IS it possible to know you will never get married

[love feet]

1 could you ever say I will never get married ever!??
2. do you believe there are personality profiles that never work in a marriage at all as in a type that is not compatible with the classic model?
3. have you ever met anyone with this personality profiles Note this Group of personality profiles have friends they are not antisocial at all!!!.

Opinions anyone???.

Thanks!!.

 

[asutickler]

1. I say it all the time... And I mean it. Tying yourself to someone legally and financially for life (or at least until you can't stand each other any more) based upon a perceived emotional connection seems like a hideously illogical and dangerous thing to do. I really want no part of it.
2. I think an awful LOT of personality profiles don't work in a marriage, and that's part of why we have such an astronomical divorce rate.
3. Sure... I'm probably one of them myself. *shrug*

 

[love feet]

1. I say it all the time... And I mean it. Tying yourself to someone legally and financially for life (or at least until you can't stand each other any more) based upon a perceived emotional connection seems like a hideously illogical and dangerous thing to do. I really want no part of it.
2. I think an awful LOT of personality profiles don't work in a marriage, and that's part of why we have such an astronomical divorce rate.
3. Sure... I'm probably one of them myself. *shrug*

Thanks for the answer
I think i am one of these personality profiles ... i wanted so see if my prospective was in the abnormal range or not

I want more answers all!!!.

 

[kis123]

If I knew then what I know now, I never would've gotten married!

And I will NEVER marry again........ever!

I believe that I'm a mature and responsible enough adult that I can define my own relationship; don't need the state and federal government or the church to do it for me. I can be happy without their interference, thank you very much.

 

[me4o]

No job or money will make me as happy, as getting married and having two kids( boy first, then girl; most probably George and Alexandra). But for this to happen, I must find THE ONE. otherwise, no point 😉

 

[Mephistopheles]

They should definitely scrap the tax benefits, or give them to us unmarried people too.

 

[taptoematt]

tisk...tisk..Such a "glass half empty" thread. There is no better feeling to be married with family and sharing your life with others, even if it doesn't always work out.

 

[c7_assassin]

I like to heed the old wisdom "Marriage is an old man's comfort and a young man's disaster." I think most of us are capable of making a marriage work, if the timing is right, and if everybody involved keeps their standards low enough. 😛

 

[kis123]

tisk...tisk..Such a "glass half empty" thread. There is no better feeling to be married with family and sharing your life with others, even if it doesn't always work out.

Even with unemployment and other life issues, I am my absolute happiest than ever. Marriage was a huge mistake and I won't get into reasons why; I just know I'll never do it again.

I don't mind a long term committed relationship; actually the man I'm with now is working out very nicely although a long distance relationship. Might even go as far as moving to be with him on a permanent basis at some point. But marriage only benefits the state, fed, and church; as it's presently structured it rarely benefits the couple. If it did the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.

You don't need a piece of paper and a ceremony to do anything that is done in a marriage. It doesn't guarantee anything; so why bother doing it? Commit, have kids, have a life that no one controls but you and your partner; IMO that's what matters, not a marriage license.

 

[taptoematt]

You don't need a piece of paper and a ceremony to do anything that is done in a marriage. It doesn't guarantee anything; so why bother doing it? Commit, have kids, have a life that no one controls but you and your partner; IMO that's what matters, not a marriage license.

Kis, my wife has told me the very same thing for years, and even though she is married to me, she was never very fond of the instituiton, and I can see her point. But now that she is facing her own mortality, she recently broke down and told me that she has never been happier to be married.
I think reality has to slap you in the face before you realize what you could be missing..IMO

 

[Lord Doctor]

1) I can and do say that: I will never get married.
2) For certain.
3) Probably, but I never gave it any thought.

 

[obama666]

Ah, the good old days!!!

 

[venray]

After my first marrage, I swore I would never do it again or have kids again.

Now I have been married second time around to the love of my life for 11 years with a son to boot....wouldnt give it up for anything...

One never knows for sure when they will connect with just the right person that they will want to be with the rest of their life...marrage has its perks when you meet the right mate....the trick is in being sure...

