Not A Rant, Just The Facts.

[Mitchell]

Please exercise the replies with caution and care. This is coming from someone with the weight of his whole family on his shoulders.

First, my mom is having stomach problems (As everyone knows, she has cancer) and claims she is going to refuse to tell the Dr about them, until I sternly told her that when we go there for chemo tomorrow, I'm going to blurt it out myself, if she doesnt tell him, and see what he says.

Then, my aunt. (The one who recommended the Dr we see to us in the first place, had the unmitigated gall to tell her cancer ridden sister, that my aunt hopes my mom doesn't get her alimony check anymore, basically so my mom will be up shits creek. (I want to knock my aunt into next week for saying this, but I'm just not going to talk to her).

My father has been refusing to respond to my mom's emails about her alimony, which is due tomorrow, forcing me to email him to protect her. He answers me, as "Alan", then, tonight, wanted me to befriend him on Facebook, which I did. He imed me on Facebook, and then we emailed. Oh, btw, he's going for very serious nose surgery on Wednesday, which they say he could die from, because of his heart condition. Needless to say, my mom is very concerned, which doesnt make her cancer any better.

To top all this off, I have nose bleeds, bad ones, that arent stopping. The Dr looked at my nose last week, and said he sees dry nose, but he also said I could be bleeding from my sinuses. Of course, I dont have the time or money to go to the Dr, because we have to pay all my mom's bills, and take her for chemo, and scans.

I'm at my wits end, but by no means am I thinking about doing anything to myself. First off, my mom needs me, and I cant leave her. She has no one else to care for her but me. Second, I want to believe things will get better.

My mom says she doesnt feel bad except for the stomach problems. She's not bleeding, and her breathing is better, but.. I want to get an explanation about those.

So.. I have to care for my cancer ridden mother, while the rest of my "family" drives me mad.

Sorry to rant. Those of you who are my friends who pray, please pray for me. I'm scared. Terrified. I dont know if this is just a phase.. or if something bad is really going to happen.

Thanks for reading,.
Mitch

 

[Babbles]

You are definitely in thoughts and prayers, Mitch, with your mom
It really sucks that these things happen to good people, and this situation was bad enough from the start - I hope this starts to turn around effective immediately 😱

 

[Mitchell]

Thanks, Babbles. I appreciate it.

Mitch

 

[love feet]

all my best!

 

[Mitchell]

ty, love feet, I appreciate it.

Mitch

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Wow, Mitch! You're getting slammed as much as I am! You'll continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there! I'm not online a whole lot these days. But, feel free to PM me if you need to vent. I'll try to respond ASAP.

 

[texastickler]

You are a good man Mitch. We have had many conversations and I feel your pain. I am here for you buddy. Any time.

 

[Mitchell]

Thanks, Ann. You are a great friend, and I appreciate it.

Thanks, texas. I appreciate the support, pal.

I just got home from NJ, and didnt have the best day. Right now my mom feels really sick, and we found out today her tumors are inoperable. Not surprising, totally, but a bit disappointing. The report was "Good". She has one more chemo treatment in 2 weeks, time off, and then a scan, and then we hold our breath.

I really appreciate everyone's support. Thanks.

Mitch

 

[kurchatovium]

You and your mom are in my thoughts and prayers my friend. Also try some ginger for your mom stomach aches it might help. 🙂 Ginger tea or ginger ale might be the way to go. 🙂

 

[Mitchell]

Thanks, kurch. I appreciate it, my friend. My mom does like ginger ale. She was also told to drink Gatorade to put fluids back into her system, so she has been drinking some of that as well.

Mitch

 

[Mitchell]

The plot thickens even further. My father had his surgery today, so I emailed him wishing him well. He replied civily, and said he's doing okay, and then asked me how I was. My reply was that I'm doing as well as can be expected, and then, without giving details, told him about going my seperate ways from my ex best friend. My message to him was "I'm going through shit, dont aggravate me". My mom wasn't happy that I told him about what happened with my ex best friend, but she's entitled to her opinion.

I dont know what the hell happens now. All I hope, is that my mom is okay. If that happens, all the other crap can be worked out.

Mitch

 

[Jagermeistered]

My thoughts are with you Mitch and your family!

 

[mabus]

Mitchell, just do your best to take care of your mom, and ignore any evil family members who have crap to say.

Every family has shitty/evil members.

Every family.

EVERY. FAMILY.

Every. Single. One.

Just ignore their bile, and beat them off if they start anything, it's all you can do.

If you believe in God, He'll take care of them when they die, don't worry. It's not your problem, as aggravating as it is. (This goes for eveyone else, too!)

My mom doesn't eat healthy. No problem - I just fix healthy food FOR her, and she'll eat it because....there's food in front of her, and she'd eat whatever I fixed, be it macaroni and cheese, or steamed broccoli and salmon.
Find out what the doctor says, and if food/drink is an answer, just fix it for her, and calmly and gently say "Mom, I fixed some salmon, broccoli, eggs, salad, ...whatever, for supper."

Don't nag, or judge, because then she'll never eat it.

I'll eat a salad.
I'll NEVER eat a salad if someone MAKES me eat it, or gives me a nagging lecture before I eat it. Then I'd eat a Snickers bar.
But if someone cooks healthy just because that's what they cooked, I'll tear into it.

 

[Mitchell]

Thanks, nv.

I do believe in God, mabus.

I will admit that I do nag my mom about eating. I'm very worried about her keeping her appetite and weight up. For a cancer patient, she has a decent appetite, and thank heavens, hasn't lost a significant amount of weight due to the cancer. Hopefully that will continue.

I had one very evil family member that passed away, my paternal grandmother. I dont want to go into the details about her, but suffice to say, we were estranged for many years at the end of her life. I'm not going to curse her, because I dont want anything bad to fall out on my mom. All I pray is that my mom's treatment helps her, so she can live well for a long time.

Thanks again guys.
Mitch