Reasons why a guy might not be motivated to tickle a girl

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I don't think you are a rarity. It's just I think most guys are like that in general.

 

[Scouse]

Well its more than likely that he will read this thread,and then hopefully you'll get your answer 🙂

 

[nylonsnfeet]

Hmmmm....

Perhaps he is intimidated by u? How well do u know him? U r a beautiful young lady! My guess is u r very active, independent, out-going & fun 2 b with & around. Mayb he feels he could not measure up & give u the tickling u want. Then there's Murphy's Law: The ones we r attracted 2, r probably NOT going 2 b attracted 2 us.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Perhaps he is intimidated by u? How well do u know him? U r a beautiful young lady! My guess is u r very active, independent, out-going & fun 2 b with & around. Mayb he feels he could not measure up & give u the tickling u want. Then there's Murphy's Law: The ones we r attracted 2, r probably NOT going 2 b attracted 2 us.

I don't think he's intimidated by me. I know this guy hangs out with some good looking women. How does that Murphy's Law make any sense? It seems to be saying that if you're attracted to someone, that person will not be attracted to you. Thanks for your compliments by the way.

 

[amkes]

I don't think you are a rarity. It's just I think most guys are like that in general.

ohh. well now I don't feel special ^ ^
If it makes you feel better I would tickle you lol you know that^ ^

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

idk what he might have been thinking. As most guys would have been the two reasons you gave but if he is anything like me it could be a number of reasons. Like maybe you were too ticklish and he got spoked, maybe you weren't ticklish enough, maybe he only tickles girls once (note i'm not this kind of person), or any thing. maybe your perfume or perspiration gave off something that told his body no, or anything. If it makes you feel better I would tickle you hell I let you tickle me back XD

Thanks for your offer to tickle me and I'll be happy to tickle you back. I know that he does tickle girls more than once. I've seen him do it.

 

[FeatherFeet]

Well, i don't know either person invovled, or the situation, so please dont hold me to or take offense by my words, i am a rather blunt person, but i mean the following simply as a guide to reasons why guys might not like a girl.

first off, i can tell you that guys actually believe it or not do NOT like girls who are easy. for anything. i mean sure they will sleep with them (or tickle them) or whatever it is, but they won't really have respect for them. and that makes the interaction with them strictly on one terms. guys want someone they can't get too easy, who they can respect, but also someone who doesn't hold onto what they have like it's holier than thou. its a middle ground, a fine one. and its different for every guy.

second off, guys dont like girls who are show offs. girls think that guys like the whole godess image, but guys dont like it if that girl is that same thing with every guy she comes across. they like to bring the godess out of the girl, just like the girl likes to bring the good boy out of the badboy. the godess image, or diva image as it's presented by most people these days is very immature and gives off the impressions that one is full of themseleves. no one likes that.

third off, guys do need to feel like they actually matter to the girl. maybe he tickled many other girls there, but maybe those girls werent being tickled by an overly amount of boys. sometimes guys have the mindset "that girl's got enough attention, im gonna give some to the people who don't have any"


i'd also like to point out to the people who say "why do guys do anything?" yadda yadda, that there is a reason why people do everything, even if they dont know it. our actions are dictated by motivation. there are plenty of times women act irrational and have no clue why, other than raging emotions, just the same guys do things for raging hormones. in fact, 90% of life is people doing things without really knowing what's driving them. if people knew what was driving them, looked to the governing dymanics rather than the actions, people might actually get somewhere.


hope my thoughts have been of any kind of help.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Well, i don't know either person invovled, or the situation, so please dont hold me to or take offense by my words, i am a rather blunt person, but i mean the following simply as a guide to reasons why guys might not like a girl.

first off, i can tell you that guys actually believe it or not do NOT like girls who are easy. for anything. i mean sure they will sleep with them (or tickle them) or whatever it is, but they won't really have respect for them. and that makes the interaction with them strictly on one terms. guys want someone they can't get too easy, who they can respect, but also someone who doesn't hold onto what they have like it's holier than thou. its a middle ground, a fine one. and its different for every guy.

second off, guys dont like girls who are show offs. girls think that guys like the whole godess image, but guys dont like it if that girl is that same thing with every guy she comes across. they like to bring the godess out of the girl, just like the girl likes to bring the good boy out of the badboy. the godess image, or diva image as it's presented by most people these days is very immature and gives off the impressions that one is full of themseleves. no one likes that.

