What is a “good tickler”?

[TickleTortureGuy]

To everyone out there… In your opinion, how would you classify someone as a “good tickler”?
What do you look for in someone to say “Oh yeah, I absolutely love the way he/she tickles and want to see more!”
Another silly way to look at it is… Say, for example, you are the manager of a tickling company, and you have several candidates applying for the job of “ tickler”. What qualifications and characteristics would you look for to make you higher them and keep them?

 

[LerLee]

One who….

can get the most laughter out of the ticklee.

Knows how to explore the ticklee’s body to find the most ticklish spots.

Is able to vary their tickle technique based on laughter from the ticklee.

Has a playful disposition and helps the ticklee enjoy the experience.

 

[WickedTouch]

I like a variety for sure, as it keeps things interesting and I like exploring the unique approaches of new people. That being said, some of my favorite characteristics in a ler so far are:

• Someone who feels driven to tickle. I don't like feeling like people are doing something for me just because I want to take a turn as a lee. I want them to truly be enjoying themselves.
• Someone who is simultaneously affectionate and cruel. There's something at the nexus between those two seemingly contradictory behaviors that affects me like nothing else. Someone who will sweetly tickle me crazy until they are tired.
• Someone who has less micro-fixations or obsessions. To be clear, I don't mind playing within some of those bounds, but they are not my first choice as they can be very limiting to the experience, and I find many people with those tend to almost have a narrow script they are trying to act out rather than having a relaxed organic experience.
• Someone who is just as happy tickling with their hands as they are with tools.
• Someone who will tease or play mind games with me.
• Someone who is willing to tickle me to extreme limits and will be okay without me having a safeword.
• The right chemistry–There's no easy way to define what I'm talking about here, but I think most get it. That near magical, ethereal link that two people can share with no discernible reason.

 

[TicklerKoops]

It's a lot. Being able to make the ticklee trust you. Being able to make them feel so at ease, they won't raise their defenses, which would cause them to not be as ticklish.

Someone who has a decent knowledge of the body. Someone who knows how to manage their own touch and find out what areas respond well to the lightest feather touch, or the most vicious raking.

Someone who knows how to communicate to keep the other feeling like they are being taken care of. And someone who checks in from time to time. Makes a safe word that's easy to say in any situation, as to make the experience fun. Also helps if you have a good sense of humor to make other lee laugh when they try to resist 😉

It's a bit to balance, but once you get used to all of them, they all become second nature!

 

[torturoustickle]

You're going to get a wide variety of answers here. Depending of what different people desire in a Ler.
I have my own list of what I think.
Communication skills - Discussion before a session is vital.
Respectful of all boundaries - Trust during a session vital.
Once a session is underway - Be playful, adventurous, cheeky, challenging, and most importantly, have FUN. 🪶 😊

 

[maniactickler]

One that shows no mercy.

 

[wolfman40]

Someone who is considerate of their play partners feelings

Actively listens

Provides requested aftercare

Gets to know people on a human level and can chat about other things than kink

Is someone you can hang out with for coffee, a pint or pizza

 

[tickle_prince]

I think there is a lot of ways in how one can be classed as a 'good' tickler, and I also think it's subjective to personally opinion, between the two people playing, what some might think makes a good tickler, others might not, ultimately it comes down to the connection both people have with each other, and what both are looking to get out of it.

Saying that, in my opinion their are basic principle's that makes a 'good' tickler, just being respectful, fun, trustworthy, attentive are good traits, and also traits a person should have in general.

I think we get caught up in this idea of what makes the 'perfect' tickler and it puts unnecessary pressure on ourselves when tickling(and that's speaking from experiences when I have done that to myself) we often worry, are we good? or not? what if we don't get the reaction we hoped for? does it mean I am a terrible tickler? and not necessarily in my eyes, we are constantly working to hone our craft, and what doesn't work on one person might be super effective on another. I often make the mistake in comparing my skills to 'other' ticklers I know or see on here or in person, and it can get in your head. Over the years I have gotten better at not allowing that to enter my head.

I think the main thing is to not think to much about am I a good tickler, and just to have fun, and embrace the moment! and enjoy the show with the person you are tickling! its fine to reflect, I often do after, but I try not to over think anything.

 

[SirTristran]

Hopefully one of my lees sees this thread and decides to big me up but prob not that lucky....

• Makes a lee feel safe and comfortable before/during/after
• Respects boundaries
• Does homework before the sesh, and figures out what a lee wants, doesnt want, expects, limits etc
• Can produce reactions from their lee
• Doesnt just tunnel vision a body part because its their own fetish. Feet usually
• Good at the mental part, not just physical. Build up. Teasing. Anticipation.
• Can provide pleasant aftercare (if required)
• Mixes it up. Soft, gentle, digs in, moves around
• Respects them. Period.
• Flexible as needed
• Good looking. Luckily Im gorgeous (Im joking obviously, dont stone me ffs)

I reckon thats a decent blue print. 🤷‍♂️

 

[tickle_prince]

Hopefully one of my lees sees this thread and decides to big me up but prob not that lucky....

