Why do YOU think they do it?

[Persephone]

So many of you are members (or were previously lurkers turned members) who have been around the forum for many years.

Many people come and go because commitment, life, jobs, etc. get in the way.

Some people leave because they need a break away from the forum but eventually have a happily welcomed back return 🙂

MY question is about those type of posters who make dramatic, long threads, blogs, etc. about how they are leaving the forum for good, never to return, etc. They make it seem like their leaving the forum is going to make them appear like some sort of martyr.

And then surprise beyond surprise they usually, a LARGE majority of the time, come back and resume posting. Their excuses usually range from "I was angry when I posted that, blah blah blah," or "I wasn't in the right frame of mine, I needed time to think, blah blah," and so forth.

So my question is...WHY do they do this? Is it really SO dramatic for just one individual among several hundred thousand members to disappear? Yes they may be a friend to some, but if the friendship is really so important there are other ways to keep in contact aside from the forum.

I am sure there are some who make dramatic exits and really do leave for good (and for a good reason)...but most of the time it is just someone who appears to be crying for attention, even if it is negative.

So please give me any of your opinions on situations such as those! Thanks!

🙂

 

[TropicThunder]

Drama - some people just live off of it.

 

[Persephone]

Drama - some people just live off of it.

Better words have never been said.

 

[BlackestLily]

I think some people want to feel wanted, and others want to know people care enough to 'convince' them to stay. I think many times it's done at the height of anger or after they've been stewing in it so deeply that they want to detach from this place.

Pushing something away permanently is what some people feel is the absolute in expressing disdain or disgust. So it's 'a' way of saying, "I am so angry, upset, sad, or otherwise at this moment, I need you to know that I will no longer be staying in a place making me feel this way."

Cool down time usually helps clear heads and they miss interactions with people so they return. My thoughts, anyway.

 

[GQguy]

I think you stated it in your OP! For some this forum replaces normal interactions with the rest of the world. Here their narcissism(the reason they have no friends in real life) can truly run unchecked to the point that they think the forum would stop running without their opinions.

But I think this high lights the beauty of the forum. In most situations people will let you know that they..to put it bluntly....don't give a f^ck if you leave or stay. Here people are much more nice civil and nurturing about it.

GQ

 

[milagros317]

In some cases, just a pathetic cry for attention.

I am a member of another forum, Max Fisch, which is a BDSM board designed for professional Dominatrices and their clients. There was a member there with the screen name Wineman who posted a long, detailed statement saying that all the members of Max Fisch were disgusting perverts destined to go to hell, and that he was leaving for good.

As you might expect, he got dozens of responses, some angry. About a week later he came back and began posting again as if he had never left. Then a few months later he did exactly the same thing!

That was too much for me. I quoted his original post saying that he was leaving the first time, and told him he was a liar and a phoney, and never to come back because nobody would ever respond to a post of his again. Fortunately, that was indeed that last of him on Max Fisch.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

I think this thread is COMPLETE AND TOTAL HORSESHIT AND NOW WILL BE CREATING A 6000 WORD THREAD AROUND 10PM EST AND POSTING IT DECLARING MY HATRED FOR THIS WEBSITE AND EVERYONE IN IT..

BECAUSE I PLAN ON LEAVING.

BECAUSE OF THIS THREAD.

BECAUSE IT'S HORSESHIT.

FUCKING HORSESHIT.









People do what they do, man. Mostly for the attention, ja. I remember one thread awhile ago that was SO long that I actually enjoyed dinner whilst reading some of the lengthy replies.

It gives comfort to receive even negative attention from certain people who are insecure enough. So.. they seek it out.

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

In some cases it's just a cry for attention. Yes, I'll be leaving now, and here's my generic reason why...I don't know if I'll ever return...Tis a far far better thing I do...etc

In other cases, it's people who overestimate their worth on the forum. I can't just leave without saying something, people will be freaking out!

And then there is the TMF member who announces his or her departure after some heated debacle or an administrative decision with which he disagrees, in hopes of making some kind of statement. That's it! I'm leaving the forum and it's all because of YOU! I HOPE YOU'RE HAPPY NOW! *sob*

 

[stroker]

For many this kind of behaviour stems from a sense of insecurity and a need to know that they belong and are accepted. The storming out in a huff is really a test to try and reassure themselves that they are still wanted. Its a bit like the kid who runs away from home but really hopes his parents catch him before he gets to the end of the street. If they dont get the "Oh please dont leave us " response then the only option is to crawl back lick their emotional wounds and pretend the whole thing never happened.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

I have to say I think that this is a very interesting thread.
I am bit surprised you decided to create this to be honest.
I mean nothing wrong with making this thread-just it could have the potential to upset people or to unite people in thinking in common unison with the sentiment you expressed. So you ask why do you think that there are still so many good bye threads being made and why do people do it- well yeah some of it could be drama. I don't dispute that. Drama can be anywhere. It also could be a cry for attention granted and I am sure in some cases it is more often than not. So yeah could be drama/ attention-wish to be loved /wanted.

