If you could get rid of your tickling fetish, would you?

[ticklkitten]

I stick by my decision that I'll always love it simply because I like being a bit freaky... lol. I know that might insult a few but things that are out of the ordinary tend to appeal to me. Such as fetishes...

 

[NG02]

I stick by my decision that I'll always love it simply because I like being a bit freaky... lol. I know that might insult a few but things that are out of the ordinary tend to appeal to me. Such as fetishes...

Ok what you just said was very sexy comming from a female(the freaky part caught my attention...lol). But I also agree with the point you made about things that are somwhat out of the ordinary apealing to you. I believe it might be like that with most of us, hence us being here.

 

[CorwinFT]

Curse?

I think people who feel shame or regard their "fetish"
as a curse or burden need to change something besides
their "fetish". Tickling is harmless, shame and guilt are
not. Don't let people project their own narrow views
onto you. Life is too short and precious to allow it.

 

[nobody271]

Yes...

I'm not ashamed for having it anymore, however life would be much easier without it so yes....

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

Kudos to Newcastle Uni!

...or was it coals to Newcastle?

Anyway, if you visit here often enough, you start to see the same general thread ideas pop-up over and over, `til you tend to think all that can be said on the subject of tickling has been said...

...so it's nice when someone approaches things from a different direction!

 

[BigBrownEyes]

That's a good question. I'd say yes, I'd get rid of it if I could. The reason is that it's such a rare fetish, yet it becomes such a strong desire that most of can't do anything about on a day-to-day basis. It leads to great frustration for the average ticklephile. I'm extremely tired of wanting to bring tickling into a relationship, but living in a world of "don't do that..."

Then again, we'd probably just trade in one fetish for another. Who knows what the next one might be... 😛

 

[Eternal Tomboy]

I'm kind of torn on the subject

Great thread!

Obviously, being a vanilla girl in a vanilla world is a whole lot easier. BUT I also love the rush that I get from tickling. I love that it is something that I can find with friends and lovers. In the movies, and while taking a stroll on the beach. It is one of the few fetishes out there that can be either seen, heard, or engaged in almost anywhere.
On the other hand, if I had to pick either having a fetish or not, I'd probably pick not (because it's just easier). But if I'm being made to pick between the fetishes, then I'd pick tickling hands down!

Can you tell I'm kind of sliced down the middle on this one?? 🙄

Maggie

 

[Gothmog]

I hate my fetish,but I know no easy way to get rid of it.I get sick when thinking I'm attracted to a violation of someone's space and honor.I would never dare do it to anybody unless they asked.I'm disgusted,but I have no choice.

 

[kcantankerous]

Yes

I probably would get rid of my fetish if I had the chance. It really is a pain in the ass, to not think about at any time weather some girl I meet or see is ticklish. It's not that much of a big deal to me but when you cant date a otherwise great girl because she's not ticklish or is but hates it, it really puts things in persective. To conclude I'd dump it any day of the week if I could.

 

[GoForTheLaugh]

I hate my fetish,but I know no easy way to get rid of it.I get sick when thinking I'm attracted to a violation of someone's space and honor.I would never dare do it to anybody unless they asked.I'm disgusted,but I have no choice.

Although I am responding to Gothmog, this post is for everyone who feels anguish and conflict because of our fetish.

I know, Gothmog, I know. I struggle with it, too, and sometimes I am thoroughly disgusted by it. I try my best to be positive on this board, but sometimes my frustration is just too powerful and gets out.

I will say this, though: Here's why our fetish may not be as bad as you and I and some others think:

I was once disgusted by the thought of being gay, and I automatically hated everyone who was. Now, so many years later, I am grateful to be gay. I have at times actually cried while thinking about how lucky I was to have two above-and-beyond gay friends in particular, and how we never would have met if I had not been gay. I am also thoroughly integrated into gay life and would not have it any other way.

People on this board express the same thing about their tickle fetish and how much they love it now/how wonderful all the friends they have met on the board and elsewhere (through the fetish) are. Some also speak of being integrated into the tickling community (whatever that is).

I hope that you and I and all the others who struggle with this fetish reach that point eventually, a point where we can be proud and grateful.

In the meantime, don't be like me and be so down on yourself because of the fetish, bro. (I should not indulge myself so much on this board: I admit it.) It's our biology, a part of who we are. Remove one part and we become different people entirely. All the good in you and all the good you do for others depends on your being a whole person, and a whole person is the sum of all his deeds/desires/thoughts/urges.

 

[kcantankerous]

I have'nt changed my mind, however

come to think of it, well first I still would rid myself of it if I could but. I feel like it would be worse if I was into causing real pain toward someone. Such as that fetish of slapping peoples feet, or some forms of intense bondage, or whatever. Could you imagine telling someone your into people urinating on your face. Lol next to some of that stuff tickling doesnt seem so bad.

