How to know when a girl likes you?

[Babyshambles]

Hi Guys.

I am quite terrible at knowing when somebody may like me/fancy me.

I've had a number of girlfriends and have just got out of a relationship of admittedly only a few months, but I still don't know the distinction between when a girl likes me and when a girl "likes" me.

Can you offer any suggestions, tips, indications and general things to look out for in a girl that are a sure sign that she likes a guy.

I must confess to being totally baffled by girls and alternate between thinking that every girl I meet desperately wants me (on account of my charm, looks and personality) and thinking that every girl I meet just wants to be friends.

Any advice for a hopelessly confused male.

 

[CurtWild]

shit....i`m pretty much the same way.

lotsa eye contact and physical contact i suppose.

though i`ve started to be more agressive in the way i chase a woman....not in a bad way 🙂

 

[embomb]

Surefire signs....

1) If she flirts with you, give it right back that's a sign.

2) If she offers her number, take it easy and be yourself, another sign

There's more, but I'm tired...

good day

 

[ViperGTS]

Are you thirteen?

 

[tcklft]

Simple!

If she licks your balls, she likes you.

If she kicks your balls, she doesn't.

 

[Babyshambles]

Are you thirteen?

No seriously. I have no idea.

I once had a house of girls falling over themselves to get me and I didn't tweak a thing. Which was a shame, because one of the girls had recently been voted something like the 5th sexiest girl in London. But anyhow. I tweaked nothing until the model mentioned it to me as I moved out.

Yeah sure, going to clubs, getting numbers and starting relationships can be easy. But I want to know how one can tell whether or not a girl has a favourable impression of a guy. How to know when to go in for the kill.

I would never ask a girl out who was friends with me, or who works at my gym etc., because I never have enough faith that they will say yes.

So, how an I test an assumption that a girl likes me - in a safe way of course.

 

[Babyshambles]

No seriously. I have no idea.

I once had a house of girls falling over themselves to get me and I didn't tweak a thing. Which was a shame, because one of the girls had recently been voted something like the 5th sexiest girl in London. But anyhow. I tweaked nothing until the model mentioned it to me as I moved out.

Yeah sure, going to clubs, getting numbers and starting relationships can be easy. But I want to know how one can tell whether or not a girl has a favourable impression of a guy. How to know when to go in for the kill.

I would never ask a girl out who was friends with me, or who works at my gym etc., because I never have enough faith that they will say yes.

So, how an I test an assumption that a girl likes me - in a safe way of course.

Basically I want some advice. And preferably from the females of this forum (non-typical perverted types that they may be 🙂 )

I once tried reading my flat mates girls mags (when I was house sharing) and all I gathered is that girls like shoes, celebrities and as many tips as possible (preferably 101) on how to please a man. Now, apart from knowing 101 ways to give falatio to really make my man horny, I didn't deduce a lot from those journals of the female mind.

Come on guys. Help a hopeless fool!!

 

[Libertine]

How to tell if she likes you

Presumably you want to know if she's attracted to you at first sight. Well, in my bachelor days, which were extensive I learned that if a sober woman won't look at you or meet your glance, doesn't say much, seems shy and uninterested, plays with her hair and fidgets a lot, she probably likes you. These signals are also equally indicative of a woman who detests you at first sight. Welcome to the wonderful world of Dating Body Language. Believe me, marriage is a haven.

 

[steph]

I'm pretty sure this belongs in Gen Disc but oh well...😀

I'm trying to decide which direction I want to take this in so until I get there, here's just some off the cuff stuff...Keeping in mind I'm a pretty perverted girl. But. I am also Italian, we wrote the how-to book on flirting.

Watch her pupils. They get bigger when we find you attractive.
As drunken mentioned, the eye contact thing is key (she'll try to hold your gaze a little too long) and find any excuse to touch you playfully.

