Fetish

[tttony]

There you go again! Instead of just accepting that it might be different for others than it is for you, you imply that others just haven't realized that it is for them as it is for you!

Right, I just want to make sure.

 

[rhiannon]

Right, I just want to make sure.

You want to make sure that what exactly is going on?

 

[tttony]

Try to explain to me why it has to be justified. Nobody gets harmed in any way by it.



How is a sexually related fetish so different from something else? I really don't see your problem. Or, wait, no, I see your problem - you don't enjoy your fetish. Which tells me that you have a psychological problem. Having a fetish is not a problem, but having a problem with it if you have one sure is.

Today it's not all that uncommon to not just be into vanilla sex. Check out the different clip stores and what kind of fetishes they tend to. There is so much stuff, I doubt there is anybody in the world who is just into plain old sex without some kink added to it.



I bet you there are thousand others who feel about it like I do. I don't doubt that there are others who feel like you, but my experience tells me it's not more than people who feel like me.

I dont justify it, I know what it is, it is a fetish. You trying justifying it saying it's normal to have a fetish like tickling.

A sexually related fetish, in its true meaning, means having a sexual behaviour disorder where people suffer from it and are uncapable to have normal sex without the fetish. That's how it is different from something else. I mean I thought it was pretty obvious.

Yes there's lots of fetishes and lots of people who suffer from it, so? is that good?

Yes, there is thousands other that feel like you do, but what about the thousands other that feel like I do? Can you respect the way they feel? or does everybody have to think like you do and think having a tickling fetish is not a big deal?

 

[rhiannon]

You trying justifying it saying it's normal to have a fetish like tickling.

I feel like you're not reading what I am writing! I said it is NOT normal to have a fetish, because NORMAL means "according to the norm", and the norm is the majority of a population. So, according to definition, it is NOT NORMAL. (Just like homosexuality, btw. 😉 ). I am just saying it is not a big deal to not be "normal".

A sexually related fetish, in its true meaning, means having a sexual behaviour disorder where people suffer from it and are uncapable to have normal sex without the fetish.

If you read the definition, it said right there that a fetish CAN be pathological, therefore the person suffers from it, but it doesn't HAVE to be pathological.

Just today I saw something where a young guy was attracted to older women, like 30 years older. He felt bad when he was with them, but his sexual urges were still too strong to stop it. So the psychologist concluded there was a need for treatment. Not because of the fact that the guy got turned on by older women, but because he felt bad about it. He will not be treated for being into older women, he will be treated for feeling bad about it. There is nothing wrong with having a fetish - but if you have a problem with your own behavior, then that is where treatment and therefore the disorder-thing comes into the game.

If you just enjoy what you're doing, it is, and again I quote from the definition:

an enhancing element to a romantic/sexual relationship "achieved in ordinary ways

Yes there's lots of fetishes and lots of people who suffer from it, so? is that good?

No. If someone suffers from a fetish, that is a bad thing for the person and the person should seek help. But that doesn't make the fetish in itself a bad thing.

but what about the thousands other that feel like I do?

They need to seek help.

Can you respect the way they feel?

Sure I can. I don't deny that there are people who suffer from their sexual urges.

or does everybody have to think like you do and think having a tickling fetish is not a big deal?

I just expect others not to try and make ME think that having a tickling fetish is not a big deal. 🙂

 

[tttony]

I feel like you're not reading what I am writing! I said it is NOT normal to have a fetish, because NORMAL means "according to the norm", and the norm is the majority of a population. So, according to definition, it is NOT NORMAL. (Just like homosexuality, btw. 😉 ). I am just saying it is not a big deal to not be "normal".




If you read the definition, it said right there that a fetish CAN be pathological, therefore the person suffers from it, but it doesn't HAVE to be pathological.

Just today I saw something where a young guy was attracted to older women, like 30 years older. He felt bad when he was with them, but his sexual urges were still too strong to stop it. So the psychologist concluded there was a need for treatment. Not because of the fact that the guy got turned on by older women, but because he felt bad about it. He will not be treated for being into older women, he will be treated for feeling bad about it. There is nothing wrong with having a fetish - but if you have a problem with your own behavior, then that is where treatment and therefore the disorder-thing comes into the game.

If you just enjoy what you're doing, it is, and again I quote from the definition:



No. If someone suffers from a fetish, that is a bad thing for the person and the person should seek help. But that doesn't make the fetish in itself a bad thing.



They need to seek help.



Sure I can. I don't deny that there are people who suffer from their sexual urges.



