How to know when a guy likes you girls?

[Babyshambles]

After much debate and confusion as to how a guy can tell if a girl is interested in him, it seems that there is know way of knowing. If she looks at you that may be a good sign - or it may not be. If she touches you that may be a good sign - or it may not be. If she plays with her hair she may like you. Or she may have lice. There's no way of knowing.

So, I thought I would create this thread to help out the girls. How to know if a guy likes you.

a) Well it's simple. He'll come up and talk to you. Now, if you have a rather attractive friend and a lot of guys are suddenly hitting on you around her, it's basically because he fancies your friend and wants to talk to her, but doesn't have the testicular fortitude and instead speaks to you, hoping somehow to bring your more aesthetically pleasing friend into the conversation later.

b) If any guy talks to you in a night club, disco - then bingo. He likes you. Or - it's 2am and he can't find anyone else and is pretty sure that somebody like you would be easy to pull on account of you not being very attractive. Or having a beard.

c) Guys want to make girls laugh. But just because he doesn't make you laugh doesn't mean that he isn't interested in you. He may just have no sense of humour - like me. Or one of you may be a retard. Laugh along anyway and see where it leads.

d) Guys are simple creatures, stimulated by visual images. Guys are also blessed with a myriad of perversions, meaning that whether you're short/tall, slim/obese, smell nice or bad or have a beard - there'll be a guy out there for you somewhere that you can like. But in general follow several simple rules to make yourself optimally attractive to as many men as possible: -

1) Be slim.
2) Have long, clean hair
3) Smile
4) Don't laugh at a guy - unless he's telling a joke, or one of you is a retard (see point C above)
5) Never talk about anything revolting, such as your illness, bowel movements or freak accidents. We don't need to know that sort of stuff.
6) Have a tones body. It's very visually stimulating.
7) Wear revealing clothes
8) Wear nice perfume
9) Have an air of mystery - a certain je ne sais quois
10) Laugh at his jokes

This is my - not especially good - contribution. Please feel free to embellish this or to correct me.

 

[lk70]

1) Be slim.
2) Have long, clean hair
3) Smile
4) Don't laugh at a guy - unless he's telling a joke, or one of you is a retard (see point C above)
5) Never talk about anything revolting, such as your illness, bowel movements or freak accidents. We don't need to know that sort of stuff.
6) Have a tones body. It's very visually stimulating.
7) Wear revealing clothes
8) Wear nice perfume
9) Have an air of mystery - a certain je ne sais quois
10) Laugh at his jokes

Numbers 3 and 10 are fine. The rest reflect the age of the OP. Thank god I'm not looking for a man in his 20s.

And young ladies, if a man you're interested in has a list like the above- run, don't walk, and find a better man.

 

[Babyshambles]

Numbers 3 and 10 are fine. The rest reflect the age of the OP. Thank god I'm not looking for a man in his 20s.

And young ladies, if a man you're interested in has a list like the above- run, don't walk, and find a better man.

Oh, IK. How could you be so hurtful 🙁

In my defence. I did not say that I liked those things in a lady. But I would be lying if the others weren't on a list of things to make one optimally attractive to men.

I personally prefer a slighter larger lady. But I would stand by the je ne saids quois comment. An air of excitement is always attractive. As for not talking about illness etc. I had a girlfriend who did that once and even though I was understanding, compassionate etc., something sturned me off her very quickly. My advice. Don't do it. Even if you know the guy. Don't do it. Evolutionarily men and women are attracted to fit people. Illness is not something that we are programmed to find attractive and one should not dwell on it.

 

[Babyshambles]

Numbers 3 and 10 are fine. The rest reflect the age of the OP. Thank god I'm not looking for a man in his 20s.

And young ladies, if a man you're interested in has a list like the above- run, don't walk, and find a better man.

And it's not meant to be taken seriously! 🙂

I hardly ever arrive on a first date with a clipboard anymore.

 

[Ace Riley]

Numbers 3 and 10 are fine. The rest reflect the age of the OP. Thank god I'm not looking for a man in his 20s.

And young ladies, if a man you're interested in has a list like the above- run, don't walk, and find a better man.

You'll be hard pressed to find a man that doesn't like a woman who looks good, smells nice, or any of those attractive items.

Run? From a man who likes a slim woman, long clean hair, or who doesn't enjoy being laughed at?

Some men have standards. This doesn't reflect his age, it reflects his self-respect. As a woman should hers in such a situation with such a person. This doesn't make him into a deviate. This makes him a member of the male gender.

