Fustration

[Brock Samson]

While I'm sure that women do have it easier than us men, I'll in no way downgrade or disregard the challenges faced by women finding the right person. At the end of the day, it's more than just tickling. There is a plethora of traits that people of both genders look for in a potential S/O. Honestly, they might have it worse. I mean, besides trying to find 'The One', they have to fend off the teeming hordes of undesirables. Not a problem that most guys have, and definitely not a problem I'd actually want.

As to the 'how', you need to just go with it. There is life out there, and spending it all worrying about 'The One' is not healthy. Put yourself out there, take what comes, and keep yourself grounded in reality. Know that, unfortunately, the few dicks here have made the male gender seem 'creepy'. Deal with that by being you and proving yourself as a non-creeper. Unless you are a creeper, in which case, STOOOOOP. Know that you need to tell your potential S/O about your quirks. Certain things shouldn't be kept secret. Look, if you're a spook for the CIA or NSA, keep that under wraps. But your fetishes, your kinks? They are a big part of who you are, and they don't go away, so be open and honest from the jump. Be fairly open somewhere in the beginning phase about this to a vanilla person. Downplay it, and don't make it the focus of your relationship. You should want them for them; being ticklish is just a perk.

Also, know that you need to have something other than your quirks. Yes, you like tickling.....but what else? Keep it casual and respectful. Don't be 'oh so shy' and 'unclear'.....that will get you in the friend-zone. It's like a Venus fly trap: once you're in the zone, there is no escape. But don't be 'overly aggressive'......you're not storming Asgard or taking the one ring to Mount Doom, so chill out. Find a middle ground, look for the signs, and make your move when you see the opportunity.

I may have gotten ahead of myself, but you get the point. Stressing over it will stress you out. Take a deep breath, take a shot, and take a chance. The worst that can happen is they say no. Rejection hurts now, but loneliness as a result of giving up hurts forever.

 

[peter]

I'm with Anniehall on this. You can't always take the victim role in life. If you're not satisfied with something in life or personal: DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Make it better, instead of whining how bad your life/or something you're not satisfied with.
For example. If you think you're fat --> lose weight. If you think you're socially ackward/shy --> Try talking to people. How are you?, What are you doing? Nice weather right? It's not that hard. Just don't think it will be better in a week. Be patient and believe you will be better at the things you think you're not good at.
You can't succeed if you don't even try....

 

[ArchNemesis]

You know what I hate? If you're tickling a woman, and she's like"okay that's enough.". No it's not enough! This is my sexual fetish, my sexual gratification!! Or she'll think you're just tickling her to flirt with her, like"I'm tickling you because I want to insert my penis into your vagina". No, I'm tickling you for my sexual gratification! Yes I will want to get sexual release and achieve orgasm. But we'll get to that later or I can take care of that myself. Hey folks lemme tell ya, this dating scene, it's crazy out there! You can catch crabs!!!

 

[MrPeanut]

Well, it seems you're not allowed to vent or have an argument on this site; I've just been banned from the chat by a certain moderator. Just a warning to others who feel like I do; don't show it too much because you'll get burnt for it.

 

[chicago]

Well, it seems you're not allowed to vent or have an argument on this site; I've just been banned from the chat by a certain moderator. Just a warning to others who feel like I do; don't show it too much because you'll get burnt for it.

You got banned for insulting an entire group of people, cyber-pissing on random users, and telling me that you meant everything you said yesterday - alluding to the "Screw you" comment earlier in this thread. I also received multiple complaints via PC about you.

What any of that has to do with this thread is beyond me.

 

[MrPeanut]

1. I said I disliked America, not individual Americans. How that is an insult worthy of banning someone is beyond me. You might as well throw that 'Freedom of speech' clause in the trash. O wait, you already have.

2. I didn't cyber-piss on random users, I said I got pissed on by a commercial mistress I once visited, and didn't like it.

3. Since when is standing by what you said considered a bannable offense?

 

[Libertine]

1. I said I disliked America, not individual Americans.

I've lived in Canada, the UK, and the United States for long periods of time. All of those countries have both good and bad points, largely dependent on their respective governments and the people one meets in day to day life.

Your blanket hostility is getting you nowhere with women as you have found out, and shared with anyone on here willing to listen to your self-pitying homilies. Every man on earth at one point or another in his life has had trouble having whatever kind of sex he enjoys. The normal ones regard it as just another challenge and work on overcoming it somehow.

Often this involves overcoming their own attitudes.

What is the sound of a large hint dropping?

 

[MrPeanut]

I've lived in Canada, the UK, and the United States for long periods of time. All of those countries have both good and bad points, largely dependent on their respective governments and the people one meets in day to day life.

Your blanket hostility is getting you nowhere with women as you have found out, and shared with anyone on here willing to listen to your self-pitying homilies. Every man on earth at one point or another in his life has had trouble having whatever kind of sex he enjoys. The normal ones regard it as just another challenge and work on overcoming it somehow.

Often this involves overcoming their own attitudes.

What is the sound of a large hint dropping?

If you don't see the evil inflicted by America on the rest of the world since 1945, you have blinders on. The USA, regardless of government, have been waging war on the world since WW2. The NSA-scandals of the past year are just the most recent evidence.

 

[Libertine]

If you don't see the evil inflicted by America on the rest of the world since 1945, you have blinders on. The USA, regardless of government, have been waging war on the world since WW2. The NSA-scandals of the past year are just the most recent evidence.

Yes, incredible how the CIA is personally involved in keeping you celibate.

Political outrage is no excuse for not having a sex life, whether you, the right or the left believe it or not.

