why do most girls hate being tickled

[mgctouch]

Nice find. Thanks for sharing it.

 

[TicklingIsLife]

Re: I decided to ask someone who hates being tickled WHY they hate it...

Late yesterday I asked my younger sister Becky why she's always hating being tickled so much.....she's extremely ticklish (and very ticklish everywhere), and has hated being tickled since childhood.

A little background: Becky is 39 yrs old...slender and very pretty; in great shape (5'6"-118 lb), even after having four kids. She's a college graduate, posesses a blackbelt in karate. She's a very spunky, determined, and strong willed lady...never let obstacles get in her way of achieving goals. My little sis is much more mentally tough than I am.

Why does sis say she hates being tickled so much? Because it's a weakness....she said being tickled is total torture..."hell on earth". No matter how angry or determined, if anyone tickles her, Becky collapses into hysterical laughter within seconds. She hates the feelings of helplessness and being out of control.

Did you tickle her after you asked her that? 😛

 

[KoocheeKoo]

Re: Re: I decided to ask someone who hates being tickled WHY they hate it...

Did you tickle her after you asked her that? 😛

Nope...sis lives in Oregon (2600 miles away).

Besides, she's now a karate expert...earned her blackbelt last year. I'm not brave (or foolish) enough to tickle her anymore 😛 😀

 

[TicklingIsLife]

Re: Re: Re: I decided to ask someone who hates being tickled WHY they hate it...

Nope...sis lives in Oregon (2600 miles away).

Besides, she's now a karate expert...earned her blackbelt last year. I'm not brave (or foolish) enough to tickle her anymore 😛 😀

Bold adventure...😎

 

[AffectionateDan]

My personal thoughts...

I like the helplessness, and I like the sensation, but some(most?) guys don't really know how to do it to me because I'm not as ticklish as I once was. Sometimes it's downright painful because they dig in to my ribs so hard or press down on the floating ribs. Sometimes fingernails are much too long as well.

It pains me to know that there are people oblivious to the wonderfulness of the art of not only a soft touch, but something so simple as keeping their nails trimmed...

 

[Angelique]

In my experience, most girls who say they hate being tickled have two things in common...

1) they are very ticklish

2) they've been abused with tickle-torture against their will at some time in their life

Actually, maybe it will look weird but I'm sure that it's after i've been abused with tickle torture while I was a child (and I still remember being under a shock and in tears) that I began to develop a tickle fetish.

In fact it's difficult to explain but I became a sort of a tickle masochist and if I didn't love it passionately, I would hate it.

 

[BigJim]

For what it's worth Angelique, you are not the first person here who I've heard say that. It's happened far more times than once.

 

[gila67]

Is it possible?!

I once met a French lady named Angelique, and she had a story just like that (being tickle tortured as a child).

 

[tickleshotel]

Well there are alot of great remarks being said,I'd like to
add my experiences to enlighten,maybe answer questions too.
I am the youngest of 2 kids ,older sister & a older brother
coming from a Irish Catholic upbringing. As young as 2 years
old is when my older brother,sister began to have playful
tickling fights,sometimes just me and my older sister,
other times my brother and I,or quite frequent Both my
sister and brother sneaking up,ganging up on me when I'd
be lying face down watching TV,sun bathing,playing around
the world with basketball ..The thing that I know for myself
is that I was the most ticklish out of the 3 of us kids ,and
also being the youngest was contributing factor too!.Being
the most ticklish was thrilling,loving being held down by
my brother sitting on my calves tickling my soft upturned
soles having me laugh hysterically,squealing and he told me
in that position helpless,I would be frantically clawing
my fingers or pounding my hands into the carpet 🙂LOL..WEll
if my sister was around Gawd she would join in by straddling
me sitting on my back and wiggling her fingers in my
ribs,armpits..TO this day I don;t *know* why I am not one
of the ladies that hate being tickled,I love it whether
playfully pillow fight leading to tickle fight or helplessness
..All I can say is that tickling,being tickled was my own
way of getting attention 😀 and now being alot older has
even intensified,magnified my tickle passion..
Sorry I rambled on 🙁 hope that nobody was bored,or fell
asleep 😀 😛

 

[MsDivaNYC]

Keep it in the family

I remember being held down by 2 of My brothers as a child (6-7 yrs. old) and tickled mercilessly--oh, and those horrible raspberries!!! Eek! Thing is, I actually liked getting tickled by them, because it made Me feel special, important. They were in their early teens and for them to take time out of their schedule to play with their little snotty sister was a big deal.

I WILL say that there is a time and aplace for everything. case in point, this one guy in the Goth/Fetish scene here in NYC, who's well known for his tickling fetish. He will sometimes start tickling you whilst you are having a conversation with someone else/group of people--to Me, *that's* not cool. One night we went out to dinner and throughout what I thought was a civilized conversation, he kept wanting to reach down under the table to tickle My feet, as I was wearing flip-flops--not cool either. I actually got annoyed. Again, there's a time and a plece for everything, especially when you are in a public environment where others might not be sas permissive/understanding of your fetish.

I second the motion: 8 times out of 10 when a woman says that she doesn't like getting tickled, she *really* does, otherwise she'd scream and cry instead of laugh. My boyfriend's feet are terribly ticklish, but because he knows how much tickling means to Me, he allows Me in small intervals. Membership has its privileges...😉

 

[mgctouch]

It has been my fortunate experience to tickle a few ladies who previously told me that they wated to be tickled due to tickle torture. I have found that if I keep the tickling encounter playful and fun for BOTH parties, they have learned that tickling can be fun again.