third off, guys do need to feel like they actually matter to the girl. maybe he tickled many other girls there, but maybe those girls werent being tickled by an overly amount of boys. sometimes guys have the mindset "that girl's got enough attention, im gonna give some to the people who don't have any"


i'd also like to point out to the people who say "why do guys do anything?" yadda yadda, that there is a reason why people do everything, even if they dont know it. our actions are dictated by motivation. there are plenty of times women act irrational and have no clue why, other than raging emotions, just the same guys do things for raging hormones. in fact, 90% of life is people doing things without really knowing what's driving them. if people knew what was driving them, looked to the governing dymanics rather than the actions, people might actually get somewhere.


hope my thoughts have been of any kind of help.

Yeah thanks that makes a lot of sense.

 

[amkes]

Thanks for your offer to tickle me and I'll be happy to tickle you back. I know that he does tickle girls more than once. I've seen him do it.

well next time your in new jersey call me. ^ ^ and his lose is another's gain

 

[asutickler]

Don't forget that this might all be attributable to random chance or something, as well. It's pretty easy to read too much into someone's behavior and see something when there's really nothing there. Hell, I do it all the time.

Also remember that if you're aching to be tickled at NEST, there are probably 5 dozen guys or so at any given time, myself included, who would be more than happy to oblige you. 😉

 

[marcusb]

I am not offended by what you said. Everyone has different tastes. It's just when I see him at a tickle gathering I just won't talk to him or bother with him at all. If he doesn't want to tickle me, it's his loss.

There ya go! That's the spirit. 🙂

 

[chicago]

People see tickling differently. Some people don't always see it as sexual and others only see it as sexual.

Maybe he didn't feel a connection with you, maybe he really didn't feel well, or maybe you annoyed him. Some people just don't get along.

Props to him for being polite at least, but I'd say after trying for near 2 years to get tickled by this guy, it's a lost cause.

 

[vsa7a]

well..

i wouldnt know or want to know whats crawled up his ass for not tickling you jen.

some of yall said of sluts and the other way around.

sluts are those who sleep around. guys cant be sluts because of double standard.

dont quote me on this but....

A guy with many sex partners is called a stud. What do you call a woman with many sex partners?

She's a *****! It is nothing but a double standard. - Marie Rudisill, The Fruitcake Lady

anyways youre no slut jen 🙂

maybe he just didnt had the 'nerve' to tickle you jen. owell his loss

 

[FeatherFeet]

well..

i wouldnt know or want to know whats crawled up his ass for not tickling you jen.

some of yall said of sluts and the other way around.

sluts are those who sleep around. guys cant be sluts because of double standard.

dont quote me on this but....

A guy with many sex partners is called a stud. What do you call a woman with many sex partners?

She's a *****! It is nothing but a double standard. - Marie Rudisill, The Fruitcake Lady

anyways youre no slut jen 🙂

maybe he just didnt had the 'nerve' to tickle you jen. owell his loss

lol are you kidding? a guy with multiple sex partners is bashed way more to hell in this day and age than a woman with a love triangle. in the past yeah, if a guy had many sex partners it was considered the way of life (which is kinda mixed with natural occurances since in the olden days it was nessicary for man to plant his seed all over the place just for species survival, (considering the rate of births that didnt survive) i mean look at the wild, but we got this thing called manogamy ^.^)) but anyway, you get a guy who is sleeping with two girls these days, he's usually considered to be a jerk and an ass, you get a girl whose sleeping with two guys, or cheats on a guy for another guy, she's "just confused" or "following her heart!" or "in love with two guys" or whatever.

hehe, dont try to make a double standard where there isnt one, because there are plenty of double standards the other way. simply put, guys will usually support other guys and girls will usually support other girls. people really need to look past these boundaries and just see right and wrong. then again most people dont even see that these days, so what the hell am i talking about.

 

[Libertine]

You are comparing apples and oranges

A guy with many sex partners is called a stud. What do you call a woman with many sex partners?

She's a *****! It is nothing but a double standard. - Marie Rudisill, The Fruitcake Lady

I speak as an extremely battered veteran of the Erotic Wars who has finally found The One.

The so-called 'double standard' exists because typically the average woman has no trouble whatsoever getting a guy to sleep with her at least once, and he'll make all the moves and brave the 90% rejection rate. He must get his courage up to speak to her in the first place, attempt to be pleasant, witty and attractive, get her alone, orchestrate every stage of seduction and foreplay... while all the average girl needs to do ito get some form of sexual contact is indicate interest in a sufficiently obvious and unmistakable manner so the man will understand.

