Has anyone ever been bullied & how did you deal with it?

[luv2tikl]

Kids are fickle sometimes...I went on to become fairly well aquainted with some of my former bullies. I even saw one in a nightclub over christmas for the first time since school, and he came up to me and apologised for being such a dick in the past.
Funny old world, isn't it?

Yeah, that totally reminds me of something... There was this one kid in middle school who, at the time, I considered as a pretty good friend. You know how friends joke around about things, and I don't have a problem with that... But this kid seriously didn't know when to quit. He would make fun of me for being short, which is ok in moderation because, I am short... But, it got to the point where he couldn't say a word to me without making fun of me, and it got annoying and I ended up ignoring him. This went on until early high school, and then after that I really just never saw him any more because I didn't hang around him.

At the end of our senior year, after graduation, all the seniors who wanted to could take a trip via school bus to a nearby city to basically just hang out and participate in some fun activities all night (it was a school sponsored event to prevent seniors from going out and drinking after graduation and provide them with a fun "last night together" kind of thing). That night, he came up to me and said he was sorry for the way he treated me and hoped that we could still be friends. We shook on it, and of coarse I accepted his request to remain friends

After that, a year passed and I really didn't hear much from him. We both went to different colleges, about two hours apart (yes, we measure distance in time where I come from, lol). This year, however, I moved into an apartment with some old high school buddies, one of which happens to be his brother, so he comes here to stay with us over the breaks and I've gotten to see him a lot more... In fact he just went back home a few days ago after staying here over Christmas break. He's really cool, we have a lot of good times together now, and I have nothing against him.

The thing is, though, nothing erases what happened; not even his apology or my forgiveness. The distance that set us apart because of the way he treated me is still there, and it still affects how I act around him; not how I treat him, per se, but I still have that guard up around him that I don't necessarily have with other people, you know? He is an extremely cool guy, though, and I'm glad we came to terms with each other.

 

[luv2tikl]

On a less serious note...

 

[xionking]

Honestly, letting the bully get to you, gives them the upper hand. They feed off the reactions they get, so the more you react, the more they bully. Every kid gets picked on in school at some point. I got through it by just focusing on my studies and when I got good grades, I felt better. Also, I learned that the best way to get out of being bullied, is have a sense of humor. I'd end up making fun of myself too, laughing, and pretty soon the bullies had nothing more to say, or they ended up becoming my friend. If none of that works, kick their ass. Bullies aren't usually prepared for a fight, even if they threaten one.

Yeah, try telling that to a 14 year old kid who's social development has been stunned from being bullied day after day, week after week, through most of their adolescence.

I was bullied for no reason. I was involved in an serious accident at the beginning of Grade 7, so I missed out on the second term of school. Mind you up until the accident, I was a very popular kid and was fitting in well with everyone.

Needless to say however, once I returned, all friendship groups had been formed and I was the outcast. And that's all the reason people needed. There was nothing wrong with me. I was just the sacraficial lamb for others to feed off.

It's easy now to look back and say, "Hey, if only I'd ignored the bullies, if only I'd not allowed them to gain the upperhand..." or "...if only I'd kicked their ass". But these reflections are coming about from a much more mature stance.

Back then, I couldn't even contemplate getting out of bed and going to school to face these people each day, let alone developing a strategy on how not to let the bully or bullies get to me.

There's nothing I could do about it. In the end, I just had to wait it out, until finally they just got sick of me or something. No councellors, parents, teachers, students could help me.

The power doesn't lie in whether or not you ignore the bullies, the power lies in the tacit approval given to these bullies. I couldn't do anything about, and nobody else could, so the bullies didn't ever stop.

-Xionking

 

[Amnesiac]

Xionking's kinda got a point. One thing I noticed in my school days was that the school administrations--whether public or private--had a very twisted point of approach when it came to bullies.

What I found is that bullies tend to be problematic to the school chronically, so the admins just give up; they treat them the same and with a cynical disciplinary process that MIGHT eventually end up in suspension or expulsion, but rarely. The bullies are so burnt out they don't care.

INSTEAD, the school cracks down on the GOOD kids who occasionally cross paths with said bullies. Because the GOOD kids can be harassed and muscled with threats to their permanent records, calls to their parents, detentions, etc. whereas the bullies can't, so the admins take it out on them even if they have no probable cause. They like to think it scares the good kids from becoming like the bullies, but they're also afraid of the kids' parents causing trouble if they find out about a fight and the school didn't tell. In the process they also neutralize the ability of a kid to handle his/her own business and not only does it demoralize them but it also diminishes their status in the school hierarchy, which, foolish as it is, has REAL WORLD consequences over a 4-year period.