 

[natural tickler]

This question is rather simple. You see, out of all the weaknesses a woman has, being ticklish is the worst. They would rather be smacked in the head than tickled. Now for all you ladies who love being tickled and is gunnin for my head, lemme add this: The only women who don't mind being tickled are the ones who have husbands/boyfriends who do nothing but tickle them 24/7, and it is a way of life in their relationship, or the one truly genuine ones who loves being tickled to death. Unfortunately, that group is about 15-20% of all women. But I believe about 80% absolutely hate it.

okay now, class dismissed

 

[suprticklishgrl]

wow, there's a lot of opinions here. (hi, i'm new btw). i'd have to agree with most people here. girls are ticklish. and guys are stronger. i don't hate being tickled, in fact, i love the idea of it. but i was never tickle tortured as a kid, nor do people nowadays think to take advantage of this semi-secret fact.

yeah, its definitely a loss of control. (i've never really been tickled for more than 10 seconds, so i wouldn't have been giving up that much control anways). but no, i would NOT rather be hit upside the head. and maybe most girls wouldn't like that either. even tho we SAY we hate it...i think it might be a ploy to get the guys to keep tickling us.

well i dunno...i'm not very experienced in this. just a thought tho.

 

[mgctouch]

Hello suprticklishgrl, and welcome to TMF. I hope that you have a fun time posting here and meeting new friends.

If your suspicion is correct that it is a ploy to get tickled, I am afraind that I have disappointed many ladies because I took their word at face value when they said that they hate to be tickled. No matter how much I would have loved to tickle them, I respected them and passed.

If you are interested in chatting, please feel fre to PM me.

All the best to you!

mgctouch 🙂

 

[footman25]

Great thread

Interesting topic.

Welcome to Supr.

Personally,I think it's personal circumstances (ie bad experiences with being tickled in the past).But I also agree with the point that most girls probably wouldn't hate it if they were tickled "properly" and in moderation.

Prime example in my case though is my girlfriend.
She always says she "hates" being tickled and says that it hurts most of the time instead of tickling when "people" tickle her (I'm gentle of course lol).So, work this out - she usually initiates the ticklefight before I get a chance!Needless to say this is great for me😛

Just thought I'd share.
Happy tickling,
Footman.

 

[suprticklishgrl]

hahaha. that's great. and thanks for the warm welcome everyone! (i know most of you are in committed relationships, so its not like you're secretly out to tickle me, right? 😛 )

footman, your gf just wants you to touch her. nothing wrong with that. its a sign of affection, and i think tickling's a great way to show that, esp since its with someone you trust.

 

[footman25]

Very well put suprticklishgirl.Yeah great things,trust and affection🙂

PS.I'd secretly tickle you if u like lol😉

Still on topic - I think it also boils down to length of time tickling too.Theres a fine line between fun and torture I suppose.

 

[mgctouch]

Hey suprticklishgrl! I'm not in a committed relationship and I would love to have a ticklish encounter with you - secret or otherwise! 😀

 

[kis123]

First of all,

Welcome supr. to the TMF


Now, let's talk to those who think women who say they hate being tickled really don't mean it:

If it's an occassional poke or tickle here and there, then it's okay. But some of you guys don't know when enough is enough and you're entirely too rough. Women do not like that and they mean it when they say "stop".

There are guys who use tickling to control women. They have once to do it to me, and I'll never let them do it to me again. I don't like being controlled, period! That's why I tend to be the ler in my relationships with occassional appeareances as the lee.

You know, there are some men who feel "when the woman says no, it really means "yes". Some of them are in jail for that, too! I believe in mgctouch's theory and err on the side of caution. I'd stop immediately. If they want more, they'll say so.

 

[steph]

Re: Great thread

That's because most "people" claw at you like lobsters (shudders) I'm so sensitive it DOES hurt and it sucks. Luckily the guys I know here actually know what they're doing!

Oh, welcome supergirl!
XOXO

Interesting topic.

She always says she "hates" being tickled and says that it hurts most of the time instead of tickling when "people" tickle her (I'm gentle of course lol).So, work this out - she usually initiates the ticklefight before I get a chance!Needless to say this is great for me😛

Just thought I'd share.
Happy tickling,
Footman.

 

[fitnesstickle]

You got that right babe. 😀
And some nibbling on the heels.

 

[steph]

You're teasing in the wrong thread, my darling 😛
XOXO

 

[fitnesstickle]

I can Hijack and tease you in any thread. I am Hijack MAN.😀

 

[suprticklishgrl]

hahaha. aww you guys are great. alright, of course i'll admit that there are exceptions. sometimes NO just means NO, and you just gotta deal with that. but that goes back to the idea of trust in a relationship ~ shouldn't the tickler be able to sense when she's really not liking it? (granted its difficult to show severe anger and resentment when you're laughing like crazy) but the tickler should start off with small intervals then build from there.

to mgc and footman...i'm turning down your offers for now. its too scary of a thought.

 

[fitnesstickle]

I believe it almost always has to do with the trust between the parties. Your right superticklishgirl, it relies a great deal on the communication between the two and how well they know each other.

BTW, missed welcoming you before. SO, welcome and hope to post with many more times in the future. 😀