Police: Wal-Mart Shopper Slaps Crying Child

[Raytheon]

Physical force against a child in any form is wrong be it for parental purposes or other. You cannot justify hitting someone for anything other than self protection. I remember every "smack", every "over the knee", every time i had to wear a baseball cap to school to cover the bruise on my forehead where it had been forced into the corner...
it builds until today my fathers hate for me means i cant stand in the same room as him because he will try to hurt me.... im 23.

physical punishment is like wanking ... they say its harmless but really its not!! 😀

 

[StevenStryke34]

Raytheon, the way you say it makes it sound like your dad just didnt like you. I was also smacked, slapped for misbehavior, and I have a fine relationship with my parents, im 22. I love them both, i feel no hatred, or anything, and vice versa. Really depends on who the parent is, who the child is. Ill say it again, just because you have a kid doesnt make you a good parent.

 

[venray]

I see. Thank you 🙂

Now now....just because most of the folks that complain about parents of whining kids have none of their own doesnt mean that they are not experts in child rearin and psychology....

They could have learned quite a bit about what to do with a crying baby from their school books....

(most written by childless authors)

 

[BellaRisa]

Now now....just because most of the folks that complain about parents of whining kids have none of their own doesnt mean that they are not experts in child rearin and psychology....

They could have learned quite a bit about what to do with a crying baby from their school books....

(most written by childless authors)

LOL

For the record, I am **not** saying you have to be a parent to understand children. Some of the best teachers and daycare people in this world don't have kids of their own. It's just that in conversations like this, the notions about parenting that seem a little suspect to me inevitably come from folks who are child-free and have no real experience with the day-to-day nitty gritty of that irrational beast known as the Angry Toddler, that's all

 

[..Glamorous..]

Raytheon, the way you say it makes it sound like your dad just didnt like you. I was also smacked, slapped for misbehavior, and I have a fine relationship with my parents, im 22. I love them both, i feel no hatred, or anything, and vice versa. Really depends on who the parent is, who the child is. Ill say it again, just because you have a kid doesnt make you a good parent.

Someone should tell that to my dad!



Back to topic:
Either way, I think if some people have that much of an issue with having to hear a baby cry then they should do all their shopping online and don't make the rest us suffer with your ignorance.

 

[Knot Amewzed]

Back to topic:
Either way, I think if some people have that much of an issue with having to hear a baby cry then they should do all their shopping online and don't make the rest us suffer with your ignorance.

lol!

I actually want my child to cry in public so I can slap an adult.

 

[..Glamorous..]

lol!

I actually want my child to cry in public so I can slap an adult.

Bwhahhaaha!

I encourage temper tantrums, it's good for the vocal cords and speech development.

 

[Cosmo_ac]

Now now....just because most of the folks that complain about parents of whining kids have none of their own doesnt mean that they are not experts in child rearin and psychology....

They could have learned quite a bit about what to do with a crying baby from their school books....

(most written by childless authors)

I admit it is kind'a sad when somebody without a kid has to point out the simple fact that a parent should learn or figure out ways to deal with there childrens tantrums. But, that is the world we live in, it seems.

LOL

For the record, I am **not** saying you have to be a parent to understand children. Some of the best teachers and daycare people in this world don't have kids of their own. It's just that in conversations like this, the notions about parenting that seem a little suspect to me inevitably come from folks who are child-free and have no real experience with the day-to-day nitty gritty of that irrational beast known as the Angry Toddler, that's all

I really don't see how asking a parent to figure out a way to deal with there child is really that suspect.

Either way, I think if some people have that much of an issue with having to hear a baby cry then they should do all their shopping online and don't make the rest us suffer with your ignorance.

The reverse could just as easily be said.


After Bella's question the other day about whether i had a child or not, i thought to myself perhaps i might just not get something here. totally at random today i asked one of the women i worked with whom i knew was the parent of several children about whether or not a parent should try and deal with a child having a tantrum. Her answer will obviously send some people reeling.

Her answer was that not only was it the parents duty to deal with the issue the responsibility of a good parent, but that it was respectful to those around. She then proceeded to tell me that when one of her kids was having a tantrum, she would take her purse, leave the mall (or place of business) put the child in the car, drive them home and put them to bed. I was a little surprised, as she went several steps ahead of what i would have suggested, but was still happy to hear her response.

