Sunriseticklee
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Blah Blah Fighting.... Tickling Fetish Fun and Easy!
When I was a kid, I didn't really know that tickling was a "fetish" or anything. I just knew I love every bit of it. SOOOO from birth through college, being a girl into tickling was so easy. I was tickled CONSTANTLY, and no one had a second thought about it. Who knew that being tickled every Sunday in church, or tickled everyday for 3 years in homeroom in high school, or in college, or by my Aunt or whatever... who knew that it would turn into this? (Somebody should have, but I sure didn’t.)
Well... Tickling is easy (to me) because most people can do it as much as they want in public and for some reason; the people witnessing it often smile. They think it is cute and funny. It’s socially acceptable. So when I was at a bus stop being held down and tickled by my boyfriend, everyone freaking cheered. He looked like the man. Even the people who felt sorry for me were smiling and thought it was cute. And YES I was begging and crying and losing my mind. No one said, “That’s enough!” They just went with it.
Tickling? Easy! I can (like I did on New Year’s Eve) ask my husband to tickle me EVERYTIME the waiter comes to the table. It's cute, funny, embarrassing, and sexy. People think it's pretty innocent. No one knows that I'm getting all hot and bothered because of my husband. Or because I’m in public (yeah I’ve got a little exhibitionism in me) 😀 No one needs to know that he is going to tie me up and torture me soon. (Um… should I have told everyone in the restaurant that I was an exhibitionist so they could barf up their dinner? Should I have explained that I was getting off at their expense without their consent to them seeing my husband tickling me? YES? Guess I suck!)
So again, for me, having a tickling fetish is easy. It’s the mingling of tickling with sex or torture or bondage that kind of freaks people out a bit. (But not in my experience.) Every single guy who I have told I am into tickling has said, “I’ll tickle you.” Every single one! They may not be into it, but they will tickle me. I think I’m average looking. (Ok… I personally think I’m cute, but I’m conceited) Most guys had a bigger issue with me saying that I was waiting until I got married to have sex more than the tickling thing. Either way, it worked out well with me. So not to sound like a dude, I think having a tickling fetish is easier for female ticklephiles.
And well- although I know that most of the girls are not on DAJT side, I’ve gotta play Devil’s Advocate for about 10 minutes. I don’t agree that it is wrong to tickle someone if they don't know you have this fetish. Yes it may be a bit creepy that a guy is secretly getting his jollies without my knowing, but I don’t think it is wrong. (Side note- come one girls. We know we’re hot! How many guys have gotten off on us without us knowing? Tons! Do you really want full disclosure on every single thing that gets a guy’s motor running every single time- including your boss or your doctor or your mail man or woman? And yes, I bet if those people in that restaurant knew what I was truly up to, some of them would have been creeped out, but THEY DIDN’T!).
Tickling is not the same to everyone, nor is it interpreted the same way in every situation. Tickling is used by so many people as casual flirtation. I wouldn't expect every person who tickled me to give me a disclaimer- "Excuse me miss, I am going to tickle you but I need you to know that I use tickling for sexual gratification, and I might not get off by tickling you right now, but I just needed you to know that although I'm just flirting with you, it would be unfair to not share with you that I have bondage equipment, feathers, brushing, blindfolds, and very fast fingers."
Or... "Hello, I know I just said hi, but I need to tell you that I know you have feet. I’ve seen them, and they are HOT! So it is only fair to share with you that I like to run my tongue up and down women's arches."
As novel as it seems to type on a computer screen that we should use full disclosure before we poke someone in the ribs... GET REAL! That is not how life works! Every poke, every prod does not have to be sexual. And yes, in various cultures, we are to be ASKED before we are touched, but it doesn't happen here in every situation in the U.S. I am hugged by folks who I would rather keep long distance, and if some person pre-referenced that hugging with a "Oh, this might turn me on because I have a hugging fetish. I just thought you should know, just to be fair." I would NEVER hug another person again! Are you serious?
And YES… I know that was part of the point. Would the people tickle him or let him tickle them if they knew that he was into tickling? Maybe… maybe not! But that doesn’t automatically mean that he is WRONG for not telling every single person who engages that he has a tickling fetish. I don’t think it is wrong, or evil, or worthy to be compared with rapists, bandit booby grabbers, and pedophilia.
The argument is basically stating that if I poke a coworker in the side because they are being sassy and are REFUSING to let me into my classroom- I should I tell them that I have a tickling fetish. When in my eyes, we are both friends, both joking, and I'm not attracted to the person in anyway so the ticking is not even related to sexual feelings at all. I should still risk the livelihood of myself and my family or NEVER tickle anyone ever again who does not know about my fetish, when frankly, it is none of their business! UNREALISTIC and RIDICULOUS!