I just expect others not to try and make ME think that having a tickling fetish is not a big deal. 🙂

You know what? I think we are on two different levels, that's why we find it hard to understand each other.

For you tickling and having a tickling fetish is not a big deal, there's nothing wrong about it and you just enjoy it.

For me having a tickling fetish has caused a lot of problems throughout my life, I always felt it as a problem and has limited and influenced a big part of my life, mainly sexually and caused me problems with the loving relationships I had with the women I have been with. I kind of see it as a tragedy, a huge waste of time, and the reason for loneliness as the tickling world is mainly online, not the real world.

It's like I am an alcoholic and have suffered from alcoholism all my life and it has caused me huge problems and you come to me and say, well, there's nothing wrong with drinking alcohol. You just dont understand the way I feel.

Even if with the due differences because alcoholism is a physical addiction to a substance, a tickling fetish is a sexually related fetish that causes a sexual behaviour disorder.

 

[FlockaBaloney]

You know what? I think we are on two different levels, that's why we find it hard to understand each other.

For you tickling and having a tickling fetish is not a big deal, there's nothing wrong about it and you just enjoy it.

For me having a tickling fetish has caused a lot of problems throughout my life, I always felt it as a problem and has limited and influenced a big part of my life, mainly sexually and caused me problems with the loving relationships I had with the women I have been with. I kind of see it as a tragedy, a huge waste of time, and the reason for loneliness as the tickling world is mainly online, not the real world.

It's like I am an alcoholic and have suffered from alcoholism all my life and it has caused me huge problems and you come to me and say, well, there's nothing wrong with drinking alcohol. You just dont understand the way I feel.

Even if with the due differences because alcoholism is a physical addiction to a substance, a tickling fetish is a sexually related fetish that causes a sexual behaviour disorder.

Tickling in my teens did hold me back. There was a large mental block there saying that I shouldn't go for girls cos they might not be into it. But here's what happened: I grew up, and realised that if you put your mind to it, you can stop using it as a crutch and move on with your life. Fact is, there are many, many people in this world with problems, but we can move past most of them. I did it through physical exercise and talking to people on here, but it can be done. Don't spend your life feeling sorry for yourself when you could be out there being happy.

 

[tttony]

Tickling in my teens did hold me back. There was a large mental block there saying that I shouldn't go for girls cos they might not be into it. But here's what happened: I grew up, and realised that if you put your mind to it, you can stop using it as a crutch and move on with your life. Fact is, there are many, many people in this world with problems, but we can move past most of them. I did it through physical exercise and talking to people on here, but it can be done. Don't spend your life feeling sorry for yourself when you could be out there being happy.

Don't get me wrong, I am 51 and I managed to have a pretty happy life anyway. I just had to fight with a tickling fetish, but I didnt let it take the upperhand of me 🙂 I cant deny it has been quite a burden and I wish I never had had it. I am ok now, I just feel bad if I look back at how it has been sometimes. I am glad you got past it through as well.

 

[FlockaBaloney]

Don't get me wrong, I am 51 and I managed to have a pretty happy life anyway. I just had to fight with a tickling fetish, but I didnt let it take the upperhand of me 🙂 I cant deny it has been quite a burden and I wish I never had had it. I am ok now, I just feel bad if I look back at how it has been sometimes. I am glad you got past it through as well.

Thank you Tony, I hope you come to terms with it, either through another epiphany, or a new experience 🙂

 

[tttony]

Thank you Tony, I hope you come to terms with it, either through another epiphany, or a new experience 🙂

Thanks 🙂

 

[toja2611911]

Dear tttony

I have few suggestions for you. If you are just trying to get attention then there is no problem, but it seems to me that you are under stress and tension caused by your fetish, and my suggestions may indeed help, not just you but others that are stressed too.

First, there are ways to solve this problem, so no need to feel despair.

Second, a lot of therapies are available. You can either see childhood trauma psychiatry (since it is caused by trauma during childhood), or sex therapy (since you are unable to perform sexual activities without tickling and is preventing you to have a healthy relationship).

You are right in saying that there isnt such a specialized therapy called tickling fetish therapy, because there arent much demand for it, but these professionals are trained to deal with all kinds of problems, so no need to feel lonely.

Meanwhile, I think you should speak to someone you trust about it. And stop coming onto this site all together (until you can overcome this problem) because here may contain offensive comments which may aggravate the condition.

Lastly, I wish you well.

 

[rhiannon]

It's like I am an alcoholic and have suffered from alcoholism all my life and it has caused me huge problems and you come to me and say, well, there's nothing wrong with drinking alcohol. You just dont understand the way I feel.