 

[kis123]

Kis, my wife has told me the very same thing for years, and even though she is married to me, she was never very fond of the instituiton, and I can see her point. But now that she is facing her own mortality, she recently broke down and told me that she has never been happier to be married.
I think reality has to slap you in the face before you realize what you could be missing..IMO

For those of you who are married or aspire to marry someday, good luck and happy landings. But for me it's a case of "been there done that and will never do it again." That's the reality that slapped me in the face; actually the more direct reality was that I never should've married in the first place. We were living together and already raising my son; we were happy until after the "I do's" were exchanged. Then came 10 years of hell and I'm not risking that on my life ever again.

I have five sisters and two children; I don't have to worry about being taken care of or dying alone. Just don't see the reason to put myself through the drama again and I firmly don't believe the church or state has any business in your life much less your relationships.

 

[love feet]

This is Very interesting!!

 

[Driver Ed]

1. Whenever somebody says "I will never" they are basically predicting the future. It doesn't necessarily make them wrong. They have a 50/50 chance of being right.

2. I won't say it's impossible, but very unlikely. Of course, it's going to be the first excuse people jump to whenever they can't make a marriage work or worse, when they can't find anybody to marry. Seen a lot of that.

3. Never

 

[desdemona]

They should definitely scrap the tax benefits, or give them to us unmarried people too.

Hear Hear! 🙂

Never married, never will. I've been called cold, aloof, and anti-social. So I guess I don't fit your third category so to speak. I'm a selfish bitch and I don't think I could compromise enough to share my life with another. So maybe that's the answer to part two - the people who are self-centered or who never grow up enough/mature enough to see others points of view are not the right types for marriage. Never really thought about it. I knew from the time I was a teen I would die single and alone. I briefly contemplated engagement in my early twenties - fortunately, he returned to his country and ended things from across the Atlantic. I look at my married friends in awe - impressed that they can make things work. But I also realize that I can't relate - I don't feel a biological clock ticking nor do I feel I'm missing something. I'm married to my job and get satisfaction from it - and while I know it isn't enough for some, it suffices.

 

[john getty]

I don't think I'd ever want to get married. Seems like such a conformist thing to do, plus I think my genes should stop here, premonitions of taking over the world are a dangerous thing.

EDIT: Would it be in bad taste to mention Mel Gibson?

 

[Lord Doctor]

If I had to give a reason why not...
It's because my generation is typically full of shit 😀

 

[Mitchell]

I think it really depends on what your mindset is.

Two of my close friends claim they are never getting married. They haven't ever been married, but both have had long term relationships that they say have scarred them. Further, one of the friend's parents split after forty years of marriage, so he has that to look to in his decision.

As for myself: My intention had always been to marry young. Due to life circumstances, that hasn't happened. I had always looked forward to getting married, until my parents divorced. Then I kept getting older, and it hasn't happened.

Now, with my mom facing serious illness, I know that if anything heaven forbid happens to her, I will be alone, except for my close male friends. I have a desire for companionship, and I know I want at least one child, in spite of my advanced age. I want to enrich the lives of other people, and for them to enrich my life, so, in spite of my ambivalence, I hope and plan to marry at some point. As to when this will happen, I cant say. I've given up planning my life, after all the things that have happened to me. All I can say is that I'm going to do everything in my power to marry, and have a family, in spite of my fear and ambivalence of doing so.

Mitch

 

[TropicThunder]

This sums up marriage perfectly, I think

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[QUOTE="Marriage -- An unnessecary milestone -- by John Mazerolle]This is marriage season in my family.

There’s the summer anniversary of my very Catholic brother and his very Catholic wife, who pops off babies like a Gremlin when you get it wet.

There’s the fall anniversary of my parents, who have been dating since they were zygotes and who make eHarmony couples seem jaded and cynical.

And there’s my sister, who is marrying her girlfriend on the “28st” of August, according to her delightfully flawed wedding invitations.

Also there’s me: I have my divorciversary.

I’ve been separated from my wife for a year-and-a-half. I may, therefore, be coming from a somewhat-biased perspective when I say I don’t understand how marriage became a necessary ingredient for happiness.

At some point in human history, marriage became a mandatory milestone in any life, on that timeline that starts with Baby’s First Spit-Up ensconced in a scrapbook and ends with a quiet, dignified death surrounded by family members who keep casually bringing up the will.