That's why I always say that prisons and schools are almost identical: the lifers who don';t give a fuck can do anything, whereas the short-timers who want to get out and move on get the shaft from the guards AND/OR the other inmates. And going through "the man" to solve your problems might be the only legal prison policy, but it diminishes your position in the general population and that can be deadly; being a snitch in prison is just as risky as it is in high school...but with knives instead.

I myself was only verbally bullied, and most of it was halfhearted. The people who really gave me shit were douchebags that got picked on by other people so the only thing that bothered me was that I couldn't get AWAY from them until school got out. Since I lost every fight I was ever in--usually on the first punch--I adopted Rob's technique and actually deflected a lot of trouble; in fact, I ran into most of these people at my reunion and it turns out they actually liked me but were "too cool for school" back in the day and having 10 years to grow made them less bastardy.

 

[kis123]

I was bullied in grade school, middle school, high school and a little during one of my early jobs.

Also, my brother and I were verbally assaulted by my father after my parents remarried (not sure why). I'm not going to get any more specific on the results of that end of the bullying.

But when you get it from both sides (at home and at school) it can effect you the rest of your life. Your self-esteem, crucial to any success in life, takes a serious beating. I still have flashbacks.

Bullies are downright cowards. They are driven by fear...the fear that they won't rate with the girls in school if they don't act tough, so the find a victim that is unlikely to stand up to them. Nice guys do in fact finish last. Unfortunately, there are girls that go for jerks like that, but only for a short while. In a stand up mano y mano battle, they wouldn't measure up.

And as said before in this thread, the bullying doesn't stop at the High School property. You'll find it in college and the workplace.

If you have tremendous confidence and self-respect, you will unlikely be a victim.

Yeah, my bullying started at home and spread abroad. On top of that, weekends at my father's were sheer hell. I got called names no one has ever called me before in my life from my father. The bullying at school from students (and teachers) almost paled in comparison. Teachers not only knew the fat kid was being bullied, they participated as well.

I was in fourth grade and we were doing a national fitness challenge. I was about the most physically clumsy child I knew. Being a big kid didn't help my cause at all. But when we did the physical challenges, something in me rose up and I competed and was kicking serious butt. A teacher came in to visit my teacher and read the charts; she realized that I was the classroom leader. Here was her eloquent response, "_______ _______" (saying my name as loudly as I ever heard it), you gotta be kidding!" Then she hysterically laughed her way out the door. She ended up being my sixth grade teacher......fun times for me!

And walking the gauntlet in high school by a bunch of ugly losers who thought it was okay to judge my appeareance was my personal favorite. Some of them would try to get a date behind their buddies' backs, even the brother of a now famous comedic actress. He was dating a dancer at the time; imagine him having a crush on old chunky me??

My children caught it too because they share my longsuffering spirit. But once they got enough, things got ugly. I remember going to my son's school because he decided that nine months of bullying was enough and tore up the entire classroom. When I showed up, I asked those allegedly in charge "why am I the only parent here??" I told them I knew my son was being bullied and if they suspended him, I'd be back with a news crew. No one else at that school bothered my kid again.

When my son transfered to another school, he encountered another bully. Found out that clown lived somewhere in the neighborhood. We were headed to my car and the kid tried to be "fake-friendly" to my son and he wouldn't speak to him. My son is uber-friendly so me and my daughter were stunned. He said "that's Michael" (aka the bully). My daughter was about 5'9" and about 180lbs (she's since slimmed down and grown an additional 3 inches), an athlete with huge hands and feet. She said very loudly "that's Michael??" "Maybe I should come up to the school and beat his a** for you!!" That kid NEVER bothered my son again.....little punk!!

One of my biggest bullies in elementary school was being abused at home, and I just made too good of a target to take her aggressions out on. I understood her plight, but I didn't forgive her for decades. It sapped the self-esteem right out of my bones and made me feel inferior and subhuman. It plotted the course of my life for decades. Only when I became a parent did I snap out of it because my kids needed me strong.

I hope there is a special place in hell for anyone who has bullied or tormented someone. Hopefully there is karma and they pay for it!

Yes, I'm still a little angry..........

 

[maniactickler]

I never really had any issues in school. i always got along with pretty much everyone. just a couple minor incidents, but i knew some bigger people that took care of the problem for me.