No, it's not like that at all. I agree that you probably are like an alcoholic, your alcohol is tickling.

But this thread is more like you -as an alcoholic - busting into a forum full of people who like to drink a glass of wine once in a while and enjoy this and also like talking about it, like what the best wine is and what food you should drink it with. This is NOT AA! 🙂

You are coming to us, those people who enjoy a glass of wine once in a while, and tell us that we have your problem, that we are secret alcoholics and in denial about it. This is what is happening here.

I believe you that your fetish has caused you pain, suffering and problems, but you're going about it the wrong way. Getting turned on by tickling is not a bad thing. Tickling clips producers are not doing a bad thing.

The problem is with you and you alone, and you are the one who, if you are really still suffering from it badly, need to seek therapy about that.

 

[C.A.B.]

I believe they prey on the 'remotely ticklish'....beware remotely ticklish people, you're in trouble! 😀

LOL @ Remotely Ticklish

"Honeeeee where's the remote? I wanna tickle someone..."

... "It's probably stuck in the sofa cushions... under your big fat arse!"

 

[tttony]

No, it's not like that at all. I agree that you probably are like an alcoholic, your alcohol is tickling.

But this thread is more like you -as an alcoholic - busting into a forum full of people who like to drink a glass of wine once in a while and enjoy this and also like talking about it, like what the best wine is and what food you should drink it with. This is NOT AA! 🙂

You are coming to us, those people who enjoy a glass of wine once in a while, and tell us that we have your problem, that we are secret alcoholics and in denial about it. This is what is happening here.

I believe you that your fetish has caused you pain, suffering and problems, but you're going about it the wrong way. Getting turned on by tickling is not a bad thing. Tickling clips producers are not doing a bad thing.

The problem is with you and you alone, and you are the one who, if you are really still suffering from it badly, need to seek therapy about that.

You continue not to understand me, and to assume all people in the TMF feel about tickling just the way you do, how do you know everyone here just "enjoy a glass of wine once in a while"?
how can you speak for eveyone? Do you think I am the only one in this world suffering from a tickling fetish?
Besides I already said it is not the same as alcohol, mine was just an example to explain how you just dont understand what I mean and the way I feel. I am sorry I dont have anything else to say to you, and I wont reply to your posts anymore as I feel I am wasting my time. You just want to have the last word, ok go ahead.

 

[tttony]

LOL @ Remotely Ticklish

"Honeeeee where's the remote? I wanna tickle someone..."

... "It's probably stuck in the sofa cushions... under your big fat arse!"

Sorry, English is not my mother tongue, I should have said "barely ticklish" instead 🙂

 

[rhiannon]

You continue not to understand me, and to assume all people in the TMF feel about tickling just the way you do, how do you know everyone here just "enjoy a glass of wine once in a while"?

Not everybody on the TMF, I never said that. I am sure there are people on here who feel like you. But they are probably not active here in the discussions-forum, therefore not reading anything you write. They are probably busy reading tickling stories and watching clips!

The people who actively participate here feel like I do. How I know that? I know the people, and I talk to them. Some of them even wrote in this thread. I can't remember anybody agreeing with you, do you?

 

[tttony]

Dear tttony

I have few suggestions for you. If you are just trying to get attention then there is no problem, but it seems to me that you are under stress and tension caused by your fetish, and my suggestions may indeed help, not just you but others that are stressed too.

First, there are ways to solve this problem, so no need to feel despair.

Second, a lot of therapies are available. You can either see childhood trauma psychiatry (since it is caused by trauma during childhood), or sex therapy (since you are unable to perform sexual activities without tickling and is preventing you to have a healthy relationship).

You are right in saying that there isnt such a specialized therapy called tickling fetish therapy, because there arent much demand for it, but these professionals are trained to deal with all kinds of problems, so no need to feel lonely.

Meanwhile, I think you should speak to someone you trust about it. And stop coming onto this site all together (until you can overcome this problem) because here may contain offensive comments which may aggravate the condition.

Lastly, I wish you well.

Thanks a lot Toja, like I said in an earlier post I am ok now, I just feel bad sometimes if I look back how it has been in past. I know there isn't a therapy for such a fetish as tickling, especially if it comes from a childhood trauma. All I could do throughout my life was trying to limit and control it which I did pretty well. I come here a lot less than I used before. The offensive comments of people who just wont understand that a tickling fetish can be a real serious matter dont help for sure, but I know how things are and they dont really aggravate my condition.

Thanks a lot again.