We all have different tastes and personalities, but all men love a beautiful woman. All men are primarily visual creatures. Completely ignoring that fact is sending women into a situation where they doubt what a man is thinking when it's right in front of their face. It's how you look, act, dress and sound. There is very little psychological drama behind it. You don't have to read our minds lol. We are not women.

While it seems his list is kind of crass, in all due honesty, it isn't. A girl doesn't have to be a toned bombshell, but it doesn't hurt to be healthy. She doesn't have to wear revealing clothes, but for the last few hundred years women of every culture have worn dazzling colors and dresses that catch the eyes of men around the world.

We're simple creatures, and I doubt that changes regardless of the age group. History has made that obvious. 😛

 

[Musicroxmysox]

After much debate and confusion as to how a guy can tell if a girl is interested in him, it seems that there is know way of knowing. If she looks at you that may be a good sign - or it may not be. If she touches you that may be a good sign - or it may not be. If she plays with her hair she may like you. Or she may have lice. There's no way of knowing.

So, I thought I would create this thread to help out the girls. How to know if a guy likes you.

a) Well it's simple. He'll come up and talk to you. Now, if you have a rather attractive friend and a lot of guys are suddenly hitting on you around her, it's basically because he fancies your friend and wants to talk to her, but doesn't have the testicular fortitude and instead speaks to you, hoping somehow to bring your more aesthetically pleasing friend into the conversation later.

b) If any guy talks to you in a night club, disco - then bingo. He likes you. Or - it's 2am and he can't find anyone else and is pretty sure that somebody like you would be easy to pull on account of you not being very attractive. Or having a beard.

c) Guys want to make girls laugh. But just because he doesn't make you laugh doesn't mean that he isn't interested in you. He may just have no sense of humour - like me. Or one of you may be a retard. Laugh along anyway and see where it leads.

d) Guys are simple creatures, stimulated by visual images. Guys are also blessed with a myriad of perversions, meaning that whether you're short/tall, slim/obese, smell nice or bad or have a beard - there'll be a guy out there for you somewhere that you can like. But in general follow several simple rules to make yourself optimally attractive to as many men as possible: -

1) Be slim.
2) Have long, clean hair
3) Smile
4) Don't laugh at a guy - unless he's telling a joke, or one of you is a retard (see point C above)
5) Never talk about anything revolting, such as your illness, bowel movements or freak accidents. We don't need to know that sort of stuff.
6) Have a tones body. It's very visually stimulating.
7) Wear revealing clothes
8) Wear nice perfume
9) Have an air of mystery - a certain je ne sais quois
10) Laugh at his jokes

This is my - not especially good - contribution. Please feel free to embellish this or to correct me.

Ok most things do not get me angry on this forum (because sometimes a lot of dumb is said), and I can usually by pass them but this is atrocious.

I'm sorry but I just do not feel that as a woman I need to sacrifice myself in any way for a man. Todays world is all about acceptance, acceptance of yourself and of the other people around you. Furthermore following "rules" of this sort will not lead you to Mr. Right, but be more likely to lead you to Mr. Typical Jerk. These rules are hurtful and old fashioned. It is things like this that fuels little girls desires to play with Barbie and be like her instead of emulating some of the good characters of this world.

By now you probably think I am some man hater, boyfriendless loser. But your wrong. I have a wonderful boyfriend and I did not get with him because I am slim. My hair is not particularly long. I am against revealing clothing, I dress very modestly. I laugh at the dumb things he does all the time and vice a versa, and we discuss everything (just about.)

So for all of the individuals, all of the strong women: JUST BE YOURSELF. Someone out there will find that you are beautiful and love and be the best person you could ever have. Don't go changing yourself because some man wants you to! You are all beautiful and wonderful in your own way and you only deserve the best!

 

[CarolinaTickler]

I agree with maybe one or two things on this list but I think the whole thing is up for interpretation. I mean some guys like girls with short hair and some like a girl with long hair. Some guys don't want to date a girl who is better than them at sports and some like a girl who is competative. I think the whole list is not applicable for everyone.

