to respond, then males chime in. Look at how many posts where you see women asking for other women to reply for chat, tickle play, pen pals, etc, and males always come in and say that they're available, EVEN THOUGH it was asked for females to respond. Males, as much as we try to, do not have the minds of women. Yet, we love trying to speak for them. I guess that makes me an insufferable douche calling males out on that..

I like the responses from the actual women in this thread. It is interesting to see what they have to say. I decided to ask a few female friends of mine, but changed the question a bit so I didn't bring up tickling per se. I used massage, or even more generic things like "I like your hands/feet/purse/shoes/hair etc." Some women say they wouldn't care because the attractive guy is talking to them, and others thought it would creep them out because they didn't come at them with a simple "hello". Fascinating....

 

[rhiannon]

I like the responses from the actual women in this thread. It is interesting to see what they have to say. I decided to ask a few female friends of mine, but changed the question a bit so I didn't bring up tickling per se. I used massage, or even more generic things like "I like your hands/feet/purse/shoes/hair etc." Some women say they wouldn't care because the attractive guy is talking to them, and others thought it would creep them out because they didn't come at them with a simple "hello". Fascinating....

That's indeed fascinating! If it was just a compliment, no matter about what, I wouldn't even care if the guy was not attractive - compliments are good for the soul. 😉

But let me ask you, when you put in "purse", what was the additional comment? 🙂 "Massage" I guess wouldn't work! 🙂

 

[Bohemianne]

Besides, if someone I found attractive came up to me and paid me a compliment, I would also be looking around wondering where his friends were hiding

I wouldn't be inclined to answer honestly, no matter what the guy looked like because my instincts are telling me to scream or run away 🙂 Survival first (thank God for biology).

I wouldn't even care if the guy was not attractive - compliments are good for the soul. 😉

^ LOL. True. 😉