How to raise your sons and daughters with a TK Fetish.

[rhiannon]

But what if your kids happen to stumble on your kink??? And if they ask you about it, you feel the obligation to tell them??

Trust me, they won't ask! When I was 11, I stumbled upon my father's porn, and I sure as hell never lost a word about it!

If you are honest with yourself, and your kink, then why not be honest with them and tell them??

Because it is none of their business! The parents' sex life does not need to be known by the children and vice versa!

 

[c7_assassin]

lol i do but there is a difference. Muslim women are required by their religion to wear their Burka where as you get a choice to look after your child. Your argument in theory is correct and I agree with you. But in reality do you trust your local law enforcement to keep someone from bum raping your kid?

I have to agree with Rhiannon here (although I'm not sure how this even came up...).

I'd say worrying so much about pedophiles that you won't let your kid play around on a beach would probably do more psychological harm, both to you and your child, than anything else that is likely to happen to that child on the beach. People are way, way too paranoid (of course, I don't have any kids...maybe my views will swing way to the right when I have some of my own, but I hope not...).

But as to the OP, I think what happens in the bedroom can stay in the bedroom, no need to talk to your kids about what gets daddy's pee-pee hard. 😉

 

[lilone4sir]

But as to the OP, I think what happens in the bedroom can stay in the bedroom, no need to talk to your kids about what gets daddy's pee-pee hard. 😉

OMG... totally fell off my chair laughing when I read that!

I would have to say here (and I am sooo not kid-friendly so take it for what it's worth) that there's no need to step-out-of-the-tickle-trunk on this one. I think telling them would do more harm than good. If they ever figure out that they too have this as a kink and bring it up you may come out and say you do too but I think the safest route is always the "different strokes for different folks". Accept yourself, love yourself (even in c7's naughty way) and love your children.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Because if the child hears Mommy laughing and screaming in the next room, it will most likely check out what's going on? Would you have appreciated it if your parents were all moaning loudly while you were in the same house able to hear everything?

I don't agree. It wasn't until I was an adult when I finally got it! My parents would say, "Do not knock on the door! We are off duty!" and Daddy used to get really mad if we did. LOL! I honestly didn't get it until I got married. LOL

Yes children are curious, but millions of parents have continued to have a great sex life (even a kinky sex life) in their bedrooms without scarring their kids for life. Really, they do!

I would NEVER share with any child that I had a tickle fetish (or about my other fetishes...).

And I agree with the others that many of us just DO NOT WANT TO KNOW... (POKE MY EYES OUT PLEASE) when it comes to our parents. Believe me. When my mother found out I loved tickling, and in her distress to save me from Hell asked if I would stop going to gatherings if she tickled me.... I could have vomited right there! GROSS! Really? Ewww.... No, really?!

It still makes me sick to my stomach! Parents-Kids-Fetishes DO NOT MIX!

Eww
Sunny

 

[ticklingfeet4fu]

Would you feel comfortable with your parents sitting you down to let you know that they really enjoy having anal? Or that they just can't get enough 69? Or that they have a huge collection of dildos in their closet? Or that your dad gets really excited when your mom stomps on his nuts?

If my parent(s) sat me down to tell me anything about their private sex life, I would freak the fuck out. There are things your parents and/or your children do not need to know about you.

Very well stated.

 

[Raytheon]

rhiannon
The Quran does not require the women to wear a Burka; it was men interpreting it that way, but anyways - I do not see why I should cover up my (non-existent ) child just because a pedophile COULD be around! Then I can't let it out of the house unaccompanied! I have never heard about nude kids being kidnapped off the beach, they are usually disappearing on the way to or from school! That would be like me not wearing sexy clothes out of being afraid to be raped!
(@ c7_assassin too 🙂)

In my opinion there is a balance to be struck between safety and liberty. Pedophiles are opportunists so they will fit their dirty work around the situations they find. For example, just because you've never heard of a kid going missing at the beach doesn't mean the peados arnt there. If I had children, personally I would not allow them to run around outside naked. That is not to say though that I wouldn't allow them space to play or explore. Again in my personal opinion i don't know what sexy clothes you like to wear but I'm watching a bunch of 12 year old girls walk past my window, all wearing hot pants and boob tubes .... see my point lol

 

[rhiannon]

When my mother found out I loved tickling, and in her distress to save me from Hell asked if I would stop going to gatherings if she tickled me.... I could have vomited right there! GROSS! Really? Ewww.... No, really?!