 

[alf]

1) Be slim.
2) Have long, clean hair
3) Smile
4) Don't laugh at a guy - unless he's telling a joke, or one of you is a retard (see point C above)
5) Never talk about anything revolting, such as your illness, bowel movements or freak accidents. We don't need to know that sort of stuff.
6) Have a tones body. It's very visually stimulating.
7) Wear revealing clothes
8) Wear nice perfume
9) Have an air of mystery - a certain je ne sais quois
10) Laugh at his jokes

i'm not a girl, but can still tell what worx 🙂

1 is false. as pointed above some do have their preferences
2 is right in one point : be clean
3 is useful, until you don't look like a fool smiling and have all your teeth
4 ... uh well can indicate he's *funny *totall dumb ( choose )
5 6 i pass
7 yes nice clothes do help for sure
8 part of be clean, though some girls don't like perfumes
9 worx sometimes
10 ^ pointed above

Being yourself can really help & being honest too. Some girls don't say yes at the first meeting, it takes some time. Bah the main goal is to be in love both sides & happy afterall 🙂 to each its own

 

[minerva]

10) Laugh at his jokes

ROFLMAO

your post clearly was a joke, right? 😉

 

[Babyshambles]

Guys,

This thread is not meant to cause any offence. I asked in another thread how to know when a girl is interested in a guy. Because I get it mixed up all the time. When a girl likes me I think she is just being playful and vice versa.

And I thought, why not offer similar advice, in a non-serious way, for girls.

Now, I'm not saying that to get a man a girl has to be funny, slim, long hair, smile, etc., etc., etc. That is clearly not the case at all, well - not exactly anyway.

I'm just saying that if a girl wanted to make herself optimally attractive to the most guys possible, she might do well to meet some of the criteria on the list. But at the same time. Unless she is a polygamous *****, she may not want to follow any of the items on the list.

There is no one size fits all. Indeed a girl could be the exact opposite of all those items and still have the best relationship with the most loving Mr Perfect. All i'm saying is that the closer you confirm to those things, the more men are available for you to choose from. But you're only ever going to choose one right? So do you really need a large selection of men to choose from? Perhaps not.

And anyway. I'm not going to break the cardinal rule, which is never to argue with a woman. You are never going to win.

So, let's just call me a jerk and forget all about this

 

[Babyshambles]

So for all of the individuals, all of the strong women: JUST BE YOURSELF. Someone out there will find that you are beautiful and love and be the best person you could ever have. Don't go changing yourself because some man wants you to! You are all beautiful and wonderful in your own way and you only deserve the best!

That's good advice. Otherwise you could become pretty neurotic and unhappy.

Now I'm confused though. Surely self-improvement is a good thing?

I suppose everyone has to find their own way of being themselves, whilst at the same time aiming to be better in some way.

 

[slap'n'ticklee]

If 'Babyshambles' 10 pointers truly existed for guys and a guy met up or saw a woman who he thought was your top 10; would he be intimidated by her instead of growing confidence to go and chat and flirt with her?

Ok, I know you said that you wasn't taking your 10 seriously but I wonder if some guys do get an attack of the nerves when they meet/see someone they find 'hot' and don't bother approaching them anyway?

 

[brianspencer66]

How females can know if a guy likes her? This is a most intresting question. And here are some tell tale signs

1. If your very ticklish
2. If your very ticklish
3. Did I say if your very ticklish?
4. He calls you the next night and ask again if your ticklish
5.He says you have beautiful eyes but keeps looking at your feet and smiling
6.He asks if you have any ticklish sisters
7.Your not in a commitment nor ever been commited anywhere
8.If your off the wall ticklish 😀
9.He tells you he works in a shoe store and gives you his card (3 diffrent times)
10.Does not look at the feet of other girls as he walks with you. And then ask again if your really ticklish

 

[Amnesiac]

What would be the point in wondering? Buy a vibrator, it truly is a girl's best friend, and can satisfy you better than any man ever could. The only thing a woman needs a man for is cause depression by not living up to her ideal fantasies, give her money to buy stuff, and someone to take the blame for whatever's bothering her.

And maybe for children, because they sure as shit don't need us for sex.

 

[drew70]

Numbers 3 and 10 are fine. The rest reflect the age of the OP. Thank god I'm not looking for a man in his 20s.

And young ladies, if a man you're interested in has a list like the above- run, don't walk, and find a better man.

You know, I can't help but notice you've become quite the spokesperson about what women in general like or ought to like. What's up with that?

 

[asutickler]

Call me strange, but most of that list in the first post doesn't really apply in my case...

1) Be slim.

Meh. Some people are naturally skinny, some are naturally bigger, and some are naturally in between. Make healthy choices, take good care of yourself, and let your body develop as it will. You'll wind up looking just fine without having to get all stressed about it.