If I’m being gang tickled by like 4 adults who just happen to find out that I am extremely ticklish and find it funny (yes, whenever people find out I’m ticklish, it is hilarious to them), should I tell them- You can’t TICKLE ME! I HAVE A TICKLING FETISH! I’M TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOUR ADULT-LIKE INNOCENCE! Is it wrong to tickle back just to escape because I didn’t ask first? They started it! Wait, I’m not allowed to enjoy it because it’s wrong? Come on people- This is unrealistic.
Why do people think that everything is so black and white? I can tickle several people and it means nothing. Heck, a couple of people on this forum have tickled me and it didn’t do anything to me sexually at all. It tickled, it was fun, and I love laughing uncontrollably! It is only sexual when I am sexually drawn to the person or attracted to them in some way. Why should there be full disclosure or it is equated to sexual assault?
You can have a tickle fetish and not get a hard on every time you tickle someone or see someone tickled, and you can bet that I’m not getting wet every time I tickle someone. It totally kills me that we are so quick to bring out the torches, the tar and the feathers because a guy mentions he tickled somebody but she doesn’t know that he’s into tickling.
Come on- SO WHAT!
This happens all the time when it comes to the delicate dance of picking someone up in the hopes of a relationship. The flirting, the pick up lines, the touches… no one offers full disclosure when this is happening, because it may turn into something, or it may not. And either person may be getting a sexual charge from this semi-awkward exchange, but they don’t have to say it. You can’t automatically say that DAJT is wrong just because he is in a social situation that involves tickling- and everyone is ok with it, but he just happens to be into it. (Ok... You can say it, but I say I disagree. 🙂 )
If he tickles an adult or they tickle him and they all happen to enjoy it, does it matter if it is his kink? Maybe, maybe not… but he isn’t some evil person to be compared to guys who are rapists or who like screwing children just because he feels like he should keep his own counsel. If the person tells him to stop, or if they are obviously uncomfortable, and he continues, yeah… crucify him by all means! But come on…. Who wants to come on TMF and read arguments on several threads where people are telling them that the way they love tickling is wrong, or demented, or unacceptable, or not as good as everyone else’s? We are not all the same, so the fetish cannot be defined clearly in the same way. I feel like people are getting ripped to shreds for no reason, so much that some people are putting links in new threads to old ones just to make sure everyone knows just how right they are, or how morally pure they love for tickling is in comparison to everyone else.
Give me a break! We are all deviants! And I like it!
When I was a kid, I didn't really know that tickling was a "fetish" or anything. I just knew I love every bit of it. SOOOO from birth through college, being a girl into tickling was so easy. I was tickled CONSTANTLY, and no one had a second thought about it. Who knew that being tickled every Sunday in church, or tickled everyday for 3 years in homeroom in high school, or in college, or by my Aunt or whatever... who knew that it would turn into this? (Somebody should have, but I sure didn’t.)
Well... Tickling is easy (to me) because most people can do it as much as they want in public and for some reason; the people witnessing it often smile. They think it is cute and funny. It’s socially acceptable. So when I was at a bus stop being held down and tickled by my boyfriend, everyone freaking cheered. He looked like the man. Even the people who felt sorry for me were smiling and thought it was cute. And YES I was begging and crying and losing my mind. No one said, “That’s enough!” They just went with it.
Tickling? Easy! I can (like I did on New Year’s Eve) ask my husband to tickle me EVERYTIME the waiter comes to the table. It's cute, funny, embarrassing, and sexy. People think it's pretty innocent. No one knows that I'm getting all hot and bothered because of my husband. Or because I’m in public (yeah I’ve got a little exhibitionism in me) 😀 No one needs to know that he is going to tie me up and torture me soon. (Um… should I have told everyone in the restaurant that I was an exhibitionist so they could barf up their dinner? Should I have explained that I was getting off at their expense without their consent to them seeing my husband tickling me? YES? Guess I suck!)
So again, for me, having a tickling fetish is easy. It’s the mingling of tickling with sex or torture or bondage that kind of freaks people out a bit. (But not in my experience.) Every single guy who I have told I am into tickling has said, “I’ll tickle you.” Every single one! They may not be into it, but they will tickle me. I think I’m average looking. (Ok… I personally think I’m cute, but I’m conceited) Most guys had a bigger issue with me saying that I was waiting until I got married to have sex more than the tickling thing. Either way, it worked out well with me. So not to sound like a dude, I think having a tickling fetish is easier for female ticklephiles.