O my God, I loled so BAD about that one...actually, I still am! 😀

For example, just because you've never heard of a kid going missing at the beach doesn't mean the peados arnt there. If I had children, personally I would not allow them to run around outside naked.

It is the most natural thing in the world to have little kids run around naked. And guess what, it doesn't make any difference to a pedophile at all if the kid is wearing a swimming suit or not! I really, really, really do not see a reason why I should be overly protective or change natural behavior because there are some weirdos out in the world!

It is different if someone who is 12 tries to look like they are 18!

 

[SteakDinnerBoom]

When I first saw the title of the thread I thought the OP was asking how to ensure that your kids themselves grow up to have a tickle fetish! Then the song "Mamas, don't let your babies grow up to be cowboys" came to mind. Other than that, I have nothing to contribute to this thread except to agree with those who say the kids don't need to know. Nor would they appreciate knowing, most likely.

 

[Paultickler]

i'd check to confirm that he's foreign (which he has stated before he is) before making fun of his spelling and grammar.

Thanks for the support!

My English teachers always get angry cause i said CHILDRENS!

There are not childrens! she said it's CHILDREN!

and GiRLDFRIEND is because of my fast typing, sorry. My friends get mad about this even in spanish.

 

[Paultickler]

And yes I was wondering how to explain it if they find it out.

But I have time to think about it.

AND NOOOOOOOOOO I DON'T WANNA HAVE KIDS YET!

 

[Paultickler]

I mean is like explaining them why mom and dad like punk rock music and wear red/pink/blue/green hair, not like majority of the population.

I think that was my point.

 

[Paultickler]

My husband tickles me all the time in front of my son. He just ignores us, I mean tickling isn't sexual for me so maybe I'd feel differently if it was. I was just wondering. And, idk about the last part.. my parents have been divorced since I was little but, I really don't think it would have bothered me any.

I think when you're tied up and tickled is a bigger problem.

 

[rhiannon]

Just make sure they don't find out, it's that easy! 🙂 Have loud sessions while they are not in the house!

 

[Radiohead 7140]

Would you feel comfortable with your parents sitting you down to let you know that they really enjoy having anal? Or that they just can't get enough 69? Or that they have a huge collection of dildos in their closet? Or that your dad gets really excited when your mom stomps on his nuts?

If my parent(s) sat me down to tell me anything about their private sex life, I would freak the fuck out. There are things your parents and/or your children do not need to know about you.

I felt relatively comfortable, though dildos never came up.

It is very important that you raise your children with a tickle fetish. Vanilla child = adoption as far as I'm concerned.

 

[BellaRisa]

Just make sure they don't find out, it's that easy! 🙂 Have loud sessions while they are not in the house!

Children are in the house most nights for at least 18 years. Waiting until the kids aren't home for good sex sounds great when you don't have any children and have no idea what you're talking about, but in reality it's a bit much. Sex between parents in love is a beautiful thing and part of what keeps a marriage happy and healthy; if the children hear something and have questions, you answer on a child's level. My daughters have asked "what we were doing in there", and been told that we were making love. Or Daddy was tickling Mama. Or, as usual, Daddy was tickling Mama while South Park was on so Mama was just laughing nonstop for awhile there 😛 And they nodded and went back to playing Connect Four, end of story. Our children certainly don't need the gory details of what we do behind closed doors, but I have no problem with them being aware that their parents are in love and intimate; sex is a natural part of life and doesn't need to be hidden unless you're trying to raise uptight kids.

 

[JS805]

I know how you should tell them. Wake them up one morning with a megaphone in your hand and yell I HAVE A TICKLE FETISH HAHAHAHA IM COOL

 

[The Last Laugh]

If I heard my mom having sex (which I know she does because I'm one of 5 kids), why would it bother me? I'm not the one having sex with her.