Learn to get a little in touch with your feminine side, be it with flowers, fashion, cooking, whatever you're good at. Take the time to discover if you need to play with it for awhile. Don't be afraid to admit it's new to you to her--it makes you seem vulnerable and we like to help.
XOXO

 

[Amnesiac]

I have ABSOLUTELY NO CLUE. It is nearly impossible for me to tell when a woman is attracted to me (if a woman jumped naked on my lap I'd ask "Uh, I think you've mistaken me for your boyfriend or possibly your slightly hirsute girlfriend?") on account of my Asperger's and the fact that it never seems to happen; what Libertine said about the body language working both ways is true, as I've misread it so many times that I've long since given up trying to ingratiate myself to women in any non-Platonic way. In my experience all the girls who have been visibly attracted to me have been psychos...REAL psychos with prescription bottles and self-inflicted scars to prove it, so I am IMMEDIATELY suspicious of any woman who takes a liking to me, but if I had to guess I'd say if a woman likes you, she will actually walk up and talk to you for no apparent reason, and if she doesn't like you, she'll act like every other woman in the world and barely acknowledge your existence.

 

[asutickler]

Easy:

If you like her, then she probably thinks you're repulsive. If you DON'T like her, then she's probably already stalking you.


Your mileage may vary. 😛

 

[lk70]

I can only speak for me, but I tend to touch guys I'm interested in. Touch the arm, pat the back, ruffle the hair, rub the shoulders, like that. I can do those things while seeming to not be paying any attention to him at all, like by talking to someone else. But if I'm touching him, I like him.

But then it applies to male friends as well, but I think that's because I'm older. When I was younger, it had everything to do with signals.

 

[Stage Whisper]

I have the same problem, except with men. I can never tell if they're interested until, oh, maybe three years later. This usually involves me slapping my forehead with my hand and going "OOOOH. Duh." Or if I mention something odd that a male did in my vicinity and a friend/parent is there to inform me what was going on.

Anyway, the only way I can really get any inkling is the amount of time spent with the person in question. Spending lots of time indicates like of SOME sort; then it kind of depends what you do together. *Shrugs*

 

[Pagoda]

I have the same problem, except with men. I can never tell if they're interested until, oh, maybe three years later. This usually involves me slapping my forehead with my hand and going "OOOOH. Duh." Or if I mention something odd that a male did in my vicinity and a friend/parent is there to inform me what was going on.

I'm glad someone else out there has the '3 years later' syndrome other than me.

Sigh.

 

[Stage Whisper]

I'm glad someone else out there has the '3 years later' syndrome other than me.

Sigh.

You're definitely not alone. I've had it happen waaaay too many times now. Someone needs to make a "Male > Female" and "Female > Male" translator or something. Save us all a lot of trouble.

 

[Pagoda]

You're definitely not alone. I've had it happen waaaay too many times now. Someone needs to make a "Male > Female" and "Female > Male" translator or something. Save us all a lot of trouble.

Yep. Or men and women could just come out and speak english to each other instead of trying to dissect 'signals'. But that'd make too much sense!

...and won't work for the shy folk like myself. Oh well.

 

[foot tickler]

Hi Guys.

I am quite terrible at knowing when somebody may like me/fancy me.

I've had a number of girlfriends and have just got out of a relationship of admittedly only a few months, but I still don't know the distinction between when a girl likes me and when a girl "likes" me.

Can you offer any suggestions, tips, indications and general things to look out for in a girl that are a sure sign that she likes a guy.

I must confess to being totally baffled by girls and alternate between thinking that every girl I meet desperately wants me (on account of my charm, looks and personality) and thinking that every girl I meet just wants to be friends.

Any advice for a hopelessly confused male.

i'd say if shes really friendly with you, and if she helps you with personal things then she likes you, im unsure as well im just guessing, but im as well trying to figure this out, because i have a huge suspicion that this really beautiful girl likes me in my college

 

[Stage Whisper]

Yep. Or men and women could just come out and speak english to each other instead of trying to dissect 'signals'. But that'd make too much sense!