Yet I also think that besides it maybe many times being a result that happens in the heat of anger or a time of confusion and conflict in one's life. I think it also can be many times also a time for personal reflection. Maybe the person wants and needs time to take a break from the TMF to figure out and prioritize what he or she needs the most in their life or what they wish to do with their life. Maybe the OP/person needs time to reflect on things outside the forum-could be conflict in their life-wide range: family conflicts, college, job, member of their family or loved one in the hospital, family emergency, personal reflection on one's self-what he or she truly wants, a partner not accepting of the tickle kink/forum, many reasons.

A hiatus for each OP/person is very unique and very different and can stem for a wide range of reasons. However whatever the conflict might be-I think the reason so many return-is like a few other posters said-because deep down-OP really did not wish to leave-found meaning and sentimental value in the forum, still had good friends on the forum, and yes I hate to say it but it is true-deep down I think we all want/need to know deep down without a doubt we are liked, wanted, loved, and appreciated-most importantly-will be missed. It is part of our human nature. We want to know we make a difference in someone's world/ people's lives-whether that be strangers, family, friends, or buddies on the TMF.

We all yearn to belong and to be truly accepted-wanted and loved and missed. I think that is why this happens.

 

[Leo tickles]

When I did it, it was for attention and to check how many people cared. I got attention, nobody really cared though.

So instead of leaving and posting more apology threads, I stopped paying attention to how people react to me and started paying attention to my post count.

The theory is that if I don't cuss anybody out and say something entertaining or thought provoking once per every 10,000 posts, somebody will care. 🙂

And what GQ said about narcissism. Because this forum wouldn't survive without my amazing presence. /sarcasm. 🙂

 

[Jericho716]

Low confidence.

Small penis.

Overweight. Bad skin/complexion (zits, pockmarks, etc.).

Jealousy over others who have tickling experiences in real life while they've been sitting around on the forum stressed out for years without meeting somebody once.

Lack of momentum in their daily lives (dead-end job or no job, no ambition or talent to speak of, boring small-town, etc.).

Embarrassed that they live with their parents past the age of 18 (a big no-no).

Those are my best guesses.

 

[Bothersome]

Drama - some people just live off of it.

I would go with this answer. Also, some people just really like the attention.

 

[trifalcon4]

fuck em.

 

[LD_Tickler]

It's been said. They want attention, they want to feel wanted. Most importantly, they lack self-awareness.

 

[SlaverTickler]

I did that once, and I am not sure why I came back. I guess I was just used to posting on the forum.

 

[Persephone]

Thanks for all the responses guys! I didn't intend to make this thread to ruffle any feathers. I really was wanting to see what people's opinion on the matter was because it does seem to happen frequently on the TMF. Love all the responses! 🙂

 

[Aimee]

Low confidence.

Small penis.

Overweight. Bad skin/complexion (zits, pockmarks, etc.).

Jealousy over others who have tickling experiences in real life while they've been sitting around on the forum stressed out for years without meeting somebody once.

Lack of momentum in their daily lives (dead-end job or no job, no ambition or talent to speak of, boring small-town, etc.).

Embarrassed that they live with their parents past the age of 18 (a big no-no).

Those are my best guesses.

...What?

 

[trifalcon4]

...What?

he's just being scientific about it, postulating theories and such *shrug*

 

[socktickler86]

The internet has a way of magnifying peoples emotions and feelings and actions. People do things like this in real life, but the fact that they're behind a computer makes it a lot easier to do.

The REAL unsolved mystery for me on the internet is..... why the hell do people constantly want comments on their pics. I have a strong feeling it's along the same line as why people do what this thread is about.

 

[Bothersome]

he's just being scientific about it, postulating theories and such *shrug*

That isn't science. That's listing a series of embarrassing attributes that actually have no correlation to the original post.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

A few years ago, you'd have a post like this every other day, by somebody. Every other day. I'm leaving, this place sucks, I've had it, I'm not coming back, and don't invite me back, how dare you all, blah blah fucking blah. And, you'd have the same don't go responses from the same people who would post don't go responses on all of these threads, and a few days later, the people who trumpeted their departure would just keep posting, like nothing ever happened. And, then, all of a sudden, the observant would post on these threads, with you're just an attention *****, you'll be back by the time I'm back from the 7-Eleven with cigarettes, and the OP would have a fit. How dare you shit upon my pity party? I'm complaining to the mods!

It's a fucking funny farm.

 

[socktickler86]

Actually I've seen this occur in the chat room too! It's hilarious. "Hey everyone, I'm not going to be coming on for a while, I have things I need to take care of/this is a distraction/something happened". Next day, as usual, they show up. Always.

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

he's just being scientific about it, postulating theories and such *shrug*

Exactly. Good call.

 

[Angel77]

I never understood the whole "I'm leaving the forum/chat forever!!!!" posts. If you're really friends with someone, surely you can let those folks know and be done with it, right?

And you're right. I have yet to see someone stay away after making such a thread but again, maybe they have. I don't pay much attention to them anyways.