To “miss out” on marriage is to spend a life dealing with people who wonder what went wrong. People might not think you’re a failure, but you’re not going to get an A-plus with an “incomplete.”

And if marriage disintegrates, it’s always treated like a tragedy. This reached its most ridiculous point during the Tiger Woods ordeal when the front of People magazine asked, “Can Tiger save his marriage?”

Will the Hindenburg fly again? Can Stalin be revived? Can we bring back the Fox puck? Why would we want to?

By default we assume that staying married is the “right” path. Nobody after a sex scandal ever says, “You know what? I’m sorry I hurt so many people, but I’ve re-evaluated and marriage was a bad choice for me. I move forward regretful but wiser.”

Here’s what I think: I think getting married is like getting an engineering degree. Engineering degrees are awesome, a wonderful accomplishment, but they’re not for everyone, and there’s no shame in not getting one. And if you forced everybody to get one a lot of bridges would collapse.

Marriage can work for many people, maybe even me some day.

But it should only be a No. 1 priority for some. For others, it needn’t rank higher than 28st.[/QUOTE]

 

[BlackestLily]

1 could you ever say I will never get married ever!??
2. do you believe there are personality profiles that never work in a marriage at all as in a type that is not compatible with the classic model?
3. have you ever met anyone with this personality profiles Note this Group of personality profiles have friends they are not antisocial at all!!!.

Opinions anyone???.

Thanks!!.

I think for some people it can easily be said. Some people define their own marriage and make a model that works, but is frowned on by everyone else and isn't considered a "true" one. For example, some spouses have it worked out where the man and woman can see other people. I can see that as perfectly acceptable if agreed upon, while others wouldn't consider it marriage because it's not exclusively between a man and woman.

As for myself, marriage is not a goal. I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm anti-relationship, but I don't need it to be happy. So unless someone amazing came along and I couldn't see myself happier with anyone else and I knew I would do everything in my power to make them happy, then I guess I'm better off alone.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

I'll never say "never" , but I'm not sure I ever see myself getting married.

That's not to say that I can't see myself being w/one woman the rest of my life , though. I just don't think that marriage has to necessarily be that "extra step" a successful , loving relationship must take.


However , should I meet a totally slammin' babe who shares some of my views on marriage , that's the one I'm probably gonna wanna wed.

 

[myth77]

1 could you ever say I will never get married ever!??
2. do you believe there are personality profiles that never work in a marriage at all as in a type that is not compatible with the classic model?
3. have you ever met anyone with this personality profiles Note this Group of personality profiles have friends they are not antisocial at all!!!.

Opinions anyone???.

Thanks!!.

1) Yes I can say never will I get married...again . However life has a way of making you eat your words, so I will just say that is how I feel at this moment...and I have no intentions of giving that feeling up anytime soon 😀.

Marriage does not guarantee love and it is a ridiculous reason for people to stay together even though they may not be able to stand each other anymore. It costs way too much money to get married and to get divorced. It is not an institution that was established for love motivations anyway.

2)Sure, I think there are some people who are not fit for marriage or any sort of long standing involvement. Nothing wrong with that.

3)I've met plenty of those types I think. Not anti-social, just marriage and that sort of thing are a bad fit for them. Some of them I know tried and failed at marriage anyway, even though it was pretty obvious it would not work out.

 

[Cokecan]

Hear Hear! 🙂

Never married, never will. I've been called cold, aloof, and anti-social. So I guess I don't fit your third category so to speak. I'm a selfish bitch and I don't think I could compromise enough to share my life with another. So maybe that's the answer to part two - the people who are self-centered or who never grow up enough/mature enough to see others points of view are not the right types for marriage. Never really thought about it. I knew from the time I was a teen I would die single and alone. I briefly contemplated engagement in my early twenties - fortunately, he returned to his country and ended things from across the Atlantic. I look at my married friends in awe - impressed that they can make things work. But I also realize that I can't relate - I don't feel a biological clock ticking nor do I feel I'm missing something. I'm married to my job and get satisfaction from it - and while I know it isn't enough for some, it suffices.

Holy sweet monkey crap. Marry me?