 

[..Glamorous..]

I admit it is kind'a sad when somebody without a kid has to point out the simple fact that a parent should learn or figure out ways to deal with there childrens tantrums. But, that is the world we live in, it seems.



I really don't see how asking a parent to figure out a way to deal with there child is really that suspect.




The reverse could just as easily be said.


After Bella's question the other day about whether i had a child or not, i thought to myself perhaps i might just not get something here. totally at random today i asked one of the women i worked with whom i knew was the parent of several children about whether or not a parent should try and deal with a child having a tantrum. Her answer will obviously send some people reeling.

Her answer was that not only was it the parents duty to deal with the issue the responsibility of a good parent, but that it was respectful to those around. She then proceeded to tell me that when one of her kids was having a tantrum, she would take her purse, leave the mall (or place of business) put the child in the car, drive them home and put them to bed. I was a little surprised, as she went several steps ahead of what i would have suggested, but was still happy to hear her response.

Good for her, but several of us DO NOT have that option.. If I am at the store, I am there for something important.. If I was doing misc. shopping that's one thing and that hardly EVER happens. I only have the car for certain hours during the day and I need to get my errands done in that short time. I'm just trying to get the point across to you that somethings aren't as easy as they should be and some people don't have the help others do. Also, if you go back and read I said that I do ignore my child when everything else fails because I don't have the time to be fucking around and he will stop shortly. I also believe that is a bit harsh of a punishment for a small child because they are upset about something.

 

[Cosmo_ac]

Good for her, but several of us DO NOT have that option.. If I am at the store, I am there for something important.. If I was doing misc. shopping that's one thing and that hardly EVER happens. I only have the car for certain hours during the day and I need to get my errands done in that short time. I'm just trying to get the point across to you that somethings aren't as easy as they should be and some people don't have the help others do. Also, if you go back and read I said that I do ignore my child when everything else fails because I don't have the time to be fucking around and he will stop shortly. I also believe that is a bit harsh of a punishment for a small child because they are upset about something.

Don't get me wrong. I don't think it's easy at all, and i also understand that not everybody has those options open to them. Sometimes the dice just doesn't fall in your favour, and I accept that.

Ultimately, the main thing i'm trying to say is that parents should try and deal with there kids when the throw tantrums.

 

[Knot Amewzed]

Ultimately, the main thing i'm trying to say is that parents should try and deal with there kids when the throw tantrums.

You obviously do not understand.

During a tantrum, to deal with is usually done by not dealing with.

When people come on to the forum to start trouble, what is the best way to get them to stop? Ignore them. If not, ban them. This is similar to the actions of a child. When you ignore the child, the child realizes that the attempts of the tantrum are futile; that child gives up. When you take things away from that child, the child realizes consequence. When you feed into the TMF troublemaker, that troublemaker continues to use that negative energy as fuel; similar to a child. The child tests boundaries.

For those of you who don't get it, I figured that the abovementioned analogy may help.

 

[BellaRisa]

A) I really don't see how asking a parent to figure out a way to deal with there child is really that suspect...

B) After Bella's question the other day about whether i had a child or not, i thought to myself perhaps i might just not get something here. totally at random today i asked one of the women i worked with whom i knew was the parent of several children about whether or not a parent should try and deal with a child having a tantrum. Her answer will obviously send some people reeling.

Her answer was that not only was it the parents duty to deal with the issue the responsibility of a good parent, but that it was respectful to those around. She then proceeded to tell me that when one of her kids was having a tantrum, she would take her purse, leave the mall (or place of business) put the child in the car, drive them home and put them to bed. I was a little surprised, as she went several steps ahead of what i would have suggested, but was still happy to hear her response.

A) In and of itself it's not suspect at all; it's the people who act as though they're being seriously bothered and inconvenienced that seem as though they've never seen a child before and they were raised alone in the woods with no noise or other people.


B) Uh...yeah. That wasn't a complete and fair question, every mom in this thread from Glam to myself would have answered you that way. We do the same thing *if we can*, meaning if we have the luxury to do so. If you'd asked that mom whether she'd have left a cart of badly-needed groceries instead of getting the tantrumming kid through the checkout line ASAP and then taking him home to bed, I highly doubt she'd say that pleasing the other adults around were more important unless she really wanted to impress you.