 

[Tamia78]

When I was in Junior High, I was bullied by a girl and a group of her friends because I didn't talk like her or act like her (she was black also), and I hung out with other people who weren't black. I was painfully shy during that time, and she never missed an opportunity to call out my name loudly in the cafeteria, followed by, "SELLOUT!". I was never physically assaulted by her, but she caused alot of other people to jump on the bandwagon and further try to make me feel bad.
My wonderful mother figured out what was wrong ( I never told her), and when she confronted me about it, I told her who it was. She actually invited this girl to my house after school one day. To my surprise the girl accepted, and when she came over, we actually had a pretty decent time. My mother actually never mentioned the fact that she constantly made fun of me, nor did she call the girl's grandmother about it. But for some reason, the girl became a friend of mine. Not a good friend, because I was still hurting, but she never called me out again.

Unfortunately, I'm STILL affected by this. I agree with Xion that it's hard being a 13-14 year old kid and NOT be affected by things like that. At that age, we just wanna be accepted, and have friends. It's hard to be in a situation like that when you are shy. I was taught to be passive, and I never had any witty comments to come back with. So I just endured it.

Even now as an adult, I still get comments similar to my junior high experience.......and I have to fight the urge to not respond with a rude comment, now that I'm not shy anymore and tend to just spout off at the mouth these days.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

I totally understand what you are saying. I was also bullied when I was younger early on in primary, middle, and a little bit also in high school and sadly you think when you get older and grow up and become an adult-bullying will completely stop and you will be able to escape it-but sadly like many said and like Helena said herself and she makes a excellent and valid point: some people never learn and some people never grow up and never want to become adults. So sadly after school troubles with bullies you grow up as an adult and sadly still have to face many enemies and many bullies still "lurking" out there ready to pounce and attack you.
I know that is not a happy positive thought -but sadly there is nothing positive and no happy spin on bullies and those that get their kicks and confidence on "tearing" others down.

Yes, sadly many times those that are very different and stand apart uniquely from the crowd and especially those that sadly have to endure and sadly struggle and suffer with disabilities: whether these be physical disabilities, learning disabilities, or mental disabilities, or emotional disabilities, or having trouble socially interacting with others-sadly many with disabilities pay the price-get bullied terribly in school and sadly later in life. So I know what you mean.

Yes I have sadly had been bullied and sadly still at times feel like I still at times stand apart from the crowd and from others and feel like I don't quite fit in to be honest at times; I think we all go through that time to time. It is likely a sad after effect that stays with us and lingers long after the hurts have been inflicted on us-those scars stay a long time and take a long time to heal-so makes us wary and cautious and careful next time letting others close -in attempt to dodge rejection and dodge getting bullied and torn down and hurt once again.

Hmmm how to deal with getting bullied. I don't think there is really one way to go about it, don't think there is really a right or wrong answer-except of course violence. I mean I know sometimes violence has to happen at times because there are times words just don't do it and that are times you need to defend and stand up for yourself but...generally if you can avoid it-best to avoid taking matters in your own hand-best to avoid using violence.

Most times violence doesn't resolve issues, just complicates things and makes things worse-ramifications worse on you if you retaliate and strike back. So for me how I deal with bullying-is I try to really think and consider if the person and the issue is really worth getting upset about and worth getting into trouble for, also I tend to give the person a piece of my mind-verbally let the person have it-first I gently try to talk it out calmly and if that does not work -then I just verbally let it go-vent and speak what is on my mind and heart-really let the person know what I think of what he or she is doing and what I think of them. I try when I do this either before or during to give the person a "exit" so we can settle the issue or drop it, but if the person does not take the "exit" going to let them know what I think and feel on how I am being treated. That is how I tend to deal with bullies.
I do at first try to ignore and not react but when I can no longer ignore it, try to calmly confront the problem and try to calmly and gently settle it.

Sorry to hear that you were bullied in school that is sad GirlWhoLikes2Laugh. I know the feeling. Sorry that still at times you feel bullied.
I think it had taken a lot of courage to confess and share about you having Asperger's so thanks for sharing. I admire you and look up to you.
That took a lot of courage to do that, that is great that you did that-sure it has helped many not feel so alone and know they had a friend in you.