2) Have long, clean hair

Long isn't necessarily superior to medium or short. Clean, however, is always superior to dirty. 😛

3) Smile

Can't argue with that one... Just don't smile ALL the time, for hours on end. It can get kinda creepy after a while. 😛

4) Don't laugh at a guy - unless he's telling a joke, or one of you is a retard (see point C above)

Gotta disagree: If I'm being an idiot, feel free to call me on it. If I do something stupid, intentional or not, and you think its funny, then by all means laugh at me. I ain't exactly delicate. 😛

5) Never talk about anything revolting, such as your illness, bowel movements or freak accidents. We don't need to know that sort of stuff.

I have to disagree with this one, too... Don't edit yourself on my account. Want to tell me about your bowel movement? Have at it. Just remember that you're opening a door that is not easily closed, and that my gross stories are probably far, FAR worse than anything you can dream up. 😛

Also, if you're out on a date with me and you want to get me to relax and start to feel comfortable around you, then nothing breaks the ice quicker than a good old-fashioned gross or vulgar joke. I'm not kidding.

6) Have a tones body. It's very visually stimulating.

Have a body that makes you feel confident and sexy. Attitude may not be everything when it comes to attraction, but it counts for a LOT. If you like what you see in the mirror, other people probably will too.

7) Wear revealing clothes

Revealing or non-revealing doesn't really matter... Trust me, I can accurately envision you naked even if you're wearing a snowsuit. Wear whatever you think looks best. Preferably something that doesn't take you 6 hours to get dressed in. 😛

8) Wear nice perfume

Wear a nice, light body spray, if anything. I think a lot of perfume manufacturers these days moonlight in chemical weapons or something... I mean, DAMN. There's nothing worse than trying to get close to someone and gagging or sneezing due to the overpowering chemical aroma of their perfume.

9) Have an air of mystery - a certain je ne sais quois

Be yourself. I'm not exactly the most emotionally in-tune guy around, but even I can tell when someone is trying to put on some sort of lame, phony persona. The real you is going to come out eventually anyway, so why delay it?

10) Laugh at his jokes

There are very few things that I hate worse than being patronized. PLEASE don't laugh at my jokes unless they're actually funny... I can tell when you're faking it. 😛



If I had to give just one piece of advice on attracting a guy, its this: Don't try too hard. When you go and make yourself into something that you aren't in order to attract someone, then odds are they'll only like you for as long as you can keep up the facade. Just be yourself: Its a lot less effort, and you're more likely to wind up with someone who likes you for you.

Same goes for guys in attracting girls.

 

[lk70]

^ you betcha!

 

[Talonas]

No offense

Seriously though,accurate in the sense of the "drunk bar guy",but the real kind of man a girl is looking for isnt a part of that list.However,roughly 90% of guys are like that to an exact.

 

[Iishieboo]

Meh...

I'm not slim... But I love who I am and if others dont... well that's their problem. Hehe! ((Slim or not, the body is a beautiful thing... Just because I'm big doesn't mean I'm gonna hate on my slim sisters. ^_~))

I have medium hair and clean. *nod nod* Shorter-ish/medium hair just frames my face better.

I think smile should be number one. It's fun to smile, anyway. ^______^

I do agree with Rhino... Most of the time I'm bubbly and acting like a dork. So go ahead and give a chuckle... even a guffaw! Just don't do laugh to be mean. ^_~ Of course, I'll giggle at a guy but never to be mean.

When it comes to grody-ness... I don't mind it... I'll probably laugh and such. I'm open... if you share... I'll share.

Isn't being tone almost the same as the first one? o.o O well I'm tone anyway... My mind is perfectly in tune with my heart. ^_~ And well... Visuals are nice but lets work on the sense of touch. =P

I'm gonna wear what I like... And I'm not going to look like a *****. I'm not out there trying to get laid. If I'm out to meet guys I don't want one that only likes the way my boobs fall out of my top. Besides... I know a lot of guys who find that desperate and off putting.

Perfume is ok... Basically... smell nice. Some people wear so much perfume it makes me gag. A light spritz is fine... Remember, you're not marking your territory.

Have fun... be yourself. Dance if you feel like dancing, sing if you feel like singing. ^___^

Honestly... I can be a little slow when it comes to jokes. So usually... if I don't get it... I'll giggle and hide my face. You'll know if I don't get it. Then, you have permission to laugh at me.


Bah... Who needs rules?! SCREW the "rules"! Just be yourself. There's someone out there for everyone.

 

[steph]

I think...