• Makes a lee feel safe and comfortable before/during/after
• Respects boundaries
• Does homework before the sesh, and figures out what a lee wants, doesnt want, expects, limits etc
• Can produce reactions from their lee
• Doesnt just tunnel vision a body part because its their own fetish. Feet usually
• Good at the mental part, not just physical. Build up. Teasing. Anticipation.
• Can provide pleasant aftercare (if required)
• Mixes it up. Soft, gentle, digs in, moves around
• Respects them. Period.
• Flexible as needed
• Good looking. Luckily Im gorgeous (Im joking obviously, dont stone me ffs)

I reckon thats a decent blue print. 🤷‍♂️

like free PR or something? lol

 

[natscott6282]

focused
skilled
determined
methodical
sensitive
competitive
scientific
dexterous
collaborative
communicative
dynamic
experienced
self controlled

 

[FFT32]

Me. Me is a good tickler. ;0)

 

[aberdeen]

Hopefully one of my lees sees this thread and decides to big me up but prob not that lucky....

• Makes a lee feel safe and comfortable before/during/after
• Respects boundaries
• Does homework before the sesh, and figures out what a lee wants, doesnt want, expects, limits etc
• Can produce reactions from their lee
• Doesnt just tunnel vision a body part because its their own fetish. Feet usually
• Good at the mental part, not just physical. Build up. Teasing. Anticipation.
• Can provide pleasant aftercare (if required)
• Mixes it up. Soft, gentle, digs in, moves around
• Respects them. Period.
• Flexible as needed
• Good looking. Luckily Im gorgeous (Im joking obviously, dont stone me ffs)

I reckon thats a decent blue print. 🤷‍♂️

I love your ideas...and why do good looking people have to hide those facts? 😂❤️

 

[aberdeen]

focused
skilled
determined
methodical
sensitive
competitive
scientific
dexterous
collaborative
communicative
dynamic
experienced
self controlled

very much exhibited in the current collaborative story ... "Dylan Shocked"...playing in Tickling Stories' as we speak! You get a free ticket, obvsly....

 

[hiphophooray4]

For me , at near the top of my list, if not THE top.....for the love of God somebody who knows that it's ok to move away from the feet and work over , you know the rest of the dang body occasionally. Especially when the feet are the least ticklish part on that particular "Lee's" body. I mean if u wanna spend some time down there , while we have to listen to crickets chirp, that's fine.....but don't spend 11 min and 23 seconds of a 14 minute clip on nothing but the damn feet! Lol smh

 

[SirTristran]

For me , at near the top of my list, if not THE top.....for the love of God somebody who knows that it's ok to move away from the feet and work over , you know the rest of the dang body occasionally. Especially when the feet are the least ticklish part on that particular "Lee's" body. I mean if u wanna spend some time down there , while we have to listen to crickets chirp, that's fine.....but don't spend 11 min and 23 seconds of a 14 minute clip on nothing but the damn feet! Lol smh

I hear that from lees alot. Too many foot obsessed lers who refuse to move off them 🫤

I dont miss an inch

 

[Miss_Gigglish]

Answering this as a ticklee. A 'good tickler' for me would be someone who:

1) Tickles because he enjoys laughter (not because of things like wanting to control, etc.)
2) Gets highly excited (maybe visibly) by giggling and laughter
3) Still can control himself and have a funny and teasing conversation that revolves around tickling without actually tickling
4) Manages to convince me that getting tickled would be fun for me before beginning to tickle me by saying tickle-related things that would have me giggling and squirming before his finger touches
5) Begins to tickle me but not too hard and not on my craziest spots
6) Can make me feel ticklish even on spots like forearms, knees, etc.
7) Continues to tease me verbally while not rushing through the tickling as he gets even more aroused
8) Doesn't feel the need to tie me as he takes his time convincing me to offer one spot after the other to him for tickling
9) Does more tickling while doing less (again, lighter strokes, not digging too hard, not needing to use all 10 fingers just to try and tickle more)
10) Tickles all over and not just one or two of his favorite spot.
11) Can turn a lot of everyday things into tickle tools (say things like a napkin) and is curious about how they tickle
12) Can tickle me to insanity without tying
13) Knows when to stop (and also when to not stop when I am screaming at him to stop)
14) If I decide to let him tie, remembering to give me frequent breaks between continuous ticklings (say after 10-15 seconds)
15) Sometimes forgetting point 14 at the right times
16) Not mixing sexual touching with tickling or tickling with sexual touching even though his arousal is becoming very difficult to handle
17) Knows how much to tickle when in public and in what situations and where and how to not overdo it so that others notice
18) Doesn't need to be something like 'dom' or for me to be 'sub'
19) Leaves me smiling after tickling and looking forward to being tickled again even if each time he does it, I will refuse to be tickled or try to run away
20) Makes me want to wear sleeveless dresses or crop tops knowing that it excites him and makes him want to start tickling (the key being not 'makes me wear' but 'makes me want to wear')

 

[Miss_Gigglish]

@AshleyC Your reply on this would be fun to read 😀

 

[Vanillaphant]

1) Tickles because he enjoys laughter (not because of things like wanting to control, etc.)

You don't think those two things are compatible? One could argue that just wanting to make somebody laugh entails a desire for a benign - or maybe even benevolent - form of control. 🙂