 

[kurchatovium]

Two and a half years ago in April of 2006, as some of you may know, I was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome which is a high functioning form of autism. When I complain about my disability, it's not really the disability per se, it's the NATURE OF THE DISABILITY THAT I DON'T LIKE. You see, when you have a disability that challenges the way you interact with other people, life is more difficult in a way that it would be even if I were physically challenged. While I was growing up, to make a long story short, there were a few times I was bullied by two different girls. When I first went to overnight camp in Mass. and were with girls who were mostly from N.Y, there was this one girl Samantha who was a real bitch to me and made my life for the most part miserable at this camp. She turned most of the other girls against me so what happened was I would go to the counselors for help and they tried but couldn't do very much. So, to make a long story short, my parents had to come get me in the middle of the summer to take me home.

I was bullied again in high school by the girl Dora who was a real bitch who would come by where I was sitting in the cafeteria to touch my hair and pat me on the head like she was petting a dog. I got so sick of it one day that I hit her in the hall and had to go to the principal's office. Somebody actually heard that I did that and and said to me good job or something like that. I have heard on talk shows that bullying has become worse in schools and there's cyberbulling now. I think that some schools, I don't know about all schools, have a zero tolerance policy for bullying. I think that should've been in place at least 20 years ago or earlier.

Looking forward to your thoughts on this.

I was badly bullied through out junior high school and high school till the point of being suicidal. Finally I stood up to those involved and threatened them with bodily harm and at that point they left me alone. Some people can not be reasoned with. Some times force is the only way to deal with a situation though I wish that were not the case. My parents had called the school over and over and over and they refused to do anything to help. I finally realized I would have to deal with the problem myself though it took me a long time to come to that point. No one pushed me around from that day forward nor will anyone ever again. Perhaps in the end I learned something valuable. 🙂

 

[xionking]

So...I kinda gather from most of the responses that there's no real plausable way to stop a bully, and the only way that seems to stop these bullies is to stroop to their level by threatening violence and being verbally intimidating.

Ignoring them does fuck all, dispite what books and teachers and councellors tell you.

Standing up for yourself will only feed their fuel and encourage them to continue bullying.

Waiting it out unfortunately can have severe consequences. As we've heard in this thread, waiting it out (which is just like ignoring it) leads to self-esteem issues that can carry through to adulthood. Of course, the worst consequence of all is suicide.

You can always go and shoot up the school. You'll leave an infamous mark on history forever, and you get to teach those bullies the greatest lesson of all. Thanks God for shitty gun laws.

-Xionking

 

[kurchatovium]

So...I kinda gather from most of the responses that there's no real plausable way to stop a bully, and the only way that seems to stop these bullies is to stroop to their level by threatening violence and being verbally intimidating.

Ignoring them does fuck all, dispite what books and teachers and councellors tell you.

Standing up for yourself will only feed their fuel and encourage them to continue bullying.

Waiting it out unfortunately can have severe consequences. As we've heard in this thread, waiting it out (which is just like ignoring it) leads to self-esteem issues that can carry through to adulthood. Of course, the worst consequence of all is suicide.

You can always go and shoot up the school. You'll leave an infamous mark on history forever, and you get to teach those bullies the greatest lesson of all. Thanks God for shitty gun laws.

-Xionking

I never really thought of it as stooping cause when the incident was over I returned to the way I was. Bullies constantly harrass, intimidate, threaten and attack people. I really dont want any confrontation but now I will confront if you leave me no choice. Also at any point if they back down I do not push things any farther. I dont consder that stooping. I consider being as civilized as possible when confronted with a very uncivil suituation.

 

[Evil Dave]

Whichever country you grew up in and whichever years you went to school, kids are usually mean, spiteful, immature little arseholes but fortunately schools behind me now.

It's the ones who don't grow out of it in adult life that bother me, I'm too old to put up with that shit anymore and they do get called on it.

 

[xionking]

I never really thought of it as stooping cause when the incident was over I returned to the way I was. Bullies constantly harrass, intimidate, threaten and attack people. I really dont want any confrontation but now I will confront if you leave me no choice. Also at any point if they back down I do not push things any farther. I dont consder that stooping. I consider being as civilized as possible when confronted with a very uncivil suituation.

Yeah, but it's still having to stroop the their level. Sugarcoating it with different words doesn't change what you're doing at the end of the day. I agree with you that sometimes you're pushed and pushed into a corner, until you're left with no choice but to stroop to their level.

It's sad that the resources there for victims of bullying do very little to help.

And like I said before, it's tacit approval/B] that feeds the bully just as much as the victim's reaction that feeds the bully.