And well- although I know that most of the girls are not on DAJT side, I’ve gotta play Devil’s Advocate for about 10 minutes. I don’t agree that it is wrong to tickle someone if they don't know you have this fetish. Yes it may be a bit creepy that a guy is secretly getting his jollies without my knowing, but I don’t think it is wrong. (Side note- come one girls. We know we’re hot! How many guys have gotten off on us without us knowing? Tons! Do you really want full disclosure on every single thing that gets a guy’s motor running every single time- including your boss or your doctor or your mail man or woman? And yes, I bet if those people in that restaurant knew what I was truly up to, some of them would have been creeped out, but THEY DIDN’T!).
Tickling is not the same to everyone, nor is it interpreted the same way in every situation. Tickling is used by so many people as casual flirtation. I wouldn't expect every person who tickled me to give me a disclaimer- "Excuse me miss, I am going to tickle you but I need you to know that I use tickling for sexual gratification, and I might not get off by tickling you right now, but I just needed you to know that although I'm just flirting with you, it would be unfair to not share with you that I have bondage equipment, feathers, brushing, blindfolds, and very fast fingers."
Or... "Hello, I know I just said hi, but I need to tell you that I know you have feet. I’ve seen them, and they are HOT! So it is only fair to share with you that I like to run my tongue up and down women's arches."
As novel as it seems to type on a computer screen that we should use full disclosure before we poke someone in the ribs... GET REAL! That is not how life works! Every poke, every prod does not have to be sexual. And yes, in various cultures, we are to be ASKED before we are touched, but it doesn't happen here in every situation in the U.S. I am hugged by folks who I would rather keep long distance, and if some person pre-referenced that hugging with a "Oh, this might turn me on because I have a hugging fetish. I just thought you should know, just to be fair." I would NEVER hug another person again! Are you serious?
And YES… I know that was part of the point. Would the people tickle him or let him tickle them if they knew that he was into tickling? Maybe… maybe not! But that doesn’t automatically mean that he is WRONG for not telling every single person who engages that he has a tickling fetish. I don’t think it is wrong, or evil, or worthy to be compared with rapists, bandit booby grabbers, and pedophilia.
The argument is basically stating that if I poke a coworker in the side because they are being sassy and are REFUSING to let me into my classroom- I should I tell them that I have a tickling fetish. When in my eyes, we are both friends, both joking, and I'm not attracted to the person in anyway so the ticking is not even related to sexual feelings at all. I should still risk the livelihood of myself and my family or NEVER tickle anyone ever again who does not know about my fetish, when frankly, it is none of their business! UNREALISTIC and RIDICULOUS!
If I’m being gang tickled by like 4 adults who just happen to find out that I am extremely ticklish and find it funny (yes, whenever people find out I’m ticklish, it is hilarious to them), should I tell them- You can’t TICKLE ME! I HAVE A TICKLING FETISH! I’M TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOUR ADULT-LIKE INNOCENCE! Is it wrong to tickle back just to escape because I didn’t ask first? They started it! Wait, I’m not allowed to enjoy it because it’s wrong? Come on people- This is unrealistic.
Why do people think that everything is so black and white? I can tickle several people and it means nothing. Heck, a couple of people on this forum have tickled me and it didn’t do anything to me sexually at all. It tickled, it was fun, and I love laughing uncontrollably! It is only sexual when I am sexually drawn to the person or attracted to them in some way. Why should there be full disclosure or it is equated to sexual assault?
You can have a tickle fetish and not get a hard on every time you tickle someone or see someone tickled, and you can bet that I’m not getting wet every time I tickle someone. It totally kills me that we are so quick to bring out the torches, the tar and the feathers because a guy mentions he tickled somebody but she doesn’t know that he’s into tickling.
Come on- SO WHAT!
This happens all the time when it comes to the delicate dance of picking someone up in the hopes of a relationship. The flirting, the pick up lines, the touches… no one offers full disclosure when this is happening, because it may turn into something, or it may not. And either person may be getting a sexual charge from this semi-awkward exchange, but they don’t have to say it. You can’t automatically say that DAJT is wrong just because he is in a social situation that involves tickling- and everyone is ok with it, but he just happens to be into it. (Ok... You can say it, but I say I disagree. 🙂 )
If he tickles an adult or they tickle him and they all happen to enjoy it, does it matter if it is his kink? Maybe, maybe not… but he isn’t some evil person to be compared to guys who are rapists or who like screwing children just because he feels like he should keep his own counsel. If the person tells him to stop, or if they are obviously uncomfortable, and he continues, yeah… crucify him by all means! But come on…. Who wants to come on TMF and read arguments on several threads where people are telling them that the way they love tickling is wrong, or demented, or unacceptable, or not as good as everyone else’s? We are not all the same, so the fetish cannot be defined clearly in the same way. I feel like people are getting ripped to shreds for no reason, so much that some people are putting links in new threads to old ones just to make sure everyone knows just how right they are, or how morally pure they love for tickling is in comparison to everyone else.
Give me a break! We are all deviants! And I like it!
