A Few Thoughts
I've been following this thread, and I'd like to mention a few things. See, I've heard the same lament in my spanking forums and various other alternative places, and the issues are always, always the same. No girls are out there, no one answers my ad, ads don't work, yadda dadda. And yet people hook up from these ads every day.
Fellas, women DO answer personals. Not as many as you would like, but we're definitely out here. But we are very, VERY selective, and with good reason: these are our bodies and our minds you're talking about! Tickling is a deep and vulnerable part of who we are, and for many of us the idea of meeting Joe Random Stranger for something so incredibly intimate and so intwined with our psyche is unsettling and even terrifying. I know that can be true for men as well, but men are often better at seperating intimacy and physical activity than women. We're often more emotional. If you think sex is personal, multiply it by 100 and you get how we feel about our kinks, which many of us are in major denial about until well into our 30's; maturity helps us come to terms with our true sexuality. This is why so many women don't come out and discover a forum like this until we're older, we need to be very comfortable with who we are and what we want in a society that's
still telling us we're not supposed to want something so deviant
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I just spent a good bit of time perusing the ads here. And I have to say that out of the hundred or so that I read, I saw maybe TWO that I or any woman I know would even consider responding to. Why so few? Because the other 98% were so boring and generic they made sleep noises
Seriously, most of them are some variation of :
25 yr old single male wants any girl in my area to tickle. I like feet. Do you have feet? Me too. I've been looking for 300 yrs, why won't anyone answer?? This forum bites.
Um, guys? There has GOT to be more to you than that. The ads that get answered have something that distinguishes them from the zillion other ads. If you sound like one of a thousand faceless touchy-feelie boys (and yes I said
boy, because a lot of the ads sound like whiny 120 lb teens) we will ignore you. You need to sound like a man if you want a woman to respond. What do you like to do BESIDES tickling, that we would have in common? In general. women don't like to feel as though we're meeting a stranger just for a physical encounter, that's icky and cheap feeling for us, so you need to make us feel that we'll be (gasp!) friends and have things to talk about. What was the last good book you read? Are you into Adult Swim or The White Stripes or Green Day? These are things you guys seem to save for a meeting or for someone you want a 'relationship' with, but you need to put these in your ad; getting more specific info about yourself will give you three dimensions and make you an individual in a sea of other guys, and much more desireable as a play-partner. ( And by specific info I do *not* mean 'fine dining and walks on the beach.' We've heard that before. A lot
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You would never go up to a cute girl in a bar and just tell her you wanted to be a tickle buddy. At least I hope not
How would you talk to her? What would you say about yourself, that would make her want to keep talking to you? Try a bit harder and you stand a much better chance. I answered an ad in 1998 that mentioned a love of vintage Looney Tunes, he's been my Top and one of my best friends ever since
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And for crying out loud boys, use capital letters and know how to spell.
Bella
No, really! It's true! If they can't have a tickling session with you, perhaps they'd know of someone who would!