 

[rhiannon]

especially if it comes from a childhood trauma

By the way....have you ever done any therapy to deal with that trauma? Ever thought about it that this might have helped you with your condition?

 

[tttony]

What I learned from having started this thread is that there is people, like rhiannon, who are in denial of what a tickling fetish is and they think it's a good thing. Saying that "I get extremely turned on by being tied down and tickled until I cant take it anymore", spending hours and hours on the TMF every day, saying that the tickling clip producers are not doing a bad thing when they produce clips so people with a tickling fetish can masturbate watching them and feed the fetish and make it even worse, are all signs of suffering from a deep tickling fetish, but they either dont realize it or are in denial and dont want to admit it. And if someone tries to say that's what it is they get all on the defensive mode, defending their fetish, the clips and everything that comes with it. Because deep down inside they KNOW they are suffering from it but either are too weak to fight it, or they want to indulge in the instant sexual gratification that it provides as they are addicted to it.

 

[rhiannon]

And we are back to stage one....wow....and YOU are the one saying that I don't want to understand what you mean. Unbelievable! But hey, I like repetitions! So I will go through it again....

there is people, like rhiannon, who are in denial of what a tickling fetish is

I know that a tickling fetish can be a pathological thing where it goes up to an extent where people actually suffer from it. You are a person with a pathological fetish. However, it is not like that for everybody - like for me and many more on here.

saying that the tickling clip producers are not doing a bad thing when they produce clips so people with a tickling fetish can masturbate watching them and feed the fetish and make it even worse

Why do they make it worse by producing tickling clips for others to watch? There is so much porn being produced and watched. You think everybody who is watching porn is suffering from some kind of sex addiction?

Once again you are producing your own problem on everybody else. Really, unbelievable!

 

[Wolf]

What I learned from having started this thread is that there is people, like rhiannon, who are in denial of what a tickling fetish is and they think it's a good thing. Saying that "I get extremely turned on by being tied down and tickled until I cant take it anymore", spending hours and hours on the TMF every day, saying that the tickling clip producers are not doing a bad thing when they produce clips so people with a tickling fetish can masturbate watching them and feed the fetish and make it even worse, are all signs of suffering from a deep tickling fetish, but they either dont realize it or are in denial and dont want to admit it. And if someone tries to say that's what it is they get all on the defensive mode, defending their fetish, the clips and everything that comes with it. Because deep down inside they KNOW they are suffering from it but either are too weak to fight it, or they want to indulge in the instant sexual gratification that it provides as they are addicted to it.

If you think the video producers are bad, don't watch.

If you don't like the site, stay the f*ck away.

Or, keep coming here because you just can't control yourself (as valiantly as you try), and jack off until your hand becomes translucent. No one cares. Free country and all that.

But you're not doing anyone any favors by "speaking the truth", to justify your coming back here. Everyone knows why you're here. You're not fooling anyone but yourself.

We're not the ones in denial.

 

[tttony]

However, it is not like that for everybody - like for me and many more on here.

DENIAL, you are always here, not 15 minutes on a week day like you said yesterday.

You think everybody who is watching porn is suffering from some kind of sex addiction?

YES

 

[tttony]

If you think the video producers are bad, don't watch.

If you don't like the site, stay the f*ck away.

Or, keep coming here because you just can't control yourself (as valiantly as you try), and jack off until your hand becomes translucent. No one cares. Free country and all that.

But you're not doing anyone any favors by "speaking the truth", to justify your coming back here. Everyone knows why you're here. You're not fooling anyone but yourself.

We're not the ones in denial.

By the angry tone of your post I can tell that the truth can really hurt sometimes.

 

[rhiannon]

DENIAL, you are always here, not 15 minutes on a week day like you said yesterday.

Well, then check starting tomorrow where I'm not at home all day and have time. Plus - I actually keep checking because of this thread, not because of tickling. So if at all, I should worry about an addiction to pointless discussions, not a tickling-addiction.

YES

O boy.....I guess everybody in the whole wide world has a sex addiction then. Maybe you are indeed a troll.

 

[Wolf]

By the angry tone of your post I can tell that the truth can really hurt sometimes.

Angry? Nah... Sorry to disappoint, but my experience is far from your twisted concept of truth.

I think my fetish can probably be traced back to a comely teenaged babysitter who used to tickle me (and let herself be tickled) extensively as a child. I liked it. A lot.

I'm in a pretty good place with my likes and desires. I don't resent video producers, or the operators of this site. I don't blame anyone else or make excuses for my behavior. How about you?

 

[The Last Laugh]