-Xionking

 

[tickleteasing]

Well here is how I dealt with it in high school. See I would tolerate the names and everything then one day in PE we did the sport of wrestling and I laid in to all the people who teased me, I dropped people on there heads during a match with me, I yanked at a guy's earring, I put my hands around one guy's neck while putting another hand in his mouth and held him down on the floor, I really really let out my aggression then

 

[kurchatovium]

Yeah, but it's still having to stroop the their level. Sugarcoating it with different words doesn't change what you're doing at the end of the day. I agree with you that sometimes you're pushed and pushed into a corner, until you're left with no choice but to stroop to their level.

It's sad that the resources there for victims of bullying do very little to help.

And like I said before, it's tacit approval/B] that feeds the bully just as much as the victim's reaction that feeds the bully.

-Xionking

I dont think I am sugarcoating anything and in fact in my life I have never punched or hit anyone. I have never been in a fight. The bullies always have backed down and I was civil enough to leave it at that. If thats stooping I can live with it. LOL

I agree though that schools should do more about these situations and diffuse them. I hope they are now when I was kid there was no support.

 

[BlackestLily]

The schools are only as meticulous about watching for bullying behavior as there are watchful instructors.

A school is just an institution to house students and educators. The bullying happens in hallways, in classrooms, on buses, etc. There are more ways and facets of bullying now a days and it's my feeling that it can be very easy for instructors to ignore it, blow it over, or pretend it's not nearly as big of a deal as it actually is for a student.

It's not always kids just being kids. And in my classroom sometimes the kids defend their bullies, not wanting to make a big deal out of the situation. But at least I can say in ours we implement a rule that goes:

You will not speak badly of others because they are not here to defend themselves. And if they are you better have good things to say.

It keeps gossip in check, the kids now remind each other of the rule, and anyone who steps out of it gets referred to the dean. Everyone deserves respect, common courtesy, and they deserve to feel safe in whatever environment they are in regardless of who they are or where they came from.

 

[SlaverTickler]

7th Grade

I was bullied by a group of kids (about 8 of them) from 4th - 7th grade. I pretty much stopped when I caught the lead guy on his own in the school yard and squeased his neck very hard for a few minuets. I spent a few day at home but they didn't bother me to often after that.

And they say Violence doesn't solve anything HA!

 

[Knot Amewzed]

Two and a half years ago in April of 2006, as some of you may know, I was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome which is a high functioning form of autism. When I complain about my disability, it's not really the disability per se, it's the NATURE OF THE DISABILITY THAT I DON'T LIKE. You see, when you have a disability that challenges the way you interact with other people, life is more difficult in a way that it would be even if I were physically challenged. While I was growing up, to make a long story short, there were a few times I was bullied by two different girls. When I first went to overnight camp in Mass. and were with girls who were mostly from N.Y, there was this one girl Samantha who was a real bitch to me and made my life for the most part miserable at this camp. She turned most of the other girls against me so what happened was I would go to the counselors for help and they tried but couldn't do very much. So, to make a long story short, my parents had to come get me in the middle of the summer to take me home.

I was bullied again in high school by the girl Dora who was a real bitch who would come by where I was sitting in the cafeteria to touch my hair and pat me on the head like she was petting a dog. I got so sick of it one day that I hit her in the hall and had to go to the principal's office. Somebody actually heard that I did that and and said to me good job or something like that. I have heard on talk shows that bullying has become worse in schools and there's cyberbulling now. I think that some schools, I don't know about all schools, have a zero tolerance policy for bullying. I think that should've been in place at least 20 years ago or earlier.

Looking forward to your thoughts on this.

You have to pick up the heaviest stick that you can carry and smash them across the kneecaps with it. I promise you that there will be no more bullying.

 

[Knot Amewzed]

I dont think I am sugarcoating anything and in fact in my life I have never punched or hit anyone. I have never been in a fight. The bullies always have backed down and I was civil enough to leave it at that. If thats stooping I can live with it. LOL

I agree though that schools should do more about these situations and diffuse them. I hope they are now when I was kid there was no support.

You are a very controlled individual and I admire you for your restraint. I wish I can say the same for myself being that I used to make money making people bleed...lol.

 

[kis123]

It's not always kids just being kids. And in my classroom sometimes the kids defend their bullies, not wanting to make a big deal out of the situation. But at least I can say in ours we implement a rule that goes:

You will not speak badly of others because they are not here to defend themselves. And if they are you better have good things to say.