Put simply, he has to ask lots of women til one finally says yes.

Sex is difficult to obtain for the average man, but almost invariably physically easy to enjoy when he does manage to get it.

That's why he's always looking for it.

Sex is easy to get for the average woman, but not as easy to enjoy physically (no woman on earth enjoys sex so much that she suffers from premature orgasm) or emotionally. (Note I did not mention any 'emotional factor' in the male spectrum of enjoyment. You never hear of a guy complaining that his sex life leaves him feeling 'emotionally unfulfilled'!)

That's why she's cautious.

So, knowing how almost impossible it is to be polygamous, men feel that a man who does manage to sleep with a lot of women given the odds against success deserves the same admiration as anyone adept at performing any difficult task.

Jen, sorry it didn't go well- but again, Mr. Average, in contrast, would not have posted a thread about a woman who wouldn't let him 'get any' after having allowed him to do so once, nor would he get much sympathy from the men on this forum if he did post such a thread.

He'd just file it away with the thousands of other rejections he'd already received in his life from women, and move on.

Men and women's view of sex will always differ. C'est la vie.

 

[eternalnewguy]

Coming from someone who DID tickle you at NEST, I would advise you really not to make much of this. Do you know this person well outside of the gatherings and this forum? There may be a lot more to him that you don't understand. That's not necessarily a bad thing.

You can't always get to know people from this board and those gatherings, and if they're not going to put themselves out there, it's best just to move ahead.

Okay I am going to try to make this short and sweet. I first met this guy who is a member of this forum (I don't want to say his name) at NEST 2006. I was walking with a friend of mine who was also my roommate in hotel and heard laughing. I knocked on the door and went inside. Well at some point this guy is being playful with me and is holding my arms above my head while I am being gang tickled by a few other guys. That was cool but basically after that I thought he would tickle me later but he didn't.

Then later that year, I saw him again at The Motown Party in that same year. There was a moment when I was sitting on a bed upstairs with some other people. I do finally decide to ask him why he hasn't tickled me yet and then he holds my arms back and does it for a little bit. I do think that he only did that out of pity and only because I said something to him. I did see him tickle other girls at the party but I don't want to say their names. I did get tickled by other people though.

I saw him again at NEST 2007 and although I did have a very good time there. I tried to interact with this guy but he wasn't receptive to me and claimed that he wasn't himself and wasn't feeling well. Yet, I did see him tickle a few other girls. I was tickled by other people but the point is, I really want to be tickled by this guy and I am trying to understand the male mind.

The only reasons that I can think of that he won't tickle me are as follows:
1.) He's not attracted to me.

2.) He doesn't like me, thinks I am annoying or some other reason.


I'd like other thoughts on this because I am just curious about it. I am not upset or anything but I'd like some advice. Thanks.

 

[vsa7a]

...so what the hell am i talking about.

gee i dunno...i would ask you that. i dunno what the hell you talking about.

anyways double standard still has a dictionary defined example of men with more than 1 woman but not the other way around. im not being sexist or bias in any way. it is just how it is still defined.

 

[vsa7a]

I speak as an extremely battered veteran of the Erotic Wars who has finally found The One.

The so-called 'double standard' exists because typically the average woman has no trouble whatsoever getting a guy to sleep with her at least once, and he'll make all the moves and brave the 90% rejection rate. He must get his courage up to speak to her in the first place, attempt to be pleasant, witty and attractive, get her alone, orchestrate every stage of seduction and foreplay... while all the average girl needs to do ito get some form of sexual contact is indicate interest in a sufficiently obvious and unmistakable manner so the man will understand.

Put simply, he has to ask lots of women til one finally says yes.

Sex is difficult to obtain for the average man, but almost invariably physically easy to enjoy when he does manage to get it.

That's why he's always looking for it.

Sex is easy to get for the average woman, but not as easy to enjoy physically (no woman on earth enjoys sex so much that she suffers from premature orgasm) or emotionally. (Note I did not mention any 'emotional factor' in the male spectrum of enjoyment. You never hear of a guy complaining that his sex life leaves him feeling 'emotionally unfulfilled'!)

That's why she's cautious.

So, knowing how almost impossible it is to be polygamous, men feel that a man who does manage to sleep with a lot of women given the odds against success deserves the same admiration as anyone adept at performing any difficult task.