And before anyone makes a joke or something Im not into anything unusual other than tickling and feet.

 

[mtlhd]

probably would

I guess I would so I could join normality... for reasons of, I can go out on a date and not think about tickling her feet and what not, or how i can make that possible... it really makes love life difficult. I feel like all women hate it (I know there is plenty of girls on this site, I mean in my love life experiences) so i feel that I can not be happy in a marriage without a wife that shares the same love for it i do.

i would lose it if i could, foot fetish too. i tired of feeling wierd and unable to share what i like with a lover.

-mtlhd

 

[ticklingfeet4fu]

Great Question. Answer: NO. Without the tickling fetish , I would not be with my current girlfriend. Where it goes from here I don't know. But the relationship is not based on tickling. Heck, I might tickle her once every 2 weeks but to know that I could everyday without her getting mad at me is GREAT. But the fact that I was married to a lady who was superticklish but did not like to be tickled did not seem to dim my spirits. Now I am with Sadira and she loves to be tickled and it is great. No, I would never trade in the fetish because it REALLY does fit my personality. 😀

 

[Morning Angel]

I hate my fetish,but I know no easy way to get rid of it.I get sick when thinking I'm attracted to a violation of someone's space and honor.I would never dare do it to anybody unless they asked.I'm disgusted,but I have no choice.

I'm sorry that you, and maybe others, feel so negatively towards your own desires. I think that tickling doesn't have to violate anyone, and even if you happen to be attracted to aspects of non-consentuality and humiliation you can happily fantasize about that without ever carrying any of it out in real life. Or you can find people (hire them if you have to) who will role-play with you to create the illusion of things that might 'disgust' you in reality. There's nothing wrong with that.

Many people here have also expressed frustration that tickling seems like such a rare fetish and it's hard to find someone who won't run screaming, let alone be compatible. But even within what we define as vanilla sexuality it's a challenge for 2 people to be compatible. Things like oral sex, frequency of sex, positions make problems for couples all the time - and that's AFTER you find someone whose personality, looks, interests etc. match your tastes. Having an unusual fetish seems like a drop in the bucket to me. But good, kinky, open-minded people are out there, this forum is proof of that!

 

[Gothmog]

I've never had a girlfriend in my young life.Most people seem to get one as young as fourteen,but no I've never had one,and my twenties are approaching soon.I am extremely shy and insecure.And I'm attracted to a certain type of girl that is extremely rare to find where I live.So having this fetish as you said makes it far more diffficult.I've never kissed a girl,or even talked to one before(outside of friendly banter),and I'm not very good looking.I know most young people say that,but I just think that.I get extremely lonely,and I guess my insecurity and self loathing tendencies are keeping me from socializing with the opposite gender,or any gender for that matter.I usually don't talk to anyone outside of my friends in real life and the internet,and my family.

 

[TickleMe_Silly]

NEVER! Yes having this fetish without a partner is tough because I know what it's like. My partner who I loved to share this special thing with recently left on mutual terms. But He is actually who I got the fetish from and I would never give it up simply because i enjoy it and I'll always have a part of him.

 

[GoForTheLaugh]

I've never had a girlfriend in my young life.Most people seem to get one as young as fourteen,but no I've never had one,and my twenties are approaching soon.I am extremely shy and insecure.And I'm attracted to a certain type of girl that is extremely rare to find where I live.So having this fetish as you said makes it far more diffficult.I've never kissed a girl,or even talked to one before(outside of friendly banter),and I'm not very good looking.I know most young people say that,but I just think that.I get extremely lonely,and I guess my insecurity and self loathing tendencies are keeping me from socializing with the opposite gender,or any gender for that matter.I usually don't talk to anyone outside of my friends in real life and the internet,and my family.

Bro, there's nothing strange or unusual in your post, and I have never gotten any strange or unusual read on you. Some guys do get girlfriends at 14 and some don't get a first one 'till 20 or 25 or 30 or 35... There do seem to be a lot of young studs on this board, guys bragging about all the action they get tying up and tickling pretty gals and such. I'd say "Bullshit!" to a number of them. It's a message board, and people don't always tell the truth.

You, on the other hand, should be commended for being so honest and saying what you really feel.

You're young, and you do have time. If you know that you have issues with self-esteem, something many of us share, then you have time to do something about it. Read up on it; see a behavior therapist or get a good book on behavior therapy techniques that you can apply on your own; accept what family and friends like in you and let it shine; love yourself as you are despite any limitations since people can sense when others love themselves and it is as sexy as can be.

Yes, relationships are hard and take a lot of work, and even people in love can drive each other crazy. But anything in life worth having never comes easily.