Neither a tunic and jackboots nor wire rimmed glasses teamed with socks, sandals and a degree in social work will get anyone laid if they've already whined themselves into involuntary abstinence.

 

[ArchNemesis]

I've been outside the U States of A twice in my life, both when I was in high school, and only one of those times did I briefly tickle a cute preppy young girl on the trip with a different group. An instance that over 20 years later I still pleasure myself furiously thinking about. Anyway, I can truthfully say America is the greatest country in the universe. Ever. Look, Elvis impersonators, monster trucks and arena football. Seriously what else is there???

 

[Myriads]

Please stay on the threads topic, or it will be closed.

Myriads

 

[MrPeanut]

I was on the topic, Libertine and ArchNemesis deviated from it.

 

[Brock Samson]

Dude, bashing a country has nothing to do with the topic of this thread. Neither does intentionally antagonizing the mods. You seem to be going out of your way to make enemies out of people who are merely offering their opinions in a safe, helpful setting. Some free advice: Get a journal and write down your gripes and thoughts there. Keep it chill and peaceful while you're here. This isn't a government; no 'freedom of speech' is guaranteed by the mods. They don't take kindly to flaming or aggressive antagonistic behavior. So relax.

 

[ArchNemesis]

Hey, I'm nothing if not a big, warm, fuzzy ball of love. But I can be a bit of an anti-social creepy loner. If there's one thing that's gotten me through the tough times, it's recreational street drugs. Just kidding, just say no, kids! Mr Peanut, I used to be painfully shy and self-conscious, believe it or not. Well I'm just some random guy typing on a message board so you can probably believe it. But anyway, have you tried therapy or seeing a psychiatrist? I'm being absolutely serious here, as serious as I can be sitting here at 3:30 in the morning with no pants (long story). I mean you yourself brought up mental illness I believe, and there's lots of help out there for that. When you can't find the answers yourself, sometimes you need to, and I hate this expression, "reach out" to people who do have answers for you. Folks here can't help you, everyone here is really nice except for me, but we're all a bunch of tickling fetishists typing to each other TICKLE TICKLE BONER BONER TICKLE TICKLE, over and over again throughout the day. What I'm trying to say is, you sound like me, not the part about me being an asshole, but the part about you needing help.

 

[MrPeanut]

Hey, I'm nothing if not a big, warm, fuzzy ball of love. But I can be a bit of an anti-social creepy loner. If there's one thing that's gotten me through the tough times, it's recreational street drugs. Just kidding, just say no, kids! Mr Peanut, I used to be painfully shy and self-conscious, believe it or not. Well I'm just some random guy typing on a message board so you can probably believe it. But anyway, have you tried therapy or seeing a psychiatrist? I'm being absolutely serious here, as serious as I can be sitting here at 3:30 in the morning with no pants (long story). I mean you yourself brought up mental illness I believe, and there's lots of help out there for that. When you can't find the answers yourself, sometimes you need to, and I hate this expression, "reach out" to people who do have answers for you. Folks here can't help you, everyone here is really nice except for me, but we're all a bunch of tickling fetishists typing to each other TICKLE TICKLE BONER BONER TICKLE TICKLE, over and over again throughout the day. What I'm trying to say is, you sound like me, not the part about me being an asshole, but the part about you needing help.

Thanks, but been there, done that. Between 1993 (when I was 15) and last year, I've seen four different therapists for prolonged therapy programs (between 6 and 18 months). Last year, after my latest bout of sessions went nowhere, I finally decided that therapy definitely wasn't for me. I've also been on medication since I was 18. This kind of avoids the 'pit of despair', but they're not 'happy-pills'.

 

[MrPeanut]

And I suppose my ban on the chat is going to continue indefinately?

 

[rhiannon]

Thanks, but been there, done that. Between 1993 (when I was 15) and last year, I've seen four different therapists for prolonged therapy programs (between 6 and 18 months). Last year, after my latest bout of sessions went nowhere, I finally decided that therapy definitely wasn't for me. I've also been on medication since I was 18. This kind of avoids the 'pit of despair', but they're not 'happy-pills'.

Reading this I really don't think tickling is your problem!

 

[MrPeanut]

Reading this I really don't think tickling is your problem!

Thanks for the insight, though I kind of figured that out about 20 years ago.

 

[rhiannon]

Thanks for the insight, though I kind of figured that out about 20 years ago.

So why complaining here about the fetish if you figured it out about 20 years ago?

 

[MrPeanut]

So why complaining here about the fetish if you figured it out about 20 years ago?

Figuring out the scope of the problem doesn't imply you have a solution. I don't. That's why, from time to time, it gets so bad I need to vent.

 

[chicago]

Poor Rabbit Hole. His thread totally got snatched and derailed.

 

[MrPeanut]

Poor Rabbit Hole. His thread totally got snatched and derailed.

No it didn't, it merely got amplified.

 

[ArchNemesis]

Poor Rabbit Hole. His thread totally got snatched and derailed.

How "fustrated" he must be!

 

[Brock Samson]

How "fustrated" he must be!

Bazinga!

On a side note, I do feel a little bad about my contribution towards this thread's derailment.

 

[berlinerbaer]

That's why, from time to time, it gets so bad I need to vent.

... and so did Rabbit Hole. The tiny diffference being that he manages to do so without being unfriendly towards other people. I understand that it is hard to understand how a true depression feels unless you have been in one. However, it might be worthwhile to invest in some thoughts about how your postings appear to the general public, in particular on this forum or sites like kitzelseite (if you are German?), where nice(!) people at least have a shot of finding their next tickle date or even a partner that is into the same sports.