Why would it bother you? You're really asking that?

While it's great that you're so open-minded about sex, to the point that you don't mind the idea of hearing your mom having it, you have to understand that the vast majority of people would be rather uncomfortable, possibly even a little (or totally) freaked out in such a situation.

 

[BellaRisa]

Why would it bother you? You're really asking that?

While it's great that you're so open-minded about sex, to the point that you don't mind the idea of hearing your mom having it, you have to understand that the vast majority of people would be rather uncomfortable, possibly even a little (or totally) freaked out in such a situation.

I don't think the 'vast majority' is as uptight as you might think, especially people in their 20's like Glam. Times have changed, and while I agree that many people would be a bit uncomfortable at first, it's just not that big a deal in 2009.

 

[rhiannon]

I don't think the 'vast majority' is as uptight as you might think, especially people in their 20's like Glam. Times have changed, and while I agree that many people would be a bit uncomfortable at first, it's just not that big a deal in 2009.

I agree it is not a big problem when they are really little and don't understand what is really going on. The difficulties start when they are growing older and get the picture!

Small children will just accept it because they have no clue. Older children will most likely be grossed out, and it has nothing to do with being uptight, it is pretty natural.

 

[BellaRisa]

I agree it is not a big problem when they are really little and don't understand what is really going on. The difficulties start when they are growing older and get the picture!

Small children will just accept it because they have no clue. Older children will most likely be grossed out, and it has nothing to do with being uptight, it is pretty natural.

Not if it's handled properly. If you've taught them from the beginning to love their bodies and that there's nothing 'gross' about sex, the response is far less shocked and horrified.

 

[ViperGTS]

You have no right whatsoever to raise your children with any sexual predispositions based on your opinions or life experiences, with the exception of education of facts, not opinions.

If you believe the above statement is false, you should not have children.

 

[BellaRisa]

You have no right whatsoever to raise your children with any sexual predispositions based on your opinions or life experiences, with the exception of education of facts, not opinions.

If you believe the above statement is false, you should not have children.

Um...I agree with that in theory, but parents are the strongest infulence in a child's life for most of the first 18 yrs; in reality you can't expect your children to live with you, watch you and listen to your opinions even when your not talking to them, etc, and not be predisposed to some degree. I know that a large part of my sexuality stems from how my mother lived her life and her opinions and POV regarding sex, why wouldn't it be that way? The key is to make sure that your kids feel free to explore different ways of doing things and living so that even if you have imprinted them to some degree, they can be comfortable challenging those ideas if they want to 🙂

 

[ViperGTS]

Well, education is one thing. Explaining to a curious child what certain things are, how your sexuality works, etc. is vastly different from actively trying to make them grow up with certain fetishes or sexual preferences.

 

[rhiannon]

Well, education is one thing. Explaining to a curious child what certain things are, how your sexuality works, etc. is vastly different from actively trying to make them grow up with certain fetishes or sexual preferences.

I don't think that this is what this thread is about, although I understand that it can be interpreted that way. 🙂

I agree with that in theory, but parents are the strongest infulence in a child's life for most of the first 18 yrs; in reality you can't expect your children to live with you, watch you and listen to your opinions even when your not talking to them, etc, and not be predisposed to some degree. I know that a large part of my sexuality stems from how my mother lived her life and her opinions and POV regarding sex, why wouldn't it be that way?

Great that it is that way for you, but I think you are the only person I have heard of who it worked that way for! For most people, sexuality is something that is totally detached from their parents!

I personally can talk to just about everything with my parents, especially my mother, also sex - but it got that way when I was grown up! When I was a child, I didn't want ANYTHING to do with my parents' sexuality, and so far everybody I've met was the same way!

And my parents never gave me the impression that sex or nudity was something bad, that just being said on the side!

 

[Coup de Grace]

I don't know how or why this thread is getting so much run. If you (the parents) have a tickle fetish, your children don't need to know about it and you're not obligated to explain what you're doing, after all, you're the PARENT. If things get loud, turn on the stereo. Just like sex, tickling is private and there are some things that the kids just don't need to know, especially at a young, impressionable age.