Jen, sorry it didn't go well- but again, Mr. Average, in contrast, would not have posted a thread about a woman who wouldn't let him 'get any' after having allowed him to do so once, nor would he get much sympathy from the men on this forum if he did post such a thread.

He'd just file it away with the thousands of other rejections he'd already received in his life from women, and move on.

Men and women's view of sex will always differ. C'est la vie.

thank you so much sir. you didnt need to explain to me what double standard is, how it is or was. either way i dunno bout the mentally disturbed man or woman. i say for the guy, 'he is just not tough enough, sir!'

 

[paracarl44]

Then maybe he is afraid that he might become too involved.

He might feel that if he starts really tickling you that he could become either sexually or romantic involved.

 

[maniactickler]

Jen, did you eat anything with onions or garlic in it? i know i dont enjoy tickling women with bad breath. just a thought!

 

[Em Es]

It's probably one of the two reasons you stated, Jen

Women do the choosing, Jen. For all the skirt-chasing men do, how many realize usually the girls with whom they hit it off are the one who approached them first, not the ladies they went after?

I should add that some women I either disliked or didn't notice suddenly looked a lot more attractive when they made themselves available to me.

So, Jen, you chose this guy to tickle you. If he didn't come back for more, making you continue to pursue him, his actions spoke all you need to understand. Because once you showed you liked him, if he didn't appreciate you better at that point, who knows if he ever will?

I suggest concentrating on getting other guys to tickle you. When this fellow notices you stopped pursuing him and sees other guys having a good time with you at gatherings, he may finally want you just because you are no longer available. What would you do if he then finally asked for your time?

 

[Lea28]

Jen; you may be too....

Thanks that was a very sweet and nice thing to say .

attractive, popular and fun for him....that is, he may be a jealous guy. Some guys just run rather than try, and it seems you like this guy... his loss.

Lea

 

[tunces]

Jen, I would have tickled the ever livin shit our of ya, you know that😉
Tony

 

[vsa7a]

jen forget his ass, he apparently didnt appreciate you enough to tickle you.

 

[FeatherFeet]

gee i dunno...i would ask you that. i dunno what the hell you talking about.

anyways double standard still has a dictionary defined example of men with more than 1 woman but not the other way around. im not being sexist or bias in any way. it is just how it is still defined.

yeah, its how its defined because it IS a double standard. dunno where you see me disagreeing with that.
its the same double standard the toher way around.
all im pointing out is that in today's society, when a man has multiple sex partners he gets ripped to shit by everyone around him for being an ass and a perv. but for example if you got a girl who has two sex partners shes only "following her heart" or "in love with two guys" people will rush to defend her. by people i mean girls usually. she'll be considered a real slut to the guys, just as the guy with multiple partners is considered "awesone" to his friends and a perv to thegirls.

the double standard thing has a genetic element to it because alot of times guys try to make what guys do ok and girls do the same for girls.

just saying today, guys get the much rawer end of the stick in some ways. (girls had it much worse in the past, and have their own issues with unfairity) but today, in terms of sexual stuff, guys are considered nothing but sex pervs who think with their cocks. whereas the woman is the more noble honorable one whose out for true love. truth is she thinks as much with her pussy as the guy thinks with his dick. she can just satisfy more easily because woman can have the hour long orgasm. or multiples, men genetically have the urge to keep on planting and planting thanks to their tiny two minute orgasm that takes twenty minutes to get the ererction back. it's a genetic thing nature intended to make guys plant as many of their litttle seeds as possible in as many places to help procreate the race. since needing to procreate the race isnt that hard anymore, that need has gone down, and therefore it became all about sex for pleasure.
point is, guys get bashed for that. girls act like sex dont matter to them too, or for some reason sleeping around is ok for them because "theyre looking with their heart" instead of their sex organ. (hell has anyone here seen a shot at love with tila tequila? TALK ABOUT DOUBLE STANDARD!)

but you kno what, the heart? or the dick; they're both organs.

and truthfully, the female emotional range is designed for the same procreational purposes, just in a different fascet. so to pretend that they'res a difference in the sexuality is not only a double standard, but stupid, and denying the laws of nature.

bottom line: dont apply double standards to guys or girls, they're on both ends. and they're on both ends because people dont understand how others, or more importantly, they themselves work.

to a third party, we're all screwed up. to ourselves, we're fine. anyone see a double standard there? ^.^
just saying.