It's a superb list, especially if you're hoping to land Ms. One-Dimensional, Barbie, or Isis J. Blowup Doll. Congrats on eliminating most of the gals on this forum and most of the real world with that list, with the exception of the being clean part. It's no wonder you can't read women, you clearly can't read men either. Not the real ones anyhoo. I've been heavier, I've been skinny, been an A-cup and a double D, had my hair short, long, blond, red, black. You know what I've learned? If you've got it, you've got it and anyone of substance feels it from you, the minute you walk into a room. Real beauty shines from within...
XOXO

 

[Babyshambles]

It's a superb list, especially if you're hoping to land Ms. One-Dimensional, Barbie, or Isis J. Blowup Doll. Congrats on eliminating most of the gals on this forum and most of the real world with that list, with the exception of the being clean part. It's no wonder you can't read women, you clearly can't read men either. Not the real ones anyhoo. I've been heavier, I've been skinny, been an A-cup and a double D, had my hair short, long, blond, red, black. You know what I've learned? If you've got it, you've got it and anyone of substance feels it from you, the minute you walk into a room. Real beauty shines from within...
XOXO

Oh for fucks sake.

It's a joke. It's my sense of humour.

 

[drummerboy]

I think you peeps are taking everything a little bit too seriously.

I mean, personally, no woman can compare to this...

...nah, I'm only playing!

Lets get serious:

Call me young a naive, but you girlies don't have to play any games or live up to certain expectations. Have a relatively good fashion sense, good hygine and smell nice... yes please! But its not because of these reasons why I will fall in love with you. That takes time, getting to know you and how you tick - how you act and think, what kind of person you are - your beliefs and views, your likes and dislikes. Its the details of a person that makes me fall in love with them. Irrespective on the whole of what you look like. You don't have to compare to the beautiful Miss. Knowles above. I love my girlfriend not because of sex, not even neccissarily because of what she looks like (we all have bad days, right?) I love her because she's my best friend, my best mate who I love to hang around and confide in.

 

[steph]

why so defensive?

Now, now, there's no need for profanity. I mean I didn't swear at you, did I? I mean NOT that I don't LOVE a good swearfest~my pop was in the Navy, I can hold my own with the best of the boys. Hell, a lot of my guy friends swear I AM one of the boys.

And for the record, I don't think it was a joke at all, I think you probably actually beleive that stuff, it's not the weirdest thing with a guy your age. It's why when we were in high school, we always went for college guys over the rest of ya. Older DOES equal wiser most of the time.

And if that's what you define as "humor", methinks a Comedy101 class might be in order. You can see by the posts how many other people appreciated your particular brand of "funny," right??

Oh for fucks sake.

It's a joke. It's my sense of humour.

 

[Bari]

Sour grapes, anyone?

What would be the point in wondering? Buy a vibrator, it truly is a girl's best friend, and can satisfy you better than any man ever could. The only thing a woman needs a man for is cause depression by not living up to her ideal fantasies, give her money to buy stuff, and someone to take the blame for whatever's bothering her.

And maybe for children, because they sure as shit don't need us for sex.

I've got my own money, thanks. And if I wanted a kid, I could go down to the local sperm bank and by a dad in a can. So, no. Men aren't needed, but they ARE useful, sometimes. If they don't whine too damn much.

Vibrators have their pros and cons. On the down-side...they don't have fingers to delight bellybuttons, nipples, armpits or toes while making love.

On the upside, they don't piss and moan about how no one wants them and wonder why while they sit and get fat and use Jergen's-lotion-slicked fingers to type desperate inquiries and requests on the internet while they bemoan their lot in life because they have no job and live in their mother's basement even though there's probably a perfectly nice girl out there somewhere that they could meet if they'd just get out of the house and actually interact with another human being.

Vibrators sit patiently in a drawer, asking only for fresh batteries. And they're there when you need them. And, as mentioned above...they don't piss and moan about no one liking them while they make no effort to make themselves likable.

 

[Evil Dave]

I've got my own money, thanks. And if I wanted a kid, I could go down to the local sperm bank and by a dad in a can. So, no. Men aren't needed, but they ARE useful, sometimes. If they don't whine too damn much.

Vibrators have their pros and cons. On the down-side...they don't have fingers to delight bellybuttons, nipples, armpits or toes while making love.

On the upside, they don't piss and moan about how no one wants them and wonder why while they sit and get fat and use Jergen's-lotion-slicked fingers to type desperate inquiries and requests on the internet while they bemoan their lot in life because they have no job and live in their mother's basement even though there's probably a perfectly nice girl out there somewhere that they could meet if they'd just get out of the house and actually interact with another human being.

Vibrators sit patiently in a drawer, asking only for fresh batteries. And they're there when you need them. And, as mentioned above...they don't piss and moan about no one liking them while they make no effort to make themselves likable.

But can it mow the lawn?