...and won't work for the shy folk like myself. Oh well.

Yeah... shy person here, too. >.< So that definitely wouldn't work.

 

[Hosetickler23]

If you expecting an deffinate answer well you won't find one every woman is different and every man is for that matter.

 

[Ace Riley]

When she doesn't run away when you take your clothes off, you know she might like you.

Though if she reaches for the pepper spray, you might want to try your luck elsewhere.

 

[vsa7a]

If she licks your balls, she likes you.

If she kicks your balls, she doesn't.

LMAO

 

[brianspencer66]

You sound like a young guy and let me give you some tips ok? My guess is your still in school and you may even be too young for this site. But i wont tell and your secret is safe with me ok? Look when I was in school I did not know either until this one girl kicked my ass one day. She made middle school a living hell for me. She would always throw my books in the girls bathroom, kicked me in the nuts every other day, this girl spit in my lunch and stole my money, if I was talking to the other guys in the hall she would run up behind me and try to pull down my pants. Ill tell you this went on for what seemed like FOREVER!!

Well I went home one day my nose bloody in tears and spoke to my dad. Dad was a wise man in those days. He was smoking a pipe and had one of those sweaters on with the leather patch at the elbows and shit. Anyway he lights his pipe, puts down the paper and looks at me with the reading glasses riding his nose and tells me "that girl really likes you son". Suddenly the fire crackling in the fire place (we had one of those too) shot up in a great flame then went normal again, this sort of startled me some. So I looked at dad and said to him "really?" and he just nodded and went back to his paper.
So if a girl is kicking your ass everyday in the 8th grade thats a good way to know if a girl likes you.

 

[Babyshambles]

Hmmm. Well I'm 23 and not still in school.

I'm sure I'm not the only guy at 23 still confused by all of this. It doesn't help that I move about the country a lot (hence last ended relationship on my part) and am very, very difficult to please. In fact, I find myself drawn to the chase. If I ever find out that a girl likes me, I sometimes lose interest.

She likes me. Yay! Now sir, to bed.

You sound like a young guy and let me give you some tips ok? My guess is your still in school and you may even be too young for this site. But i wont tell and your secret is safe with me ok? Look when I was in school I did not know either until this one girl kicked my ass one day. She made middle school a living hell for me. She would always throw my books in the girls bathroom, kicked me in the nuts every other day, this girl spit in my lunch and stole my money, if I was talking to the other guys in the hall she would run up behind me and try to pull down my pants. Ill tell you this went on for what seemed like FOREVER!!

Well I went home one day my nose bloody in tears and spoke to my dad. Dad was a wise man in those days. He was smoking a pipe and had one of those sweaters on with the leather patch at the elbows and shit. Anyway he lights his pipe, puts down the paper and looks at me with the reading glasses riding his nose and tells me "that girl really likes you son". Suddenly the fire crackling in the fire place (we had one of those too) shot up in a great flame then went normal again, this sort of startled me some. So I looked at dad and said to him "really?" and he just nodded and went back to his paper.
So if a girl is kicking your ass everyday in the 8th grade thats a good way to know if a girl likes you.

 

[Babyshambles]

I agree with Denver. In my experience older women have no inhibitions. They just go for it.

They're confident enough in themselves not to be hurt by rejection and have learned to realise that almost no man will turn down a woman who is coming on to him. (unless she has a beard)

The last girlfriend I had was 31 and was a lot less complicated than the younger girls i've been with. And also a wee bit more old fashioned too, if that makes sense. The man is the man and i'm going to please him - but expect to be respected and pleasured too.

Rather than.

"Wow! I'm 21 and gorgeous. Now let's see if I can't find some men to do things for me. Yay!!!

 

[giggle-maker]

"Wow! I'm 21 and gorgeous. Now let's see if I can't find some men to do things for me. Yay!!!

Yea, not the ones to be looking for. There still are some 21 year old gorgeous girls out there that aren't warped like that, tho.