This sucks...

[ticklingisfun26]

Why is it that nice people finish last and the jerks finish ahead of them? this is reverse psycholigy (SP) at it's best...it's just frustrating to know its 100% true i'm nice to everyone yet jerks still win over me n others : (

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Because there is a huge difference between "nice guy" and "push over whiner".




Just sayin'...

 

[Angel77]

If it makes you feel any better, I've always preferred the nice guys over jerks. Hang in there

 

[FlockOfSeagulls]

Why is it that nice people finish last and the jerks finish ahead of them? this is reverse psycholigy (SP) at it's best...it's just frustrating to know its 100% true i'm nice to everyone yet jerks still win over me n others : (

you can be a nice guy and finnish 1st. The key is to not let the jerks think that you being nice means you are a doormat for them to step on. Stand up for yourself and you may be pleasantly be surprised.

 

[Artoo]

Because there is a huge difference between "nice guy" and "push over whiner".

You just blew my fuckin' mind.

Though truth be told, I am both of the above. 😎

 

[Comfort Eagle]

You just blew my fuckin' mind.

Though truth be told, I am both of the above. 😎

I'm a jerkass with a heart of gold.

 

[slacker2114]

Because the golden rule we're taught as kids is wrong. They tell us "do unto others as you would have them do unto you". What it should say is "do unto others as they do unto you". The difference is instead of being nice to people that treat you like shit because you wish they'd be nice to you, you treat them the way they treat you. If they treat you good, you treat them good. If they treat you like dirt, return the favor. It's not as easy as it sounds, but it'll make your life a bit easier.

 

[Myriads]

If they treat you like dirt, return the favor.

Lowering ones own behavior to that of a person who has wronged you is not a solution that does more then extend the conflict, and give up ones own moral aspects for the joy of revenge.

Myriads

 

[Rook's Media]

Nice people don't finish last...

Those that dwell on a fictitious adage, do...

The jerk-offs don't dwell...they keep pressing forward, and bulldoze the weak.

Be nice...but be strong. This has always been my approach. Trust me, it works.

You'll get to the point where you'll not only be finishing first, but also simultaneously laughing at the jerks.



Ryan

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

Why is it that nice people finish last and the jerks finish ahead of them? this is reverse psycholigy (SP) at it's best...it's just frustrating to know its 100% true i'm nice to everyone yet jerks still win over me n others : (

i have no idea i've been gettin fucked over since birth not only by family ( except one cousin and my grandmother ) and my employers so I know just how you feel

 

[Angel77]

Nice people don't finish last...

Those that dwell on a fictitious adage, do...

The jerk-offs don't dwell...they keep pressing forward, and bulldoze the weak.

Be nice...but be strong. This has always been my approach. Trust me, it works.

You'll get to the point where you'll not only be finishing first, but also simultaneously laughing at the jerks.



Ryan

Definitely this! I've always felt that people who were bullies or jerks felt like they had something to prove because they just weren't happy with themselves.....why else cause pain or suffering on someone? Honestly, those are the types of people that I avoid and if for some reason I can't, I do what Ryan does, laugh at 'em! While I never wish ill-will on anyone, I do believe in karma 🙂

 

[Rook's Media]

Definitely this! I've always felt that people who were bullies or jerks felt like they had something to prove because they just weren't happy with themselves.....why else cause pain or suffering on someone? Honestly, those are the types of people that I avoid and if for some reason I can't, I do what Ryan does, laugh at 'em! While I never wish ill-will on anyone, I do believe in karma 🙂

Very nicely put, Angel!

I could share plenty of examples regarding (good for me, bad for them) karma, just within the last 6 months!

It's definitely the real deal... 😛

 

[slacker2114]

Lowering ones own behavior to that of a person who has wronged you is not a solution that does more then extend the conflict, and give up ones own moral aspects for the joy of revenge.

Myriads

Taking the moral high ground, while useful in some aspects, is not a means to an end. There are some out there who will never relent on making one's life miserable, whether you're nice to them or even just ignore them. Sometimes, the only response is to return the favor. And yes, while this can lead to escalation, it can level the playing field. Besides, there's a lot to be said for personal satisfaction.

 

[texastickler]

Nice guys are always a step behind, but that is because they stop to pick up people that are down along the way. I would rather be second, as opposed to walking over someone that needs me.

 

[Radiohead 7140]

hmmm, i'm more or less a jerk, and i don't think i finish first or last. generally somewhere in the middle

 

[emilyemilyemily]

Because there is a huge difference between "nice guy" and "push over whiner".




Just sayin'...

this.

 

[leafstk]

Lowering ones own behavior to that of a person who has wronged you is not a solution that does more then extend the conflict, and give up ones own moral aspects for the joy of revenge.

Myriads

Wise words... I learned this the hard way. Don't change who you are or lower yourself to ANYONE'S level... ever.

 

[Leo tickles]

Nice people expect kindness in return.
Assholes plow through everything until they get what they want.

 

[Rorschach Blues]

Why is it that nice people finish last and the jerks finish ahead of them? this is reverse psycholigy (SP) at it's best...it's just frustrating to know its 100% true i'm nice to everyone yet jerks still win over me n others : (

Firstly, define 'nice guy', I'm a nice guy and I've never let it hold me back. Secondly, define a 'jerk', if a jerk is someone who is nothing like you, who you don't get along with, well, that's not their problem. If they legitimately are irredeemable arseholes, well then, you must be the single most unlucky person in the world. They probably 'finish' ahead of you, because they don't dwell on how 'nice' they are, and how other people always seem to 'win' over them.

Because there is a huge difference between "nice guy" and "push over whiner".

As cruel as this is to say, it's probably one of the most true to life statements in this thread. You can be a nice guy and not be a complete pushover. If you're having problems in you life, be proactive, stand up and be counted, don't just let everybody over look you. There's no point in moaning about how you never 'win', instead try changing your game plan, you can be a nice guy and still be confident.

Lowering ones own behavior to that of a person who has wronged you is not a solution that does more then extend the conflict, and give up ones own moral aspects for the joy of revenge.

Myriads

This is probably the soundest piece of advise you'll see. Don't sling mud at people to get your own way. Rise above it. There is no need to sully your own good nature by becoming an arsehole. Regardless of who you are, people are going to mistreat you. The only thing you can do, is stay strong, and don't let it change you.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

What Myr said.

Also, who defines what last means? If you don't get the girl, job, promotion, whatever it doesn't necessarily mean that you've finished last. It could mean less headaches for you. It's who you are that defines where you stand, not the other way around. I have no job, no money of my own and no fancy titles. But, I consider myself to be very much blessed in life. The unhappiest part of my life was actually when I had all of the above. Things don't make you happy. Your outlook does.