It keeps gossip in check, the kids now remind each other of the rule, and anyone who steps out of it gets referred to the dean. Everyone deserves respect, common courtesy, and they deserve to feel safe in whatever environment they are in regardless of who they are or where they came from.

I wish there were teachers like you when I was in school. My teachers were more horrible to me than the kids; they condoned the bullying and even participated. My mother would just tell me to ignore it; yeah right when the whole damn classroom was in on me all day every day! Then the weekends from hell at my father's house; it's a wonder I made it through.

Xionking, you're right to a certain degree-violence stoops to the bully's level. But kurch said it best IMO because bullies know only one language and it tends to be right at their stooped level. They don't understand communication, negotiation, or diplomacy. They do understand the idea of a well placed arse kicking; sometimes the mere threat with your backbone straight is enough. If I knew then what I know now, I would've gotten that crap straightened out decades ago.

 

[Knot Amewzed]

I wish there were teachers like you when I was in school. My teachers were more horrible to me than the kids; they condoned the bullying and even participated. My mother would just tell me to ignore it; yeah right when the whole damn classroom was in on me all day every day! Then the weekends from hell at my father's house; it's a wonder I made it through.

Xionking, you're right to a certain degree-violence stoops to the bully's level. But kurch said it best IMO because bullies know only one language and it tends to be right at their stooped level. They don't understand communication, negotiation, or diplomacy. They do understand the idea of a well placed arse kicking; sometimes the mere threat with your backbone straight is enough. If I knew then what I know now, I would've gotten that crap straightened out decades ago.

The teachers condoned and participated in the bullying?? That is absurd and immoral. I know that it is personal information, but when and where did you grow up?

 

[kis123]

The teachers condoned and participated in the bullying?? That is absurd and immoral. I know that it is personal information, but when and where did you grow up?

I survived a generation where grownups ruled; if you were an adult, you were right and if you were a kid, you were wrong. I was extremely vulnerable and an easy target because my parents weren't much better. They ruled with iron and you said or did nothing that went against them. My father's favorite line was "when I'm right I'm right and when I'm wrong I'm right!" Words to live by in his autocratic iron-fisted household, believe me!

As much hell as I went through, I learned a lot about how to be a better parent. I was my kids' advocate and I didn't let the education authorities screw them over like I was. When they tried to suspend my son because he finally got tired of the bullying, I threatened a lawsuit and a news crew! When everyone sat by and let my daughter fail a class without as much as a phone call to me or her father, I landed on them like an atomic bomb!

Been in Ohio all my life, but this crap has happened to others besides me. I'm just crazy enough to speak out about it. Considering I'm a very private person, this is a huge thing for me to do. But this forum is the only place I would EVER talk about such things.

 

[..Glamorous..]

I was never bullied, I pretty much got along with everyone.. as I do know. But I personally can not stand when people bully others. I've seen what it does to kids and even adults. It is ridiculous. I mean that's like when kids and adults aren't friends with people because they're friends don't like them. it's unnecessary and I hope that everyone who bullies other people know what karma is, because eventually they will.

 

[Empyrium]

I've had to luck of growing up in the same town, and going to school with mostly the same people, all of my life. I'm not very shy, except when it comes to the tickling thing, so I've never had trouble meeting new people or making friends. As I got older, into middle school and high school, I hung out with alot of older kids...drinking and what not. I definitely wouldn't say I was one of the "cool" kids, but I knew almost everyone, no matter which clique they were part of. I wasn't a dick to people in school and for the most part no one bothered me. On the rare occassions when someone thought it was a good idea to fuck with me, it didn't take long for them to change their mind. I tried my best to play the same role when I was an upper classman and my brother and his friends were younger. I guess it's not really much of a help, but despite the fact that people take it upon themselves to make you feel like a piece of shit, it's really the other way around. There are still people that care about you, so fuck the bully. So if it's just words, let it slide. Karma is a bitch, as they say, it'll come back around to them. When it gets physical, though I'm not a satanist, I've found some of the best advice in the Satanic Bible..."If a man smite thee on one cheek, Smash him on the other." I'm not really an advocate of violence, and I'm certainly not talking about killing people, but when it gets physical and the teachers or parents won't intervene, hit 'em hard where it hurts. This probably isn't good advice, but it's a philosophy that always worked for me.

 

[kurchatovium]

You are a very controlled individual and I admire you for your restraint. I wish I can say the same for myself being that I used to make money making people bleed...lol.

Thanks my friend. I give all the credit to my parents for raising me right. 😀