I am glad that you have a circle of friends. Ask yourself what holds all of you together and look for a young woman or more friends who have those qualities. In other words, look for someone who wants you for you. Not all women want Joe Popular.

Remember, too, that the women worth dating aren't mental twinkies with Barbie bodies. Real women come in all sizes, all shapes, all colors, and all dispositions. And there are so many out there, many of whom may be as shy and inexperienced as you but eager to be with someone. These words are not breaths of exaggeration tossed to the wind. I say it as I see it, and I know that, no matter what, anyone who puts in the time to improve himself and learns what it means to love a woman for real will definitely find one.

 

[Gothmog]

Thank you for the advice,I was worried I was complaining too much.

 

[GoForTheLaugh]

Thank you for the advice,I was worried I was complaining too much.

While too much negativity is bad for the person who is being negative, getting things off your chest is good for the soul. It is your board as much as anyone else's, Gothmog. Why shouldn't you say what you need to say?

I have just started a new thread:

"Thread for those of us uncomfortable with this fetish to commiserate/help each other"

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?p=767348#post767348

 

[penny lane]

What an interesting thread.

My answer to this question changes everyday. I think I'm kind of in the minority in the sense that I didn't have this fetsih/kink as a child...only within the last ten to twelve years. My boyfriend at the time converted me. For a while after we had broken up, I was angry with him for converting me...And it would constantly remind me of him. But that's done and over.

So, yes, I would get rid of it. It would make it easier for me to meet someone. But then I think about other fetishes (sp?) that some people are into...that I think are strange...and tickling is a pretty tame one, compared to the other stuff. That's when my answer changes to "no".

So, where does this leave me? I don't know.

 

[some1somewhere]

Umm, I would never give up this fetish, because it is a part of who I am. But to those that would, that is fine, on one condition!

You allow me to take your fetish and give it to a girl I have a "thing" for in this area! No ifs, ands, or buts about it, if you want to give it up, I get to give to someone else. No use to have a fetish just laying there, I know of a few girls that I could have fun with if they had it.

If only it worked like that....

 

[Brock Samson]

Not a chance in the world. I thought that when I joined this man's army that it would affect it, but it didn't. If the army can't get it out of me, nothing can. And besides, I wouldn't be me. Just wouldn't seem right.

 

[Blackrook]

Milagros, thank you.

No, I would not. I prefer my current situation, which is enjoying my interest (call it a fetish if you want to). 😀

First, to answer the question. No I wouldn't change it. If I knew when I was younger what I know, I would have managed my interests and needs better. But, you know what they say, if "ifs" and "buts" were candy nuts, we'd all have a merry christmas. We can't change it if our sexual interest is guided by it. Not all tickle enthusiasts may have that restriction. For those that do, you will do well to stop calling it a fetish as that term has a clinical meaning which essentially amounts to your admitting you have a mental disorder. Yes, there are other meanings for the word "fetish", I suppose. But why risk alienating 3rd parties who know the clinical definition and don't appreciate your distinction. I realize this is a lost cause. But, I take heart in Milagros subtle admonishment, enjoyment of tickling is an interest. Interests in a woman's breast make a better definition of "fetish" than does tickling as the former is an object and the latter an activity, but I digress.

Rook

 

[BigBrownEyes]

I'm sorry that you, and maybe others, feel so negatively towards your own desires. I think that tickling doesn't have to violate anyone, and even if you happen to be attracted to aspects of non-consentuality and humiliation you can happily fantasize about that without ever carrying any of it out in real life. Or you can find people (hire them if you have to) who will role-play with you to create the illusion of things that might 'disgust' you in reality. There's nothing wrong with that.

Many people here have also expressed frustration that tickling seems like such a rare fetish and it's hard to find someone who won't run screaming, let alone be compatible. But even within what we define as vanilla sexuality it's a challenge for 2 people to be compatible. Things like oral sex, frequency of sex, positions make problems for couples all the time - and that's AFTER you find someone whose personality, looks, interests etc. match your tastes. Having an unusual fetish seems like a drop in the bucket to me. But good, kinky, open-minded people are out there, this forum is proof of that!

Great answer! I like the way you think, Morning Angel! I love your last comment that "good, kinky, open-minded people are out there." Well said!

I agree that they're out there. Finding the right one is the difficult part.

I'm not disgusted with my tickling fetish at all. Hey, I love it! The part about it that gets on my nerves is that meeting someone else to date in our everyday world, who shares our desire is about 70-30, maybe 80-20, maybe even 90-10. I got lucky over the years with some past relationships. Looks like I didn't really know what I had. Then again, you absolutely can't base a deep relationship on tickling. I found that out too.

 

[TKL_M28_LI_NY]

I would...but...

I would get rid of it. But the reactions I get in the bedroom are so much more intense...I can't imagine it being replaced with anything.